Husband eats what he wants/ I'm trying to lose weight

Collier78

Men are pigs

If men are pigs...does that make them bacon??? My husband might get a little more action if I thought he was made out of bacon...

lavaughan69

I was watching a great documentary on weight loss the other day and it shared a phrase that I thought was very important.
Change your thinking from "I want it but I can't have it" to "I can have it but I don't want it".

It's hard when we don't have the support. My boyfriend eats a bit of junk and it's hard for me. Sometimes I give in. But ultimately, you're in control of Your body.

Love it! I rarely feel like the "tortured" dieter that can't have the things I want anymore. The reality is, I can have what I want, I just have to decide if I want to use up all my calories in one place or not. It's much easier once you realize you have a choice and you're not being told you can't have something.

I sometimes wonder how our significant others feel about our healthy choices? Do we inadvertently make them feel bad about themselves for not having the willpower or the drive to eat healthier?

denisegunnels

Do what you need to do and ignore the pookie out of him. I've been doing this since August 2013. HE has eaten what he wanted the whole time. I still cook for him and never took it personally. I am doing this for ME. After seeing what I've done the last few months....guess who joined MFP last weekend?

That said, my DH has been nothing but totally supportive the whole time. If yours is picking on you and trying to get you to eat what/when you know you shouldn't then he is a jerk you have other issues way beyond a diet. :noway:

SephiraRose

My husband is supportive of my weight loss, my complaint is that he has lost 18 lbs since Jan with very little effort... so jealous.

jofjltncb6

People everywhere are going to be eating gross stuff you shouldn't be eating. It's more difficult when it's *in your home* and the food is there to eat, but your husband is not the source of the problem. You're just in a situation where you need to learn to be strong and really focus on your commitment to being healthier.

People eating "gross stuff" isn't a problem for me at all. Why would it be? I have zero temptation to eat "gross stuff".

Eventually you won't crave processed snacks and whatnot, and if you do, you'll have the control to allow yourself a treat here and there.

Wait, what? I'm beginning to think I don't fully understand what's going on in here.

But please don't put this on your husband, as long as he is emotionally supporting your decision to be healthy, and doesn't need/want to do the same, that's where you need to keep your focus. Not on his eating habits, unless he's really unhealthy in which case he needs to get on a good plan for his own health, not for your personal peace of mind.

Also, I had my husband hide snacks from me that I knew would be extra difficult for me to stay away from. He happily complied. I felt like *that* was amazing support. I didn't need him to abstain from his own food choices.

randomtai

Oh... this thread....again. :yawn:

jofjltncb6

I was watching a great documentary on weight loss the other day and it shared a phrase that I thought was very important.
Change your thinking from "I want it but I can't have it" to "I can have it but I don't want it".

It's hard when we don't have the support. My boyfriend eats a bit of junk and it's hard for me. Sometimes I give in. But ultimately, you're in control of Your body.

How is "a bit of junk" a problem for an overall calorie deficit???

I'm beginning to think that people are arguing completely different topics.

Or perhaps people have completely unrealistic expectations for everyone around them.

JoRocka

I was watching a great documentary on weight loss the other day and it shared a phrase that I thought was very important.
Change your thinking from "I want it but I can't have it" to "I can have it but I don't want it".

It's hard when we don't have the support. My boyfriend eats a bit of junk and it's hard for me. Sometimes I give in. But ultimately, you're in control of Your body.

How is "a bit of junk" a problem for an overall calorie deficit???

I'm beginning to think that people are arguing completely different topics.

Or perhaps people have completely unrealistic expectations for everyone around them.

yeah I'm not sure how we derailed off to that- oh wait- it's MFP...everything turns into a clean or not argument LMAO

Calliope610

TL;DR all the responses, but FWIW...

My husband wasn't very supportive when I started my lifestyle change. I think he thought it was gonna be rabbit food and rice cakes forever. Until he realized we can still have chicken fried steak, mashed potatoes w/ gravy and all his other favorites. I just eat 6oz of meat, 1/2 cup potatoes, no gravy and a bunch of steamed green veggies on the side. Once he realized I wasn't gonna

mehitabel83

Lol, yep. He is amazing, and I love him. The point is, we are LOSING weight, which means we don't have our *kitten* together yet, especially early in the process. As we lose weight, the hope is that we develop the muscles that allow us to make the right decisions, but first we have to get to that point. A little help from the loved ones in the beginning goes a long way.

You wouldn't ask someone who's been hanging out on the couch eating Doritos for years to bang out ten pullups on the first visit to the gym---you'd have them do australian pullups, or gravitron, or add some bands and a little human assistance, or lat pulldowns...so why would you expect the flabby willpower and decision-making abilities to be at full strength in the beginning?

Even the amazing people in your life can have blinders on about their own actions and how they relate to you. Each and every time, my husband was like, --'Oh! I didn't know!" He meant it--he was just saying what was on his mind, and didn't realize that early on I needed some filters that helped me do right and be right...

mfnavarro

Girl I know how you feel, I lost 65 pound when I was living at home but now I live with my bf and it has been so hard to lose weight. I have gained weight and feel horrible about it because it took me for ever to lose it. And like you I don't feel support at home because I'm the one alway trying to eat healthy.