being undermined

Fishshtick

Enough of the self-sufficient sanctimony or 'she's just being a mom' BS. It is just plain hogwash to say that you can't expect the people around you to respect your requests or that moms are somehow helpless to control themselves. Everyone of us asks people in our lives to change their behavior a bit for us every day and they do the same of us. That's called social behavior. It would be different if you were telling your mom she could not have ice cream. You're just asking her to not cram it in front of you. You shouldn't have to put up with that if you really have asked her to not do it. It's called respect, and being a parent is not an excuse to act disrespectful to your grown kids. Our society tolerates many passive aggressive and codependent behaviors by parents that are not healthy and would not be tolerated in other relationships. I'm not saying your mom is a bad person, but if she really is shoving food at you when you ask her not to she is acting badly and probably feels entitled to do so because of people perpetuating a demeaning myth that parents are somehow like little kids that can't control their emotions and behavior. Confronting your mom about this is far from disrespectful on your part. Your mom is a grown woman and you should treat her like one by telling her that her lack of willingness to accommodate your simple request is disrespectful to you. If she can't bring herself to support such a minor request then you need to question if there is a deeper issue at play here.

michellekicks

She's your mom. Be point blank honest. No donuts or ice cream in this house. Thanks!

That's not good advice IMO. No kid of mine will tell me what I can and can't stock in my house. You don't want it? Don't eat it. I have 7 people in my house and we have a huge variety of foods here. Furthermore, if I went to my daughter's house to care for her and help her with her 3 kids while she is sick and she rudely told me what I can and cannot bring, I'd tell her to grow up, quit being a brat and take care of herself.

This^^ She isn't undermining you, she's treating you like the child you are acting like. You choose what goes in your mouth, no one else. Take responsibility for your actions; including the fork to mouth action.

bit over the top response
i guess it would stop the obesity rate though

How is being responsible for your actions over the top? And yes when people stop blaming other things for their food choices the obesity rate would improve. I am the one responsible for my successes and failures. The same is true for the general population.

ETA: OP there are always days where even the most dedicated people have slip ups, it is one day and good luck on the rest of your journey.

your comments re acting like a child are over the top. taking responsibility is what we are all here trying to do.

Someone said to be "point blank honest" with her mother and proclaim a police state of no junk food in her own home. I suggested that was a bratty way to deal with one's own mother.

Everyone over the age of 18 living in any household has every right to have whatever type of food they would like to have. Now, I do understand OP being concerned for her mom if she's making bad choices for herself, but again, you can't change anyone. If people make accommodations for you because you'd like them to, consider that a huge gift. The moment you set an expectation there - that people will change their behaviors as you want them to - you are setting yourself up for disappointment and struggle. You can ask her to keep the junk food out of view, in her own cupboard or a special place in the house (except, well, ice-cream would of course have to go in the freezer lol) but recognize that being accommodating to those kinds of requests may take time and a long-term show from you that you're serious about the changes you're making.

If you have ever made a commitment to weight loss that even you didn't stick to, you can't expect people to take you seriously unless you show you're serious and stick to it no matter what.

You can do it. But it starts with owning your choices. I'm not sure who on this thread is an athlete who's never had a weight problem, but most of us have had this struggle. I know that for me it was only when I owned all my decisions - including how I move and what I stick in my mouth - that I found success.

Ophidion

Um develop self control or...

Greytfish

Everyone over the age of 18 living in any household has every right to have whatever type of food they would like to have.

Presuming they pay for it, shop for it, store it, prepare it themselves, and pay to put a roof over their own head...yes.