I'm running a marathon...
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I didn't say it was easy - I said that you can get it :noway:
But since you seem to quit at everything else when the slightest hurdle gets in your way...
You don't know what you are talking about. To get moved up to the next banding of mental health support in my area, I would have had to have put my future with my children into jeopardy. I had to chose between showing I was able to mother them, or receive help for my mental illness.
That is the choice I made, that isnt me 'giving up at the first hurdle' because the first hurdle would have been way before the emergency meetings with the mental health team, the tears at the doctors surgery and the begging for support and advice, it wouldn't be opening my heart and my head to a person only for them to tell me that the service they offer doesnt quite work for my issues and that psychotherapy is not avaliable in my area unless I am admitted.
It gets to the point where trying to find support for your mental health problems costs you your mental health. I choose to keep going, to keep on keeping on and to just get by day to day. because its all I CAN do.0 -
And...with that...I give up.0
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Nobody with real life experience of psychiatric services of the NHS would post that link and say it is easy.
That isn't my opinion that is a fact.
Yep I have given up, because frankly if its going to pull up loads of stuff about me not being good enough then I am not strong enough to do it.
I just wanted advice on how to train, how to avoid injury, what marathons to do, how to fundraise etc etc
The 'you can't do it' came through loud and clear, which is cool, better now than later as people said.
How to train: Look up the Galloway marathon plan after finishing C25k.
How to avoid injury: Get fitted for shoes at a running store. Change them every 6 months. Perhaps a half marathon would make more sense based on what you can do right now.
How to fund raise: Heck if I know. The fundraising page you were working with probably has some suggestions.0 -
I do 'give up' because I am a failure at basically everything, at life, at love, at health and fitness
I can't lie, I saw this as a way to help someone else, get fit and have real motivation to achieve something because my life is about helping other people. But I can't do it and that is fine.
I only have to feel like I do right now this evening, tomorrow I can carry on feeling crap about life and not worry about having to feel crap about this. I suppose it gave me something to focus on.0 -
WHAT IS GOING ON IN THIS THREAD?!?
ETA: I'm catching up now. In case it isn't covered on the preceding ten pages, could someone please fill in the missing piece for me?
1. Decides to go from completely sedentary to a full marathon to raise money.
2. Announces intentions to run it in one year advice to the contrary be damned.
3. ??????
4. Profit.
Are people making donations based on her actually completing the marathon that otherwise wouldn't if she doesn't run the marathon? How does this work?0 -
WHAT IS GOING ON IN THIS THREAD?!?
You tell us.0 -
WHAT IS GOING ON IN THIS THREAD?!?
Excuses.0 -
I've already been pledged £300 by friends and family, so I can do this!
I hope you're going to give the money back?
Keeping money that people have donated is stealing you know....
no stealing here. in between I QUIT announcements she said that the people haven't actually given the money yet so it's okay. i think in with the other announcements on the previous page0 -
I just wanted advice on how to train, how to avoid injury, what marathons to do, how to fundraise etc etc
The 'you can't do it' came through loud and clear, which is cool, better now than later as people said.
I skimmed this a bit..... but I'd give you, or anyone, about a 30% chance of being able to go from couch to marathon in a year. I'd give anyone about a 75% chance of going from couch to marathon in 18 months.
Now, couch to marathon in TWO years? Heck yes. Absofreakinglutely yes. And it will be fun, too. You can have an enjoyable adventure along the way.
Also, head on over to the long distance runners forum.0 -
I do 'give up' because I am a failure at basically everything, at life, at love, at health and fitness
I can't lie, I saw this as a way to help someone else, get fit and have real motivation to achieve something because my life is about helping other people. But I can't do it and that is fine.
I only have to feel like I do right now this evening, tomorrow I can carry on feeling crap about life and not worry about having to feel crap about this. I suppose it gave me something to focus on.
This certainly sheds some light on things me thinks....
