Do you get hit on?
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Come to Texas if you want to get hit on, guys here are a bunch of dogs in heat. I can throw up my left hand and say I am married (engaged, close enough) and on more than one occasion I hear "it's okay, I 'm not jealous". Ha! Well my man is! I seriously don't think it has to do with the way a woman looks rather or not a guy will hit on you, I think its more so your vibe and attitude. I've always been told I am very sweet and I guess that can come off as flirting. If a guy smiles at me, I smile back, doesn't mean I am flirting and doesn't mean he should come and start hitting on me, it means I am a Texan and I smile. :bigsmile:
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okay now that we've all got all our funnies out, i'm a little concerned that OP even thinks about this? is it normal to need male validation this much? enough to bring it up to husband and compare oneself to friends. once already in a secure marriage? just wondering, not trying to be mean.
I agree here. The only guy I'm wanting to notice me is my SO. I couldn't care less about anyone else.0 -
I never get hit on, lol I have a "beeotch" face on and always seem to mean mug or frown naturally, doesn't bug me though; I'm happily married and don't want to be bothered 99% of the time.
I don't ever get hit on either, and I wondered why at one point just like OP. Not because I cared because I too am happily married, just more of a "what's wrong with me" kinda thing. I was told that I have "permanent ***** face", and I am unapprochable! I then realized that this is not the first time someone has said this to me, and I also started thinking of all of the times that my kids ask me "what's wrong mom" and there is nothing wrong. I have since tried to work on it, not because I want to be more approachable, but because WRINKLES!! If I am constantly scowling the wrinkles will be here sooner rather than later and aint nobody got time for that!!0 -
Only once - got married out of it! Trying to figure out how I pulled that off to this day!
Since then I was too married and too fat. Now I'm back to just too married.2 -
I don't think I get hit on. As a married woman working in a place that's 80% men, I'd like to think that men who are nice to me and compliment my appearance are just doing it because they are gentlemen.
In a case where somebody would blatantly ask me out (which has happened only once before), I would be disappointed that they didn't have a greater sense of propriety.
Anyway, I don't see a reason in trying to get hit on by other men since I'm married. To me that's like wearing a slutty shirt and then getting offended when a man looks at your boobs. Wearing the ring means you're off limits.1 -
Come to Texas if you want to get hit on, guys here are a bunch of dogs in heat. I can throw up my left hand and say I am married (engaged, close enough) and on more than one occasion I hear "it's okay, I 'm not jealous". Ha! Well my man is! I seriously don't think it has to do with the way a woman looks rather or not a guy will hit on you, I think its more so your vibe and attitude. I've always been told I am very sweet and I guess that can come off as flirting. If a guy smiles at me, I smile back, doesn't mean I am flirting and doesn't mean he should come and start hitting on me, it means I am a Texan and I smile. :bigsmile:
edit: had to add that big cheesy smiley
"Just because there's a goalie, doesn't mean you can't score" - I'm from Texas too haha1 -
Why don't you hit on guys?
Oh wait, you're married.
I am married and I get hit on. A lot. It is actually really annoying, OP.0 -
Hit on: not in a public place, mainly social media
Complimented: yes
I coach my daughter's 10U team and ever since I got divorced I noticed the umpires talked to me more. I guess cause I'm not wearing a ring anymore. Maybe because I smile and laugh more too. But on social media, yes. And it was a funny type of come on. I was asked my a high school classmate if I had changed my name when I got married. By then we had already been fb friends for a couple years. lol0 -
okay now that we've all got all our funnies out, i'm a little concerned that OP even thinks about this? is it normal to need male validation this much? enough to bring it up to husband and compare oneself to friends. once already in a secure marriage? just wondering, not trying to be mean.
I agree here. The only guy I'm wanting to notice me is my SO. I couldn't care less about anyone else.
Well everyone is different. Some men like to see their women hit on (and some like even more to happen). In my opinion there's nothing wrong with wanting to be noticed and attractive to the opposite sex despite being married. You don't own each other, you've just decided that monogamy has benefits that you prefer. Not everyone feels that way.2 -
Come to Texas if you want to get hit on, guys here are a bunch of dogs in heat. I can throw up my left hand and say I am married (engaged, close enough) and on more than one occasion I hear "it's okay, I 'm not jealous". Ha! Well my man is! I seriously don't think it has to do with the way a woman looks rather or not a guy will hit on you, I think its more so your vibe and attitude. I've always been told I am very sweet and I guess that can come off as flirting. If a guy smiles at me, I smile back, doesn't mean I am flirting and doesn't mean he should come and start hitting on me, it means I am a Texan and I smile. :bigsmile:
edit: had to add that big cheesy smiley
"Just because there's a goalie, doesn't mean you can't score" - I'm from Texas too haha
"I'm a country plowboy, not an urban cowboy...and I dont ride bulls but I have fought some men. Drive a pickup truck, trust in God and luck and I live to love Texas women."
