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jkowula

Yeah, just because one guy thinks this, does not mean all men are like that of course. My husband would never think that. Even when men are paying attention to me he just jokes with me about it. He has feelings about it, but he also understands why men are paying attention to me, and he knows it probably must feel good to me to get compliments. So, he jokes about it and we have a good laugh.

Your husband sounds like one smart guy!

Controlling jealous guys SUCK!

chloematilds

Because they read stupid articles on the interwebz which never lies.

http://www.askmen.com/top_10/dating_top_ten_60/65b_dating_list.html

Jesus...I thought men were visual creatures? How come some dont want a "hot wife"?

TBH, I dont want a husband who is obese and slobby.

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jkowula

Just an observation here....on one of your recent posts you replied to "Bang, Date, Marry or Pass! GO!!! "....your reply ?....."bang"

Hmmmm.......

Awesome,.... anxiously awaiting OP's response!

IPAkiller

Just an observation here....on one of your recent posts you replied to "Bang, Date, Marry or Pass! GO!!! "....your reply ?....."bang"

Hmmmm.......

Awesome,.... anxiously awaiting OP's response!

And a little bit of truth peeks out from behind the OP's curtain.

IPAkiller

Just an observation here....on one of your recent posts you replied to "Bang, Date, Marry or Pass! GO!!! "....your reply ?....."bang"

Hmmmm.......

Awesome,.... anxiously awaiting OP's response!

And a little bit of truth peeks out from behind the OP's curtain.

So wait, if the OP actually is an untrustworty spouce, does that make Hubby just as insecure as you all paint him as?

Saucy_lil_Minx

why do u guys think if ur woman wants to lose weight and start going to the gym again ur mind goes straight to cheating? not only was my husbands mind thinking that but his friends think that too? cant i do something for myself? i am looking forward to wearing a bathing suit in public and not hide under a t shirt... sorry a little vent

So my husband did the same thing to me. I had a fight with him almost every time I went to the gym. (even though I would ask him to go)
Every time I tried something new there was anger about it. He told me I was going through a mid-life crisis, and I was working out for all the wrong reasons (Never mind that I voiced my worry about diabetes, and finding out about our sons high cholesterol. Wanting to set good examples, and encourage our children to be healthy)
I tried to get counseling with him. I tried telling him I was just putting myself back on my priority list after so many years of being all about him (he had some health issues too), and our children.
He just did not understand no matter how much I explained, and he could see how happy it made me, and how much better my anxiety got.
I was very patient with him b/c I knew it was really his underlying self esteem issues, but ultimately it is costing me my marriage. It got to a point where it turned into a kind of verbal abuse that I could no longer tolerate. I had to ask him to leave our home of 12 years.

Please talk to him about it now before it turns into something bigger. Invite him to join you. I hope it turns out better for you then it did for me. :flowerforyou:

But you have to be happy with you above ALL else.........life is too short to not!

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IPAkiller

OP explain your recent post replies please.....is that acceptable behaviour ? I think not. How would he feel knowing what things you put on here ? and more to the point how you would you feel if you found out your man acted in this way ??

She can't reply anymore today. She's more than likely left work aready (MFP Safe) and is on her way home (not MFP safe). Check back tomorrow morning.

Sourdiesel79

Bit harsh... Sounds like they have some stuff they need to sort out but if he as controlling as made out can you blame her?

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IPAkiller

Bit harsh... Sounds like they have some stuff they need to sort out but if he as controlling as made out can you blame her?

So, if HE is as horrible as SHE makes HIM sound, can we blame HER? Wow... just wow. It must be all HIS fault because SHE says HE is horrible. If he actually is as horribel as she wants everyone to bel;ieve, then why doesn't she just be straight forward and leave instead of playing aroun... I mean getting healthy on MFP without his knowledge?

Sourdiesel79

I'm not saying it's anyone's fault - problems like this rarely are. She has come on here and posted this for a reason.

