To all the MFP meanies/bullies
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As someone who is new to MFP I find what I have seen on the message boards the last couple days to be VERY discouraging. #justsaying
I thought the forums were really mean for about two to three weeks when I first joined. I don't any more. You will find many on here who will say the same thing. I think in some ways adjusting to the forums is just a form of culture shock, which is why MANY people recommend lurking reading and searching for a while before you start participating.
Monkey see, monkey do.0 -
In for gifs
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As someone who is new to MFP I find what I have seen on the message boards the last couple days to be VERY discouraging. #justsaying
You may not like what you see but don't let the people you don't like discourage you from using an actual real and helpful tool in success. You can choose to allow the forums to help you or you can choose to allow them to hinder you. The fact is that the choice is yours. Just like your food choices is yours, your exercise choices are yours.
We can try and help you but the only one who can help you is you.
Good luck with your fitness aspirations. I wish you well! :flowerforyou:
I was pretty disgusted with the groups on Facebook and was directed towards here. I had used the site before but not as support. I was told coming here i would find a lot of like minded people. But so far no luck.
Thanks for the tips
*Moves back into the shadows to lurk*
Here's a thread that I think is a great example of how these things go down. Don't worry, it's short. But I think it's important to note a few things.
1. It is a post from a new person asking a question that we have all seen and responded to ad infinitum.
2. You will see several familiar posters
3. Yes their is a bit of piling on and certainly snark and sarcasm but not anything *I* would call mean.
4. Notice how everyone responds when the OP actually listens to the advice given.
5. No seriously, notice how we behave when people listen to our advice, we're like puppies who've just been given a treat.
Enjoy: http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1302248-getting-out-of-vacation-mode-detox-or-not
Okay so this is what I've learned today:
1. Read and research before asking a question
2. Don't Be a D*ck
3. Don't ask a question unless you are willing to accept any and all responses.
Pretty much sums it up?
Okay I get it....really..... you open up your browser and click on MFP hop on to see whats new in the community and there it is some dumb *kitten* posting a question you have seen a million and one times. Or someone posting a "stupid" question. Yes, I've seen some responses that are VERY cut and dry, which I can respect, but I have been lurking and do see a lot of people who just respond to be a d*ck. I just don't get it. If you don't like why bother responding in the first place? Just move on to another topic that you DO want to respond to.0 -
As someone who is new to MFP I find what I have seen on the message boards the last couple days to be VERY discouraging. #justsaying
I thought the forums were really mean for about two to three weeks when I first joined. I don't any more. You will find many on here who will say the same thing. I think in some ways adjusting to the forums is just a form of culture shock, which is why MANY people recommend lurking reading and searching for a while before you start participating.
Monkey see, monkey do.
That's called experiential learning, it's an indicator of advanced social intelligence and one of the indicators we look for in establishing possible sentience.0 -
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Sigh. Isn't it tiresome to be so negative?*shrugs* if this is someone's first exposure to the internet, I think we owe them a fair representation of the place.
As what, a bunch of people who come off as *kitten*? Why would anyone want to represent themselves like that?0 -
As someone who is new to MFP I find what I have seen on the message boards the last couple days to be VERY discouraging. #justsaying
You may not like what you see but don't let the people you don't like discourage you from using an actual real and helpful tool in success. You can choose to allow the forums to help you or you can choose to allow them to hinder you. The fact is that the choice is yours. Just like your food choices is yours, your exercise choices are yours.
We can try and help you but the only one who can help you is you.
Good luck with your fitness aspirations. I wish you well! :flowerforyou:
I was pretty disgusted with the groups on Facebook and was directed towards here. I had used the site before but not as support. I was told coming here i would find a lot of like minded people. But so far no luck.
Thanks for the tips
*Moves back into the shadows to lurk*
Here's a thread that I think is a great example of how these things go down. Don't worry, it's short. But I think it's important to note a few things.
1. It is a post from a new person asking a question that we have all seen and responded to ad infinitum.
2. You will see several familiar posters
3. Yes their is a bit of piling on and certainly snark and sarcasm but not anything *I* would call mean.
4. Notice how everyone responds when the OP actually listens to the advice given.
5. No seriously, notice how we behave when people listen to our advice, we're like puppies who've just been given a treat.
Enjoy: http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1302248-getting-out-of-vacation-mode-detox-or-not
Okay so this is what I've learned today:
1. Read and research before asking a question
2. Don't Be a D*ck
3. Don't ask a question unless you are willing to accept any and all responses.
Pretty much sums it up?
Okay I get it....really..... you open up your browser and click on MFP hop on to see whats new in the community and there it is some dumb *kitten* posting a question you have seen a million and one times. Or someone posting a "stupid" question. Yes, I've seen some responses that are VERY cut and dry, which I can respect, but I have been lurking and do see a lot of people who just respond to be a d*ck. I just don't get it. If you don't like why bother responding in the first place? Just move on to another topic that you DO want to respond to.
