"I knew you'd lose weight and leave me."

DeltaZero

Uhm, it sounds like you're advocating divorce, and I don't agree with that.

You also don't know how a man thing works, and I don't agree with that.

Consider it nailed.

ChaplainHeavin

Uhm, it sounds like you're advocating divorce, and I don't agree with that.

I don't agree with how judgmental you are. Seek help.

Isn't that a judgmental statement as well. Not saying I agree with what the person said, just seems ironic that both comments aren't judgmental.

Dragonborn79

I'm so happy for you! It's crazy what we settle for because we feel bad about ourselves and therefore believe we don't deserve better.

You're an inspiration! Life is short and there is way too much magic in this world to spend it drowning in unhappiness with people who don't value us.

rbrooks14760

I married my ex-wife when she was significantly overweight, constantly complimented her and supported her eventual weight loss, and she still changed so much for the worse after the weight came off and the attention came from others that the marriage ended.

Maybe if I hadn't been so complimentary all the time, she wouldn't have gotten used to it and gotten her head swelled by the compliments of others. Who knows. One thing's for sure, with women, you are damned if you do and damned if you don't.

sassyjae21

*Shrug* I get judged regularly for choosing to get divorced. Good thing I don't give a *kitten*, cause I've never made such a good decision in all my life :drinker:

Lol, so much of this. I am so constantly amazed at how much time and energy people spend on giving a hell about how other choose to live their lives.

Srsly :grumble:

CJisinShape

Uhm, it sounds like you're advocating divorce, and I don't agree with that.

I don't agree with how judgmental you are. Seek help.

I'm not judging her at all. Divorce is extremely common because relationships are very difficult.

sassyjae21

I married my ex-wife when she was significantly overweight, constantly complimented her and supported her eventual weight loss, and she still changed so much for the worse after the weight came off and the attention came from others that the marriage ended.

Maybe if I hadn't been so complimentary all the time, she wouldn't have gotten used to it and gotten her head swelled by the compliments of others. Who knows. One thing's for sure, with women, you are damned if you do and damned if you don't.

Yay, a bitter!

randomtai

Ya know what? This is a bad thread to derail.


OP, I am very happy for you that you got rid of a negative influence in your life and have moved on to someone more loving.

This... Good for you OP! :flowerforyou:

sc003ro

well said....I just did the same ....

willnorton

what a dumbass he is and now was!

you are amazing...

itsfatum

Very very wise words. I expected massive neediness when I read the first part of the post, but I was mistaken.

MyChocolateDiet

Those words came from someone who said, "I'm no longer sexually attracted to you since you've gained weight."
Those words came from someone who never told me I was beautiful.
Those words came from someone who never thanked me and took all for granted.
Those words came from someone who NEVER cheered me on during my weightloss journey.
Those words came from my, now ex, husband.

When I was at my lowest weight and begging for his attention, I left him.
I left him then I bloomed into something gorgeous and vibrant.
I've never felt so beautiful, happy, sexy, free....

Now I'm with someone who becomes noticeably speechless when I try on a new dress.
I'm constantly told that I'm beautiful.
I'm constantly wanted.
Now I'm with someone who believes entirely in me.

Get the toxins out. Sometimes it's easier said than done.
This has been my motto for relationships:
If you have the first inkling of doubt, get out.
Doubt, whatever it may be, but trust your instincts...

...and be free like I am

so did he come out of your butt? cause that's where my toxins come out from. and also your post just spoke to me just now. for reasons I won't go into. Out with the old and in with the new and OFF WITH THEIR heads.

I hope your new man is someone who beleives in you and is willing to choose you above others and willing to reflect on your past behavior for informing his judgement of you at any given time instead of getting caught up in the moment and reading more than what is there and misunderstanding you.

I also hope he has a big <cueelephantsound>.

wjstoj

I wonder how much support this would be getting if the genders were reversed?? Just saying

SomeNights246

Uhm, it sounds like you're advocating divorce, and I don't agree with that.

But you DO agree with staying in a relationship where you're verbally abused?

CJisinShape

Uhm, it sounds like you're advocating divorce, and I don't agree with that.

You also don't know how a man thing works, and I don't agree with that.

Consider it nailed.

Meh, witty comeback - 2/10.

jackpotclown

Ya know what? This is a bad thread to derail.


OP, I am very happy for you that you got rid of a negative influence in your life and have moved on to someone more loving.

This... Good for you OP! :flowerforyou:

agreed \m/

SomeNights246

I wonder how much support this would be getting if the genders were reversed?? Just saying

This card is pulled so often it makes me laugh... I can't speak for everyone, but I wouldn't care if the OP were male, female, trans, or agender. I'd STILL support their decision to cut off someone who verbally attacks them.

KazzBeDoinIt

"I knew you'd lose weight and leave me." I honestly HOPE those are the words he said to you! If they are: How sweet life is. Don't you agree? I went through something like this in away. I met a guy & man, did he say all the right things. I thought I fell in love with him. We moved in together. His parents very much being "upstanding people" in the church FORCED us into getting married. As in: They set the date. Bought the rings. The dress. Decorated the place. Even picked out who would give me away and stand up for us. I kept my mouth shut. He was cheating. I had a daughter. Things happened. I was pregnant again. He cheated some more. I was on my 3rd daughter at this point. I couldn't stand him. He would "force" me to scrub the kitchen floor on my hands a knees when his parents were coming to visit even though I was 9 months pregnant. When I was ready to deliver my 4th daughter & I told him I had to be at the hospital at 5 am- He responded with "Don't call me when you have the kid. I will call you when I wake up. I am going to sleep in." SLAP! Bye Bye. After 10 years it took that one sentence & I was done. I met my now husband 17 years ago. Gosh! We all deserve to be happy he is wonderful. My supporter. My love. My life. My heart. My revenge came when my x-husband knocked on my door one day & my second oldest daughter opened it turning around & calling out to my husband "Daddy, someone is here to see you!" Yes- I did say revenge because honestly some moments are just to amazing not to high five yourself. So girl, you high five yourself & let me give you one too! I am so happy for you. Everyone has their own opinion but my saying is: You get what you give! Shake that butt & snap those fingers! Hold that head high & wear that crown that you so deserve! Smile honey, it looks great on you!!!

Jacwhite22

Those words came from someone who said, "I'm no longer sexually attracted to you since you've gained weight."
Those words came from someone who never told me I was beautiful.
Those words came from someone who never thanked me and took all for granted.
Those words came from someone who NEVER cheered me on during my weightloss journey.
Those words came from my, now ex, husband.

Just so we understand, How many times did you tell him he was handsome/gorgeous/etc? How often did you thank him for the things he did for you and around the house? His passion....whatever it might have been...video games, sports, porn......How many times did you cheer for him in his endeavors and support him?