How big of an age gap do you have between you and your S.O.?

pressica

Hey everyone, I was just curious what the difference is in age between you and your significant other. I am trying to decide how old is too old for me. I am a 25 y/o girl who has been dating a 37 y/o man. That is quite a gap in age. Of course, I will still do what I think is best, but is that big of an age gap gross to you?

Please tell me your opinion. I have never dated that much older. He is single with no kids. What do you think?

rockinmomto3

Well, my husband is 4 1/2 months older than me. I was engaged to a man who was almost 10 years older than me...but that didn't work out too well. LOL. He's now happily married to someone else! I do know a girl who's 22, and who's been married since 18 to a man who's in his 40s (late 40s I believe). She's step mom to a girl who's 4 years younger than her. But they seem to have a really great marriage, so who am I to judge? I think that if you're happy, it doesn't matter how old your partner is.

Swoopette

As long as your happy who cares what anyone else thinks!!! Age is just a number. Sure there is a difference but it doenst really matter. There are a lot worse out there in age difference than you. Keep smiling and be happy is what matters.

ZebraHead

I am nine years older than my wife. We met when I was seventeen.


Ok not really..

But she is nine years younger than me.

brockly25

5 years i'm younger :P

nisijam5

I am nearly 44...hubs is 51...7 years apart and married over 20

SabrinaM85

Hey girl!! The men I have dated average between 6 & 9 years older and just 2 years ago I dated a guy for about 6 months that was 18 years older! I was 24 and he was 42. I know, I know crazy! He was divorced and had 2 kids. We did not split because of age or any other reason other than our careers took us in different directions and we both had to move.

If you are happy and in love, than go for it! Just don't date someone that could be your grandpa. I was pushing it dating someone who could have been my father.

jamie1888

I was in that same situation in my early 20's. It never bothered me then. But, I know all the "looks" we got from other people. And I brought him as my date to a wedding once and my friend's mother asked if he was my dad! :grumble:

It's a personal choice really. Think about him in 10 years. Are you going to be happy with the body of a 47 year old? lol

My husband is 6 1/2 years younger than me. Sometimes I feel bad for him because I think he should be with somebody younger. But, yay for me because I have a young, hot husband!

ambercole

I am 26 and my hubby will be 40 next month. We dont even notice the difference. It is hilarious when someone asks if he is my dad though! LOL

RWilliams_Fit

my bf of over a year is 11 years older than me WITH 2 children... its all good, if he makes u happy it really doesnt matter!!! and always remember guys are MUCH more immature so older is usually better, and i dno A LOT of ppl think im crazy and am "throwin my 20s away" being with an older man but i have yet to go a day in a full year without smiling because of something he has done, said, or just simply because he makes me feel amazing... good luck

DrBorkBork

6 years, 11 months, and 26 days. I got married at 19, he was 25. We are still together after 9 years

WrenLynn

My husband is ten years older than I am. We married when I was thirty and he was forty years old and it didn't seem strange or weird or anything. I truly believe men don't mature until they are in their thirties especially now a days. On the other hand why is he is still single? He may have committment issues or it may be he just hasn't found the one. You are the one that will have to deal with the relationship no matter what the guys age is so it is truly your preference and what your goals are in life. I know when we married my hubby thought he was to old to want to have a child so we didn't but if that would have been a big deal to me then I would have needed to end the relationship. Good Luck!

rosef17

I am 2 years older than my husband. I think the most important thing is how your S.O. treats you - not the age.

sarahliftsUP

I am 2 years and 8 months younger than my boyfriend. Not a big deal now but back when we first started seeing each other I was 14 and he was 16 going on 17. Now I just turned 24 and he is 26.

I think it all depends on where you are in life. If you are 22 and finished college, have a good career and are ready to settle down, someone who is the same age may not be on the same page, someone 26 or 30 may be.. but then someone who is also 22 may be ready for the same things in life. I think it all depends on what your expectations of a relationship are, what you want in life, and if they are supportive of you and have similar goals (i.e. wanting to get married, having children or wanting to get married but no children, etc.) Age is just a number.. but I think maturity has more to do with how a relationship ends up rather than age.

Do what feels right for YOU. I know it's hard because because are going to give you looks and talk behind your back when they discover your boyfriend's age. But if he makes you happy then that is all that really matters.

John8188

17 years. I am older. It can be hard sometimes. But it is worth it.

CeciHarper

Girl if you're happy, no worrying about the age!! I am 30 my husband is 26... I was 21 & he was 17 [8 days shy of 18] when we got together... lucky for you he's not "too" immature =D

If you are happy girl, age is nothing but a number. He treats you good? Good. You like/love him? Good. Do you trust him? Gooood... So, you're good!

Now, if you are having doubts about him... slow down & re-evaluate your life... Then make your decision based on your heart & women's intuition.. but first & foremost... PRAY about it! Good luck!!!

