Need very strict friends : 1200-1300 calories a day

Annie_01

I have been on a 1000 calorie a day for almost 2 years.
I am not on a diet, that is my new life style.
Your goal is very do-able!
I say go for it!

Says anyone with an eating disorder....

No. So much no.

She's 62 years old. Give her a break. If it works for her, then let her do it. No reason to bash it.

I will be 62 next month...I don't expect anyone to give me a break.

Here are my thoughts...

The older that you are the more harmful poor eating habits are. Your body does not recover at the same rate that a younger body will. The poor eating habits and the excess weight that I had in my 40s and 50s took its toll on my health. Even though after having lost the weight...adding exercise and increasing my daily activity...I have not and will probably never be at the level that I would be if I was in my 40s or 50s.

It has improved drastically. That is because after all of these years I have stopped abusing myself. I didn't get to this point however because of thinking that I needed people to give me a break.

If that poster chooses to drink prune juice for every meal...well that is her choice. However...NO ONE...should "give her a break" simply because she is 62...not if they care about their fellow human being.

One last thought...

At age 62 we don't have that many "redos" left. If we want to get it right...we got to do it NOW. I figure at best...I got 20 years left...I don't need a break...I need to be healthy...fit...and enjoying life!

I didn't look at her diary because she was not asking for help, so it is no one's business what she eats. If she asks for help then an honest approach is best. Folks forget that as we age, we tend to become less active meaning we require less food BUT any advice should be based on the individual situation.

I am in my mid 50's so I want to be as healthy and fit as possible BUT I am doing it my way. I don't need anyone other than my health care providers giving me unsolicited advice on my food, my activity level or anything else I'm doing that doesn't mesh with their beliefs. In that respect, this member you are talking about deserves the same courtesy. That being said, at some point if she is eating poorly on a consistent basis, she will quickly find out that undoing the damage will be very difficult if not impossible BUT she doesn't need me or anyone else to tell her so.

I don't know if you are chastising me or not...maybe I am misreading. If you notice...I didn't say anything to that 62 y/o poster. In fact what I said was...it is her choice as it is any ones choice regardless of age. I don't think however that we should treat someone 62 any different than we do a twenty year old.

I don't think that I was in anyway discourteous concerning that woman. To avoid that my response centered more on myself instead of her.

WinoGelato

I have been on a 1000 calorie a day for almost 2 years.
I am not on a diet, that is my new life style.
Your goal is very do-able!
I say go for it!

Says anyone with an eating disorder....

No. So much no.

She's 62 years old. Give her a break. If it works for her, then let her do it. No reason to bash it.

I will be 62 next month...I don't expect anyone to give me a break.

Here are my thoughts...

The older that you are the more harmful poor eating habits are. Your body does not recover at the same rate that a younger body will. The poor eating habits and the excess weight that I had in my 40s and 50s took its toll on my health. Even though after having lost the weight...adding exercise and increasing my daily activity...I have not and will probably never be at the level that I would be if I was in my 40s or 50s.

It has improved drastically. That is because after all of these years I have stopped abusing myself. I didn't get to this point however because of thinking that I needed people to give me a break.

If that poster chooses to drink prune juice for every meal...well that is her choice. However...NO ONE...should "give her a break" simply because she is 62...not if they care about their fellow human being.

One last thought...

At age 62 we don't have that many "redos" left. If we want to get it right...we got to do it NOW. I figure at best...I got 20 years left...I don't need a break...I need to be healthy...fit...and enjoying life!

I didn't look at her diary because she was not asking for help, so it is no one's business what she eats. If she asks for help then an honest approach is best. Folks forget that as we age, we tend to become less active meaning we require less food BUT any advice should be based on the individual situation.

I am in my mid 50's so I want to be as healthy and fit as possible BUT I am doing it my way. I don't need anyone other than my health care providers giving me unsolicited advice on my food, my activity level or anything else I'm doing that doesn't mesh with their beliefs. In that respect, this member you are talking about deserves the same courtesy. That being said, at some point if she is eating poorly on a consistent basis, she will quickly find out that undoing the damage will be very difficult if not impossible BUT she doesn't need me or anyone else to tell her so.

