Eating out is ruined for me now..
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I hate it when that gets ruined.0
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It's just one meal, every now and then - why stress over it? Life's too short.
Because it's not. It's one day after a day I already went over, and it's going to be a whole week in 2 weeks.
I eat out every other week or something, so it's not really new to me, but it's always a frustrating experience when we stick to local places. And I know, I don't have to eat the fries, but I don't want to be starving one hour later either, and just one steak is not going to cut it... Same for the people who say that they only eat half... I don't want to be starving two hours later, as I never know how big the meal is going to be when I order it. It's fairly easy to pack 1000 calories in a small plate, lol.
Ok, you've gotten some really good advice here but quite honestly, you're starting to sound a bit whiny.
It's really not that big a deal. You're making it one though.
You're afraid of condiments on your sandwiches? Then order it on the side and put it on yourself. A smear of mayo on your turkey sandwich isn't going to kill your calorie count.
One steak is not going to cut it? Really? You need more than one steak for a meal to be satisfied? When you cook steak at home, do you make two for yourself? Eat veggies with the steak.
And you think that by eating half of an entree is going to cause you to be starving 2 hours later, but yet you acknowledge restaurant portions are huge. Do you not see the contradiction here?0 -
It's just one meal, every now and then - why stress over it? Life's too short.
Because it's not. It's one day after a day I already went over, and it's going to be a whole week in 2 weeks.
I eat out every other week or something, so it's not really new to me, but it's always a frustrating experience when we stick to local places. And I know, I don't have to eat the fries, but I don't want to be starving one hour later either, and just one steak is not going to cut it... Same for the people who say that they only eat half... I don't want to be starving two hours later, as I never know how big the meal is going to be when I order it. It's fairly easy to pack 1000 calories in a small plate, lol.
Who cares!? Just go enjoy your night! over eating for 2 days in a row won't make you gain weight, if you do it for a week straight, yeah you might gain a whole pound!! You've lost 80, you should know how to lose it the week after...0 -
I'm sorry you are having a difficult time with this, but it isn't the end of the world.
Ask for condiments/dressings on the side, any restaurant will sub salad/vegetables for fries/potatoes/rice just ask, only eat half the meal and drink lots of water.
Realistically I know I won't be able to avoid eating out for the rest of my life, so I do the best I can and estimate if there's not exact calories available. If I'm worried about being over, I just up the exercise the next day. You've lost a lot of weight so far, a few meals out aren't going to make you gain it all back. Just take a deep breathe and keep on going.0 -
You have gotten a lot of good advice, which you seem to be ignoring.
Folks have suggested ordering fish, beef or chicken "dry" (no sauce/ butter) and you say you don't like plain foods.
Folks have suggested eating half the meal and/or avoiding fried foods and you complain that you don't want to be hungry an hour later.
Folks have suggested that you don't stress and just enjoy eating out as the special treat it is and you say you eat out a few times a week and couldn't possibly relax. (You may be right there.....)
Life is about making choices and accepting what IS. If you want to eat those fries so you aren't hungry later and continue to eat out 2 times per week and don't want to eat "plain" foods, then I guess you are probably going to gain weight.....or at least not lose any more.
The other option is to make different choices. Start cooking at home more often. Or start asking for simply prepared foods when you eat out (sauce on the side, prepared dry, no fried stuff, etc.), and eat less when you are in a restaurant.
Honestly, it seems to me you are happier complaining about your plight than actually considering ways around your problem.0 -
Honestly, it seems to me you are happier complaining about your plight than actually considering ways around your problem.
BINGO! :laugh:0 -
I thought the whole point of eating out was to not have to cook at home for that meal (meaning getting a break) and enjoying the company of the person / people you are with.
My husband and I enjoy going to sit down, have someone else wait on us, bring our food and clear our dishes. It gives us the chance to sit and enjoy each other for a while outside of our home setting.
Who cares if I could have cooked that steak or shrimp, salad, or grilled vegetables at home. I am enjoying some one-on-one time with my man.
We don't eat out often and we opt for grilled meat / seafood, salad and vegetables. We skip dessert, unless it our anniversary in which we share one dessert and find after a couple of bites that we are satisfied.
Get out and enjoy life. No one is promised tomorrow and you should make the most of the time spent with your loved ones.0 -
Easy solution.. let your family go on vacation and enjoy themselves while you stay home so you don't have to worry0
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I stopped reading at Applebees
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Easy solution.. let your family go on vacation and enjoy themselves while you stay home so you don't have to worry
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Honestly, it seems to me you are happier complaining about your plight than actually considering ways around your problem.
