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What is the one thing you can not over look when dating?

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    Smoking is a definite no-no (I've got asthma and even I didn't I still wouldn't like smokers)
    Hates cats (I love cats)
    No personal hygiene (Not necessarily a clean freak but you know just be clean)
    Short (Nothing against short people, its just that I like tall guys and at 5'3,most guys are taller than me :D )
    No future prospects ( Meaning if a person isn't likely to gain my parents approval in the future, why waste my time?)
    Disrespects me or my family and friends ( I do not take people bull****ting me nicely)

    Yup, those are the main ones ;)
  • Posts: 1,796 Member
    smoking
  • Posts: 1,093 Member
    When I was single I couldn't overlook cigarette smoking, not having a job, stupidity, bigotry, and practicing religion (not disrespecting anyone, that's just not for me).
  • Posts: 249 Member
    boobs and not knowing anybody I know or that knows me... ow yeah and foreign... #noblondes
  • Posts: 374 Member
    I have a job, my own (rented) place, and my own car. I wouldn't date a guy that didn't have all of those things, and I'm constantly amazed by the amount of people I know who think this is asking too much. I know jobs can be hard to find but if you want anything badly enough, you will get it.

    Kids and previous marriage are okay, as long as he's not still married.

    I would prefer a guy to have at least most of his hair and teeth. :laugh:
  • Posts: 10,913 Member
    After reading these, some of you people are...wow...just....wow
    This thread is very full of TL;DR..

    Bet my mom would make a list and then wonder why she can't find someone with all of the qualities she doesn't want.
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    smoking,
  • Posts: 6,573 Member
    I have a job, my own (rented) place, and my own car. I wouldn't date a guy that didn't have all of those things, and I'm constantly amazed by the amount of people I know who think this is asking too much. I know jobs can be hard to find but if you want anything badly enough, you will get it.

    Kids and previous marriage are okay, as long as he's not still married.

    I would prefer a guy to have at least most of his hair and teeth. :laugh:

    Since nothing can be done about stopping the loss of hair .. I think you should think again because that's pretty sad. What if it was happening to you? Anyway a bald head is very sexy.
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    wow didnt know smoking was a deal-breaker for so many. I like chicks who smoke. It tells me they dont mind putting nasty things in their mouth
  • Posts: 173 Member
    Well I went on a date with someone.. And we was drinking and I let him stay as he lived far away .. In the morning I noticed he had been sick all over my floor . He didn't even say sorry about that or offer to clean it up :/ and left. I couldn't over look this and he asked me for another date Erm nooo!
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    Well after reading this topic I've just ordered a teeth whitening kit :/
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    smoking cigarettes or weed.
  • Posts: 2,205 Member
    no job, no car, no ambition

    I want someone to come in to a relationship with me as an equal not as someone i will eventually need to take care of
  • Posts: 383 Member
    ignorance, cheating and controlling
  • Posts: 2,205 Member
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    Everything here, minus the absolutely wants kids. Add in...

    -Bad breath
    -Dirty hands/fingernails on a regular basis
    -Someone shorter than me
    - impolite

    I agree its not bad to have a list it just means you know what you want, granted somethings may not be deal breakers when you find "the one" but its better to know what you want than take anyone and waste time
  • Posts: 2,554 Member
    Now that's a list! Some of those are just common sense for most people (or should be!). My list is; has their own goals in life, do not need a party girl, no smokers, likes to be spontaneous, not a couch potato. Probably could come up with more...
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    smoking
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    Ok, more than one thing, but here goes...My relationship deal breakers:

    Lying. I will never be in a relationship again where the person lies to me.

    Immaturity. Being a big kid is a great thing (and the ability to do so is actually a must for me), but you also need to know how to be an adult...Paying bills is more important than playing video games 10 hours a day. Just sayin'.

    Laziness. I'm a very active person. Anyone I date has to be, too. I'm way too much of a pleaser when I'm with someone...so I don't want to be with someone who's going to need me to sit around and do nothing with them all day, every day just to make them happy.

    Disinterest in sex. I want to know the person I'm with wants me as much as I want them.

    Manipulative. Again, I'm a pleaser. I want the person I'm with to be happy. I won't be with someone who uses that against me.

    And, yes...this is all from experience...all in the same package, actually. lol
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    extreme machismo! ugh:noway:

    A man must be a MAN

    If u don't like it , date a female
  • Posts: 16,414 Member
    For me the deal breaker has ALWAYS been smoking. I WOULD never date someone who smokes..it is a complete turn off of ALL my senses easpecially sense of smell and taste...

    You stink
    You taste badly when kissing
    Makes me sick to my stomach....:sick:
    You know, I do hate the smoking. But my fiance is a smoker (which I'm not happy about, but I love him, so ...) and you wouldn't know it unless you actually saw the cigarettes. He doesn't smell like he smokes at all, his breath is fine and I never taste it on him. Of course, he NEVER smokes inside. Neither of us wants to live in a stinky house.

    I think if we split up, though, I wouldn't date another smoker. At this point, it's about the future health concerns more than anything else. A good friend of his died from lung cancer a few years ago, but that wasn't enough incentive to get him to quit. :-/
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    I just went out with a guy who must have told me he was a couch potato at least six times during the evening. What a turn off!
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    Homophobia
    Racism
    Hardcore Republicans
    Horrible grammar
    Misogynists
    Grown men who spend ridiculous amounts of their time playing video games
  • Posts: 505 Member
    Well after reading this topic I've just ordered a teeth whitening kit :/

    Lol

    No doubt! I was reading along and thought, "I cannot be the only person that had to stop and go brush their teeth again at some point in this thread."
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    Lol

    No doubt! I was reading along and thought, "I cannot be the only person that had to stop and go brush their teeth again at some point in this thread."

    2 fakes because of a fight when I was 16, crowding in the bottom, and yellow because I wasn't brushing them as much as I should when I was a kid... I'm glad it's more the yellow than crowding that seems to put women off though as it's easier to do something about, it just annoys me when people assume it's due to not brushing (in the last 10 years anyway).
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    This thread is very full of TL;DR..

    Bet my mom would make a list and then wonder why she can't find someone with all of the qualities she doesn't want.

    I think that is what undesirable people do. Create an impossible list, then complain when they are single because no one can meet their standards.
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    I think that is what undesirable people do. Create an impossible list, then complain when they are single because no one can meet their standards.
    Her attitude makes her this "undesirable" person..
    Don't get me wrong, I love my mom.. But her attitude is the worst thing ever...
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    Bad personal hygiene :sick:
  • Posts: 102 Member
    Someone who was conservative/Republican.

    That definitely can't work.
  • Posts: 95 Member
    Just one???? LOL

    I have several, but most recently I've run across these that bother the heck out of me: Lives with parents or has room mates. Different if you're younger - but if you're 35, 40+.....definitely a bad thing (not withstanding special circumstances, like sick parents, etc.) Need some independence.

    Ok, can't do just one. I have to add DRAMA. Was dating someone for the last two years and soooooo much drama!!!!! Yes, he's a guy and tons of drama. Couldn't do it anymore.
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    Anyone even remotely resembling my ex-husband (talking about personality, habits etc, not about looks).
    Someone controlling and manipulative.
    Someone harbouring bitterness and resentment towards women.
    Someone with a nasty, jealous streak.
    Most other things are negotiable.
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