IPAkiller

I'm not saying it's anyone's fault - problems like this rarely are. She has come on here and posted this for a reason.

but if he as controlling as made out can you blame her?

nuff said

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hurleycutie142

first of all who if ur going to do research on my life make sure u know the facts... that was 14 months ago when i did that post ive been only married for 6 and been with my husband for 6.... thats a year... instead of trying to dig up dirt on me u should worry about losing weight isnt that why we are here... yes i did post something about my marriage and guess what im not the only one who has these issues... i was merely venting and some people have even messaged me and thanked me for posting it because its exactlynwhat there going through... and i did talk to my husband and yes he is insecure that i am going to leave him... he has gained a lot of weight since we have gotten married... ive learned my lesson ill never post on here again... myfitnesspal used to be about helping eachother and encouraging people and its just full of trolls now

IPAkiller

first of all who if ur going to do research on my life make sure u know the facts... that was 14 months ago when i did that post ive been only married for 6 and been with my husband for 6.... thats a year... instead of trying to dig up dirt on me u should worry about losing weight isnt that why we are here... yes i did post something about my marriage and guess what im not the only one who has these issues... i was merely venting and some people have even messaged me and thanked me for posting it because its exactlynwhat there going through... and i did talk to my husband and yes he is insecure that i am going to leave him... he has gained a lot of weight since we have gotten married... ive learned my lesson ill never post on here again... myfitnesspal used to be about helping eachother and encouraging people and its just full of trolls now

Responses that you didn't like were more geared toward defending your husband (You know him, they guy you hung out to dry and was incapable of defending or explaining himself) and not "attacking" you. I'm sorry 100% of the replies weren't all what you wanted to hear, "You're right, he's wrong, you're great and he an insecure controlling bast...". FYI.. helping each other does not mean agreeing or enabling unhealthy behaviors. Feel free to get in line with the Cleanse and Fasting people after you're done with your rage quit.

BinaryPulsar

She said she has been married for 6 and that is a year, so it's obvious she meant to say 12, not sure how that happened.

None of us know this lady enough to have such a strong emotional reaction to her. She said bang. Oh no!

If she is getting a divorce, they obviously have problems. Anyway, I don't know why I am commenting on this.

chloematilds

Only 6 huh ? you said in one of your posts you was married to a wonderful man in march last year. Now I'm no maths genius but....

thats the consequence of posting your private life in public sites. LOL.

Maybe the OP is fishing for "team her" against her "evil husband"?

hurleycutie142

hahaha u guys are funny... if u guys would work out as much as u attack other people and get into other peoples business than u guys would be skinny already... i am not going to feed into this anymore... u guys have a great day.

hurleycutie142

Only 6 huh ? you said in one of your posts you was married to a wonderful man in march last year. Now I'm no maths genius but....

ur not any type of genius... i know what month i got married... and when i got with my husband... bored sweetie? go workout... get off my *kitten*...

chloematilds

Now I see why the husband was suspicious


Very catty when you could have answered it in a more civilized manner.

morehealthymatt

If a husband changes his "grooming" habits (shaving more often, shaving areas never previously shaved, change in hairstyle, wears cologned, etc.) or wants to dress more stylish, what do women thing? they want to know who he's trying to impress. Why the sudden change?

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chloematilds

No need for you to respond to me in a nasty manor, not very mature. Posts aside, I feel for the poor guy. Come on here for advice by all means but he's been ripped to pieces ! I doubt he'd be happy if he saw this post...I know I wouldn't !

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with how she replied to you, it's not hard to imagine the rift between her and her husband

BinaryPulsar

If a husband changes his "grooming" habits (shaving more often, shaving areas never previously shaved, change in hairstyle, wears cologned, etc.) or wants to dress more stylish, what do women thing? they want to know who he's trying to impress. Why the sudden change?

Not necessarily. I've been with my husband for 16 years. It's good not to stay the same forever and to be motivated for positive changes for your own happiness.

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Timshel_

How you do'in sweetness

Fact is, if someone is going to cheat, they will cheat. Being in shape or out of shape has never been the issue. Usually sex isn't even the issue. It is just a symptom of bigger relationship problems.

All the best.