BINGO! :laugh:
I agree. How you have not dealt with this in losing 80 pounds is beyond me. I truly hope that you have developed the skills to be in maintenance. You have to be able to live your life. I'm pretty sure if this is how you have it set up - you will never be happy.
Learn moderation. Learn how to adjust for life and then be happy.0 -
Easy! Order what ever you fancy, but ask for a kids portion :-)0
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If I go out I try to get chicken, steamed veggies with salad (No Salad dressing, just squeeze lemon on but Balsalmic isn't too bad either). If your entree comes with a potato or rice just ask for extra steamed veggies. I pass on the rice, bread, potatoes, and appetizers. Just because you are going out to dinner doesn't mean you have to stuff yourself, just make good choices and you will be okay......just remember "FRENCH FRIES ARE THE DEVIL !!!"0
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grow the F up one night wnt kill you0
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If I go out I try to get chicken, steamed veggies with salad (No Salad dressing, just squeeze lemon on but Balsalmic isn't too bad either). If your entree comes with a potato or rice just ask for extra steamed veggies. I pass on the rice, bread, potatoes, and appetizers. Just because you are going out to dinner doesn't mean you have to stuff yourself, just make good choices and you will be okay......just remember "FRENCH FRIES ARE THE DEVIL !!!"
What is wrong with rice, bread, potatoes and damn french fries are delicious especially if covered in cheese and gravy0 -
I've started this journey on Monday of this week - because I put on 4Kgs.
I've lost .08Kg's according to the bathroom scales this morning (yay!)
I'm going out for a curry and beers with my better half tonight to celebrate getting a promotion so it's all going to go back on
I believe that if you don't enjoy the night then it's a waste - so screw the diet / regime for tonight. Enjoy yourself and do damage control later
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If I go out I try to get chicken, steamed veggies with salad (No Salad dressing, just squeeze lemon on but Balsalmic isn't too bad either). If your entree comes with a potato or rice just ask for extra steamed veggies. I pass on the rice, bread, potatoes, and appetizers. Just because you are going out to dinner doesn't mean you have to stuff yourself, just make good choices and you will be okay......just remember "FRENCH FRIES ARE THE DEVIL !!!"
If French fries are the devil, then I worship at the altar of satan almost every time I go out to eat.
Still lost 39lbs.0 -
It's just one meal, every now and then - why stress over it? Life's too short.
Because it's not. It's one day after a day I already went over, and it's going to be a whole week in 2 weeks.
I eat out every other week or something, so it's not really new to me, but it's always a frustrating experience when we stick to local places. And I know, I don't have to eat the fries, but I don't want to be starving one hour later either, and just one steak is not going to cut it... Same for the people who say that they only eat half... I don't want to be starving two hours later, as I never know how big the meal is going to be when I order it. It's fairly easy to pack 1000 calories in a small plate, lol.
Who cares!? Just go enjoy your night! over eating for 2 days in a row won't make you gain weight, if you do it for a week straight, yeah you might gain a whole pound!! You've lost 80, you should know how to lose it the week after...
Of course it will. Two days at eating 1400 calories over my TDEE and guess what... it's almost one pound.Lol in the past month, i've had 2 10+ course tasting menus, a pop up restaurant lunch ordering 3/4 of the menu and 3 all you can eat and drink events. Somehow I did not become a fat slob despite making no effort to curtail cals at any of them
Good for you, but I can't just have one big meal a day or I get light headed during the day.If I know I'm eating out, I usually double my workout to earn more calories.
Me too, but that gives me a whopping 200 more calories :sad:
One steak is not going to cut it? Really? You need more than one steak for a meal to be satisfied? When you cook steak at home, do you make two for yourself? Eat veggies with the steak.
And you think that by eating half of an entree is going to cause you to be starving 2 hours later, but yet you acknowledge restaurant portions are huge. Do you not see the contradiction here?
EXACTLY. I'm talking about places that don't even offer fresh veggies on the side there. Just fries (like that beach restaurant we went to last week). So you end up eating just a steak. Not filling, lol.
And no, some restaurant portions are not huge at all. Or it wouldn't be a problem. The problem is all the extra calories that come in sauces, oil and butter.Honestly, it seems to me you are happier complaining about your plight than actually considering ways around your problem.
BINGO! :laugh:
Of course I'm complaining. That's why I posted a rant, after all. After 1.5 year of this, I know how to order food (when it's possible) at restaurants. My point is that it's ruined for me because now I don't enjoy eating out anymore because of it. Because having to order everything 'on the side' and eating plain food is nowhere as fun or tasty and I'd be better off eating at home. For *me* eating out was always fun because I loved the FOOD. I like the whole experience too, but I often find myself disappointed when we go out to have fun and I find myself with a menu where all I can eat is a salad... again.0 -
It's just one meal, every now and then - why stress over it? Life's too short.
