To all the MFP meanies/bullies

usmcmp

Some of you are my friends and I have my moments where I act like one.

-Sometimes people post really dumb questions.
-Most questions have already been asked multiple times.
-Some people post the same question once a week.

There are many times when we give people an answer they don't like. Some people sugar coat it, some people just give the information, some people give a bit of tough love. We all have different communications styles and we all respond to the different styles in different ways. It doesn't make the information any less valid. There's also no one "right" way to deliver information (although sometimes science and references are required).

If you are new here or you ask a question don't try to read emotion into the responses. Just because it isn't the answer you are looking for doesn't make it wrong. Sure, some people can be jerks (it is the internet). Stop taking it personally and for the love of pizza don't turn around and make a mean people thread. Ask for clarification, send a private message, or even abandon the thread and stick to asking your friends.

To all the bullies, meanies and jerks. I know that often we get called these things when someone doesn't like what we have to say or how we deliver the information. Not really our fault. The jumping in to attack people with snark and sarcasm without offering an explanation isn't helpful (and makes you look like an *kitten*). Enough of the mob mentality. It's helpful when trying to stop the misinformation, but not helpful when it's just attacking someone personally.

Let the hate mail and cat gifs commence.

_John_

usmcmp

That's not a gif. Nice try. :flowerforyou:

sixout

Don't tell me what to post.

Go_Mizzou99

This is a gif

_John_

That's not a gif. Nice try. :flowerforyou:

hey, I pulled a reference from the middle of your text and one from the end, so I was hoping you would correctly infer that I actually read what you posted. I think that makes it better than a gif...any idiot can post a gif. See above...

MB_Positif

That's not a gif. Nice try. :flowerforyou:

And, I just tried to click "like" on this post.

Thank you for this post. Well said

bethlaf

Erin_goBrahScience

Some of you are my friends and I have my moments where I act like one.

-Sometimes people post really dumb questions.
-Most questions have already been asked multiple times.
-Some people post the same question once a week.

There are many times when we give people an answer they don't like. Some people sugar coat it, some people just give the information, some people give a bit of tough love. We all have different communications styles and we all respond to the different styles in different ways. It doesn't make the information any less valid. There's also no one "right" way to deliver information (although sometimes science and references are required).

If you are new here or you ask a question don't try to read emotion into the responses. Just because it isn't the answer you are looking for doesn't make it wrong. Sure, some people can be jerks (it is the internet). Stop taking it personally and for the love of pizza don't turn around and make a mean people thread. Ask for clarification, send a private message, or even abandon the thread and stick to asking your friends.

To all the bullies, meanies and jerks. I know that often we get called these things when someone doesn't like what we have to say or how we deliver the information. Not really our fault. The jumping in to attack people with snark and sarcasm without offering an explanation isn't helpful (and makes you look like an *kitten*). Enough of the mob mentality. It's helpful when trying to stop the misinformation, but not helpful when it's just attacking someone personally.

Let the hate mail and cat gifs commence.

edited due to stupid office gif

SapiensPisces

Yes to all of this.

AllOutof_Bubblegum

Hi, usmcmp.

ken_m

great post bro, very informative and i think your unapologetic attitude is wicked cool

usmcmp

Hi, usmcmp.

Dawwwww!

2messy4life

Well if you stumble across a stupid question and you're not willing to give a nice helping answer then don't answer it at all. There are other people who will help the new users. Meanness can make sensitive people leave this site and go on with their bad habits regarding eating/not exercising. So if you're not in to help in a nice way, move on to the spank/kiss threads.

BinaryPulsar

usmcmp

Well if you stumble across a stupid question and you're not willing to give a nice helping answer then don't answer it at all. There are other people who will help the new users. Meanness can make sensitive people leave this site and go on with their bad habits regarding eating/not exercising. So if you're not in to help in a nice way, move on to the spank/kiss threads.

There are some people who just give tough love. Absolutely nothing wrong with that. Being nice isn't a requirement for being helpful and being nice isn't always helpful. Sometimes giving an answer that doesn't seem nice is more helpful than just being nice.