You will quickly learn that a lot of people here comment just to be an *kitten*. Don't take it to heart. I just feel sorry for them that they have a personality like that!0 -
Okay so this is what I've learned today:
1. Read and research before asking a question
2. Don't Be a D*ck
3. Don't ask a question unless you are willing to accept any and all responses.
Pretty much sums it up?
Okay I get it....really..... you open up your browser and click on MFP hop on to see whats new in the community and there it is some dumb *kitten* posting a question you have seen a million and one times. Or someone posting a "stupid" question. Yes, I've seen some responses that are VERY cut and dry, which I can respect, but I have been lurking and do see a lot of people who just respond to be a d*ck. I just don't get it. If you don't like why bother responding in the first place? Just move on to another topic that you DO want to respond to.
That's the internet. No idea why it happens and I'm pretty sure it will never stop. Ignore them.0 -
I was pretty disgusted with the groups on Facebook and was directed towards here. I had used the site before but not as support. I was told coming here i would find a lot of like minded people. But so far no luck.
Thanks for the tips
*Moves back into the shadows to lurk*
What sort of minds are you looking for?0 -
THIS :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
And here is my little wrant about the topic, do with it what you will, IDGAF
So,, i dont think people who are married AND continuously say they are married should be posting in the hot or not, rate the person, spank, date marry,, etc forums and telling people they are not hot, then saying things to others they are not ugly but pretty but not hot,, etc. What an *kitten*. If your wife thinks you are hot, why are you commenting in these forums. If all you are going to say in the other forums is "not my wife so no" then GTFO,,, just my opinion
He hasnt said anything about me but have read his posts about some others and is pretty much a jerk.. #justsayin
This is a reason i can see someone getting butthurt,,,,,,
Now that my wrant is done,, in for more cat gifs
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As someone who is new to MFP I find what I have seen on the message boards the last couple days to be VERY discouraging. #justsaying
It has been particularly wild on here for the past week or so. There are times when things are a bit more toned down.
Wow, very good observation from wherever your perspective is from. I will agree with you on that assessment. Wholeheartedly. Now would you like to join my FL? You seem to have your eyes quite open.0 -
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Well if you stumble across a stupid question and you're not willing to give a nice helping answer then don't answer it at all. There are other people who will help the new users. Meanness can make sensitive people leave this site and go on with their bad habits regarding eating/not exercising. So if you're not in to help in a nice way, move on to the spank/kiss threads.
It doesn't matter how we answer a question. Often if the answer isn't what the person asking wants to hear, or someone else disagrees, some of us are perceived to be "mean". Being blunt and honest is the best policy; soft and sweet doesn't get anyone anywhere in the real world. The "everyone gets a medal" world needs to go away and we need to bring back the harsh reality of facing the ups and downs of the real world.0 -
And here is my little wrant about the topic, do with it what you will, IDGAF
So,, i dont think people who are married AND continuously say they are married should be posting in the hot or not, rate the person, spank, date marry,, etc forums and telling people they are not hot, then saying things to others they are not ugly but pretty but not hot,, etc. What an *kitten*. If your wife thinks you are hot, why are you commenting in these forums. If all you are going to say in the other forums is "not my wife so no" then GTFO,,, just my opinion
He hasnt said anything about me but have read his posts about some others and is pretty much a jerk.. #justsayin
This is a reason i can see someone getting butthurt,,,,,,
Now that my wrant is done,, in for more cat gifs
:drinker:
Wait, what? I'm so confused right now..0 -
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I don't think it's anyone's business what kind of agreement there exists between two people, unless you happen to be one of those two people. Some are in open relationships, others have even more intricate constellations going on. Judging from the outside and calling other people nasty names just isn't a very good idea. My two cents.And here is my little wrant about the topic, do with it what you will, IDGAF
So,, i dont think people who are married AND continuously say they are married should be posting in the hot or not, rate the person, spank, date marry,, etc forums and telling people they are not hot, then saying things to others they are not ugly but pretty but not hot,, etc. What an *kitten*. If your wife thinks you are hot, why are you commenting in these forums. If all you are going to say in the other forums is "not my wife so no" then GTFO,,, just my opinion
He hasnt said anything about me but have read his posts about some others and is pretty much a jerk.. #justsayin
This is a reason i can see someone getting butthurt,,,,,,0 -
I really think MFP has given me a cat gif addiction.0
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THIS :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
And here is my little wrant about the topic, do with it what you will, IDGAF
So,, i dont think people who are married AND continuously say they are married should be posting in the hot or not, rate the person, spank, date marry,, etc forums and telling people they are not hot, then saying things to others they are not ugly but pretty but not hot,, etc. What an *kitten*. If your wife thinks you are hot, why are you commenting in these forums. If all you are going to say in the other forums is "not my wife so no" then GTFO,,, just my opinion