Pick a realistic goal, plenty of people have said that a half is certainly realistic. Do C25K. Follow up with Galloway, use the run-walk-run method. Make sure to get fitted for shoes, and replace them as needed. Read up on fueling, and hydration and the appropriate clothing for running. You won't fail.0 -
yes because there is a difference between a donation and a pledge
No money has crossed hands, of course it hasn't, I haven't done anything yet.0 -
I would think that people would donate enough to get the guy a wheelchair even if you attached it to a 5k.
Agreed!0 -
WHAT IS GOING ON IN THIS THREAD?!?
Pity party and everyone is invited.
Oh, and it's probably your fault too. You monster.0 -
WHAT IS GOING ON IN THIS THREAD?!?
OP states she's going to run a marathon in a year for her friend
people tell OP that she likely needs more time
people suggest training plans
people say to manage expectations, because marathons are hard and she has no running experience
Somewhere in there we ended up stealing a wheelchair from a guy. I'm not quite sure how that happened.
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I thought a year to do a marathon was a realistic goal.
everything I read online said it was
lots of support from family and friends who have run
but obviously not. its okay, its better to just not bother than to try and fail. I would have just walked it but there we go!0 -
I didn't say it was easy - I said that you can get it :noway:
But since you seem to quit at everything else when the slightest hurdle gets in your way...
You don't know what you are talking about. To get moved up to the next banding of mental health support in my area, I would have had to have put my future with my children into jeopardy. I had to chose between showing I was able to mother them, or receive help for my mental illness.
That is the choice I made, that isnt me 'giving up at the first hurdle' because the first hurdle would have been way before the emergency meetings with the mental health team, the tears at the doctors surgery and the begging for support and advice, it wouldn't be opening my heart and my head to a person only for them to tell me that the service they offer doesnt quite work for my issues and that psychotherapy is not avaliable in my area unless I am admitted.
It gets to the point where trying to find support for your mental health problems costs you your mental health. I choose to keep going, to keep on keeping on and to just get by day to day. because its all I CAN do.
wait, so if i'm reading this correctly, you CAN in fact get access the mental health services via the NHS, but you choose to not go thru the process required for getting help? that is what i'm reading in your own words, right? that you don't want to try because it might be hard?
i like to have fun in the forums but real talk, get the help. because even if they take your kids away for a while, it might be the best thing for all involved. i'm not really seeing how you can be a positive force for your kids until you get some of your issues worked out.
work on you, then work on the kids, then work on wheelchairs for friends. right now the priorities are all jacked up.
/non-snark0 -
Anyway, its over. Off to bed now. Enjoy your little entertainment package everybody.0
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I didn't say it was easy - I said that you can get it :noway:
But since you seem to quit at everything else when the slightest hurdle gets in your way...
You don't know what you are talking about. To get moved up to the next banding of mental health support in my area, I would have had to have put my future with my children into jeopardy. I had to chose between showing I was able to mother them, or receive help for my mental illness.
That is the choice I made, that isnt me 'giving up at the first hurdle' because the first hurdle would have been way before the emergency meetings with the mental health team, the tears at the doctors surgery and the begging for support and advice, it wouldn't be opening my heart and my head to a person only for them to tell me that the service they offer doesnt quite work for my issues and that psychotherapy is not avaliable in my area unless I am admitted.
It gets to the point where trying to find support for your mental health problems costs you your mental health. I choose to keep going, to keep on keeping on and to just get by day to day. because its all I CAN do.
wait, so if i'm reading this correctly, you CAN in fact get access the mental health services via the NHS, but you choose to not go thru the process required for getting help? that is what i'm reading in your own words, right? that you don't want to try because it might be hard?
i like to have fun in the forums but real talk, get the help. because even if they take your kids away for a while, it might be the best thing for all involved. i'm not really seeing how you can be a positive force for your kids until you get some of your issues worked out.
work on you, then work on the kids, then work on wheelchairs for friends. right now the priorities are all jacked up.
/non-snark
http://www.wiltshiremind.co.uk/
More free counselling If you can be bothered to ask for help.0 -
I just wanted advice on how to train, how to avoid injury, what marathons to do, how to fundraise etc etc
The 'you can't do it' came through loud and clear, which is cool, better now than later as people said.
