How to tell husband baby might be different color?

Fit2Strip

I know this topic isn't really a fitness issue, but I frequent the site and... I mean, this is a support board...
Basically, how should I inform my husband that the baby on the way, may in fact be a different race than he or I?
I mean, if it was to be white as well... it would be a non-issue... so... yeah, I'm not looking for judgement. So please keep your attacks and hate to yourself. I'm just looking for good advice. Thank you.

(sorry, I posted it under the wrong thread before)

_Terrapin_

Your searching for good advice about what exactly?

WoodChuckNorris

Your trolling would be more convincing if you weren't a guy.

Fail

broox80

The color issue is a moot point in my opinion. The most important thing is that you are cheating. You should tell him. If you wait it will just put your family under even more stress and the baby does not need that. If you do it now, maybe both of you can figure something out before the baby arrives.

Fit2Strip

The color issue is a moot point in my opinion. The most important thing is that you are cheating. You should tell him. If you wait it will just put your family under even more stress and the baby does not need that. If you do it now, maybe both of you can figure something out before the baby arrives.

Color is only moot to a point. Even if he were to stay after the cheating, the color difference would make my mistakes visible to all of our family. It no longer will be a private issue.

Sabine_Stroehm

Tell him.

Meanwhile: if ANY of the days on your diary are a true reflection of your eating, EAT MORE.

Fit2Strip

Your searching for good advice about what exactly?

How to break the news... there's a lot of factors involved. I don't know if it's better to get it all out at once or maybe reveal it in stages so there is time to adjust.

Fit2Strip

Tell him.

Meanwhile: if ANY of the days on your diary are a true reflection of your eating, EAT MORE.

the last few days have been spotty logging, but I have eaten adequately. Thank you for your concern. I've mostly just been eating sugar... it eases the stress

kgeyser

Even if the baby was to be the same race as the two of you, your husband has the right to know that the baby may not be his. You cannot expect your husband to be responsible, financially or otherwise, for a child that is not his no matter what the race. You need to sit him down and talk to him about it now so he can work through this and decide how he wants to proceed. To keep him in the dark and let him get all excited about the imminent birth of his child, only to find out that the child isn't his, would be devastating. Not only that, but he has the right to know if you've been unfaithful just for his own health concerns. Time to fess up and let the chips fall where they may.

hotmomma0612

You should be so proud of yourself! Your poor child...

Coming from a fellow pregnant woman who actually respects the people she loves!!!!

Chieflrg

Maybe tell him your a troll...

Cranquistador

um

hotmomma0612

Maybe tell him your a troll...

I like this. Good idea!

WoodChuckNorris

Maybe tell him your a troll...

Right? I am still trying to figure out why people are responding....

Mr_Bad_Example

Be color blind, don't be so shallow.

Also...

BrokenButBeautiful

This. ^

MoreBean13

I would start by telling him about your black (or whatever race) great grandmother and how every once in a while you have a dark cousin.

Sabine_Stroehm

Your trolling would be more convincing if you weren't a guy.

Fail

This board always uses "troll" in a manner distinct from most other boards, but I'll ask: the stripper is a man?

Cobb_66

Maybe tell him your a troll...

I'm hoping this is the absolute truth. Regardless of the cheating thing....what she's eating... while PREGNANT. (The child development and disorders knowledge inside me is screaming right now)

ETA: just saw it's apparently a guy. Pfew.

WoodChuckNorris

Your trolling would be more convincing if you weren't a guy.

Fail

This board always uses "troll" in a manner distinct from most other boards, but I'll ask: the stripper is a man?

Weeeell, it says that the profile is viewable by HIS friends only...so....yes?

magtart

Color isn't the problem, species, on the other hand, might be a big issue.

sarainiowa

The color issue is a moot point in my opinion. The most important thing is that you are cheating. You should tell him. If you wait it will just put your family under even more stress and the baby does not need that. If you do it now, maybe both of you can figure something out before the baby arrives.

Color is only moot to a point. Even if he were to stay after the cheating, the color difference would make my mistakes visible to all of our family. It no longer will be a private issue.

YOU need to tell your husband and deal with this. Your husband deserves to know. You made the mistake, you need to deal with it. This won't really ever be a private issue if your husband leaves or the baby is another color. Don't put everyone through more stress because you can't tell your husband. YOU need to do the right thing.

NormInv

Get him some Cheerios. He will likely eat them. While he is eating them, YouTube the interracial couple commercial for Cheerios and say to him, honey, we might be this couple now!

fatfrost

My grandkids will have this excuse.

dbmata

Someone had some fun.

Sabine_Stroehm

Your trolling would be more convincing if you weren't a guy.

Fail

This board always uses "troll" in a manner distinct from most other boards, but I'll ask: the stripper is a man?

Weeeell, it says that the profile is viewable by HIS friends only...so....yes?

ha! Hadn't seen that. well, that's something, isn't it.
cheers

SunofaBeach14

Your trolling would be more convincing if you weren't a guy.

Fail

This board always uses "troll" in a manner distinct from most other boards, but I'll ask: the stripper is a man?

Weeeell, it says that the profile is viewable by HIS friends only...so....yes?

Maybe male trolls carry the babies?

veruca25

tell him by serving him divorce papers, and give him at least half of everything you bought jointly, and let him keep all his stuff he brought into the marriage.

reds_1

A different race? Is it an alien?

Synamin

I know this topic isn't really a fitness issue, but I frequent the site and... I mean, this is a support board...
Basically, how should I inform my husband that the baby on the way, may in fact be a different race than he or I?
I mean, if it was to be white as well... it would be a non-issue... so... yeah, I'm not looking for judgement. So please keep your attacks and hate to yourself. I'm just looking for good advice. Thank you.

(sorry, I posted it under the wrong thread before)

I'm not judging you but for the sake of your own sanity, you need to be straight up with him about the whole situation. He needs to know if there is a chance the baby isn't his. Prepare for him to be hurt, sad, angry and betrayed. If you love him, even a little, you will feel guilty the rest of your life if you aren't honest with him now, which will likely doom your relationship anyway. You will never have a good relationship with him if such a huge dishonesty is between you two.

If you are concerned because you have a grandparent or parent of a different race and want to brace him for the fact that the baby may be darker or paler than one might expect, it would be so silly not to tell him. If I were him, I'd be happy to hear it. Even the palest and the darkest of us almost always have different genetic influences. Take it from me, I'm fairly pale and a true redhead but my grandmother is Choctaw and I have Native American facial features. The more mixed up, the better IMO.

Achrya

I would start by telling him about your black (or whatever race) great grandmother and how every once in a while you have a dark cousin.

I like this answer. Or actually don't day anything. Hope for the best. In case of the worst be ready with the above story