Shirt or no Shirt?

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  • _Josee_
    _Josee_ Posts: 625 Member
    That thread is so funny.

    I went out running in a sport bra last night (I even documented it with a new profile picture!)

    No angry housewives called the neighborhood dresscode police after me.
    No drivers killed pedestrians because they weren't looking where they were going.
    I didn't get any catcalls, or weird looks.
    I didn't traumatize any 8yrs old boys.
    No sketchy van slowed down beside me.
    And my SO didn't object to the idea.
  • Galatea_Stone
    Galatea_Stone Posts: 2,037 Member
    I'm sure if she was about to run a marathon, or sprint in the olympics, he probably wouldn't care. He doesn't want her jogging by men who may harass her (or worse).

    I'll let you in on a little secret:

    I jog in tank tops and baggy running shorts in the summer. In the winter, I wear long sleeves and pants.

    Every time I go out, some man (or usually multiple men) honk or catcall as they pass by.

    It doesn't matter what she wears.

    Now imagine the kind of attention you'd garner if you wore sexy lingerie and nothing else. It'd certainly be more than you're getting now. The logic you're using is pretty flawed at best.

    Don't run in sexy lingerie. It chafes.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    I'm sure if she was about to run a marathon, or sprint in the olympics, he probably wouldn't care. He doesn't want her jogging by men who may harass her (or worse).

    I'll let you in on a little secret:

    I jog in tank tops and baggy running shorts in the summer. In the winter, I wear long sleeves and pants.

    Every time I go out, some man (or usually multiple men) honk or catcall as they pass by.

    It doesn't matter what she wears.

    Now imagine the kind of attention you'd garner if you wore sexy lingerie and nothing else. It'd certainly be more than you're getting now. The logic you're using is pretty flawed at best.
    Yes, you're right: Sports bra = Sexy lingerie.

    I'm so sorry that *I* am using faulty logic. :laugh: :flowerforyou:

    ETA: And so what? So freaking what if some random men yell out their car windows at me? How does this threaten my relationship or really affect my life in any way?
  • George_Baileys_Ghost
    George_Baileys_Ghost Posts: 1,524 Member
    I'm sure if she was about to run a marathon, or sprint in the olympics, he probably wouldn't care. He doesn't want her jogging by men who may harass her (or worse).

    I'll let you in on a little secret:

    I jog in tank tops and baggy running shorts in the summer. In the winter, I wear long sleeves and pants.

    Every time I go out, some man (or usually multiple men) honk or catcall as they pass by.

    It doesn't matter what she wears.

    Now imagine the kind of attention you'd garner if you wore sexy lingerie and nothing else. It'd certainly be more than you're getting now. The logic you're using is pretty flawed at best.

    Don't run in sexy lingerie. It chafes.

    Don't I know it!
  • 1HappyRedhead
    1HappyRedhead Posts: 413 Member
    Is a sports bra or even a bikini appropriate to wear as you run through your neighborhood? It's more than just the hubby we are talking here. Do you have a Homeowner Association that frowns upon barely clothed ladies or men running through the neighborhood? Do you have a hyper conservative mother in the neighborhood that will cause trouble cause you exposed your body to their young 8 year old boy as you jogged by their house? Just something more to think about. Carry on as you feel comfortable. :-)

    First, I would never move somewhere with a dress code. This is the most ridiculous thing I've read all day.
    Second, the FAT conservative mom (because in my mind she is a sad jealous overweight women) should be happy that her son his seeing people exercising and shouldn't waste her energy on some random women she doesn't know running in a sport bra.

    Don't tell me this is offensive:

    fz5Oxun.jpg?1


    In your mind the woman is a fat, sad, jealous person.... not sure exactly why.... in my mind she's just a caring mom who tries to monitor what her children see. (do you have children?) I'd watch porn anytime, but I wouldn't want a young child to see it. And although I myself might be intrigued to see a person like the one you posted running in a sports bra & thong if she wants, again, it wouldn't be my first choice for my child to see. People are using all kinds of extreme comparisons here, and although I don't think it really needed to get to that level, we're adults and we understand people are passionate about what they believe.

