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  • seltzermint555seltzermint555 Posts: 9,048Member Member Posts: 9,048Member Member
    I will admit that yes, I do get hit on (even when married, and even when I was at my highest weight of 300 lb) by guys who actually sorta are "my type" in some way - fairly nerdy guys a little younger than I am who listen to what I'd consider really good music. Kind of lays to rest that idea that women with short hair, overweight, etc, don't get hit on :-D And by "hit on" I mean anything from overly chatty flirtation to actually asking me out on dates. I've noticed this happened MORE before my MFP weight loss, though.

    However when I get hit on by guys who are much older and/or just not my type at all (very conservative, cowboy types, etc) it surprises me more and sometimes even freaks me out. That does not happen too often. And it happens with roughly the same frequency whether I'm a size 22 or size 12/14.
  • ChieflrgChieflrg Posts: 7,742Member Member Posts: 7,742Member Member
    Yes.. Gets pretty awkward when the "hitter" is married and trying to get friendly in plain sight of their spouse or they are about my daughter's age.
  • ThinkInOregonThinkInOregon Posts: 283Member Posts: 283Member
    MQ02nnY.gif

    That is one of the funniest GIF's I have seen in a LONG time!!
  • _lyndseybrooke__lyndseybrooke_ Posts: 2,570Member Member Posts: 2,570Member Member
    okay now that we've all got all our funnies out, i'm a little concerned that OP even thinks about this? is it normal to need male validation this much? enough to bring it up to husband and compare oneself to friends. once already in a secure marriage? just wondering, not trying to be mean.

    I don't NEED validation. And I never "compared" myself to my friends. I brought it up to my husband the other night because he asked if anyone hit on me that night, as part of a casual conversation. He was at a bachelorette party and was singled out by a stripper - it just came up. We talk about everything together. He tells me about the stripper that sat on his lap and tried to get him into the champagne room and I tell him about the guy that asked if we girls worked at the strip club. It's no big deal to us.

    And, sorry, but just because I'm married doesn't mean I'm invisible. It's nice to get hit on, even if I have no interest in hooking up with anyone (which I don't). It doesn't "bother" me that I don't get hit on - it's just something that I recently wondered about after the party I went to. It doesn't make me feel bad about myself - it's just curiosity.
  • Platform_HeelsPlatform_Heels Posts: 390Member Member Posts: 390Member Member
    The use of your bait, the cranking motion. The top water action. It has been expertly used.

    :laugh:
  • Iceberg_SimpsonIceberg_Simpson Posts: 760Member Member Posts: 760Member Member
    If you're on MFP and you haven't been hit on, then you are doing it wrong.


    :)
  • j_barkj_bark Posts: 1,279Member Member Posts: 1,279Member Member
    Everyone should have some Texas in them.

    How Y'ALL doin'?
  • LC458LC458 Posts: 302Member Member Posts: 302Member Member
    Does an old man telling me "My, you look mighty Savory today" count?
    Yes, Savory, Scrumptious and Succulent all count! lol
    :love: oh and if he is old then add Saporous too
  • Me2FitMeMe2FitMe Posts: 1,306Member Member Posts: 1,306Member Member
    I NEVER get hit on...I think I must send out an unapproachable vibe....and I AM single...


    +1... glad I'm not the only one...
  • MapleFlavouredMaidenMapleFlavouredMaiden Posts: 595Member Member Posts: 595Member Member
    Yes.. Gets pretty awkward when the "hitter" is married and trying to get friendly in plain sight of their spouse or they are about my daughter's age.

    Maybe not awkward, maybe her husband it totally on board :wink:
  • wjstojwjstoj Posts: 886Member Member Posts: 886Member Member
    not yet....hint hint
  • BusyRaeNOTBustyBusyRaeNOTBusty Posts: 7,188Member Member Posts: 7,188Member Member
    okay now that we've all got all our funnies out, i'm a little concerned that OP even thinks about this? is it normal to need male validation this much? enough to bring it up to husband and compare oneself to friends. once already in a secure marriage? just wondering, not trying to be mean.

    I don't NEED validation. And I never "compared" myself to my friends. I brought it up to my husband the other night because he asked if anyone hit on me that night, as part of a casual conversation. He was at a bachelorette party and was singled out by a stripper - it just came up. We talk about everything together. He tells me about the stripper that sat on his lap and tried to get him into the champagne room and I tell him about the guy that asked if we girls worked at the strip club. It's no big deal to us.

    And, sorry, but just because I'm married doesn't mean I'm invisible. It's nice to get hit on, even if I have no interest in hooking up with anyone (which I don't). It doesn't "bother" me that I don't get hit on - it's just something that I recently wondered about after the party I went to. It doesn't make me feel bad about myself - it's just curiosity.

    I occasionally have gotten concerned that no one hits one me or checks me out. But I usually get over it quickly.
  • Holly_Roman_EmpireHolly_Roman_Empire Posts: 4,461Member Member Posts: 4,461Member Member
    Come to Texas if you want to get hit on, guys here are a bunch of dogs in heat. I can throw up my left hand and say I am married (engaged, close enough) and on more than one occasion I hear "it's okay, I 'm not jealous". Ha! Well my man is! I seriously don't think it has to do with the way a woman looks rather or not a guy will hit on you, I think its more so your vibe and attitude. I've always been told I am very sweet and I guess that can come off as flirting. If a guy smiles at me, I smile back, doesn't mean I am flirting and doesn't mean he should come and start hitting on me, it means I am a Texan and I smile. :bigsmile:

    edit: had to add that big cheesy smiley

    "Just because there's a goalie, doesn't mean you can't score" - I'm from Texas too haha

    "I'm a country plowboy, not an urban cowboy...and I dont ride bulls but I have fought some men. Drive a pickup truck, trust in God and luck and I live to love Texas women."