He hasnt said anything about me but have read his posts about some others and is pretty much a jerk.. #justsayin
This is a reason i can see someone getting butthurt,,,,,,
Now that my wrant is done,, in for more cat gifs
:drinker:
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And here is my little wrant about the topic, do with it what you will, IDGAF
So,, i dont think people who are married AND continuously say they are married should be posting in the hot or not, rate the person, spank, date marry,, etc forums and telling people they are not hot, then saying things to others they are not ugly but pretty but not hot,, etc. What an *kitten*. If your wife thinks you are hot, why are you commenting in these forums. If all you are going to say in the other forums is "not my wife so no" then GTFO,,, just my opinion
He hasnt said anything about me but have read his posts about some others and is pretty much a jerk.. #justsayin
This is a reason i can see someone getting butthurt,,,,,,
Now that my wrant is done,, in for more cat gifs
:drinker:
What do you want me to do about it? Live and let live I say.0 -
omg bahahahhahahahaaha :laugh: :laugh: :drinker:0 -
As someone who is new to MFP I find what I have seen on the message boards the last couple days to be VERY discouraging. #justsaying
You may not like what you see but don't let the people you don't like discourage you from using an actual real and helpful tool in success. You can choose to allow the forums to help you or you can choose to allow them to hinder you. The fact is that the choice is yours. Just like your food choices is yours, your exercise choices are yours.
We can try and help you but the only one who can help you is you.
Good luck with your fitness aspirations. I wish you well! :flowerforyou:
I was pretty disgusted with the groups on Facebook and was directed towards here. I had used the site before but not as support. I was told coming here i would find a lot of like minded people. But so far no luck.
Thanks for the tips
*Moves back into the shadows to lurk*
this happened to me. I was lambasted and will never post another question again. I'm only here to reply to you. I have a good core of friends, and love the cal/macro feature. Feel free to add me if you wish! Welcome, new friend! 0 -
Some of you are my friends and I have my moments where I act like one.
-Sometimes people post really dumb questions.
-Most questions have already been asked multiple times.
-Some people post the same question once a week.
There are many times when we give people an answer they don't like. Some people sugar coat it, some people just give the information, some people give a bit of tough love. We all have different communications styles and we all respond to the different styles in different ways. It doesn't make the information any less valid. There's also no one "right" way to deliver information (although sometimes science and references are required).
If you are new here or you ask a question don't try to read emotion into the responses. Just because it isn't the answer you are looking for doesn't make it wrong. Sure, some people can be jerks (it is the internet). Stop taking it personally and for the love of pizza don't turn around and make a mean people thread. Ask for clarification, send a private message, or even abandon the thread and stick to asking your friends.
To all the bullies, meanies and jerks. I know that often we get called these things when someone doesn't like what we have to say or how we deliver the information. Not really our fault. The jumping in to attack people with snark and sarcasm without offering an explanation isn't helpful (and makes you look like an *kitten*). Enough of the mob mentality. It's helpful when trying to stop the misinformation, but not helpful when it's just attacking someone personally.
Let the hate mail and cat gifs commence.
Sorry, my kitty video won't upload... :huh:0 -
As someone who is new to MFP I find what I have seen on the message boards the last couple days to be VERY discouraging. #justsaying
I'd like to say it will change, but it won't. There is lots of helpful information and helpful people. It's a good idea to build a solid list of friends and stick to asking them questions then lurk in the forums.
But how do you find said people? (Sorry if thats one of those stupid questions)
I started out in the Success Stories section and my FL grew from there. Maybe you can search through there and find someone that has achieved similar goals to the ones you've set for yourself. Good luck, and hang in there.0 -
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I love this one! Looks like a cat I used to have.0 -
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I really think MFP has given me a cat gif addiction.
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And here is my little wrant about the topic, do with it what you will, IDGAF
So,, i dont think people who are married AND continuously say they are married should be posting in the hot or not, rate the person, spank, date marry,, etc forums and telling people they are not hot, then saying things to others they are not ugly but pretty but not hot,, etc. What an *kitten*. If your wife thinks you are hot, why are you commenting in these forums. If all you are going to say in the other forums is "not my wife so no" then GTFO,,, just my opinion
He hasnt said anything about me but have read his posts about some others and is pretty much a jerk.. #justsayin
This is a reason i can see someone getting butthurt,,,,,,
Now that my wrant is done,, in for more cat gifs
:drinker:
What do you want me to do about it? Live and let live I say.
LMAO,, wasnt directed to you,, I see what you did there ^^^ lol0
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