    The pic you posted is in no way offensive.... but I have DDs.... I can assure you that me running in a sports bra is going to be a much different picture. Just saying.....
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    Is a sports bra or even a bikini appropriate to wear as you run through your neighborhood? It's more than just the hubby we are talking here. Do you have a Homeowner Association that frowns upon barely clothed ladies or men running through the neighborhood? Do you have a hyper conservative mother in the neighborhood that will cause trouble cause you exposed your body to their young 8 year old boy as you jogged by their house? Just something more to think about. Carry on as you feel comfortable. :-)

    First, I would never move somewhere with a dress code. This is the most ridiculous thing I've read all day.
    Second, the FAT conservative mom (because in my mind she is a sad jealous overweight women) should be happy that her son his seeing people exercising and shouldn't waste her energy on some random women she doesn't know running in a sport bra.

    Don't tell me this is offensive:

    fz5Oxun.jpg?1


    In your mind the woman is a fat, sad, jealous person.... not sure exactly why.... in my mind she's just a caring mom who tries to monitor what her children see. (do you have children?) I'd watch porn anytime, but I wouldn't want a young child to see it. And although I myself might be intrigued to see a person like the one you posted running in a sports bra & thong if she wants, again, it wouldn't be my first choice for my child to see. People are using all kinds of extreme comparisons here, and although I don't think it really needed to get to that level, we're adults and we understand people are passionate about what they believe.

    The pic you posted is in no way offensive.... but I have DDs.... I can assure you that me running in a sports bra is going to be a much different picture. Just saying.....
    I also have DDs and it's not like my nipples are hanging out. If your breasts in a sports bra are showing enough skin to be offensive, you need to buy sports bras that, I don't know, actually fit.

    The woman in the photo is not wearing a thong nor is she engaging in sexual activity (pornography). You are the one using extreme comparisons. The quoted post is using an actual example of what a woman running in just a sports bra looks like.
  • Monkey_Business
    Monkey_Business Posts: 1,800 Member
    I'm sure if she was about to run a marathon, or sprint in the olympics, he probably wouldn't care. He doesn't want her jogging by men who may harass her (or worse).

    I'll let you in on a little secret:

    I jog in tank tops and baggy running shorts in the summer. In the winter, I wear long sleeves and pants.

    Every time I go out, some man (or usually multiple men) honk or catcall as they pass by.

    It doesn't matter what she wears.

    Now imagine the kind of attention you'd garner if you wore sexy lingerie and nothing else. It'd certainly be more than you're getting now. The logic you're using is pretty flawed at best.

    Don't run in sexy lingerie. It chafes.


    Oh wow, thanks! No wonder 'She, who must be obeyed' was complaining as I was chasing her around the house :-). I thought it was enthuiasm as the clothes went flying :bigsmile:
  • jec285
    jec285 Posts: 145 Member
    Now imagine the kind of attention you'd garner if you wore sexy lingerie and nothing else. It'd certainly be more than you're getting now. The logic you're using is pretty flawed at best.
    Yes, you're right: Sports bra = Sexy lingerie.

    I'm so sorry that *I* am using faulty logic. :laugh: :flowerforyou:

    Putting words in other people's mouths is the first sign of desperation :^)

    Your logic: I can wear whatever I want, I will get some attention either way
    My logic: Yes but you can reduce the amount of attention you get taking preventative measures


    Your logic is akin to smoking cigarettes because "I'm going to die either way".
  • Galatea_Stone
    Galatea_Stone Posts: 2,037 Member
    I'm sure if she was about to run a marathon, or sprint in the olympics, he probably wouldn't care. He doesn't want her jogging by men who may harass her (or worse).