Because it's not. It's one day after a day I already went over, and it's going to be a whole week in 2 weeks.
I eat out every other week or something, so it's not really new to me, but it's always a frustrating experience when we stick to local places. And I know, I don't have to eat the fries, but I don't want to be starving one hour later either, and just one steak is not going to cut it... Same for the people who say that they only eat half... I don't want to be starving two hours later, as I never know how big the meal is going to be when I order it. It's fairly easy to pack 1000 calories in a small plate, lol.
Who cares!? Just go enjoy your night! over eating for 2 days in a row won't make you gain weight, if you do it for a week straight, yeah you might gain a whole pound!! You've lost 80, you should know how to lose it the week after...
Of course it will. Two days at eating 1400 calories over my TDEE and guess what... it's almost one pound.Lol in the past month, i've had 2 10+ course tasting menus, a pop up restaurant lunch ordering 3/4 of the menu and 3 all you can eat and drink events. Somehow I did not become a fat slob despite making no effort to curtail cals at any of them
Good for you, but I can't just have one big meal a day or I get light headed during the day.If I know I'm eating out, I usually double my workout to earn more calories.
Me too, but that gives me a whopping 200 more calories :sad:
One steak is not going to cut it? Really? You need more than one steak for a meal to be satisfied? When you cook steak at home, do you make two for yourself? Eat veggies with the steak.
And you think that by eating half of an entree is going to cause you to be starving 2 hours later, but yet you acknowledge restaurant portions are huge. Do you not see the contradiction here?
EXACTLY. I'm talking about places that don't even offer fresh veggies on the side there. Just fries (like that beach restaurant we went to last week). So you end up eating just a steak. Not filling, lol.
And no, some restaurant portions are not huge at all. Or it wouldn't be a problem. The problem is all the extra calories that come in sauces, oil and butter.Honestly, it seems to me you are happier complaining about your plight than actually considering ways around your problem.
BINGO! :laugh:
Of course I'm complaining. That's why I posted a rant, after all. After 1.5 year of this, I know how to order food (when it's possible) at restaurants. My point is that it's ruined for me because now I don't enjoy eating out anymore because of it. Because having to order everything 'on the side' and eating plain food is nowhere as fun or tasty and I'd be better off eating at home. For *me* eating out was always fun because I loved the FOOD. I like the whole experience too, but I often find myself disappointed when we go out to have fun and I find myself with a menu where all I can eat is a salad... again.
Please send my sympathies to your family for the loss of enjoyment on what could have been a fun vacation. 1 week will not change anything. Make a choice either go have fun and when you get home get back to it, or don't. But whining and making everyone around you miserable because you are so worried just sounds depressing0 -
It's just one meal, every now and then - why stress over it? Life's too short.
Because it's not. It's one day after a day I already went over, and it's going to be a whole week in 2 weeks.
I eat out every other week or something, so it's not really new to me, but it's always a frustrating experience when we stick to local places. And I know, I don't have to eat the fries, but I don't want to be starving one hour later either, and just one steak is not going to cut it... Same for the people who say that they only eat half... I don't want to be starving two hours later, as I never know how big the meal is going to be when I order it. It's fairly easy to pack 1000 calories in a small plate, lol.
Who cares!? Just go enjoy your night! over eating for 2 days in a row won't make you gain weight, if you do it for a week straight, yeah you might gain a whole pound!! You've lost 80, you should know how to lose it the week after...
Of course it will. Two days at eating 1400 calories over my TDEE and guess what... it's almost one pound.Lol in the past month, i've had 2 10+ course tasting menus, a pop up restaurant lunch ordering 3/4 of the menu and 3 all you can eat and drink events. Somehow I did not become a fat slob despite making no effort to curtail cals at any of them
Good for you, but I can't just have one big meal a day or I get light headed during the day.If I know I'm eating out, I usually double my workout to earn more calories.
Me too, but that gives me a whopping 200 more calories :sad:
One steak is not going to cut it? Really? You need more than one steak for a meal to be satisfied? When you cook steak at home, do you make two for yourself? Eat veggies with the steak.
And you think that by eating half of an entree is going to cause you to be starving 2 hours later, but yet you acknowledge restaurant portions are huge. Do you not see the contradiction here?
EXACTLY. I'm talking about places that don't even offer fresh veggies on the side there. Just fries (like that beach restaurant we went to last week). So you end up eating just a steak. Not filling, lol.
