Have you ever been celibate?

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  • determinedbutlazy
    determinedbutlazy Posts: 1,941 Member
    6+ months. Military deployments are a b!tch.

    Preach.
  • CallMeCupcakeDammit
    CallMeCupcakeDammit Posts: 9,377 Member
    celibacy (as in being celibate)= no sex, no kissing, no *kitten*, no sexual stimulation of any kind.
    Is that even possible though?

    I get some... stimulation... out of nothing more than walking behind a pretty girl in the street...

    All it takes is for a guy to tell me he wants to _______ my ________ and I need to change my pants. Or eat a really good ice cream. :wink:
  • coconuttjd
    coconuttjd Posts: 37
    Don't change it.

    The definition of celibacy is not the abstention from all sexual activity. That is a contemporary usage that isn't even all that common. The correct and actual definition of celibacy is as follows, and most people here are using the word correctly.

    Definition of CELIBACY

    1: the state of not being married
    2
    a : abstention from sexual intercourse
    b : abstention by vow from marriage
  • Ren_F
    Ren_F Posts: 20
    I instituted a six month celibacy before my marrying my first husband. I was hoping that if we tried to 'reboot' things it would be better. I was wrong, hence the divorce.
  • csuhar
    csuhar Posts: 779 Member
    How long and why?

    30 years and counting.

    I'd be lying if I said religion didn't have something to do with it, but it's not the only reason.

    For one thing, my parents and I started having "the talk" when I was in first grade (courtesy of Peter Mayle's book, "Where did I come from?"). That whole time, it wasn't "when a man and a woman have...." but it was mommy and daddy or husband and wife. There was no doom and gloom or "you're going to hell if you don't wait for marriage". It's simply how it was understood. It was something a husband and wife did.

    But the BIG factor, since reaching adulthood where I was free to go out and do all those things is that I have seen every form of birth control fail. This includes a couple where BOTH the man and woman had their respective tubes tied and / or snipped, which to me is the most aggressive form of birth control out there. But on top of all that, the situations where the individuals weathered the unexpected pregnancy the best were the ones where they were basically in a committed relationship, already.

    Added on top of that, as a supervisor, I've seen people deal with special needs children. Once again, where the couple is in some form of committed relationship, life is a lot easier.

    So, because I haven't found a woman I'm willing to enter into a committed relationship with and / or otherwise be connected to as the father of her child, I keep my genitals to myself. Because if I did father a child, no matter how unintentionally, I'm going to BE there for that child and the mother.


    Also, while it's not necessarily "romantic", but it's as close as I get to romantic when discussing this matter, being in the military means I've had to live with all kinds of people. I've eaten with them, lived with them, shared rooms with them, talked about our hopes for the future with them, even cried with them. In my private life, I've kissed and hugged women, too. So I'm holding back on sex so that, if and when I do find a woman I want to settle down with I have SOMETHING in the relationship that I've shared only with her beyond filing jointly for taxes and social security benefits.



    It's not easy. I get urges just like everyone else. But the biggest headache is when people make the assumption that my being a virgin means I'm uncomfortable with women or with the idea of sex. That couldn't be farther from the truth. I simply made the active, conscious choice to abstain from sex.
  • AshwinA7
    AshwinA7 Posts: 102 Member
    Yeah... I've been celibate for 24 years now.
  • mybuttitches123
    mybuttitches123 Posts: 24
    you're all nuts
  • SavageAbbey
    SavageAbbey Posts: 79
    6 or 7 months

    Because I was in between relationships.
  • CallMeCupcakeDammit
    CallMeCupcakeDammit Posts: 9,377 Member
    you're all nuts

    I had to scratch mine yesterday. I had logged them in my diary, but then I went to eat them and someone had left the empty canister on the counter! :sad:
  • w2bab
    w2bab Posts: 353 Member
    By choice? Good Lord, no!
  • Jade0529
    Jade0529 Posts: 213 Member
    Yup, til I was 15

    I was 9

    I am so sad for you. 9 is just a kid. How awful
  • bc2ct
    bc2ct Posts: 222 Member
    Celibacy? No. Dry spell? Ya... longest after the age of 19 was about 8 months of sadness.
  • moya_rargh
    moya_rargh Posts: 1,473 Member
    Maybe this is why I train so hard hehe!
  • sheskimtastic
    sheskimtastic Posts: 403
    Until I was 19 :laugh:
  • kershaann
    kershaann Posts: 1,824 Member
    Until I was 16, then it has went downhill from there. 3 times a day would be great!
  • TLC227
    TLC227 Posts: 210 Member
    On purpose? No LOL
  • Ihatecoldsoup
    Ihatecoldsoup Posts: 186
    Lol, after having my kid, it was about a year till sex was on again. But at least there was Pornhub.

