Is my girlfriend going to leave me?

missdibs1

Ok one last question what is tinder? (sorry if I just made myself seem lame)

MrTolerable

Ok one last question what is tinder? (sorry if I just made myself seem lame)

one and only socially acceptable online dating mechanism.

it is basically a time saver and through a natural process of selection branches ppl into their natural pecking order of looks based interactions.

After that there is a battle of wittiness - and this is where I've seen too many friends -female and male fail. smh.

be- over - da - top.

missdibs1

So it is a virtual verbal pick up bar? based upon ohtos (which may be fake)

ooooh I see many awesome potential youtube moments for these people

MrTolerable

Lol @ you not havin a side h0

on a serious note every guy doesn't necessarily need a mistress on the side, however there are a few ABC 'take-always'

A. Backups should be readily available - which is possible by flirting with EVERY attractive lady you meet. Don't burn da bridges with your ex - let them vent out the feelings and hurt blah blah blah- never get vested enough to feel anything yourself if possible through the breakup process - work them into becoming a 'friend'. - some may make them F-buds, some may make them still 'dates' but you don't have to pay for everything anymore.
B. Always have an exit strategy in every relationship- it can be drastic, or you can map it out to still have a relationship with the person down the road if you want.
example: True Story

ended 'it' - 'it' was really nothing to me
Mr. T: Sorry I just feel like right now there is a bit of a maturity lag due to our age difference (we were four years apart)
Ms. QT 3.14: So does that mean.. does that mean? Does that mean we are over?
Mr. T.: It means reach out to me in a year baby, I need the time to focus in on my career anyway

^got me outta that sticky situation, we still talk occasionally, she left still really liking me and thinking of me as much more mature -aka the AUTHORITY FIGURE - which runs parallel to the confidence I was talking about previously
C. Find your 'Golden Goose' - this is a lady friend, who in a parallel universe prob is your bangarang, but in this universe she supplies you with her lady friends, constant company if you need a super hot date for something and you supply her with compliments, wit, and charm - respect her BF, but don't emulate or act anything like him - and be her willful backup of backups - she will be vague - you be ambiguous and together you will be happy with other ppl. :laugh:


D. - chuckle at the predicament dating has become in our day & age, and don't over-think it - because you will realize there really aren't many people even thinking to begin with. :drinker:

The entry is just so mature. I like how you've redrafted the English language to suit your bro speech. You are a real pioneer. I can now see why all these esteemed ladies look up to you. We should all be so lucky as to command similar authority in our own lives.

MUAH!

Compliments will get you everywhere... and anywhere with me.


lmao. perhaps you didn't appreciate the english language manipulation I consistently perform, but glad someone finally noticed one.

as Ezra Pound said. "make it new" :bigsmile:


Ms. Paige is one of da thinkers :flowerforyou: ...despite our conflicting world-views.

Are you a comedian? or were you being serious?

Do people really think like this/live their life with this moral compass?

WOW

Are you a comedian? Would I say I am the shogun of sarcasm? Da goon of glib? - yeah, do I have a career in comedy - negative

or were you being serious? - there is 'regrettably' truth in my optional instructions.

Do people really think like this/live their life with this moral compass? Took me a long time to get around it.. I was disgusted upon uncovering the pleasure-seeking self-indulgence that my generation partakes in. But there is no fighting it. ^while I am getting comments about how bad and blah blah my insight is on the matter - One must realize that simply a year and a half ago I stepped into the dating world as a 23yrold - having NO idea what I was doing.

I recall walking up to get my first number... hands sweaty, voice cracking, lump in the throat.. and she said no.

^rejection sux - of course I immediately realized I needed to master the art, and develop my personal form of seduction.. and the bars and clubs were my labs. ..I tried more techniques and approaches you could imagine.

Rejected? - you better believe it!
However, I have dated a handful of women - that men only dream of even meeting in their lives.

^of course time drags on.

But for all the grief I get.. you should see the debauchery friends and acquaintances partake in... orgies and vitriol behavior dealing in crap that can spread diseases faster than a freebie-sidewalk-walking-working-women etc.

:shudders:

this grief, your grief. is misplaced - it can be directed at me. sure. because I have read, studied and figured out exactly what works in these times and spelled a few tidbits clearly out- but your grief - is shared by me. I would have loved being born in a different era -where the ladies overall were classy. Sadly - aside from the internationals - anyone with a college degree - aka they went to college - walked out with extremely lax ideas of morality.


WOW - I know right? I know... my thoughts exactly.

MrTolerable

So it is a virtual verbal pick up bar? based upon ohtos (which may be fake)

ooooh I see many awesome potential youtube moments for these people

not sure what ohtos are... but yeah in a sense you could say you get to a point where you gotta lay down the pickup game right off the bat with tinder.



and idk about awesome potential youtube moments? - I mean it is dating to lots of ppl and everyone is basically in a perpetual 20-30 dates a year mentality so everyone are noobs at the game they all play - blindly. so idk about awesome youtube moments .. guess if your into watching amateur jammers struggling through first dates?


now if you had youtube video's of my dates!

There would be laughter.
There would be tears.
There would be moments of excitement.
There would be confusion.
There would be the projection of what you want instead of what is placed upon others.
There would be pain.
There would be sex.
There would be entertainment.
There would be lessons learned.


^now that would make a heckk of a youtube series.

missdibs1

I now understand your meaning

None of these people are (IYHO) up to your standards (even the one's you consider the catch men dream of) and that is why you are OK with interacting with them on this level

I really do hope one day you see/meet the lady who will make YOU act like a gentleman

MrTolerable

I now understand your meaning

None of these people are (IYHO) up to your standards (even the one's you consider the catch men dream of) and that is why you are OK with interacting with them on this level

I really do hope one day you see/meet the lady who will make YOU act like a gentleman

^oh!!

I would say of the handful two dumped me!

^so give pause and celebration there that there are indeed some that are certainly up to my standards. :drinker:

and I actually DO behave like an extraordinary gentleman. Women LITERALLY refer to me as "the GENTLEMAN" - it is hard to capture that of course over MFP because you are strictly reading my comments - and I am far to candid and blunt to come across as anything less then precious on what works IMHO. But I am indeed a gentleman and it is because I have a set of values I have developed for myself... I know they are just pie in the sky idea's that are really baseless and 'nothingless' ..but to me they are everything - so a gentleman I am indeed - but not due to the introduction of some lady I have met.


^all though the introductions and dinners and fun with each of the ladies that impressed me so deeply - in hindsight it did improve my behavior... :blushing:

I see your point. :smokin:

upnorthtim

you're toast ... :brokenheart: :sad: