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Ladies...Do married men constantly talk to you?

Posts: 40 Member
edited February 17 in Chit-Chat
I seem to be the target for married men. I don't really know why. I'm in my twenties, single, and apparently too nice for my own good. Creepers pick me up on their radar pretty easily. I'm used to the lost puppies clinging on to me, but the number of married men that chat me up confuses me beyond recognition. What is it? I mean, I'm not going to lie and say I don't like the attention. I feel like talking is innocent enough,but then there are those key phrases that start alerting you that they are trying to move the conversation in a more inappropriate direction.

This has been going on for more than a year. I'm not a slut by any means, so what is the reasoning? I just don't get it.

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  • Posts: 933 Member
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  • Posts: 11,788 Member
    I can take a hint. Not talking to anyone under 50 from now on.
  • Posts: 1,492 Member
    No idea really! I talk to lots of men and women on here, I do not ask. I am here for friends! Same goes with in person but I can not recall the last time anyone talked inappropriate to me! Ill just kick their *kitten* if they do! lol
  • Posts: 40 Member
    No no no no....I'm not talking about anyone on here! Many married men that I know IN PERSON talk to me inappropriately.

    :ohwell:
  • Posts: 910 Member
    I have a close friend that is a male who is married, we talk, strictly friendly. But no, I don't have married men constantly talking to me. If so, I always assume it's strictly friendly until something completely inappropriate is being said. Maybe they are taking your kindness and seeing it as flirtatious? Mixed signals and what not. Who knows!
  • Posts: 7,739 Member
    I seem to be the target for married men. I don't really know why. I'm in my twenties, single, and apparently too nice for my own good. Creepers pick me up on their radar pretty easily. I'm used to the lost puppies clinging on to me, but the number of married men that chat me up confuses me beyond recognition. What is it? I mean, I'm not going to lie and say I don't like the attention. I feel like talking is innocent enough,but then there are those key phrases that start alerting you that they are trying to move the conversation in a more inappropriate direction.

    This has been going on for more than a year. I'm not a slut by any means, so what is the reasoning? I just don't get it.

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    Those glasses say otherwise. Naughty librarian FTW. :bigsmile:
  • Posts: 11,788 Member
    No no no no....I'm not talking about anyone on here! Many married men that I know IN PERSON talk to me inappropriately.

    :ohwell:

    I raised three girls. 20's and 30's now. When they had a problem with older men being inappropriate with them, they let me know. I helped a couple of the older men understand that they were being inappropriate. Vigorously, in a couple of instances.
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  • I have a close friend that is a male who is married, we talk, strictly friendly. But no, I don't have married men constantly talking to me. If so, I always assume it's strictly friendly until something completely inappropriate is being said. Maybe they are taking your kindness and seeing it as flirtatious? Mixed signals and what not. Who knows!

    How YOU doin' Selly? :tongue:
  • Posts: 40 Member
    Maybe they think I'm so insecure I'll do anything for attention/affection. :(
  • Posts: 296 Member
    I get this, I don't talk about it because people think I am either flirting or being vain.
    I am a *kitten* magnet, it has left me with a distrust of all men (I know it's not fair)

    I think half my problem is that I have no idea I am being hit on until it's too late and then it's awkward.
  • Posts: 478 Member
    I talk to guys all the time--married, single, doesn't matter. My husband lives 500 miles away but I'm not going to be a hermit. I smile, I'm friendly, but I'm not sending out signals that I want anything more than conversation. But no one has ever talked to me inappropriately that I can remember. Either the married men you're talking to are picking up on physical signals or word choices from you that make them think they have the green light...or these guys have no class.
  • Posts: 40 Member
    I get this, I don't talk about it because people think I am either flirting or being vain.
    I am a *kitten* magnet, it has left me with a distrust of all men (I know it's not fair)

    I think half my problem is that I have no idea I am being hit on until it's too late and then it's awkward.

    I feel like this is my issue as well. I'm just a very friendly person. And I am highly sensitive and compassionate. I feel maybe that could ignite mixed feelings. :(
  • Posts: 426 Member
    I would say don't worry about it....unless they say something inappropriate, then let them know that it's not ok! If you ignore it or let is pass, they may take that as a clue that you are open to it.
  • Posts: 426 Member
    If any people talk to myself or my bf and we sense "flirting" or interest, we try to bring each other up in the convo to give them the hint. Lol Like, "Yeah my bf watches that show", or "my gf is always saying that". Where you are single, you can't really do that. But you can bring up THIER S/O. Ask "oh does your wife do that"...etc
    Just make sure if there is an inappropriate topic, to nip that in the bud or they will see it as a green light!
  • Posts: 5,585 Member
    hiss and or spit on them
  • Posts: 40 Member
    hiss and or spit on them

    I believe this is the best answer so far!
  • Posts: 5,585 Member

    I believe this is the best answer so far!

    it is the only answer
  • Posts: 22,834 Member
    No no no no....I'm not talking about anyone on here! Many married men that I know IN PERSON talk to me inappropriately.

    :ohwell:

    You;re probably sending the wrong message. Avoid eye contact.
  • Posts: 296 Member

    I feel like this is my issue as well. I'm just a very friendly person. And I am highly sensitive and compassionate. I feel maybe that could ignite mixed feelings. :(

    I have been hit on in the strangest of places, once at the gym mid workout, all sweaty and minging and once while dressed as Sadako (Samara) from the ring!
    How is that a come-on? What is wrong with these people?
    And it never happens with hot single guys :(
  • Posts: 1,171 Member
    No comment.
  • Posts: 178 Member

    I raised three girls. 20's and 30's now. When they had a problem with older men being inappropriate with them, they let me know. I helped a couple of the older men understand that they were being inappropriate. Vigorously, in a couple of instances.

    LIKE
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  • Posts: 296 Member
    she said no one on here. it's a real life thing.
    I have found people on here to be the least sleazy on any internet forum I have experienced!
  • Posts: 40 Member

    You have 28 posts, counting the four on this thread. . That has generated a ton of hits from married men???

    I'm not talking about people on the site. If that were the case, I probably wouldn't be posting it here.

    I guess I made a mistake by posting at all.
  • Posts: 40 Member
    she said no one on here. it's a real life thing.
    I have found people on here to be the least sleazy on any internet forum I have experienced!

    People on here are extremely nice. I'm very glad I started using the forums.

    I was only trying to make conversation.
  • Posts: 303
    because there are alot of older men who get a kick out of a younger, good looking girl talking with them. Makes them think they "still got it"..the decent ones just talk..the scumbags are the ones that try to push it to the next level...

    I am nice to almost everyone..working on being alittle more bubbly..its been mistaken for flirting on more then one occurence and I really wasnt..watch your reactions too.
  • Posts: 303
    I remember reading a study that said an older man's testerone levels are boosted when he interacts with a younger, pretty woman...

    I know we are big on documentation here..I wont cite it as FACT as I cant remember where I read it...
  • Posts: 2,724 Member

    it is the only answer

    Careful! Some creepy dudes are into this!:wink:
  • Posts: 40 Member

    Careful! Some creepy dudes are into this!:wink:



    Hahahaha! :bigsmile:
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