I think the point is someone who is triple the age of the OP and giving advise when she is eating poorly maybe shouldn't be giving advise.

If someone gives me advise I look at their diary and look at how much weight they have lost if it's someone who eats rubbish or just logs cals then their advise to me is worthless.

Totally agree with this. When people start spouting advice on here, one of the first things I look at is their diary to see how they approach this process. Sometimes these people sound relatively sane in the snippet of advice they are offering, and people who don't look a little deeper may think, "hey, this person knows what they are talking about, I should do whatever they say". When in actuality, the person offering the advice may be eating 600 cals of junk (and believe me - I am not a clean eater, I just mean that pickles, Pringles, and bean dip as the sole sustenance of your existence is ridiculous) and have completely irrational reasons for their approach.

So no, the person being critiqued may not have asked for advice, but if you don't point out how restrictive and unhealthy their diet is to the casual readers on this forum, you are missing an opportunity to educate those who don't take the time to dig a little deeper before taking the advice of strangers on the internet...

jgoulet003

Add me! Im at 1200-1300.

jmv7117

I have been on a 1000 calorie a day for almost 2 years.
I am not on a diet, that is my new life style.
Your goal is very do-able!
I say go for it!

Says anyone with an eating disorder....

No. So much no.

She's 62 years old. Give her a break. If it works for her, then let her do it. No reason to bash it.

I will be 62 next month...I don't expect anyone to give me a break.

Here are my thoughts...

The older that you are the more harmful poor eating habits are. Your body does not recover at the same rate that a younger body will. The poor eating habits and the excess weight that I had in my 40s and 50s took its toll on my health. Even though after having lost the weight...adding exercise and increasing my daily activity...I have not and will probably never be at the level that I would be if I was in my 40s or 50s.

It has improved drastically. That is because after all of these years I have stopped abusing myself. I didn't get to this point however because of thinking that I needed people to give me a break.

If that poster chooses to drink prune juice for every meal...well that is her choice. However...NO ONE...should "give her a break" simply because she is 62...not if they care about their fellow human being.

One last thought...

At age 62 we don't have that many "redos" left. If we want to get it right...we got to do it NOW. I figure at best...I got 20 years left...I don't need a break...I need to be healthy...fit...and enjoying life!

I didn't look at her diary because she was not asking for help, so it is no one's business what she eats. If she asks for help then an honest approach is best. Folks forget that as we age, we tend to become less active meaning we require less food BUT any advice should be based on the individual situation.

I am in my mid 50's so I want to be as healthy and fit as possible BUT I am doing it my way. I don't need anyone other than my health care providers giving me unsolicited advice on my food, my activity level or anything else I'm doing that doesn't mesh with their beliefs. In that respect, this member you are talking about deserves the same courtesy. That being said, at some point if she is eating poorly on a consistent basis, she will quickly find out that undoing the damage will be very difficult if not impossible BUT she doesn't need me or anyone else to tell her so.

I think the point is someone who is triple the age of the OP and giving advise when she is eating poorly maybe shouldn't be giving advise.

If someone gives me advise I look at their diary and look at how much weight they have lost if it's someone who eats rubbish or just logs cals then their advise to me is worthless.

In fairness, she did not give advise to OP. She said to look at her diary then add her as a friend if OP wanted to. No advice. Whether OP decides to add her as a friend is up to OP.

jmv7117

I have been on a 1000 calorie a day for almost 2 years.
I am not on a diet, that is my new life style.
Your goal is very do-able!
I say go for it!

Says anyone with an eating disorder....

No. So much no.

She's 62 years old. Give her a break. If it works for her, then let her do it. No reason to bash it.

I will be 62 next month...I don't expect anyone to give me a break.

Here are my thoughts...

