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  • MiloBloom83
    MiloBloom83 Posts: 2,724 Member
    My dude immediately thought I would fail (because I had so many times before), but I was successful this time and he's no longer around to reap the benefits.

    "There's someone here about the reaping..."

    How YOU doin'?
  • Suggested title..."Why does my man think if I want to lose weight....."

    Not really fair to generalise all men. A bit sexist. Just saying. Anyway, best to talk to him I'd think.

    I feel so generalized :sad: :cry:
  • Myhaloslipped
    Myhaloslipped Posts: 4,317 Member
    I don't how people date and marry others with such insecurities. It would take so much of my energy just to pretend to care about such nonsense.

    Also...Just break up! :laugh:
    They make excuses for them.

    An old friend of mine started dating some chick who would grill him every time another woman posted anything on his Facebook page. He took the page down to avoid the drama.

    They got engaged two months ago ...

    that won't end well
    That's what I'm thinking. But it's none of my business.

    Agreed. An engagement that begins with an ultimatum...seems legit. :noway:
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    I don't how people date and marry others with such insecurities. It would take so much of my energy just to pretend to care about such nonsense.

    Also...Just break up! :laugh:
    They make excuses for them.

    An old friend of mine started dating some chick who would grill him every time another woman posted anything on his Facebook page. He took the page down to avoid the drama.

    They got engaged two months ago ...

    that won't end well
    That's what I'm thinking. But it's none of my business.

    Agreed. An engagement that begins with an ultimatum...seems legit. :noway:
    Well, I don't think it began with an ultimatum. I don't talk to him anymore, really, but I'm friends on FB with his best friend, so I see stuff.

    He deleted the account more than a year ago. I don't think she told him to. He just got sick of the drama it caused. But when you can't handle your SO having Internet friends who are the opposite gender (I knew him in high school -- he ALWAYS had a group of female friends), there are issues. And I don't think they magically clear up.

    He insisted it was because she had been cheated on in her past and treated badly by some guy. Yeah ... join the club, sister.
  • Toblave
    Toblave Posts: 244 Member
    Because they read stupid articles on the interwebz which never lies.

    http://www.askmen.com/top_10/dating_top_ten_60/65b_dating_list.html
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  • blondageh
    blondageh Posts: 923 Member
    Not every guy AT ALL thinks this. Mine has not a jealous bone in his bod, or thinks no one out there would dare hit on me. :laugh: He is all for me getting hot... for HIM.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    I don't how people date and marry others with such insecurities. It would take so much of my energy just to pretend to care about such nonsense.

    Also...Just break up! :laugh:
    They make excuses for them.

    An old friend of mine started dating some chick who would grill him every time another woman posted anything on his Facebook page. He took the page down to avoid the drama.

    They got engaged two months ago ...

    that won't end well

    But it will end.
    :drinker:
  • Jestinia
    Jestinia Posts: 1,153 Member
    Men. Sigh.

    Women often think like this, too, though.

    Humans. Sigh.

    Say, "Honey, I love you soooooooooooo much and you make me soooooooooooooo happy that I want to live forever just so I can be with you always."

    Women dating and not married: Don't say this unless you want to see whether your honey can break speed records fleeing from you. (Although that can be amusing, if you're trying to get rid of someone and you're a tad passive aggressive.) :devil:
  • Cameron_1969
    Cameron_1969 Posts: 2,855 Member
    why do u guys think if ur woman wants to lose weight and start going to the gym again ur mind goes straight to cheating? not only was my husbands mind thinking that but his friends think that too? cant i do something for myself? i am looking forward to wearing a bathing suit in public and not hide under a t shirt... sorry a little vent


    ^^ guilty much?
  • IPAkiller
    IPAkiller Posts: 711 Member
    I find it interesting that so many people are jumping all over the "insecure husband" and his friends that the OP has presented for scrutiny in her post. Have any of you considered the possibility that the OP has behaviors that warrant his concern for their marriage? Behaviors so obvious even his friends are leery of her intentions.

    Either way, as many others have pointed out, she should talk to him directly and find out why he feels this way. And for the record, it is more than common for a disinterested spouse who's plotting a divorce to gain a sudden desire for "self-improvement" (AKA, polish up to move onto bigger and better). Anyone who denies this happens is a fool.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    I find it interesting that so many people are jumping all over the "insecure husband" and his friends that the OP has presented for scrutiny in her post. Have any of you considered the possibility that the OP has behaviors that warrant his concern for their marriage? Behaviors so obvious even his friends are leery of her intentions.