Best looking women on the planet. (apologies to the gorgeous non-Texan women on my FL)0 -
I will admit that yes, I do get hit on (even when married, and even when I was at my highest weight of 300 lb) by guys who actually sorta are "my type" in some way - fairly nerdy guys a little younger than I am who listen to what I'd consider really good music. Kind of lays to rest that idea that women with short hair, overweight, etc, don't get hit on :-D And by "hit on" I mean anything from overly chatty flirtation to actually asking me out on dates. I've noticed this happened MORE before my MFP weight loss, though.
However when I get hit on by guys who are much older and/or just not my type at all (very conservative, cowboy types, etc) it surprises me more and sometimes even freaks me out. That does not happen too often. And it happens with roughly the same frequency whether I'm a size 22 or size 12/14.0 -
Yes.. Gets pretty awkward when the "hitter" is married and trying to get friendly in plain sight of their spouse or they are about my daughter's age.0
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That is one of the funniest GIF's I have seen in a LONG time!!0 -
okay now that we've all got all our funnies out, i'm a little concerned that OP even thinks about this? is it normal to need male validation this much? enough to bring it up to husband and compare oneself to friends. once already in a secure marriage? just wondering, not trying to be mean.
I don't NEED validation. And I never "compared" myself to my friends. I brought it up to my husband the other night because he asked if anyone hit on me that night, as part of a casual conversation. He was at a bachelorette party and was singled out by a stripper - it just came up. We talk about everything together. He tells me about the stripper that sat on his lap and tried to get him into the champagne room and I tell him about the guy that asked if we girls worked at the strip club. It's no big deal to us.
And, sorry, but just because I'm married doesn't mean I'm invisible. It's nice to get hit on, even if I have no interest in hooking up with anyone (which I don't). It doesn't "bother" me that I don't get hit on - it's just something that I recently wondered about after the party I went to. It doesn't make me feel bad about myself - it's just curiosity.0 -
The use of your bait, the cranking motion. The top water action. It has been expertly used.
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If you're on MFP and you haven't been hit on, then you are doing it wrong.
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Everyone should have some Texas in them.
How Y'ALL doin'?0 -
Yes, Savory, Scrumptious and Succulent all count! lolDoes an old man telling me "My, you look mighty Savory today" count?
oh and if he is old then add Saporous too 0 -
I NEVER get hit on...I think I must send out an unapproachable vibe....and I AM single...
+1... glad I'm not the only one...1 -
Yes.. Gets pretty awkward when the "hitter" is married and trying to get friendly in plain sight of their spouse or they are about my daughter's age.
Maybe not awkward, maybe her husband it totally on board
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not yet....hint hint0
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okay now that we've all got all our funnies out, i'm a little concerned that OP even thinks about this? is it normal to need male validation this much? enough to bring it up to husband and compare oneself to friends. once already in a secure marriage? just wondering, not trying to be mean.
I don't NEED validation. And I never "compared" myself to my friends. I brought it up to my husband the other night because he asked if anyone hit on me that night, as part of a casual conversation. He was at a bachelorette party and was singled out by a stripper - it just came up. We talk about everything together. He tells me about the stripper that sat on his lap and tried to get him into the champagne room and I tell him about the guy that asked if we girls worked at the strip club. It's no big deal to us.
And, sorry, but just because I'm married doesn't mean I'm invisible. It's nice to get hit on, even if I have no interest in hooking up with anyone (which I don't). It doesn't "bother" me that I don't get hit on - it's just something that I recently wondered about after the party I went to. It doesn't make me feel bad about myself - it's just curiosity.
I occasionally have gotten concerned that no one hits one me or checks me out. But I usually get over it quickly.0 -
Come to Texas if you want to get hit on, guys here are a bunch of dogs in heat. I can throw up my left hand and say I am married (engaged, close enough) and on more than one occasion I hear "it's okay, I 'm not jealous". Ha! Well my man is! I seriously don't think it has to do with the way a woman looks rather or not a guy will hit on you, I think its more so your vibe and attitude. I've always been told I am very sweet and I guess that can come off as flirting. If a guy smiles at me, I smile back, doesn't mean I am flirting and doesn't mean he should come and start hitting on me, it means I am a Texan and I smile. :bigsmile:
edit: had to add that big cheesy smiley
"Just because there's a goalie, doesn't mean you can't score" - I'm from Texas too haha
"I'm a country plowboy, not an urban cowboy...and I dont ride bulls but I have fought some men. Drive a pickup truck, trust in God and luck and I live to love Texas women."