    I'll let you in on a little secret:

    I jog in tank tops and baggy running shorts in the summer. In the winter, I wear long sleeves and pants.

    Every time I go out, some man (or usually multiple men) honk or catcall as they pass by.

    It doesn't matter what she wears.

    Now imagine the kind of attention you'd garner if you wore sexy lingerie and nothing else. It'd certainly be more than you're getting now. The logic you're using is pretty flawed at best.

    Don't run in sexy lingerie. It chafes.


    Oh wow, thanks! No wonder 'She, who must be obeyed' was complaining as I was chasing her around the house :-). I thought it was enthuiasm as the clothes went flying :bigsmile:

    :laugh:
  • _lyndseybrooke_
    _lyndseybrooke_ Posts: 2,561 Member
    There's absolutely nothing wrong with running in a sports bra. I've seen plenty of women here do it.

    The first thing I'd have an issue with is my husband telling what I should and should not be wearing while I exercise. Mine would never do that, so I can't say what my exact reaction would be (it wouldn't be good - but, then again, I wouldn't ask him permission first).

    As for other concerns I saw mentioned here:

    If your HOA has a dress code, you should probably move. I live in the Bible Belt and not even our HOA has clothing requirements. As long as you're not naked, you're good to go. We have a pool - what's so different about walking to the pool in your bikini vs. running in shorts and a sports bra. It probably covers more skin than most bikinis do.

    If some mother has a problem with her kids seeing a woman with a bare midriff, perhaps she should consider living in Amish Country. I don't have kids but, if I did, I'd have no problem with my kids seeing a woman in a sports bra.

    I don't run and I don't have the confidence to run in public with my tummy showing, but that's freaking awesome that you do. If I felt comfortable in a sports bra while running, nothing would stop me from doing it. I live in South Carolina and, at the end of June, it's already over 100 degrees most days. It's hot as hell, so wear as little as you can without being naked!
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    Now imagine the kind of attention you'd garner if you wore sexy lingerie and nothing else. It'd certainly be more than you're getting now. The logic you're using is pretty flawed at best.
    Yes, you're right: Sports bra = Sexy lingerie.

    I'm so sorry that *I* am using faulty logic. :laugh: :flowerforyou:

    Putting words in other people's mouths is the first sign of desperation :^)

    Your logic: I can wear whatever I want, I will get some attention either way
    My logic: Yes but you can reduce the amount of attention you get taking preventative measures


    Your logic is akin to smoking cigarettes because "I'm going to die either way".
    I didn't put words in your mouth. You are the one who compared wearing a sports bra to running in sexy lingerie. Do you even read what you write, brah?

    And you ignored the second part of my post. Please tell me what harm is occurring to me or my relationship because some random guy yelled out of his car window at me. I mean, do you think that women hear that and just jump into these cars and leave their families behind? Is this what you think is the logical conclusion to a woman running outside in only her sports bra? If not, I really don't see the problem. It isn't my job to police the world. It is my job to do what's comfortable for me, so long as it's legal and no one is getting hurt.

    If you can point out where someone is getting hurt in this scenario, then I will concede your point.
  • 1HappyRedhead
    1HappyRedhead Posts: 413 Member
    Is a sports bra or even a bikini appropriate to wear as you run through your neighborhood? It's more than just the hubby we are talking here. Do you have a Homeowner Association that frowns upon barely clothed ladies or men running through the neighborhood? Do you have a hyper conservative mother in the neighborhood that will cause trouble cause you exposed your body to their young 8 year old boy as you jogged by their house? Just something more to think about. Carry on as you feel comfortable. :-)

    First, I would never move somewhere with a dress code. This is the most ridiculous thing I've read all day.
    Second, the FAT conservative mom (because in my mind she is a sad jealous overweight women) should be happy that her son his seeing people exercising and shouldn't waste her energy on some random women she doesn't know running in a sport bra.

