How big of an age gap do you have between you and your S.O.?

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  • aippolito1
    aippolito1 Posts: 4,894 Member
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    My boyfriend is 4 years older. He's 25, and I'm 21. I've always gone for older guys but I don't think I could do more than 4, just because at this point, I realize we won't have kids until he's pushing 30 and then we're going to be "older" parents, y'know? That's MY only concern.
  • boogie17
    boogie17 Posts: 103 Member
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    my fiance is 2yrs older than me!!!
  • pressica
    pressica Posts: 361
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    These are some very interesting comments. Thanks everyone who responded. It is a new relationship, and I guess I want to make sure I know how I feel about it before too many feelings get involved. I am not really insecure about it, just curious. Keep it coming. The good, the bad, and the ugly my MFP peeps.
  • YourFriendBecky
    YourFriendBecky Posts: 229
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    My ex-husband was six years older than me, but he's 13-14 years older than his new wife, and seems happier with her. : ) Then again, he was always one of those who was attracted to younger women... sometimes shockingly younger women... who would look up to him. He always had a really big need for attention and approval.
  • lilRicki
    lilRicki Posts: 4,555 Member
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    My mom always said as long as he loves you and treat you right, than it doesn't matter how old he is...my fiance and I are only 2 years apart but my sister and brother-in-law are 11 and they're an amazing couple
  • susiewusie
    susiewusie Posts: 432 Member
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    I am 7 years older ,been together 20 years this January ,no one said it would last as we met on a Sat and he moved in the following week!
    The only time I notice an age difference is with music ,if I hear something from when I was about 18 he will say I was still in junior school lol .
  • Lisamarie1226
    Lisamarie1226 Posts: 335 Member
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    I am 11 years older than my husband. Yes, I'm a cougar :laugh:

    YAY! Thank GOD there is another one of us posting on here ;-)

    I am about to turn 35 and my boyfriend of 2 years just turned 22. I have always dated within 3-5 years up or down. I really never got into the whole "significantly OLDER" than me thing.... just not for me. I once dated a guy that was 42 when I was 24, just not MY thing. But to each her own.

    I met my BF at the gym in spin class. We were friends first (read my Blog "Confessions of a Cougar in Training" if you want -- it's archived for this month) and HE pursued me. I wore size 18 jeans from Lane Bryant on our first date and we BOTH got carded trying to see an R rated movie. Now my size 10 jeans from Old Navy are quite baggy!

    Yes, we have a big age difference but I've never been treated better in my whole dating career. We now have a townhouse together and live with our 2 rambunctious dogs, our sweet "baby girls". He's in his second year of law school and is getting ME in the best financial shape of my life. He's so good to me!

    Age is only important if that's what you chose to focus on.

    Good luck to you!
  • MzBug
    MzBug Posts: 2,173 Member
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    7 years here, I am the older. Met him on a singles site, both of us were seeing multiple people for the first year. It just kind of evolved that we dropped the other people and were just seeing each other. We bought a home together 3.5 years ago. It is a fair trade...he spoils me, I spoil him. Only 1 fight the first week we moved in and none since.
  • Mangoose
    Mangoose Posts: 41
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    I'm younger than my girlfriend by 4 years.

    The 'rule' for dating is half your age and add 7, so for me, I'm 26, so (26/2)+7 = 20, which sounds about right. I wouldn't go lower than 24 though
  • TateFTW
    TateFTW Posts: 658 Member
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    I'm 27 and my wife is 23. We started dating when I was 25 and she wasa 21. We first met when I was 20 and she was 16. Personally I don't consider it a big gap at all, though it would have been if we had dated when we first met, of course. Personally I consider all bets off after 25. If you're both down, then do your thing.
  • havingitall
    havingitall Posts: 3,728 Member
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    I'm 8 months older than my husband. He should respect his elders!
  • mamabearr
    mamabearr Posts: 304
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    I'm 21 and he's 25
  • Sauchie
    Sauchie Posts: 357 Member
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    My S.O is 4 years younger then me. But whatever makes you happy go for it right? My friends hubby graduated with my mom & shes 2 yrs older then me....
  • vitij002
    vitij002 Posts: 1
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    My husband is 9 years younger than me. Been happily married for 5 years and we have a toddler age 3!
  • lynne_p
    lynne_p Posts: 173 Member
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    My husband is 16 years younger than I am. We've never had any problem in regards to "age difference." We met through work and he pursued me.
  • sgp329
    sgp329 Posts: 184
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    The age difference between myself and my sweetie is almost 15 years. We have been together for nearly 10 years (our anniversary is October 11) and have both never been happier. We are completely different, but insanely alike. Between the two of us, we have 7 children. Two are mine from a previous marriage and the other 5 are his from previous.

    If you get along well and share some common ground and enjoy each other's company, then go for it!
  • agdeierl
    agdeierl Posts: 378 Member
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    I have you beat! I am about to turn 23 and my wonderful boyfriend is going to turn 39 this year! A lot of my friends were shocked when I first told them, and I never EVER would have thought I would even consider dating someone that much older than me, but from the first time I saw him, we had this insane connection that goes beyond the age difference. The more I got to know him, I grew to like him SO much that I realized I didn't give a damn about his age. Plus, he is SEXY. He is almost 39 but all my friends thought he was 28 when they met him for the first time last year! Deciding to date him despite the age difference was one of the best decisions I've ever made. Yes, older guys sometimes have a little more baggage (my boyfriend was married twice before -- though neither one was legal--and only for like a month each...he was really wild when he was my age, but he's settled down so much now), but he's the first guy I've been with that knows exactly what he wants and is mature and supportive. I never got that with a guy my age, ever. He is patient and compassionate even on my worst days when I am acting a little b*tchy. I love him dearly. :)
  • Scorpiomom222
    Scorpiomom222 Posts: 1,462 Member
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    My hubby and I are 10.5 years apart. He's older than me. We started dating when I was 16, and it was a biiiiiiiiiiig no-no. Needless to say, when I ended up preggo at 16,my mom wanted to castrate him. I'm 20 now, and have another child who will be one in October.
  • HealthyChanges2010
    HealthyChanges2010 Posts: 5,831 Member
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    Curious that you used the word 'gross' regarding your relationship, is it something you worry about yourself or worry about what others think? That can be a huge problem in itself.

    I know at 25 I was a kid (keep in mind I'm looking back and sure didn't think I was one then, I was Cool then! :laugh: we all were in our 20's or so we thought) at 37 I was in no way where I was mentally in my 20's. I don't know if this is something casual or you're looking more down the road seriously, marriage or something. But might consider when you're 40...he'll be..... etc.. sometimes that helps to realize what you'll have in common with a mate that is older by a number of years.
  • Scorpiomom222
    Scorpiomom222 Posts: 1,462 Member
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    Curious that you used the word 'gross' regarding your relationship, is it something you worry about yourself or worry about what others think? That can be a huge problem in itself.

    I know at 25 I was a kid (keep in mind I'm looking back and sure didn't think I was one then, I was Cool then! :laugh: we all were in our 20's or so we thought) at 37 I was in no way where I was mentally in my 20's. I don't know if this is something casual or you're looking more down the road seriously, marriage or something. But might consider when you're 40...he'll be..... etc.. sometimes that helps to realize what you'll have in common with a mate that is older by a number of years.

    My grandparents are 10 years apart. He's 76, and she is 66. They started seeing each other 48 years ago, and have been married 46, so, I see no reason why the progressed age and the age GAP together would be a concern.

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