What is the one thing you can not over look when dating?

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  • Init2winIt79
    Init2winIt79 Posts: 582
    extreme machismo! ugh:noway:
  • suncluster
    suncluster Posts: 539 Member
    has got an opinion on everything and must explain ad nauseam
  • salembambi
    salembambi Posts: 5,585 Member
    - non vegan or vegetarian ...unless they lean vegan most of the time and respect my veganisim
    -big egos
    -atheists or religious people
    -someone who does not believe in aliens , nope cannot do it
    -misogyny
    -not creatively inclined in some way
  • MiloBloom83
    MiloBloom83 Posts: 2,724 Member
    Dancing around in a bathrobe. Tucking. Keeping me in a basement cistern and yelling at me to put the lotion on my skin.
  • SoreTodayStrongTomorrow222
    SoreTodayStrongTomorrow222 Posts: 252 Member
    no job, no motivation, drugs, excessive alcohol, pessimistic view of life.
  • TexasEngr
    TexasEngr Posts: 270 Member
    Smoking amongst others!
  • _TastySnoBalls_
    _TastySnoBalls_ Posts: 1,298 Member
    derpes
  • GertrudeHorse
    GertrudeHorse Posts: 646 Member
    I have to draw the line if someone owns like 31 cats!

    It's all right, you won't have because I'll date that person instead. My rule is the more cats the better!
  • Mello_Rello
    Mello_Rello Posts: 421 Member
    Deal breaker:
    A registered sex offender
  • GertrudeHorse
    GertrudeHorse Posts: 646 Member
    Sorry but I don't have one thing. I have lots of things! I would never date someone who:

    - takes drugs or drinks alcohol excessively.
    - is racist, sexist, homophobic, transphobic, ableist, or discriminatory in any way.
    - is against abortion.
    - hates cats or animals in general.
    - is politically right-wing and/or doesn't share the majority of my political views.
    - is religious or extremely anti-religious.
    - makes me feel bad about myself.
    - rarely smiles.
    - supports pseudoscience.
    - has no understanding of mental illness.
    - thinks animal cruelty is funny.
    - has bad body odour.
    - doesn't shower every day.
    - doesn't respect my boundaries.
    - thinks having a long list of dealbreakers makes me a bi*ch.
    - believes the friendzone is an actual thing.
    - is anti-feminist.
    - is unintelligent or less intelligent than I am.
    - is a militant vegan.
    - believes it's okay to police how a woman looks.
    - is short.
    - has kids or absolutely wants kids

    Also anyone who supports this dudebro:
    A really long list of deal breakers. If a woman has THAT many deal breakers she's probably just a pain in the a** or a overly picky control freak.

    And just a note to this person:
    After looking through this list, I've come to the conclusion that my "expectations" seem to be quite low... I'm happily seeing someone now, but most of the things people have listed here as being deal breakers wouldn't have mattered in the beginning. There is such a thing as being too picky, and all the restrictions and standards will only keep you from potentially meeting someone amazing.

    Being "potentially amazing" and "not meeting standards" are utterly mutually exclusive. I fail to see how someone could be "potentially amazing" and meet any of the criteria I just listed. But you're welcome to have them if you disagree though...

    As for the OP's questions:

    Doesn't own a home? Wouldn't change my decision to date them at all.
    Doesn't have a job? Wouldn't change my decision to date them unless they've never had a job.
    Doesn't own a car? Wouldn't change my decision to date them at all.
    Has kids or has no kids? Probably a deal breaker.
    Is divorced? Probably a deal breaker.
  • tlcarolinagirl
    tlcarolinagirl Posts: 1,700 Member
    The one thing? Lying. I flucking hate a liar.
  • TallGlassOfQuirky
    TallGlassOfQuirky Posts: 282 Member
    - non vegan or vegetarian ...unless they lean vegan most of the time and respect my veganisim
    -big egos
    -atheists or religious people
    -someone who does not believe in aliens , nope cannot do it
    -misogyny
    -not creatively inclined in some way

    A lot of my friends are vegans now, which I don't care, eat whatever you want. I just think that my least favorite part of the vegan diet is the verbal part where they explain it to you. It's just endless. They're like, "I'm a vegetarian, but I don't even eat milk or honey because it takes animal labor to make milk and honey and I think that's wrong." And it just always strikes me as childish logic, it's like, "I like bees and I like cows... more than the immigrants that pick the vegetables I eat." ~Chelsea Peretti

    So, you know, I guess something I couldn't overlook would be living with someone who cared more about bees than people. I mean, I like bees, but since their entire life's purpose is to make honey, I think it's probably okay to eat honey. It's like I am keeping the bees employed. Just saying.

    Oh, and what exactly is a non-athiest and non-religious person? Someone who doesn't believe in anything? That doesn't work, though, since they should believe in aliens. And, well, even an agnostic believes in something. They believe that they don't know and don't want to know either way, so they sort of believe in "ignorance is bliss."