I skimmed this a bit..... but I'd give you, or anyone, about a 30% chance of being able to go from couch to marathon in a year. I'd give anyone about a 75% chance of going from couch to marathon in 18 months.
Now, couch to marathon in TWO years? Heck yes. Absofreakinglutely yes. And it will be fun, too. You can have an enjoyable adventure along the way.
Also, head on over to the long distance runners forum.
bing-bing-bing, We have a winner. And you'll have a great way to quiet the negative voices in your head.0 -
I didn't say it was easy - I said that you can get it :noway:
But since you seem to quit at everything else when the slightest hurdle gets in your way...
You don't know what you are talking about. To get moved up to the next banding of mental health support in my area, I would have had to have put my future with my children into jeopardy. I had to chose between showing I was able to mother them, or receive help for my mental illness.
That is the choice I made, that isnt me 'giving up at the first hurdle' because the first hurdle would have been way before the emergency meetings with the mental health team, the tears at the doctors surgery and the begging for support and advice, it wouldn't be opening my heart and my head to a person only for them to tell me that the service they offer doesnt quite work for my issues and that psychotherapy is not avaliable in my area unless I am admitted.
It gets to the point where trying to find support for your mental health problems costs you your mental health. I choose to keep going, to keep on keeping on and to just get by day to day. because its all I CAN do.
wait, so if i'm reading this correctly, you CAN in fact get access the mental health services via the NHS, but you choose to not go thru the process required for getting help? that is what i'm reading in your own words, right? that you don't want to try because it might be hard?
i like to have fun in the forums but real talk, get the help. because even if they take your kids away for a while, it might be the best thing for all involved. i'm not really seeing how you can be a positive force for your kids until you get some of your issues worked out.
work on you, then work on the kids, then work on wheelchairs for friends. right now the priorities are all jacked up.
/non-snark
Kids come first, your priorities make NO sense, they have food, nice house, smilies and love. EVERYTHING else comes second.
EVERYTHING>0 -
I thought a year to do a marathon was a realistic goal.
everything I read online said it was
lots of support from family and friends who have run
but obviously not. its okay, its better to just not bother than to try and fail. I would have just walked it but there we go!
Then why don't you listen to the people who tell you that you can?0 -
WHAT IS GOING ON IN THIS THREAD?!?
OP states she's going to run a marathon in a year for her friend
people tell OP that she likely needs more time
people suggest training plans
people say to manage expectations, because marathons are hard and she has no running experience
Somewhere in there we ended up stealing a wheelchair from a guy. I'm not quite sure how that happened.
This explained everything perfectly.0 -
I didn't say it was easy - I said that you can get it :noway:
But since you seem to quit at everything else when the slightest hurdle gets in your way...
You don't know what you are talking about. To get moved up to the next banding of mental health support in my area, I would have had to have put my future with my children into jeopardy. I had to chose between showing I was able to mother them, or receive help for my mental illness.
That is the choice I made, that isnt me 'giving up at the first hurdle' because the first hurdle would have been way before the emergency meetings with the mental health team, the tears at the doctors surgery and the begging for support and advice, it wouldn't be opening my heart and my head to a person only for them to tell me that the service they offer doesnt quite work for my issues and that psychotherapy is not avaliable in my area unless I am admitted.
It gets to the point where trying to find support for your mental health problems costs you your mental health. I choose to keep going, to keep on keeping on and to just get by day to day. because its all I CAN do.
wait, so if i'm reading this correctly, you CAN in fact get access the mental health services via the NHS, but you choose to not go thru the process required for getting help? that is what i'm reading in your own words, right? that you don't want to try because it might be hard?
i like to have fun in the forums but real talk, get the help. because even if they take your kids away for a while, it might be the best thing for all involved. i'm not really seeing how you can be a positive force for your kids until you get some of your issues worked out.
work on you, then work on the kids, then work on wheelchairs for friends. right now the priorities are all jacked up.