And no, some restaurant portions are not huge at all. Or it wouldn't be a problem. The problem is all the extra calories that come in sauces, oil and butter.Honestly, it seems to me you are happier complaining about your plight than actually considering ways around your problem.
BINGO! :laugh:
Of course I'm complaining. That's why I posted a rant, after all. After 1.5 year of this, I know how to order food (when it's possible) at restaurants. My point is that it's ruined for me because now I don't enjoy eating out anymore because of it. Because having to order everything 'on the side' and eating plain food is nowhere as fun or tasty and I'd be better off eating at home. For *me* eating out was always fun because I loved the FOOD. I like the whole experience too, but I often find myself disappointed when we go out to have fun and I find myself with a menu where all I can eat is a salad... again.
Please send my sympathies to your family for the loss of enjoyment on what could have been a fun vacation. 1 week will not change anything. Make a choice either go have fun and when you get home get back to it, or don't. But whining and making everyone around you miserable because you are so worried just sounds depressing
Who said I would?0 -
It's just one meal, every now and then - why stress over it? Life's too short.
Because it's not. It's one day after a day I already went over, and it's going to be a whole week in 2 weeks.
I eat out every other week or something, so it's not really new to me, but it's always a frustrating experience when we stick to local places. And I know, I don't have to eat the fries, but I don't want to be starving one hour later either, and just one steak is not going to cut it... Same for the people who say that they only eat half... I don't want to be starving two hours later, as I never know how big the meal is going to be when I order it. It's fairly easy to pack 1000 calories in a small plate, lol.
Who cares!? Just go enjoy your night! over eating for 2 days in a row won't make you gain weight, if you do it for a week straight, yeah you might gain a whole pound!! You've lost 80, you should know how to lose it the week after...
Of course it will. Two days at eating 1400 calories over my TDEE and guess what... it's almost one pound.Lol in the past month, i've had 2 10+ course tasting menus, a pop up restaurant lunch ordering 3/4 of the menu and 3 all you can eat and drink events. Somehow I did not become a fat slob despite making no effort to curtail cals at any of them
Good for you, but I can't just have one big meal a day or I get light headed during the day.If I know I'm eating out, I usually double my workout to earn more calories.
Me too, but that gives me a whopping 200 more calories :sad:
One steak is not going to cut it? Really? You need more than one steak for a meal to be satisfied? When you cook steak at home, do you make two for yourself? Eat veggies with the steak.
And you think that by eating half of an entree is going to cause you to be starving 2 hours later, but yet you acknowledge restaurant portions are huge. Do you not see the contradiction here?
EXACTLY. I'm talking about places that don't even offer fresh veggies on the side there. Just fries (like that beach restaurant we went to last week). So you end up eating just a steak. Not filling, lol.
And no, some restaurant portions are not huge at all. Or it wouldn't be a problem. The problem is all the extra calories that come in sauces, oil and butter.Honestly, it seems to me you are happier complaining about your plight than actually considering ways around your problem.
BINGO! :laugh:
Of course I'm complaining. That's why I posted a rant, after all. After 1.5 year of this, I know how to order food (when it's possible) at restaurants. My point is that it's ruined for me because now I don't enjoy eating out anymore because of it. Because having to order everything 'on the side' and eating plain food is nowhere as fun or tasty and I'd be better off eating at home. For *me* eating out was always fun because I loved the FOOD. I like the whole experience too, but I often find myself disappointed when we go out to have fun and I find myself with a menu where all I can eat is a salad... again.
It's called balance. If you can't enjoy the fun things in life, is "this" what you really want? You can lose/maintain weight and not be a social outcast. Trust me, it can be done. You didn't lose your weight overnight, and you won't get fat overnight. Most good restaurant food is swimming in grease so you'll violently expel it before it can actually stick anyway.0 -
Roller skate to/from restaurant. Eat whatever the hell you want. Problem solved.0
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Don't go out for a meal then problem solved.
It seems to me people just want to make themselves miserable. I live somewhere and also my personal circumstances make it impossible to go out for food. I would love the opportunity. One or two occasional meals out will not destroy months of weightloss. To me the idea of going out for food is to enjoy myself if I can't do that what's the point? Go out eat food enjoy yourself then the next day just continue on your plan. There is no point going out to some restaurant and avoiding all the foods that they prepare. What's the point it's like paying to go to a cinema and just watching the adverts at the beginning of the film. It's a lot nicer and easier to actually have a nice time than just making yourself miserable for the sake of it.0 -
You are the perfect example of how you can change your body but without changing your mindset, it doesn't matter.0
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my bf loves to eat out and says you're doing it wrong if it is anything but relaxing.