The older that you are the more harmful poor eating habits are. Your body does not recover at the same rate that a younger body will. The poor eating habits and the excess weight that I had in my 40s and 50s took its toll on my health. Even though after having lost the weight...adding exercise and increasing my daily activity...I have not and will probably never be at the level that I would be if I was in my 40s or 50s.

It has improved drastically. That is because after all of these years I have stopped abusing myself. I didn't get to this point however because of thinking that I needed people to give me a break.

If that poster chooses to drink prune juice for every meal...well that is her choice. However...NO ONE...should "give her a break" simply because she is 62...not if they care about their fellow human being.

One last thought...

At age 62 we don't have that many "redos" left. If we want to get it right...we got to do it NOW. I figure at best...I got 20 years left...I don't need a break...I need to be healthy...fit...and enjoying life!

I didn't look at her diary because she was not asking for help, so it is no one's business what she eats. If she asks for help then an honest approach is best. Folks forget that as we age, we tend to become less active meaning we require less food BUT any advice should be based on the individual situation.

I am in my mid 50's so I want to be as healthy and fit as possible BUT I am doing it my way. I don't need anyone other than my health care providers giving me unsolicited advice on my food, my activity level or anything else I'm doing that doesn't mesh with their beliefs. In that respect, this member you are talking about deserves the same courtesy. That being said, at some point if she is eating poorly on a consistent basis, she will quickly find out that undoing the damage will be very difficult if not impossible BUT she doesn't need me or anyone else to tell her so.

I think the point is someone who is triple the age of the OP and giving advise when she is eating poorly maybe shouldn't be giving advise.

If someone gives me advise I look at their diary and look at how much weight they have lost if it's someone who eats rubbish or just logs cals then their advise to me is worthless.

Totally agree with this. When people start spouting advice on here, one of the first things I look at is their diary to see how they approach this process. Sometimes these people sound relatively sane in the snippet of advice they are offering, and people who don't look a little deeper may think, "hey, this person knows what they are talking about, I should do whatever they say". When in actuality, the person offering the advice may be eating 600 cals of junk (and believe me - I am not a clean eater, I just mean that pickles, Pringles, and bean dip as the sole sustenance of your existence is ridiculous) and have completely irrational reasons for their approach.

So no, the person being critiqued may not have asked for advice, but if you don't point out how restrictive and unhealthy their diet is to the casual readers on this forum, you are missing an opportunity to educate those who don't take the time to dig a little deeper before taking the advice of strangers on the internet...

She didn't give advice but rather invited OP to look at her diary then add her as a friend if desired. This is one reason diaries should be kept closed because they just become a huge problem in the forums. If that is what this person is existing on (don't know because I didn't look at her diary) then yes, there is a problem BUT it is for her to deal with. This is very much like the seat belt issue. Wearing one saves lives although in some cases wearing one may not. Telling someone to wear one even under the threat of a fine doesn't work until such time that person decides to wear it because they want to. Nothing anyone says on this forum is going to change this person's food choice. From a different perspective, repeatedly dwelling on these inadequate diets may serve as a trigger or re-enforcer for those with a developing or established ED. So the less said the better unless the person asks for help.

WinoGelato

I have been on a 1000 calorie a day for almost 2 years.
I am not on a diet, that is my new life style.
Your goal is very do-able!
I say go for it!

Says anyone with an eating disorder....

No. So much no.

She's 62 years old. Give her a break. If it works for her, then let her do it. No reason to bash it.

I will be 62 next month...I don't expect anyone to give me a break.

Here are my thoughts...

The older that you are the more harmful poor eating habits are. Your body does not recover at the same rate that a younger body will. The poor eating habits and the excess weight that I had in my 40s and 50s took its toll on my health. Even though after having lost the weight...adding exercise and increasing my daily activity...I have not and will probably never be at the level that I would be if I was in my 40s or 50s.

It has improved drastically. That is because after all of these years I have stopped abusing myself. I didn't get to this point however because of thinking that I needed people to give me a break.