/non-snark
Kids come first, your priorities make NO sense, they have food, nice house, smilies and love. EVERYTHING else comes second.
EVERYTHING>
They have nothing unless their mom is ok. Ask them.0 -
I didn't say it was easy - I said that you can get it :noway:
But since you seem to quit at everything else when the slightest hurdle gets in your way...
You don't know what you are talking about. To get moved up to the next banding of mental health support in my area, I would have had to have put my future with my children into jeopardy. I had to chose between showing I was able to mother them, or receive help for my mental illness.
That is the choice I made, that isnt me 'giving up at the first hurdle' because the first hurdle would have been way before the emergency meetings with the mental health team, the tears at the doctors surgery and the begging for support and advice, it wouldn't be opening my heart and my head to a person only for them to tell me that the service they offer doesnt quite work for my issues and that psychotherapy is not avaliable in my area unless I am admitted.
It gets to the point where trying to find support for your mental health problems costs you your mental health. I choose to keep going, to keep on keeping on and to just get by day to day. because its all I CAN do.
wait, so if i'm reading this correctly, you CAN in fact get access the mental health services via the NHS, but you choose to not go thru the process required for getting help? that is what i'm reading in your own words, right? that you don't want to try because it might be hard?
i like to have fun in the forums but real talk, get the help. because even if they take your kids away for a while, it might be the best thing for all involved. i'm not really seeing how you can be a positive force for your kids until you get some of your issues worked out.
work on you, then work on the kids, then work on wheelchairs for friends. right now the priorities are all jacked up.
/non-snark
Kids come first, your priorities make NO sense, they have food, nice house, smilies and love. EVERYTHING else comes second.
EVERYTHING>
Are you able to fully supply that with the rate of self-hatred and projected insecurities you have? Taking care of yourself IS taking care of your kids, because while feeding and sheltering a child is necessary, raising children to not see a self-hating, scapegoat-using mother is even better. No matter how much you might think you aren't in need of therapy or are "separating" how you see yourself from how you raise your kids, they know it and they see it. Raising your kids to love themselves requires you to love yourself, as well.0 -
My heart is aching for you and your children right now. By choosing to "mother" them instead of getting help you need for an untreated mental illness is only hurting them. Mental illness affects everyone who is close to it, and no one is strong enough to stop that. You might put up a good fight for a while, but not forever.
Please, please, please find a way to get help that you need, help that you deserve, and help that will ultimately help your children.
By wanting to be a good mother to them, and wanting to find a way to fundraise for a better wheelchair for your friend, we can see examples of what I imagine is your light trying to shine, but, the "I quit" and the "I'm not good enough" attitude is going to rid you of that light.
Please, as one mother to another, get some help for your mental illness.0 -
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I didn't say it was easy - I said that you can get it :noway:
But since you seem to quit at everything else when the slightest hurdle gets in your way...
You don't know what you are talking about. To get moved up to the next banding of mental health support in my area, I would have had to have put my future with my children into jeopardy. I had to chose between showing I was able to mother them, or receive help for my mental illness.
That is the choice I made, that isnt me 'giving up at the first hurdle' because the first hurdle would have been way before the emergency meetings with the mental health team, the tears at the doctors surgery and the begging for support and advice, it wouldn't be opening my heart and my head to a person only for them to tell me that the service they offer doesnt quite work for my issues and that psychotherapy is not avaliable in my area unless I am admitted.
It gets to the point where trying to find support for your mental health problems costs you your mental health. I choose to keep going, to keep on keeping on and to just get by day to day. because its all I CAN do.
wait, so if i'm reading this correctly, you CAN in fact get access the mental health services via the NHS, but you choose to not go thru the process required for getting help? that is what i'm reading in your own words, right? that you don't want to try because it might be hard?
i like to have fun in the forums but real talk, get the help. because even if they take your kids away for a while, it might be the best thing for all involved. i'm not really seeing how you can be a positive force for your kids until you get some of your issues worked out.
work on you, then work on the kids, then work on wheelchairs for friends. right now the priorities are all jacked up.