    Best looking women on the planet. (apologies to the gorgeous non-Texan women on my FL)

    From Texas too, and I probably do get hit on, but I refuse to take it that way. I'd just rather assume they're just Texans being Texans, i.e. polite and sweet.
  • MapleFlavouredMaidenMapleFlavouredMaiden Posts: 595Member Member Posts: 595Member Member
    okay now that we've all got all our funnies out, i'm a little concerned that OP even thinks about this? is it normal to need male validation this much? enough to bring it up to husband and compare oneself to friends. once already in a secure marriage? just wondering, not trying to be mean.

    I don't NEED validation. And I never "compared" myself to my friends. I brought it up to my husband the other night because he asked if anyone hit on me that night, as part of a casual conversation. He was at a bachelorette party and was singled out by a stripper - it just came up. We talk about everything together. He tells me about the stripper that sat on his lap and tried to get him into the champagne room and I tell him about the guy that asked if we girls worked at the strip club. It's no big deal to us.

    And, sorry, but just because I'm married doesn't mean I'm invisible. It's nice to get hit on, even if I have no interest in hooking up with anyone (which I don't). It doesn't "bother" me that I don't get hit on - it's just something that I recently wondered about after the party I went to. It doesn't make me feel bad about myself - it's just curiosity.

    Don't listen to them darlin. They have numb vajays. You are gorgeous, I would hit on you in a heartbeat.
  • LC458LC458 Posts: 302Member Member Posts: 302Member Member
    Come to Texas if you want to get hit on, guys here are a bunch of dogs in heat. I can throw up my left hand and say I am married (engaged, close enough) and on more than one occasion I hear "it's okay, I 'm not jealous". Ha! Well my man is! I seriously don't think it has to do with the way a woman looks rather or not a guy will hit on you, I think its more so your vibe and attitude. I've always been told I am very sweet and I guess that can come off as flirting. If a guy smiles at me, I smile back, doesn't mean I am flirting and doesn't mean he should come and start hitting on me, it means I am a Texan and I smile. :bigsmile:

    edit: had to add that big cheesy smiley

    "Just because there's a goalie, doesn't mean you can't score" - I'm from Texas too haha

    "I'm a country plowboy, not an urban cowboy...and I dont ride bulls but I have fought some men. Drive a pickup truck, trust in God and luck and I live to love Texas women."

    Best looking women on the planet. (apologies to the gorgeous non-Texan women on my FL)

    That's just how we roll

    (insert a hilarious gif that won't work for me right now)
  • vmclachvmclach Posts: 670Member Member Posts: 670Member Member
    No, my personality usually scares guys away. I'm ok with that, though, because cats.

    Lol +1
  • wheirdwheird Posts: 8,042Member Member Posts: 8,042Member Member
    I can count the number of times in my entire life on one hand. So dont feel bad.
  • Holly_Roman_EmpireHolly_Roman_Empire Posts: 4,461Member Member Posts: 4,461Member Member
    okay now that we've all got all our funnies out, i'm a little concerned that OP even thinks about this? is it normal to need male validation this much? enough to bring it up to husband and compare oneself to friends. once already in a secure marriage? just wondering, not trying to be mean.

    I don't NEED validation. And I never "compared" myself to my friends. I brought it up to my husband the other night because he asked if anyone hit on me that night, as part of a casual conversation. He was at a bachelorette party and was singled out by a stripper - it just came up. We talk about everything together. He tells me about the stripper that sat on his lap and tried to get him into the champagne room and I tell him about the guy that asked if we girls worked at the strip club. It's no big deal to us.

    And, sorry, but just because I'm married doesn't mean I'm invisible. It's nice to get hit on, even if I have no interest in hooking up with anyone (which I don't). It doesn't "bother" me that I don't get hit on - it's just something that I recently wondered about after the party I went to. It doesn't make me feel bad about myself - it's just curiosity.

    If you were a man at a strip club, you'd be hit on too. Strippers flirt to try to make money, not find someone to go home with (well, usually).
  • seltzermint555seltzermint555 Posts: 9,048Member Member Posts: 9,048Member Member
    okay now that we've all got all our funnies out, i'm a little concerned that OP even thinks about this? is it normal to need male validation this much? enough to bring it up to husband and compare oneself to friends. once already in a secure marriage? just wondering, not trying to be mean.

    I don't NEED validation. And I never "compared" myself to my friends. I brought it up to my husband the other night because he asked if anyone hit on me that night, as part of a casual conversation. He was at a bachelorette party and was singled out by a stripper - it just came up. We talk about everything together. He tells me about the stripper that sat on his lap and tried to get him into the champagne room and I tell him about the guy that asked if we girls worked at the strip club. It's no big deal to us.

    And, sorry, but just because I'm married doesn't mean I'm invisible. It's nice to get hit on, even if I have no interest in hooking up with anyone (which I don't). It doesn't "bother" me that I don't get hit on - it's just something that I recently wondered about after the party I went to. It doesn't make me feel bad about myself - it's just curiosity.

    I think it has way less to do with beauty/hotness -- obviously, in some cases -- and more to do with the overall vibe you put out to the world.

    Are you approached a lot by strangers in general? I am constantly. I think it's because I come off like I'm friendly and eager to talk/help people...which I'm actually not always in the mood to do, LOL!

    FWIW I have known women who were extremely beautiful and never got asked on a date until they were like 27 years old and it was on the internet!
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