When She Calls and Asks You Out.

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  • Koldnomore
    Koldnomore Posts: 1,613 Member
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    She asked you out. She pays.

    The end.

    ^like are you being sincere? Is this the real rule of thumb?

    That's how I see it.
    Unless someone specifically says "we're going Dutch" the person who asks, pays. If someone were to ask ME out and expect me to pay it would be the last time I ever went anyplace with them.
    If you WANT to pay that's fine, but she wouldn't expect it IMHO
  • skullshank
    skullshank Posts: 4,323 Member
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    I've never paid, even when I did the asking.
    Looking at that pic, I know why babe :wink:

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  • MrTolerable
    MrTolerable Posts: 1,593 Member
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    She asked you out. She pays.

    The end.

    ^like are you being sincere? Is this the real rule of thumb?

    That's how I see it.
    Unless someone specifically says "we're going Dutch" the person who asks, pays. If someone were to ask ME out and expect me to pay it would be the last time I ever went anyplace with them.
    If you WANT to pay that's fine, but she wouldn't expect it IMHO

    ^your from Canada so you don't count...

    big generalization but...you ladies think polite and thoughtful for just about everything.
  • BusyRaeNOTBusty
    BusyRaeNOTBusty Posts: 7,166 Member
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    I wonder if Dutch people really "go Dutch" often...
  • fatcity66
    fatcity66 Posts: 1,544 Member
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    I am so glad I've been out of the dating game for so long. If I were single, I wouldn't be asking a guy out because I am too shy. I also wouldn't pay if he asked me out and we were only casually dating. However, if we were in a long-term relationship, I would have no problem going dutch or paying half of the time. Of course, my husband came home with me three weeks after we started dating and we've been together for 24 years since then, so we started splitting the bills early on in our relationship.

    Is this an age thing (I'm 47) or is that how dating is done nowadays, splitting the bill or paying half the time?

    I don't think it's because of your age. It may be "old-fashioned" but I don't really ask guys out either. And if we go out and he expects me to pay, at least in the beginning, I take that as a sign he "just wants to be friends." LOL Of course, if we have been dating a while, I pick up the tab half the time.
  • oregonzoo
    oregonzoo Posts: 4,251 Member
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    I've never paid, even when I did the asking.
    Looking at that pic, I know why babe :wink:
    Oh for the love of gravy.
  • NYactor1
    NYactor1 Posts: 9,642 Member
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    This may be the best thread ever.

    All future threads will not be worth reading.
  • da_bears1008
    da_bears1008 Posts: 354
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    2-3 weeks is not a relationship... that is dating CASUALLY
  • da_bears1008
    da_bears1008 Posts: 354
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    Also... is she an illegal immigrant?
  • OKBecky
    OKBecky Posts: 9
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    I am near your age so my opinion is if I asked a guy out, (which good southern girls don't do), but if I did I would expect to pay. Good luck.
  • MrTolerable
    MrTolerable Posts: 1,593 Member
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    Also... is she an illegal immigrant?

    LMAO! - no but I tease her about that :DD
  • giggitygoo
    giggitygoo Posts: 1,978 Member
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    I plan I pay. You plan you pay.

    This way everyone is paying for something they planned themselves, and aren't blindsided by a $600 dinner.
  • MrTolerable
    MrTolerable Posts: 1,593 Member
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    I am near your age so my opinion is if I asked a guy out, (which good southern girls don't do), but if I did I would expect to pay. Good luck.

    I actually had two girls ask me out yesterday - I said yes to this lady because she is frankly remarkable, and she called.

    the other girl just sends me a txt

    "hey :)" - Ms. K

    "Yo gorgeous what's going on" - Mr. Tolerable

    "So random question...what are you doing next Tuesday" - Ms. K

    ... - Mr. Tolerable never answered :smokin:
  • MrTolerable
    MrTolerable Posts: 1,593 Member
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    I plan I pay. You plan you pay.

    This way everyone is paying for something they planned themselves, and aren't blindsided by a $600 dinner.

    Sounds like we have some similar taste love. :wink:
  • cheekym7
    cheekym7 Posts: 570 Member
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    I am a girl, and I always offer to split. I think that would make for an awkward conversation....
  • Lilly_the_Hillbilly
    Lilly_the_Hillbilly Posts: 914 Member
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    I've seen two threads by you so far and I find you exhausting.

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