Gentlemen, its perfectly ok to comment on my weight loss!
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geez, bunch of kill joys
USUALLY, if someone is working out and working hard, they don't have any problems with people commenting on weight loss. This is how all the women in my life feel and every woman I have ever met feel as well.
So what, your anecdotal evidence is supposed to set the standard for all women, and the women expressing differing opinions in this thread must be the anomalies? Could not be, perhaps, an association bias, in which you spend time with people who are similar to yourself and therefore react similarly?
The internet is full of so many people from so many backgrounds, you're going to be repeatedly disappointed if you look for everyone to be similar to yourself. Embrace the differences, they're what make people interesting.0 -
geez, bunch of kill joys
USUALLY, if someone is working out and working hard, they don't have any problems with people commenting on weight loss. This is how all the women in my life feel and every woman I have ever met feel as well.
So what, your anecdotal evidence is supposed to set the standard for all women, and the women expressing differing opinions in this thread must be the anomalies? Could not be, perhaps, an association bias, in which you spend time with people who are similar to yourself and therefore react similarly?
The internet is full of so many people from so many backgrounds, you're going to be repeatedly disappointed if you look for everyone to be similar to yourself. Embrace the differences, they're what make people interesting.
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One time someone I didn't recall knowing came up to me and was gushing about how much weight I had lost. I kept trying to tell him he must be confusing me with someone else and that I had definitely not lost any weight (I had been the same weight since I was 16). It was weird.0
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Male coworker of mine said to me the other day "wow, you really are losing weight!, I dont know if thats appropriate or not to say, but I can tell you are losing weight"
Men, trust me, no woman will ever be offended for commenting on a weight loss:)
please feel free to comment away!!!0 -
One time someone I didn't recall knowing came up to me and was gushing about how much weight I had lost. I kept trying to tell him he must be confusing me with someone else and that I had definitely not lost any weight (I had been the same weight since I was 16). It was weird.
Nonono....Every woman in the world is happy to hear that she's losing weight, all the time, no exceptions!.0 -
Congratz on your loss.
I, personally, don't like it. I had a guy at work approach me and actually ask what was wrong with me. Like, acting like I was sick. I told him I just lost weight and he asked me why. I would take no one noticing over a single comment like that. I did this for me and I can see positive comments as a good feeling but I get annoying comments 9/10.0 -
Congratz on your loss.
I, personally, don't like it. I had a guy at work approach me and actually ask what was wrong with me. Like, acting like I was sick. I told him I just lost weight and he asked me why. I would take no one noticing over a single comment like that. I did this for me and I can see positive comments as a good feeling but I get annoying comments 9/10.
Someone said to me, "I noticed that you lost weight, which I thought was weird because i never thought you needed to, but I didn't want to say anything in case you were sick."0 -
I can see both sides. I have a large staff at work and it does get annoying to hear about it like every day. I appreciate the compliments, but still it gets a little out of hand sometimes.
But on the other side, the guys that I'm dating totally refuse to comment on it, probably because they don't want to imply that I was fat before. So basically, the people I want to hear it from don't say anything, and the people who's opinions I couldn't care less about won't shut up about it. lol0 -
Male coworker of mine said to me the other day "wow, you really are losing weight!, I dont know if thats appropriate or not to say, but I can tell you are losing weight"
Men, trust me, no woman will ever be offended for commenting on a weight loss:)
please feel free to comment away!!!
Agreed. As a manager I'm not allowed to comment about anything to do with a persons appearance unless it is safety related. There are a couple of women in my department who are dieting and exercising and doing really well. I would really like to congratulate them and tell them how good they are doing but sadly I can't.0 -
Male coworker of mine said to me the other day "wow, you really are losing weight!, I dont know if thats appropriate or not to say, but I can tell you are losing weight"
Men, trust me, no woman will ever be offended for commenting on a weight loss:)
please feel free to comment away!!!
Agreed. As a manager I'm not allowed to comment about anything to do with a persons appearance unless it is safety related. There are a couple of women in my department who are dieting and exercising and doing really well. I would really like to congratulate them and tell them how good they are doing but sadly I can't.