If that poster chooses to drink prune juice for every meal...well that is her choice. However...NO ONE...should "give her a break" simply because she is 62...not if they care about their fellow human being.

One last thought...

At age 62 we don't have that many "redos" left. If we want to get it right...we got to do it NOW. I figure at best...I got 20 years left...I don't need a break...I need to be healthy...fit...and enjoying life!

I didn't look at her diary because she was not asking for help, so it is no one's business what she eats. If she asks for help then an honest approach is best. Folks forget that as we age, we tend to become less active meaning we require less food BUT any advice should be based on the individual situation.

I am in my mid 50's so I want to be as healthy and fit as possible BUT I am doing it my way. I don't need anyone other than my health care providers giving me unsolicited advice on my food, my activity level or anything else I'm doing that doesn't mesh with their beliefs. In that respect, this member you are talking about deserves the same courtesy. That being said, at some point if she is eating poorly on a consistent basis, she will quickly find out that undoing the damage will be very difficult if not impossible BUT she doesn't need me or anyone else to tell her so.

I think the point is someone who is triple the age of the OP and giving advise when she is eating poorly maybe shouldn't be giving advise.

If someone gives me advise I look at their diary and look at how much weight they have lost if it's someone who eats rubbish or just logs cals then their advise to me is worthless.

Totally agree with this. When people start spouting advice on here, one of the first things I look at is their diary to see how they approach this process. Sometimes these people sound relatively sane in the snippet of advice they are offering, and people who don't look a little deeper may think, "hey, this person knows what they are talking about, I should do whatever they say". When in actuality, the person offering the advice may be eating 600 cals of junk (and believe me - I am not a clean eater, I just mean that pickles, Pringles, and bean dip as the sole sustenance of your existence is ridiculous) and have completely irrational reasons for their approach.

So no, the person being critiqued may not have asked for advice, but if you don't point out how restrictive and unhealthy their diet is to the casual readers on this forum, you are missing an opportunity to educate those who don't take the time to dig a little deeper before taking the advice of strangers on the internet...

She didn't give advice but rather invited OP to look at her diary then add her as a friend if desired. This is one reason diaries should be kept closed because they just become a huge problem in the forums. If that is what this person is existing on (don't know because I didn't look at her diary) then yes, there is a problem BUT it is for her to deal with. This is very much like the seat belt issue. Wearing one saves lives although in some cases wearing one may not. Telling someone to wear one even under the threat of a fine doesn't work until such time that person decides to wear it because they want to. Nothing anyone says on this forum is going to change this person's food choice. From a different perspective, repeatedly dwelling on these inadequate diets may serve as a trigger or re-enforcer for those with a developing or established ED. So the less said the better unless the person asks for help.

To be fair, I think there are a couple of different posters in this thread who are in their 60s who are eating VLCD. One, you are right, didn't offer advice. However, the one quoted at the top here, who said, "I eat under 1000 cals every day, it's totally doable, I say go for it" that is advice.

Now, let's use the seat belt analogy. You are right. You cannot force someone to wear a seat belt. Usually people who are resistant don't start until they, or someone they know, have an accident. So in this analogy, it isn't that the person commenting isn't wearing a seat belt themselves, but that they are telling other people, "hey, I don't wear a seat belt and nothing bad has ever happened to me, so you don't need to either". That's the piece that I, and many others take issue with. Which is why many of the people commenting about the people eating 600 cals/day are doing it, not only to hopefully help that person already making the choice to eat such low calories, but also so that others not sure if they too would be fine with that approach don't get mistakenly convinced that nothing bad will happen to them if they do.

twomuchfat

Add me in to: I need to lose 30 pounds and need to be strict and accountable....I may be late but my heart is willing.

soveri

Add me guys I'm on a strict 1200 calorie diet. It's more so to promote lighter foods throughout the day, and has been getting me ready for my next half marathon.

xvmonarose

yes, i am in!