What is the one thing you can not over look when dating?

cursiny
cursiny Posts: 907 Member
I heard on the radio this morning that 75% of women will not date a man who is unemployed. What is something that you can not over look when you are dating?

Someone who....

Doesn't own a home?
Doesn't have a job?
Doesn't own a car?
Has Kids or has no kids?
Is Divorced?
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  • Timshel_
    Timshel_ Posts: 22,834 Member
    She has a bigger package than me. I mean, same or smaller means no competition, but bigger...I just couldn't stand the shame.
  • dbmata
    dbmata Posts: 12,950 Member
    I was going to make a joke about 3rd input, but I totally won't now.
  • mccindy72
    mccindy72 Posts: 7,001 Member
    bad teeth. I mean, come on.
  • gmoneycole
    gmoneycole Posts: 813 Member
    nose picking - can't over look it.
  • Hornsby
    Hornsby Posts: 10,322 Member
    They have to have a good job and no kids under 10. Those are both deal breakers for me.
  • RockWarrior84
    RockWarrior84 Posts: 840 Member
    bad teeth. I mean, come on.

    this or smells bad
  • Chilepepper34
    Chilepepper34 Posts: 53 Member
    bad teeth. I mean, come on.

    this or smells bad

    Yes! I definitely can't overlook BO or bad hygiene.
  • Haltermania
    Haltermania Posts: 288 Member
    smoking and bad teeth
  • bd0027
    bd0027 Posts: 1,053 Member
    No job.

    I support myself and I expect a man to be able to support himself too.
  • TX_Thundercat
    TX_Thundercat Posts: 2,437 Member
    A penis. Sorry but if she's got one, that's a deal breaker.
  • _MG_
    _MG_ Posts: 453 Member
    Whether or not my wife will find out.


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    Just kidding. I've been married 23 years and have absolutely no clue about dating. I always feel left out on the dating posts.


    edited for lack of typing skills.
  • EternalDecadence
    EternalDecadence Posts: 445 Member
    Enlarged ego
  • jlshea
    jlshea Posts: 494 Member
    smoking
  • summertime_girl
    summertime_girl Posts: 3,945 Member
    Doesn't own a home? Lots of people live in cities, where rent is the norm
    Doesn't have a job? Dealbreaker, unless it was a recent layoff
    Doesn't own a car? Again, city
    Has Kids or has no kids? Would prefer my date has kids, so he understand the pressures
    Is Divorced? Well he can't be married.

    I can't overlook dating a gay man. That question was posed to me. He's seeing someone on the side, and was I ok with it. BIG FAT NO.

    I have a whole lot of wants when dating. I'm sure my pickiness is in good part why I'm single. I can't date a skinny guy either.
  • PatheticNoetic
    PatheticNoetic Posts: 905 Member
    a tall man
  • obrientp
    obrientp Posts: 546 Member
    Bad Hygiene
  • Chieflrg
    Chieflrg Posts: 9,097 Member
    Bigotry.
  • wheird
    wheird Posts: 7,963 Member
    Stupidity. Just cant deal with it.
    *****iness. Sorry, it is ok as a friend (within reason), but I dont need/want a toxic relationship.
    Excessive conflict. Again, dont need/want that toxicity.
    Wont do BD
  • Mia_RagazzaTosta
    Mia_RagazzaTosta Posts: 4,885 Member
    Stage 5 clinger...beat it.
  • EddieHaskell97
    EddieHaskell97 Posts: 2,227 Member
    Someone who looks me in the eye and lies.
  • askeates
    askeates Posts: 1,490 Member
    Must be self sufficient! I already have 3 children, I do not need another....
  • seltzermint555
    seltzermint555 Posts: 10,740 Member
    KIDS. That would be the one absolute dealbreaker for me. But this is because I have chosen a childfree life permanently and have known for about 15 years now that I would NEVER wish to become a parent, stepparent, or even be in a slightly similar role.

    I am happily married now -- but I'd date a guy who was unemployed as long as he was able to support himself (through unemployment, savings, etc) and had a short-term plan to resolve the situation. I've been in that position myself and had enough living expenses for quite awhile so I'd certainly have hated it if my now-husband did not want to date me just based on my being at a turning point in my life & career. It was actually quite nice to have some down time.

    I have owned homes myself in the past and sold them, so I'm a renter again and I see a lot of benefits to renting quite honestly. So that would not be an issue for me. And I have been divorced after a 9+ year first marriage so I wouldn't mind at ALL if the guy I dated was also divorced.

    I'll admit though - I would be concerned if I discovered the guy I was dating had a sketchy credit history and/or huge amount of debt. Those things are way more important to me than how much a guy earns or whether he owns a car or a home. So (another example) if a guy got around by foot, bike, or public transport...I would not care, but I WOULD be concerned...what happened in his past? Or is it a real and legitimate choice he made due to environmental or health reasons...stuff like that...

    I know a lot of women my age (37) who have become quite picky at our age and even if they didn't go to college (for example) will not date a man without an advanced degree, large income, etc. I don't really understand that myself. I do think I am kind of picky...I could not date a guy whose musical taste I didn't like, LOL But I am also understanding...and I refuse to hold a man to higher/different standards than those I have set for myself. I think that seems like some of those women with requirements of $X salaries and specialized professional fields are just seeking a better meal ticket - ugh. JMHO.
  • Jacwhite22
    Jacwhite22 Posts: 7,010 Member
    When I was single

    cigarette smoker, Bad breath, Awful Teeth, Generally Unkept/smelly,
  • PatheticNoetic
    PatheticNoetic Posts: 905 Member
    Cigarette smoking
  • devil_in_a_blue_dress
    devil_in_a_blue_dress Posts: 5,214 Member
    Bigotry.

    Pretty much this.
  • cursiny
    cursiny Posts: 907 Member
    Must be self sufficient! I already have 3 children, I do not need another....

    Exactly!
  • jackpotclown
    jackpotclown Posts: 3,275 Member
    a hairy bush
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    at least brush it \m/
  • TheSlorax
    TheSlorax Posts: 2,401 Member
    tighty whiteys

    frequent mentions of an enchanted forest
  • Jacwhite22
    Jacwhite22 Posts: 7,010 Member
    tighty whiteys

    frequent mentions of an enchanted forest

    What if I stepped out of the shadows in the enchanted forest? Could you still resist me then?
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