:flowerforyou:

missboriken

I am 5 years older than my husband.

themommie

me and my husband met when I was 23, he was 30. He is 7 yrs older. At 23 he seemed so much older and I thought about breaking up with him because of the age thing. Well we are still together and I am now 47, he is 53. Now the age thing does matter and we seem closer in age as we get older. If you are happy thats all that matters

lisalynn35

There is almost 8 years between my husband and I, I am 39 and he is 47. The older you get the age difference matter less and less.

karlowe

7 yrs. I am 36 and he is 43. never has seemed wierd and no problems with it.!

CombatVet_Armywife

My husband is 3 years older than me. Met him when I was 18, right outta highschool, been married 15 years now. I agree w/everyone else....as long as he treats you right....
I hope these replies help ya out mama!

brittlynne3579

Mine was 9 years. I'm 27 and he was 36. It didn't matter except recently he broke up with me saying he was concerned I wanted kids badly and he decided he didn't (he already has 3). While I'm sure this is the right thing to do, it's still heartbreaking so just make SURE you guys are on the same page about age related stuff like kids!

EDesq

Hey:
I am over 15 years older than My Partner. We are very compatible, and whatever differences we have are not related to age. Our core values are similar or the same and that is so very important Just make sure you focus on what matters most to a good relationship and not a bunch of superficial stuff like age...you could get someone your age and your values are totally different or what's important to you may not be important to them in making a good Life. Make sure you choose (whomever) for the right reasons.

sunnyk8

4 months and 3 days

Both of us just turned 21. We met in chemistry class in high school and have been together ever since.

candlegal

The only thing I can think that may play a part in the age thing, is if you plan on having kids. Is he okay with being a new Dad at 40? If that isn't an issue for him or you go for it. If you get along and have lots of interests in common and enjoy being with each other and spending time together it shouldn't be an issue. But be ready for it to be an issue for other people. My hubby is 4 yrs older than me, it's been perfect. Happily married 28yrs last May 15th! Good Luck!

jamie1888

There is almost 8 years between my husband and I, I am 39 and he is 47. The older you get the age difference matter less and less.

Lisalynn,
Congrats on your weight loss! You look fantastic!!! Such an inspiration! :flowerforyou:

Alioth

Okay, I'm gonna buck the trend here and say it totally bothers me when older men hit on me or want to date me, especially if the difference > 5 years! It always has bothered me and it possibly always will. I especially dislike older men who talk, act, and dress like teenagers! They're not! And some older guys act predatory towards young women who haven't finished maturing. It seems like some men who are insecure want a sweet young thing who doesn't intimidate them, who they can "mold" or manipulate.

But, with that said, with everyone else here I also know people who are married with a 10 year age gap or larger. They are ridiculously happy, madly in love, and I enjoy watching them as a couple. I think it depends on the man and the woman and how good a match they are. You're obviously a mature and motivated woman. And he may be a real prince. So how good are you together? That's what really matters. But if his age is bothering you, is it really his age or is it something else about him that makes you question his age? 'Cause those are totally different things.

bmq98

hi, my husband is 4 years younger than me. we met when I was in my late thirties and he was in his mid thirties.

but i must say, I think it is good to date an older man, especially in your mid twenties. they have "sowed their oats," so to speak, and have learned how to treat a woman. :-)

Families_R_Forever

The only thing I can think that may play a part in the age thing, is if you plan on having kids. Is he okay with being a new Dad at 40? If that isn't an issue for him or you go for it. If you get along and have lots of interests in common and enjoy being with each other and spending time together it shouldn't be an issue. But be ready for it to be an issue for other people. My hubby is 4 yrs older than me, it's been perfect. Happily married 28yrs last May 15th! Good Luck!

I think she hit this right on the spot. I think you need to ask him about having kids and how he feels about it. Otherwise I don't think it's too bad. You are beautiful though and could have anybody...by all means don't settle because you think you are running out of time to get married. You are young still. With that said just do what you feel in your heart, if its "love" then go for it!!! My hubby and I are only 5 days apart lol!!! But my Grandparents were 11 yrs and I never even knew that for a long time. It was never evident to me, however he has been gone for 5 yrs now and she is alone, which is kinda sad.

brattyworm

I agree with most of the posts. If you have the same goals in life it doesnt matter. There's a 6 n half year difference between my husband and I. There is a 20+ year differnce between my father in law and step mom in law and they have been together forever it seems. Obviously, somewhere you have a little bit of an issue with it or you wouldn't be asking. Now you have to decide if that issue is you, him or what you percieve others to think. Becausewhat others think doesn't matter, you will always find some one who agrees, someone who disagrees and someone who really doesn't care. Okay that was it. Good luck with your relationship

Ding724

I am 3 1/2 years younger than my husband...we met when I was 19 & now we've been happily married for a little over a year.

...anyways, you are your own person, and realistically, you can help who you fall in love with... so you have to do what you think is right!

ps. A thought to consider would be that when you are in your upper 60s he will already be in his 80s and you will have to take care of him and his old man problmes lol jk