How big of an age gap do you have between you and your S.O.?

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  • TheRoadDog
    TheRoadDog Posts: 11,788 Member
    8 Years difference. Seems to be working out. Celebrating 25th Anniversary next year.

    I think the formula for dating someone younger = 1/2 your own age + 7. (As long as you are both adults)
  • ValerieMartini2Olives
    ValerieMartini2Olives Posts: 3,024 Member
    The person I've been dating is 41 and I'm 32
  • saragd012
    saragd012 Posts: 693 Member
    I am 8 years younger than my s.o. In general I was only ever interested in people 5-10 years older than myself, over 10 years seemed a bit much, but realistically had I met someone I clicked with that was 12 years difference I probably wouldn't have actually minded at all. I think it's really just a matter of where you are in life. I bought my 1st house (on my own) at 23, owned my own car outright, and worked 45+ hours a week, so I had very little interest in the "typical" partier 23 year old. I am unbelievably happy in my relationship, but had I met them at my age there is no way I would have agreed to date them.
  • patrickblo13
    patrickblo13 Posts: 831 Member
    My wife is 37 and I am 33. I tell her all of the time she is a cradle robber

    I notice a lot of women with older men but not the other way around. Are men intimidated by being with an older woman?
  • JustMissTracy
    JustMissTracy Posts: 6,338 Member
    My mate is 4 years older than I am :)
  • dizzzigrl
    dizzzigrl Posts: 196 Member
    Lisamarie1226 wrote: »
    I am 11 years older than my husband. Yes, I'm a cougar :laugh:

    YAY! Thank GOD there is another one of us posting on here ;-)

    I am about to turn 35 and my boyfriend of 2 years just turned 22. I have always dated within 3-5 years up or down. I really never got into the whole "significantly OLDER" than me thing.... just not for me. I once dated a guy that was 42 when I was 24, just not MY thing. But to each her own.

    I met my BF at the gym in spin class. We were friends first (read my Blog "Confessions of a Cougar in Training" if you want -- it's archived for this month) and HE pursued me. I wore size 18 jeans from Lane Bryant on our first date and we BOTH got carded trying to see an R rated movie. Now my size 10 jeans from Old Navy are quite baggy!

    Yes, we have a big age difference but I've never been treated better in my whole dating career. We now have a townhouse together and live with our 2 rambunctious dogs, our sweet "baby girls". He's in his second year of law school and is getting ME in the best financial shape of my life. He's so good to me!

    Age is only important if that's what you chose to focus on.

    Good luck to you!

    I almost dressed up as a cougar last year because my boyfriend and I had just started dating. He's 10 years younger than me. He's super mature for his age though and I am a little immature so we kind of meet in the middle. The only thing that freaks me out a little is before me, he was seeing someone who was 23 ish.... so I am 20 years older than his last gf! Haha.

  • PowerMan40
    PowerMan40 Posts: 766 Member
    age doesn't really matter, its all bout personality, and maturity.
  • Elise4270
    Elise4270 Posts: 8,375 Member
    My husband is 4 days younger. I liked dating older men. But have found I really enjoy someone closer in age.
  • cwolfman13
    cwolfman13 Posts: 41,865 Member
    I'm about 5 months older than my wife
  • Treece68
    Treece68 Posts: 780 Member
    I am 33 my boyfriend (of 13 years) is 48 just today. We met when I was 20 and he 34
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  • Pamela_43
    Pamela_43 Posts: 315 Member
    I am 2 years younger than my husband :) I think as long as y'all want the same things in life then age isn't all that important.
  • spondypete
    spondypete Posts: 24 Member
    My wife is 8 years older than me, and we have been married for 21 years now.
  • OneHundredToLose
    OneHundredToLose Posts: 8,523 Member
    I'm older than my SO by a whopping 2 months and some change. We met in high school :smile:
  • cco60
    cco60 Posts: 1 Member
    My husband is 13 years older than me.. we've been married for 24 years... I was 32 when we got married and he was 45 (I'm his 3rd wife)... all is good although he is approaching 70 and the medical issues are starting to creep in
  • StillBreathingFitness
    StillBreathingFitness Posts: 1,916 Member
    I was married 18 years to a lady 15 years older than me and dated a lady 10 years younger.
  • azulvioleta6
    azulvioleta6 Posts: 4,195 Member
    I'm surprised that nobody has mentioned the 1/2 + 7 "rule" yet.