_Pseudonymous_

thank you OP!

tquill

Sure, some people can be jerks (it is the internet).

Hold the phones... there are mean people on the interwebs?

usmcmp

Sure, some people can be jerks (it is the internet).

Hold the phones... there are mean people on the interwebs?

Sometimes. Others it's random code generated by computers to troll us.

_Pseudonymous_

MB_Positif

Well if you stumble across a stupid question and you're not willing to give a nice helping answer then don't answer it at all. There are other people who will help the new users. Meanness can make sensitive people leave this site and go on with their bad habits regarding eating/not exercising. So if you're not in to help in a nice way, move on to the spank/kiss threads.

There are some people who just give tough love. Absolutely nothing wrong with that. Being nice isn't a requirement for being helpful and being nice isn't always helpful. Sometimes giving an answer that doesn't seem nice is more helpful than just being nice.

Honestly, being nice isn't always helpful is a brilliant statement. I had plenty of people coddling me when I first joined this site over 3 years ago. I needed it, just like many people, but I didn't start taking things seriously until one of my friends on here told me flat out she didn't think I was ready and that I was basically full of excuses. It was a hard slap in the face, but that day changed the trajectory of everything I was doing at that point. That wasn't necessarily a nice thing to say but it was just the push I needed. So freaking thankful she said it because I can now proudly say that I lost 50 pounds and have maintained that loss for over two years. Just working on body recomp now.

skullshank

guilty of this sometimes, so thanks for the reminder.

seltzermint555

Yes to all of this.

yep

Go_Mizzou99

diannethegeek

Well if you stumble across a stupid question and you're not willing to give a nice helping answer then don't answer it at all. There are other people who will help the new users. Meanness can make sensitive people leave this site and go on with their bad habits regarding eating/not exercising. So if you're not in to help in a nice way, move on to the spank/kiss threads.

That's not necessarily true. A lot of threads go unanswered or are answered by people who don't know what they're talking about. Without those meanies giving out factual information in a non-sugar-coaty way there would be far more misinformation around here.

_Pseudonymous_

How I see me and my friends when entering a thread about weightloss pills/1200 calories/nothing works

AglaeaC

:flowerforyou: Well said.

Someone sent me a PM a while ago, because they weren't sure how to interpret something I had said. We sorted it out, I had perhaps been unclear and they had perhaps misunderstood something, but all in all it was such a nice way of handling a potential conflict. Both parties were calm and straight forward about the matter, it was solved within minutes and I can't even remember said person's name anymore, only that they behaved like a good person. It took guts to send that PM and I respect that very much. None of that chewing on stuff forever, walking around blaming the general you or any other silliness.

usmcmp

How I see me and my friends when entering a thread about weightloss pills/1200 calories/nothing works

Love it!

fit_war

besaro

oh god, again?

MyChocolateDiet

Some of you are my friends and I have my moments where I act like one.

-Sometimes people post really dumb questions.
-Most questions have already been asked multiple times.
-Some people post the same question once a week.

There are many times when we give people an answer they don't like. Some people sugar coat it, some people just give the information, some people give a bit of tough love. We all have different communications styles and we all respond to the different styles in different ways. It doesn't make the information any less valid. There's also no one "right" way to deliver information (although sometimes science and references are required).

If you are new here or you ask a question don't try to read emotion into the responses. Just because it isn't the answer you are looking for doesn't make it wrong. Sure, some people can be jerks (it is the internet). Stop taking it personally and for the love of pizza don't turn around and make a mean people thread. Ask for clarification, send a private message, or even abandon the thread and stick to asking your friends.

To all the bullies, meanies and jerks. I know that often we get called these things when someone doesn't like what we have to say or how we deliver the information. Not really our fault. The jumping in to attack people with snark and sarcasm without offering an explanation isn't helpful (and makes you look like an *kitten*). Enough of the mob mentality. It's helpful when trying to stop the misinformation, but not helpful when it's just attacking someone personally.

Let the hate mail and cat gifs commence.

Yeah, you pretty much hit all the nails on all the heads. Very thorough post.