Yes, how sad that there are policies in place to protect an individual's right to privacy regarding their own body.0 -
oh, boo!
I'm still waiting for someone to notice MY weight loss. :grumble:0 -
What's wrong with society? I understand the whole concept of privacy and feeling safe and comfortable in the workplace, but It's getting to where I can't wish someone a pleasant sunny afternoon without worrying that the person may get offended because they have a sensitivity to the sun.0
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geez, bunch of kill joys
USUALLY, if someone is working out and working hard, they don't have any problems with people commenting on weight loss. This is how all the women in my life feel and every woman I have ever met feel as well.
every woman you have ever met...k0 -
oh, boo!
I'm still waiting for someone to notice MY weight loss. :grumble:
I'm too busy looking at your hotness to notice any weight loss! ;-)0 -
I wish more people would learn to simply smile and say "thank you" when given a compliment. Of course, I also wish more people would think twice before opening their mouths. Tact is an art.0
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oh, boo!
I'm still waiting for someone to notice MY weight loss. :grumble:
I'm too busy looking at your hotness to notice any weight loss! ;-)
Why, thank you.
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When I lost weight previously (through Weight Watchers and a running regimen 3 days a week) an older man at my church asked me if I was eating at all, and that I looked very skinny. It was meant to be complimentary, but regardless it really really bothered me and made me very uncomfortable. If anyone ever mentions any weight loss, I just tell them that I've gotten taller. (Since I'm a teen I can still get away with that excuse, though I actually have gotten significantly taller anyway).
If he was truly concerned about me not eating, he should have approached my parents, not me. If I had had an eating disorder of any kind, saying something like that could have worsened the situation immensely. It was just an insensitive thing to say in any situation, regardless of good intentions.
Anyway, because I have had a weight issue from such a young age, it makes me very uncomfortable when people acknowledge that I've lost weight because it reminds me of my problem in the first place and how overweight I became/have become. I don't like it at all, and it doesn't boost my confidence. What DOES boost my confidence is someone saying they're proud of me for running or making better food choices, not how my body has become as a result. Of course, that's an individual matter, and if anyone has learned something from this thread, it should be that all women do NOT respond the same way to comments on weight loss or healthier habits in general.
My advice: keep your lips zipped.0 -
I posted this on my wall, but I'll put it here too: The thing is, what one person considers a compliment, could really hurt someone's feelings. If someone isn't trying to lose weight, and is self conscious about how they look, then someone innocently congratulating them on losing weight because the light hits them differently that day, could end up doing more harm than good. It's not that you can't compliment someone on something if they bring it to your attention, or are in a conversation about a related topic, but unsolicited compliments rank up there with unsolicited advice.
I'm not one of those people, but they exist, and I'm not going to step on their toes and make them feel bad, just so I can pat myself on the back for spraying my unwanted opinions on the world.0 -
I wish more people would learn to simply smile and say "thank you" when given a compliment. Of course, I also wish more people would think twice before opening their mouths. Tact is an art.
I smile and say thank you. But if I haven't told you I'm trying to lose weight, I'd much rather that people not say anything. It just feels private. I know it's not the same, but the closest example I can get to why is when someone conceives a child and people ask if they were trying. Um, if it's your business, you'd know.0 -
Male coworker of mine said to me the other day "wow, you really are losing weight!, I dont know if thats appropriate or not to say, but I can tell you are losing weight"
Men, trust me, no woman will ever be offended for commenting on a weight loss:)
please feel free to comment away!!!
Agreed. As a manager I'm not allowed to comment about anything to do with a persons appearance unless it is safety related. There are a couple of women in my department who are dieting and exercising and doing really well. I would really like to congratulate them and tell them how good they are doing but sadly I can't.
Yes, how sad that there are policies in place to protect an individual's right to privacy regarding their own body.
Interesting comment from a man who states "Sly grins from strange women" is one of his inspirations.0
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