    The person and where each of you is in life matters more than chronological age. I've dated people as much as 20 years older and 20 years younger, so I guess it is something that doesn't matter much to me.

    My last relationship was with someone who is 36. I am 41. I am currently dating three people--28, 47 and 51.
  • StillBreathingFitness
    StillBreathingFitness Posts: 1,916 Member
    azulvioleta6 wrote: »
    I'm surprised that nobody has mentioned the 1/2 + 7 "rule" yet.

    The person and where each of you is in life matters more than chronological age. I've dated people as much as 20 years older and 20 years younger, so I guess it is something that doesn't matter much to me.

    My last relationship was with someone who is 36. I am 41. I am currently dating three people--28, 47 and 51.

    That's a great rule. And perfect answer. Age matters less than maturity.

    Do all the guys know you are dating them all? Lol ;)
  • BinaryPulsar
    BinaryPulsar Posts: 8,927 Member
    edited September 2016
    My husband is two and a half years older than me. His younger brother and I are the same age (born on the same day), which is funny because I also have a twin brother. I met my husband in college. We have been in relationship for 18 years. But, right now we joke about him being a man in his 40's with a woman in her 30's (we did the same when he turned 30).

    I don't have judgement on your relationship. That's based on what you want. Though it sounds like you are questioning it.
  • girl_inflames
    girl_inflames Posts: 374 Member
    Well he's an ex but we still live together. He's 34 and I'm 25. 9 years. I feel like I act more natural than him most days though.
  • azulvioleta6
    azulvioleta6 Posts: 4,195 Member
    StillBreathingFitness wrote: »

    Do all the guys know you are dating them all? Lol ;)

    Yes, they know that I am dating, generally, and that I am not interested in a commitment at the moment. We are all part of the local Latin dance community to various extents, so they can figure it out if they want.
  • meredithgir199
    meredithgir199 Posts: 243 Member
    I'm 5 years younger than my husband. In regards to age gaps, I think it depends on where you both are in life and where you want to be.
  • ilfaith
    ilfaith Posts: 16,769 Member
    My husband is three years and three months older. We were married when he was 34 and I was a couple of weeks shy of 31 (we'd met three years earlier).

    Interestingly, my dad is three years older than my mother and my father-in-law is three years older than my mother-in-law.

    The biggest age gap when I was dating was with a man 16 years my senior (turned out he was also married...but that's another story). I dated one or two younger men...but not more than a year or so younger.
  • denversillygoose
    denversillygoose Posts: 708 Member
    He's 5 years younger. Sometimes it feels like I have another teenager in the house, but I adore him and he makes me laugh.
  • PowerMan40
    PowerMan40 Posts: 766 Member
    First wife was 4 years younger, my S.O who just moved out was 12 years younger. I have no luck with the younger group, maybe I need to find an older sexy lady who knows her *kitten*.
  • jmt08c
    jmt08c Posts: 343 Member
    about 4.5 years; she just turned 22 and I'm 26. The largest gap I had was 15 years though...she was 38 and I was 23. Definitely a cougar.
  • johnnylloyd0618
    johnnylloyd0618 Posts: 303 Member
    I am 13 years older than my wife, works for us :)
  • robinhager3998
    robinhager3998 Posts: 44 Member
    I am 12 years younger than my husband. When you are younger, as you are, the age difference doesn't matter very much. I am now 59 and my husband is 71. I am seeing that we are becoming very different in our wants and needs that didn't show up when we were younger. My sex life is over, and has been for quite a while. He is having more medical issues. These things may not matter to you now, but later on they will. No matter how much you love someone, down the road you may rethink your decision. Good luck.
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