/non-snark
Kids come first, your priorities make NO sense, they have food, nice house, smilies and love. EVERYTHING else comes second.
EVERYTHING>
this is why i can't have non snark things....0 -
I didn't say it was easy - I said that you can get it :noway:
But since you seem to quit at everything else when the slightest hurdle gets in your way...
You don't know what you are talking about. To get moved up to the next banding of mental health support in my area, I would have had to have put my future with my children into jeopardy. I had to chose between showing I was able to mother them, or receive help for my mental illness.
That is the choice I made, that isnt me 'giving up at the first hurdle' because the first hurdle would have been way before the emergency meetings with the mental health team, the tears at the doctors surgery and the begging for support and advice, it wouldn't be opening my heart and my head to a person only for them to tell me that the service they offer doesnt quite work for my issues and that psychotherapy is not avaliable in my area unless I am admitted.
It gets to the point where trying to find support for your mental health problems costs you your mental health. I choose to keep going, to keep on keeping on and to just get by day to day. because its all I CAN do.
wait, so if i'm reading this correctly, you CAN in fact get access the mental health services via the NHS, but you choose to not go thru the process required for getting help? that is what i'm reading in your own words, right? that you don't want to try because it might be hard?
i like to have fun in the forums but real talk, get the help. because even if they take your kids away for a while, it might be the best thing for all involved. i'm not really seeing how you can be a positive force for your kids until you get some of your issues worked out.
work on you, then work on the kids, then work on wheelchairs for friends. right now the priorities are all jacked up.
/non-snark
Kids come first, your priorities make NO sense, they have food, nice house, smilies and love. EVERYTHING else comes second.
EVERYTHING>
They have nothing unless their mom is ok. Ask them.
^This.
Not to mention, OP, you said earlier that you couldn't support your family so.....:huh:0 -
I didn't say it was easy - I said that you can get it :noway:
But since you seem to quit at everything else when the slightest hurdle gets in your way...
You don't know what you are talking about. To get moved up to the next banding of mental health support in my area, I would have had to have put my future with my children into jeopardy. I had to chose between showing I was able to mother them, or receive help for my mental illness.
That is the choice I made, that isnt me 'giving up at the first hurdle' because the first hurdle would have been way before the emergency meetings with the mental health team, the tears at the doctors surgery and the begging for support and advice, it wouldn't be opening my heart and my head to a person only for them to tell me that the service they offer doesnt quite work for my issues and that psychotherapy is not avaliable in my area unless I am admitted.
It gets to the point where trying to find support for your mental health problems costs you your mental health. I choose to keep going, to keep on keeping on and to just get by day to day. because its all I CAN do.
wait, so if i'm reading this correctly, you CAN in fact get access the mental health services via the NHS, but you choose to not go thru the process required for getting help? that is what i'm reading in your own words, right? that you don't want to try because it might be hard?
i like to have fun in the forums but real talk, get the help. because even if they take your kids away for a while, it might be the best thing for all involved. i'm not really seeing how you can be a positive force for your kids until you get some of your issues worked out.
work on you, then work on the kids, then work on wheelchairs for friends. right now the priorities are all jacked up.
/non-snark
Kids come first, your priorities make NO sense, they have food, nice house, smilies and love. EVERYTHING else comes second.
EVERYTHING>
Are you able to fully supply that with the rate of self-hatred and projected insecurities you have? Taking care of yourself IS taking care of your kids, because while feeding and sheltering a child is necessary, raising children to not see a self-hating, scapegoat-using mother is even better. No matter how much you might think you aren't in need of therapy or are "separating" how you see yourself from how you raise your kids, they know it and they see it. Raising your kids to love themselves requires you to love yourself, as well.
Oh so much of this.
I been the child. I had a nice home, food, nice clothes and smiles (during the good times). Even the bad times weren't horrific by any stretch of the imagination. The one thing I really wanted, more than anything else, was for my parent to get the help they needed.0 -
I would have just walked it but there we go!
So who exactly is stopping you?!!??!!0
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