Best looking women on the planet. (apologies to the gorgeous non-Texan women on my FL)
From Texas too, and I probably do get hit on, but I refuse to take it that way. I'd just rather assume they're just Texans being Texans, i.e. polite and sweet.0 -
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okay now that we've all got all our funnies out, i'm a little concerned that OP even thinks about this? is it normal to need male validation this much? enough to bring it up to husband and compare oneself to friends. once already in a secure marriage? just wondering, not trying to be mean.
I don't NEED validation. And I never "compared" myself to my friends. I brought it up to my husband the other night because he asked if anyone hit on me that night, as part of a casual conversation. He was at a bachelorette party and was singled out by a stripper - it just came up. We talk about everything together. He tells me about the stripper that sat on his lap and tried to get him into the champagne room and I tell him about the guy that asked if we girls worked at the strip club. It's no big deal to us.
And, sorry, but just because I'm married doesn't mean I'm invisible. It's nice to get hit on, even if I have no interest in hooking up with anyone (which I don't). It doesn't "bother" me that I don't get hit on - it's just something that I recently wondered about after the party I went to. It doesn't make me feel bad about myself - it's just curiosity.
Don't listen to them darlin. They have numb vajays. You are gorgeous, I would hit on you in a heartbeat.1 -
Come to Texas if you want to get hit on, guys here are a bunch of dogs in heat. I can throw up my left hand and say I am married (engaged, close enough) and on more than one occasion I hear "it's okay, I 'm not jealous". Ha! Well my man is! I seriously don't think it has to do with the way a woman looks rather or not a guy will hit on you, I think its more so your vibe and attitude. I've always been told I am very sweet and I guess that can come off as flirting. If a guy smiles at me, I smile back, doesn't mean I am flirting and doesn't mean he should come and start hitting on me, it means I am a Texan and I smile. :bigsmile:
edit: had to add that big cheesy smiley
"Just because there's a goalie, doesn't mean you can't score" - I'm from Texas too haha
"I'm a country plowboy, not an urban cowboy...and I dont ride bulls but I have fought some men. Drive a pickup truck, trust in God and luck and I live to love Texas women."
Best looking women on the planet. (apologies to the gorgeous non-Texan women on my FL)
That's just how we roll
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No, my personality usually scares guys away. I'm ok with that, though, because cats.
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I can count the number of times in my entire life on one hand. So dont feel bad.0
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okay now that we've all got all our funnies out, i'm a little concerned that OP even thinks about this? is it normal to need male validation this much? enough to bring it up to husband and compare oneself to friends. once already in a secure marriage? just wondering, not trying to be mean.
I don't NEED validation. And I never "compared" myself to my friends. I brought it up to my husband the other night because he asked if anyone hit on me that night, as part of a casual conversation. He was at a bachelorette party and was singled out by a stripper - it just came up. We talk about everything together. He tells me about the stripper that sat on his lap and tried to get him into the champagne room and I tell him about the guy that asked if we girls worked at the strip club. It's no big deal to us.
And, sorry, but just because I'm married doesn't mean I'm invisible. It's nice to get hit on, even if I have no interest in hooking up with anyone (which I don't). It doesn't "bother" me that I don't get hit on - it's just something that I recently wondered about after the party I went to. It doesn't make me feel bad about myself - it's just curiosity.
If you were a man at a strip club, you'd be hit on too. Strippers flirt to try to make money, not find someone to go home with (well, usually).0 -
okay now that we've all got all our funnies out, i'm a little concerned that OP even thinks about this? is it normal to need male validation this much? enough to bring it up to husband and compare oneself to friends. once already in a secure marriage? just wondering, not trying to be mean.
I don't NEED validation. And I never "compared" myself to my friends. I brought it up to my husband the other night because he asked if anyone hit on me that night, as part of a casual conversation. He was at a bachelorette party and was singled out by a stripper - it just came up. We talk about everything together. He tells me about the stripper that sat on his lap and tried to get him into the champagne room and I tell him about the guy that asked if we girls worked at the strip club. It's no big deal to us.
And, sorry, but just because I'm married doesn't mean I'm invisible. It's nice to get hit on, even if I have no interest in hooking up with anyone (which I don't). It doesn't "bother" me that I don't get hit on - it's just something that I recently wondered about after the party I went to. It doesn't make me feel bad about myself - it's just curiosity.
I think it has way less to do with beauty/hotness -- obviously, in some cases -- and more to do with the overall vibe you put out to the world.
Are you approached a lot by strangers in general? I am constantly. I think it's because I come off like I'm friendly and eager to talk/help people...which I'm actually not always in the mood to do, LOL!
FWIW I have known women who were extremely beautiful and never got asked on a date until they were like 27 years old and it was on the internet!1
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