    And, um... well... I hope you find someone that meets with your qualifications. I recommend looking somewhere remote about 100 miles outside of Roswell, NM. :flowerforyou:
  • TattooedNici
    TattooedNici Posts: 2,141 Member
    Piss poor hygiene or a manipulative personality. Those will end things fast!
  • TattooedNici
    TattooedNici Posts: 2,141 Member
    Deal breaker:
    A registered sex offender

    ABSOLUTELY!
  • SakuraRose13
    SakuraRose13 Posts: 621 Member
    When I was unmarried and without children ,

    drug addict or alcoholic or smoker

    did once obviously never again

    person who did not want kids or hated them

    how can anyone hate all children that does not make any sense
    and yes you can like children but not want them for yourself

    disrespectful towards women

    a person who dislikes my family or friends not saying just a person here or there I mean all of them


    anyone who tries to control me


    basic things and insecurity and or jealousy

    for me it comes to trust do you trust the one your with, if you cant answer without hesitation than they are not the one for you .
  • dakotababy
    dakotababy Posts: 2,407 Member
    Oh this is fun.

    1 - Religion. If we do not have the same beliefs, it will not work.
    2 - Must love dogs over cats (or equal).
    3 - Must love heavy metal/rock music.
    4 - Must be able to live independently (meaning having a source of ethical income (no prostitutes/drug dealers, etc), means to get a round, whatever that may be for the individual)
    5 - No drugs, social/occasional alcohol user.

    I am sure there was more. I dont think I could be with someone with ADHD and not have that **** under control. Oh yeah, and they must also dislike oysters.
  • JG762
    JG762 Posts: 571 Member
    Smoking, if you choose to do it that's up to you I just don't have to smell it or deal with it.

    Anyone who acts like or thinks she's a "Princess" and everything has to be about her, been there done that and learned my lesson.
  • ahawk56702
    ahawk56702 Posts: 136 Member
    -someone who yells a lot
    -someone who thinks that every other man is a threat
    -someone who is uneducated (I don't mean a degree. I mean they have to have a love of learning)
    -someone who acts like he's allergic to showering
    -someone who can't enjoy nature
    -The biggest one is someone who has anger issues
    -someone who I know has a long history of cheating
  • cakebatter07
    cakebatter07 Posts: 814 Member
    Arrogance, rudeness, lying, and cheating.
  • burning2much
    burning2much Posts: 4,846 Member
    Drama and lying
  • SavageAbbey
    SavageAbbey Posts: 79
    Ugly hands and fingers.
  • WoodChuckNorris
    WoodChuckNorris Posts: 216
    Manners

    Add smoking as well.
  • RaggedyPond
    RaggedyPond Posts: 1,487 Member
    Doesn't lift
  • WoodChuckNorris
    WoodChuckNorris Posts: 216
    Doesn't lift

    I am adding this too. Duh
  • uconnwinsnc
    uconnwinsnc Posts: 1,054 Member
    Smokers, "party girls"...that is about it for what bothers me.
  • jenilla1
    jenilla1 Posts: 11,118 Member
    Impolite, arrogant or mean behavior. (In other words, he can't be an A-hole.)
  • missomgitsica
    missomgitsica Posts: 496 Member
    Smoking. Just no on that one.

    Kids are an immediate deal breaker. I have no desire to be a mom of any kind.

    Really, really conservative politics are also a turn off. I'm fine if you're not a flaming liberal but if you align yourself with Ann Coulter or Glenn Beck we probably won't get along.
  • hurricanegirl13
    hurricanegirl13 Posts: 109
    Sorry but I don't have one thing. I have lots of things! I would never date someone who:

    - takes drugs or drinks alcohol excessively.
    - is racist, sexist, homophobic, transphobic, ableist, or discriminatory in any way.
    - is against abortion.
    - hates cats or animals in general.
    - is politically right-wing and/or doesn't share the majority of my political views.
    - is religious or extremely anti-religious.
    - makes me feel bad about myself.
    - rarely smiles.
    - supports pseudoscience.
    - has no understanding of mental illness.
    - thinks animal cruelty is funny.
    - has bad body odour.
    - doesn't shower every day.
    - doesn't respect my boundaries.
    - thinks having a long list of dealbreakers makes me a bi*ch.
    - believes the friendzone is an actual thing.
    - is anti-feminist.
    - is unintelligent or less intelligent than I am.
    - is a militant vegan.
    - believes it's okay to police how a woman looks.
    - is short.
    - has kids or absolutely wants kids

    Everything here, minus the absolutely wants kids. Add in...

    -Bad breath
    -Dirty hands/fingernails on a regular basis
    -Someone shorter than me
    - impolite
  • 1pandabear
    1pandabear Posts: 336 Member
    Arrogance, rudeness, lying, and cheating.

    yes exactly!
  • WoodChuckNorris
    WoodChuckNorris Posts: 216
    After reading these, some of you people are...wow...just....wow

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