    A.C.E. Certified Personal/Group FitnessTrainer
    IDEA Fitness member
    Kickboxing Certified Instructor
    Been in fitness for 30 years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition

    That is unfortunate. Reason #2 on why I am never having kids
  • moya_rargh
    moya_rargh Posts: 1,473 Member
    My penis has just handed me a resignation letter *sniff*
  • Sinisterly
    Sinisterly Posts: 10,913 Member
    Yes .-. lol
  • bd0027
    bd0027 Posts: 1,053 Member
    About a year and a half because no guy interested me for a while there.
  • joehempel
    joehempel Posts: 1,543 Member
    This whole topic reminds me of this song:


    Dear penis, I don't think I like you anymore
    You used to watch me shave, now all you do is stare at the floor
    Ohhhh dear penis, I don't like you anymore
    Used to be you and me, a paper towel and a dirty magazine
    That's all we needed to get by
    Now It seems things have changed, I think that your the one to blame
    Dear penis I don't like you anymore

    He sings:

    Dear Rodney, I don't think I like you anymore
    Cause when you get to drinkin', you put me places I've never been before
    Dear Rodney, I don't like you anymore
    Why cant we just get a grip on our man to hand relationship
    Come to terms with truly how we feel
    If we put our heads together we'll just stay home forever
    Dear penis, I think I like you after all

    Oh and Rodney,
    While yer shavin',
    Shave my balls
  • lbmore33
    lbmore33 Posts: 1,013 Member
    for the 16hrs im putting in at work...yes
  • beachgod
    beachgod Posts: 567 Member
    Some unwanted dry spells, yes. :ohwell: By choice, never.
    Also, 10 pages in and here's this:

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lQlIhraqL7o
  • MelsAuntie
    MelsAuntie Posts: 2,833 Member
    Lol, after having my kid, it was about a year till sex was on again. But at least there was Pornhub.

    A.C.E. Certified Personal/Group FitnessTrainer
    IDEA Fitness member
    Kickboxing Certified Instructor
    Been in fitness for 30 years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition

    That is unfortunate. Reason #2 on why I am never having kids
    [/quote




    It was great, back in the day, to spend the afternoon having "fun" on the couch, in the kitchen, out in the backyard in the rain, etc., without having to worry where the kids were or if they'd walk into the house / barn / down on the riverbank (etc.) and see something they shouldn't. Once you have kids, spontaneous adult fun flies out the window. That's one of many reasons I refused to have kids.]
  • randomtai
    randomtai Posts: 9,003 Member
    Lol, after having my kid, it was about a year till sex was on again. But at least there was Pornhub.

    A.C.E. Certified Personal/Group FitnessTrainer
    IDEA Fitness member
    Kickboxing Certified Instructor
    Been in fitness for 30 years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition

    That is unfortunate. Reason #2 on why I am never having kids




    It was great, back in the day, to spend the afternoon having "fun" on the couch, in the kitchen, out in the backyard in the rain, etc., without having to worry where the kids were or if they'd walk into the house / barn / down on the riverbank (etc.) and see something they shouldn't. Once you have kids, spontaneous adult fun flies out the window. That's one of many reasons I refused to have kids.]

    Oh spontaneous adult fun doesn't fly out the window when you have kids, you just have to be more creative. Trust me :bigsmile:
  • jayb0ne
    jayb0ne Posts: 644 Member
    I was celibate for 15 years once...
  • MickeyCastello
    MickeyCastello Posts: 269
    The first thirteen years of my life. and several spans when I was married.
  • Broderick50
    Broderick50 Posts: 842 Member
    For 3 years after I found out I had a kid. I was scared plain and simple.
  • lizzyclatworthy
    lizzyclatworthy Posts: 296 Member
    2 years the last time.
    No idea why... Just lost interest.
    It seems to happen now and again... I read a lot during those times. It's part of the reason I gained all the weight. Like a protective shield I guess. I was always aware of what I was doing with my food intake.
    I might be heading down the celibacy road again but this time i will get intimidatingly muscular and throw people across the room if they hit on me ;)
  • Ely82010
    Ely82010 Posts: 1,998 Member
    celibacy (as in being celibate)= no sex, no kissing, no *kitten*, no sexual stimulation of any kind.
    Is that even possible though?

    I get some... stimulation... out of nothing more than walking behind a pretty girl in the street...

    All it takes is for a guy to tell me he wants to _______ my ________ and I need to change my pants. Or eat a really good ice cream. :wink:

    Of course, who can resist that smile...!

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