    Either way, as many others have pointed out, she should talk to him directly and find out why he feels this way. And for the record, it is more than common for a disinterested spouse who's plotting a divorce to gain a sudden desire for "self-improvement" (AKA, polish up to move onto bigger and better). Anyone who denies this happens is a fool.
    Whatever, Ron Jeremy.
  • IPAkiller
    IPAkiller Posts: 711 Member
    Whatever, Ron Jeremy.
    Don't out me!
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    Whatever, Ron Jeremy.
    Don't out me!
    That's what he said ...
  • tabbyblack13
    tabbyblack13 Posts: 299 Member
    You two need to have a serious talk about what is going on and how it affects each other. I would also recomend going to a counsler about this.

    As for his coworkers making the comment that you are now hot. They need to stop feeding into his insecurity. They might be doing this to cause problems for their own entertainment. I've had coworkers do stuff like this before just because they could.
  • Cameron_1969
    Cameron_1969 Posts: 2,855 Member
    I remember how MAAAD my ex would get when I would ask her where she was .
    Of course you know the rule. . Don't ever ask a question you don't already know the answer to (The GPS don't lie).
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 49,021 Member
    Sounds more like a personal issue with you and your husband.

    My wife ballroom dances without me. She takes classes and competes (amateur) and has a dancing partner. I have no issues, jealousy, or suspect anything is going on but dancing.

    A.C.E. Certified Personal and Group Fitness Trainer
    IDEA Fitness member
    Kickboxing Certified Instructor
    Been in fitness industry for 30 years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition
  • PJPrimrose
    PJPrimrose Posts: 916 Member
    I must tell my DH how wonderful he is when he gets home. This would drive me crazy!

    Here's some more fuel for the fire. I have always worked out/had a sport of some sort. My EX husband used to make comments about me cheating etc.. 'cause he was a weinie.

    As it turns out, HE was the one running around like his pants were afire. Thankfully, it was a short marriage. He has been married for quite a while to one of his many hoochies from our marriage days and still runs around like his pants are afire.

    Do what you do, and keep your eyes peeled, kiddo. Insecurity has it's basis in SOMETHING.
  • DeadliftAddict
    DeadliftAddict Posts: 746 Member
    I don't think I would think anything like that. My wife goes to the gym with me. You might need to work that out with the spouse. Tell him to tell his friends to stay out of it. They might be why it's in his head.
  • tomomatic
    tomomatic Posts: 1,794 Member
    Wow.
    it could be worse...

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  • babyj0
    babyj0 Posts: 531 Member
    Wow.
    it could be worse...

    her-first-time-outside-the-kitchen.jpg

    :sad: :sad: :sad: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :sad: :sad: :sad:
  • babyj0
    babyj0 Posts: 531 Member
    My ex boyfriend would make stupid comment's like that... And that's why he's an ex. :wink:
  • Ripcode
    Ripcode Posts: 142 Member
    women
  • KarmaKills
    KarmaKills Posts: 99 Member
    ahhh...it's stuff like this that makes me glad I'm single. Sorry OP.


    Yep yep yep!
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  • staceylynn08
    staceylynn08 Posts: 12 Member
    My ex-fiancé was very insecure and loved the fact I had gained lots of weight and let myself go! He didn't want me to be attractive, that would encourage other men to look at me! He was very possessive and controlling, all because he was afraid of losing me.

    I'm happily single now, though I wish I had a significant other who was interested in a healthy lifestyle change that includes going to the gym.
  • BinaryPulsar
    BinaryPulsar Posts: 8,927 Member
    Yeah, just because one guy thinks this, does not mean all men are like that of course. My husband would never think that. Even when men are paying attention to me he just jokes with me about it. He has feelings about it, but he also understands why men are paying attention to me, and he knows it probably must feel good to me to get compliments. So, he jokes about it and we have a good laugh.
  • MapleFlavouredMaiden
    MapleFlavouredMaiden Posts: 595 Member
    Not all men are insecure little douchecanoes. Don't lump them all in the same boat.

    I know plenty of very supportive encouraging men.
  • randomtai
    randomtai Posts: 9,003 Member
    My ex was like this. This is why he is an ex. My current loves me and trusts me. Don't paint all men with such a broad brush.
  • chloematilds
    chloematilds Posts: 111 Member
    invite him to the gym and encourage him to be.... "hot" topless