    Don't tell me this is offensive:

    fz5Oxun.jpg?1


    In your mind the woman is a fat, sad, jealous person.... not sure exactly why.... in my mind she's just a caring mom who tries to monitor what her children see. (do you have children?) I'd watch porn anytime, but I wouldn't want a young child to see it. And although I myself might be intrigued to see a person like the one you posted running in a sports bra & thong if she wants, again, it wouldn't be my first choice for my child to see. People are using all kinds of extreme comparisons here, and although I don't think it really needed to get to that level, we're adults and we understand people are passionate about what they believe.

    The pic you posted is in no way offensive.... but I have DDs.... I can assure you that me running in a sports bra is going to be a much different picture. Just saying.....
    I also have DDs and it's not like my nipples are hanging out. If your breasts in a sports bra are showing enough skin to be offensive, you need to buy sports bras that, I don't know, actually fit.

    The woman in the photo is not wearing a thong nor is she engaging in sexual activity (pornography). You are the one using extreme comparisons. The quoted post is using an actual example of what a woman running in just a sports bra looks like.

    Again, someone making assumptions.
    A) I'm not wearing a sports bra to run, my choice. I'd run naked if I wanted to, but not in front of children.
    B) Who decides what's offensive, you?? That was the WHOLE point about the mom/child/neighborhood story.
    C) Yes, I was using extreme examples... again, that was my point!! Apparently, you missed it all the way around.
    D) That pic is ONE example of what ONE woman running in a sports bra looks like....that in no way means that no woman running in a sports bra will not ever be found to be "offensive" by someone... maybe not me, maybe not you, but someone...
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    Again, someone making assumptions.
    A) I'm not wearing a sports bra to run, my choice. I'd run naked if I wanted to, but not in front of children.
    B) Who decides what's offensive, you?? That was the WHOLE point about the mom/child/neighborhood story.
    C) Yes, I was using extreme examples... again, that was my point!! Apparently, you missed it all the way around.
    D) That pic is ONE example of what ONE woman running in a sports bra looks like....that in no way means that no woman running in a sports bra will not ever be found to be "offensive" by someone... maybe not me, maybe not you, but someone...

    I didn't make any assumptions. I responded directly to what you wrote.

    As I stated above, as long as something is legal and not harming anyone, who cares if someone's offended? If the mother in your scenario is offended, that's her problem. She has the right to be offended, but if she's so concerned with her kids seeing a woman dressed like that, she's going to have a LONG road ahead. I see women at the mall showing more skin that what we're talking about here. She better just lock those kids up in the house and never turn the television on.
  • jec285
    jec285 Posts: 145 Member
    If you can point out where someone is getting hurt in this scenario, then I will concede your point.

    Her husband is getting hurt, whether he's being silly or not, that is the reality. I don't know about you but if I can make my significant other happy I'll do anything I can within reason to do so, I'd classify wearing a tank top as 'within reason'.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    If you can point out where someone is getting hurt in this scenario, then I will concede your point.

    Her husband is getting hurt, whether he's being silly or not, that is the reality. I don't know about you but if I can make my significant other happy I'll do anything I can within reason to do so, I'd classify wearing a tank top as 'within reason'.
    I'm not talking about her husband, I specifically said that was between them. I was responding directly to people saying women running in such attire are disrespecting themselves and should "cover up."
  • SLLeask
    SLLeask Posts: 489 Member
    If my husband TOLD me to not run in a sports bra, then I would be straight out there in the skimpiest one I could find (which would be a very frightening sight indeed!) but if he ASKED me not to and gave a reasonable reason, then I would cover up. Not because I'm submissive and controlled by my husband but because I love and respect his feelings even if I thought his reasoning was a little flawed. A marriage is based on mutual respect, there is no way I would upset him over a T-shirt, there are way bigger battles I would prefer to win ;)
  • 1HappyRedhead
    1HappyRedhead Posts: 413 Member
    Too bad this thread requires some common sense... that's going to leave a lot of people out of the conversation!
  • jec285
    jec285 Posts: 145 Member
    If you can point out where someone is getting hurt in this scenario, then I will concede your point.