Gigitty!0 -
That whole 'one day isn't the end of the world' thing is the reason why I've only lost 2 pounds in the last 3 months, by the way, lol.
Just relax.. 2 lbs in 3 months for us is NORMAL.. Actually that's more than what I lose You could be my twin for stats. I eat out quite regularly also. Most of the time the places I go also don't have calories listed so I have to do a lot of guessing.
Order things baked/steamed if you can. Fish is pretty safe as long as it's not covered in sauce. Don't be scared to ask "How is this prepared?" Get salad and veggies as sides / brothy soups are also reasonably safe. Eat your salad/sides first and then eat the rest. Eat slowly also and don't feel you need to eat everything.
Eating out 3-4 meals a week will maybe cost you a pound. What you will see is water weight, stay off the scale for at least a week and drink tons of water - it's not as bad as you think.
In the big picture, I'd rather be able to enjoy my vacations and just eat reasonably. If you gain a couple pounds you will lose it again eventually. Don't put yourself in a box because you are worried to gain a pound or 2 - you already know how to get rid of it - you've proven that!0 -
It's just one meal, every now and then - why stress over it? Life's too short.
Because it's not. It's one day after a day I already went over, and it's going to be a whole week in 2 weeks.
I eat out every other week or something, so it's not really new to me, but it's always a frustrating experience when we stick to local places. And I know, I don't have to eat the fries, but I don't want to be starving one hour later either, and just one steak is not going to cut it... Same for the people who say that they only eat half... I don't want to be starving two hours later, as I never know how big the meal is going to be when I order it. It's fairly easy to pack 1000 calories in a small plate, lol.
Who cares!? Just go enjoy your night! over eating for 2 days in a row won't make you gain weight, if you do it for a week straight, yeah you might gain a whole pound!! You've lost 80, you should know how to lose it the week after...
Of course it will. Two days at eating 1400 calories over my TDEE and guess what... it's almost one pound.
Really? So what happens if for the next 5 days you eat at a 500 calorie deficit?
2800 - 2500(5 days at 500 calorie deficit) = 300 calories over for the week, that's not even half a pound....0 -
You have 2 weeks to prepare. Work your *kitten* off and hit your calorie goals.
Enjoy the 1 week, stop stressing.
After you're home, work your *kitten* off and hit your calorie goals.
Is this how you're going to live the rest of your life? Worrying about what function you will enjoy because of the food?
Just because life throws you a cactus, doesn't mean you have to sit on it.
Enjoy the small moments in life - it's way too short as it is!0 -
I've always loved eating out and trying out new restaurants... but now it's just a real drag. I just spent 2 hours looking for a restaurant to go with my mom tomorrow, and ended up deciding on Applebee's just because it's about the only place I can get the calories for (and she doesn't like Italian restaurants).
Sounds to me like you are just doing it wrong.
For someone who has lost 80 pounds in 1.5 years to worry over 1 meal, 2 days, 1 week, you haven't learned enough about food and themselves around food.
Time to stop fretting over little things like dining out. even if you put on 5 pounds over the next month you should know how to counter that and lose it the following month. Even though i highly doubt you will put on 5 lbs anyway.
Good luck enjoying your family time0 -
It's just one meal, every now and then - why stress over it? Life's too short.
Because it's not. It's one day after a day I already went over, and it's going to be a whole week in 2 weeks.
I eat out every other week or something, so it's not really new to me, but it's always a frustrating experience when we stick to local places. And I know, I don't have to eat the fries, but I don't want to be starving one hour later either, and just one steak is not going to cut it... Same for the people who say that they only eat half... I don't want to be starving two hours later, as I never know how big the meal is going to be when I order it. It's fairly easy to pack 1000 calories in a small plate, lol.
Who cares!? Just go enjoy your night! over eating for 2 days in a row won't make you gain weight, if you do it for a week straight, yeah you might gain a whole pound!! You've lost 80, you should know how to lose it the week after...
Of course it will. Two days at eating 1400 calories over my TDEE and guess what... it's almost one pound.
Really? So what happens if for the next 5 days you eat at a 500 calorie deficit?
2800 - 2500(5 days at 500 calorie deficit) = 300 calories over for the week, that's not even half a pound....
I'm aware (although my deficit is not 500 anymore, more like 200-300). But I got here watching what I eat. Just saying 'oh eat whatever' every time I go out to eat is partly how I got fat in the first place.You are the perfect example of how you can change your body but without changing your mindset, it doesn't matter.
Agreed. Sadly I still love food and I'm aware it will be a struggle every single day.0
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