House Sitter Nightmare, Please Help

Erin_goBrahScience
Erin_goBrahScience Posts: 1,215 Member
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I need some advice. This past weekend the SO and I took a weekend away and asked a friend to come by and feed the cat. When I got home I was shocked to see what had transpired. First she broke the lock on the door. Apparently she was having some difficulty with the key and broke the key off in the lock. We started to call a locksmith but found it more cost efficient to buy a new lock at the hardware store since we couldn’t just rekey it.

She also broke one of the dining room chairs and just welcomed herself to the food in both the freezer and the pantry. I guess I would be okay with maybe a little but she ransacked the joint and didn’t even do the dishes. Also I am sure that she slept in the guest bed (something we didn’t discuss) because it was slept in and not made up.

I felt like we had a decent relationship prior to this, but I’m feeling very violated. I’m wondering if I should discuss this with her? I don’t want there to be weirdness cause she lives right next door. But now I don’t want her in my house. It’s just horrible cause I invited this person in and she just made herself at home. I asked her to feed my pet, not move in for the weekend.

Any advice would be welcome.
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  • sixout
    sixout Posts: 3,128 Member
    Are you sure the cat didn't do it?
  • AsaThorsWoman
    AsaThorsWoman Posts: 2,303 Member
    Maybe you should ask her about it.

    It honestly sounds like drinking was involved.
  • srslybritt
    srslybritt Posts: 1,618 Member
    Shenanigans. At least she cleaned up the mess from the kegger we thr-... I mean, hi.
  • PikaKnight
    PikaKnight Posts: 34,971 Member
    Is this serious or just another troll thread?
  • DBoone85
    DBoone85 Posts: 916 Member
    She did not break the lamp I asked you to keep for me, did she?
  • k8blujay2
    k8blujay2 Posts: 4,941 Member
    Geez!!! I said I was sorry!!! Did you have to make a thread about it?!!! Now I'm not going to replace anything....
  • soberlicious
    soberlicious Posts: 121 Member
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  • _John_
    _John_ Posts: 8,646 Member
    do you have a blacklight?
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    Was she blonde?

    Did she eat the cat?

    Does she wear a red hood?... wait... wrong story.
  • PikaKnight
    PikaKnight Posts: 34,971 Member
    She did not break the lamp I asked you to keep for me, did she?

    This answers my question.

    Man. Is today National Troll Thread Day or something? I must've missed the memo.
  • buzybev
    buzybev Posts: 199 Member
    I've had similar experiences with cat sitters that I have used. Both were work colleagues. First one took a shower in my apt and didn't bother turning the water off all the way so I when I came home there was water all of the floor. Second used the bathroom (no problem, you have to go when you have to go), but didn't find it necessary to flush the toilet. Both also lied about the number of times they came by to feed my cat (came home to empty food bowls and unscooped/filthy litter boxes with both).

    And I would definitely try and discuss it with her. Especially the damage she caused to your home. Did she at least call/text to let you know she had broken items in your home?

    ETA: If this is a troll thread, I rescind my advice. Just break up with her.
  • kinkyslinky16
    kinkyslinky16 Posts: 1,469 Member
    do you have a blacklight?

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  • Some_Watery_Tart
    Some_Watery_Tart Posts: 2,250 Member
    I don't know what to tell you except: buy new sheets. And towels. And kitchen towels. And curtains.....
  • sixout
    sixout Posts: 3,128 Member
    I think everyone here is underestimating the cat.
  • srslybritt
    srslybritt Posts: 1,618 Member
    I don't know what to tell you except: buy new sheets. And towels. And kitchen towels. And curtains.....

    Don't forget replacing the carpet and duvets.
  • DBoone85
    DBoone85 Posts: 916 Member
    I don't know what to tell you except: buy new sheets. And towels. And kitchen towels. And curtains.....

    Don't forget a new toothbrush.
  • jnichel
    jnichel Posts: 4,553 Member
    How about the jello? Was the jello missing? The whipped cream?
  • amethyst7986
    amethyst7986 Posts: 223 Member
    I have no advice to give however, I do have a similar story-

    My boss, his two boys and his mother went out of town for a week earlier this month and he asked his friend and his daughters to feed and care for his sons' hamsters while they were out of town.

    The returned home to find one dead hamster and the other roaming around the house-- his friends excuse "I fell asleep on the couch and the girls were playing with them"
  • CJisinShape
    CJisinShape Posts: 1,404 Member
    You are (still) not clear about the job description, so I'm wondering if you made it clear to her. Is she a housesitter, or a cat feeder? The housesitter stays in your house, the cat feeder feeds the cat. Also, did you arrive back on schefule, or earlier than she expected? Sometimes things are just miscommunication. If the friendship is worth it, forgive and forget, and don't ask her for favors again?
  • srslybritt
    srslybritt Posts: 1,618 Member
    ETA: If this is a troll thread, I rescind my advice. Just break up with her.

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  • k8blujay2
    k8blujay2 Posts: 4,941 Member
    You should be grateful your house wasn't burnt to the ground and your furball didn't escape.


    Little demon, threw up on my shoes and tried to smother me in my sleep...
  • TheRoadDog
    TheRoadDog Posts: 11,788 Member
    Nothing to do now.

    If there were boundaries, you should have spelled them out for her prior to your trip.

    If you value her as a friend, let it go and lay out some fground rules next time.

    If you don't, let it go and don't ask for her help again.
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  • KharismaticKayteh
    KharismaticKayteh Posts: 322 Member
    Why is everyone saying this is a troll thread?
  • Erin_goBrahScience
    Erin_goBrahScience Posts: 1,215 Member
    I now realize that I am at fault for not being more specific with my instructions. I expected her to come in, feed the cat, maybe watch a little tv and go home. I honestly didn't expect her to come in, cook a steak, jump on the furniture and do god knows what in the bed.

    I'm just so upset I don't know if I can forgive her. The mature adult in me knows I need to talk to her, but I'm just so bad at confrontation.
  • sixout
    sixout Posts: 3,128 Member
    maybe she was in cahoots with your cat.
  • Lauren8239
    Lauren8239 Posts: 1,039 Member
    If this story is true, you can bet she went through all of your stuff. All of it.
  • randomtai
    randomtai Posts: 9,003 Member
    http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0660217/quotes?item=qt0203380
  • soberlicious
    soberlicious Posts: 121 Member
    maybe she was in cahoots with your cat.

    you mean CAThoots?
  • k8blujay2
    k8blujay2 Posts: 4,941 Member
    I now realize that I am at fault for not being more specific with my instructions. I expected her to come in, feed the cat, maybe watch a little tv and go home. I honestly didn't expect her to come in, cook a steak, jump on the furniture and do god knows what in the bed.

    I'm just so upset I don't know if I can forgive her. The mature adult in me knows I need to talk to her, but I'm just so bad at confrontation.

    Well that steak was in the refrigerator and on the verge of going bad... I didn't think you would want your house smelling of rancid meat now do you? And I just invited my boyfriend over so that people wouldn't think it was left empty... I can't help it that we just couldn't help ourselves after that delicious bottle of wine you had stashed... though it was a little stale... but you know, can't be choosy at that point.

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