    Her husband is getting hurt, whether he's being silly or not, that is the reality. I don't know about you but if I can make my significant other happy I'll do anything I can within reason to do so, I'd classify wearing a tank top as 'within reason'.
    I'm not talking about her husband, I specifically said that was between them. I was responding directly to people saying women running in such attire are disrespecting themselves and should "cover up."

    Well then I guess our little spat is over because as a man I'll be the first to say I do NOT want women to stop running in sports bras (also the reason I can relate to her husband's thought process).
  • EvgeniZyntx
    EvgeniZyntx Posts: 24,208 Member
    That thread is so funny.

    I went out running in a sport bra last night (I even documented it with a new profile picture!)

    No angry housewives called the neighborhood dresscode police after me.
    No drivers killed pedestrians because they weren't looking where they were going.
    I didn't get any catcalls, or weird looks.
    I didn't traumatize any 8yrs old boys.
    No sketchy van slowed down beside me.
    And my SO didn't object to the idea.

    The night is dark and full of terrors.
    Were you chased by a guy with a golf club?



    I mean this thread has gone down to the silly road ... what next?
  • _Josee_
    _Josee_ Posts: 625 Member
    Is a sports bra or even a bikini appropriate to wear as you run through your neighborhood? It's more than just the hubby we are talking here. Do you have a Homeowner Association that frowns upon barely clothed ladies or men running through the neighborhood? Do you have a hyper conservative mother in the neighborhood that will cause trouble cause you exposed your body to their young 8 year old boy as you jogged by their house? Just something more to think about. Carry on as you feel comfortable. :-)

    First, I would never move somewhere with a dress code. This is the most ridiculous thing I've read all day.
    Second, the FAT conservative mom (because in my mind she is a sad jealous overweight women) should be happy that her son his seeing people exercising and shouldn't waste her energy on some random women she doesn't know running in a sport bra.

    Don't tell me this is offensive:

    fz5Oxun.jpg?1


    In your mind the woman is a fat, sad, jealous person.... not sure exactly why.... in my mind she's just a caring mom who tries to monitor what her children see. (do you have children?) I'd watch porn anytime, but I wouldn't want a young child to see it. And although I myself might be intrigued to see a person like the one you posted running in a sports bra & thong if she wants, again, it wouldn't be my first choice for my child to see. People are using all kinds of extreme comparisons here, and although I don't think it really needed to get to that level, we're adults and we understand people are passionate about what they believe.

    The pic you posted is in no way offensive.... but I have DDs.... I can assure you that me running in a sports bra is going to be a much different picture. Just saying.....
    I also have DDs and it's not like my nipples are hanging out. If your breasts in a sports bra are showing enough skin to be offensive, you need to buy sports bras that, I don't know, actually fit.

    The woman in the photo is not wearing a thong nor is she engaging in sexual activity (pornography). You are the one using extreme comparisons. The quoted post is using an actual example of what a woman running in just a sports bra looks like.

    Again, someone making assumptions.
    A) I'm not wearing a sports bra to run, my choice. I'd run naked if I wanted to, but not in front of children.
    B) Who decides what's offensive, you?? That was the WHOLE point about the mom/child/neighborhood story.
    C) Yes, I was using extreme examples... again, that was my point!! Apparently, you missed it all the way around.
    D) That pic is ONE example of what ONE woman running in a sports bra looks like....that in no way means that no woman running in a sports bra will not ever be found to be "offensive" by someone... maybe not me, maybe not you, but someone...

    If you are rising your kids in such a way that they will think that seeing a stranger belly button is offensive I think you need to put aside a Therapy Fund. They will need it.

    People need to go out in the real world. Running in a sport bra is innapropriate but watching music videos on MTV is okay... COME ON !!!