Girl problems.

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  • yopeeps025
    yopeeps025 Posts: 8,680 Member
    OP said: " am struggling really bad with girls.. I cant stop thinking about girls and sexual stuff. Im not just thinking about sex. I love cuddling and just being around girls."
    You're 21. You're SUPPOSED to think about women and sexual stuff all. the. time. It's part of being a young man. As for the rest, you're on your own, bub. I'm not a guy.:smile:

    Well there is no supposed to or not supposed to for this topic I think.
  • headofphat
    headofphat Posts: 1,597 Member
    You either need to find confidence or at least seem like you're confident. You'd be surprised just how far confidence will take you in this world and not just with girls but with work, etc...
  • wolverine66
    wolverine66 Posts: 3,779 Member
    I think part of the problem is that you have to get a life before you get a girl. You don't have a job and live on "Government money" which would be either welfare or disability, and that means you may not be able to even pay your own way on a date. You don't have a history of being able to take care of yourself and have let your mom do most of the work so far. You admit you are spoiled. The goal should be to get your own life on track before adding another human being to it. Get involved, work, volunteer, join something, get out of the room, take care of your life. A partner is your reward for having a life, the dessert as it were, not the main course.

    I also have to wonder if you are just looking for the compliments or wanting some reader to rescue you. Poor baby, come on over here..... This is a tough neighborhood for that.

    And you can spell "gorgeous" but not "Bus"? Are you real or just having fun here?

    i was going to say something similar. I get that you want to date and have relationships, but you really should find a job and become someone stable on your own before trying to add a relationship because 1) it allows you to focus on a relationship later. if you try to do everything at once, nothing gets your full attention, or the woman will get your full attention and you'll let work fall by the wayside and 2) being stable and having a job is attractive to women. women like aman who can pay for themself (and sometimes her, but i don't want to start a "who's supposed to pay" debate).
  • SoDamnHungry
    SoDamnHungry Posts: 6,998 Member
    You could always try online dating to get some practice in. That way you don't have to be bold and say hi to women on the street.
  • Escloflowne
    Escloflowne Posts: 2,038 Member
    Chicks dig kind guys with clean homes, my mother learned me that! MFP is a great dating site, you'll be fine!
  • kinkyslinky16
    kinkyslinky16 Posts: 1,469 Member
    Chicks dig kind guys with clean homes, my mother learned me that! MFP is a great dating site, you'll be fine!

    lol, He's right.
  • Cliffslosinit
    Cliffslosinit Posts: 5,044 Member
    1) Having a job is sexy.
    2) Girls feel that same....ie; nervous, etc
    3) See #1
  • bugaboo_sue
    bugaboo_sue Posts: 552 Member
    I stopped reading at "government money" .
  • baba_helly
    baba_helly Posts: 810 Member
    They're more scared of you than you are of them OP. Try talking to them and maybe don't lead with the government assistance. Good luck! :flowerforyou:
  • Espressocycle
    Espressocycle Posts: 2,245 Member
    I stopped reading at "government money" .

    I assume he lives in a country with high unemployment and, luckily, strict gun control.
  • kinkyslinky16
    kinkyslinky16 Posts: 1,469 Member
    They're more scared of you than you are of them OP. Try talking to them and maybe don't lead with the government assistance. Good luck! :flowerforyou:

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  • wheird
    wheird Posts: 7,963 Member
    Time to start learning to be a man.

    1. Get a job. This should be your primary focus.
    2. You cannot make or trick a woman into liking you.
    3. Posts like these probably won't help.
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  • bugaboo_sue
    bugaboo_sue Posts: 552 Member
    I stopped reading at "government money" .

    I assume he lives in a country with high unemployment and, luckily, strict gun control.

    You mean higher than the US? And what does gun control have to do with anything?:huh:
  • George_Baileys_Ghost
    George_Baileys_Ghost Posts: 1,524 Member
    Be yourself. Women aren't a mystery. They're just people with different parts that many of us find aesthetically pleasing. find confidence in yourself, in who you are and what you do, and then just talk to people. At some point, you'll click with someone who clicks with you. When that happens one or both of you will ask the other to hang out more. The more you hang out, the more you grow together. That's how relationships that tend to stick, happen. At least that's how it's been for me.

    Sex can either be a part of that equation, or you can divorce it from the equation all together and just go looking for people who want to hook up. The Internet, and certain streets are handy for that. It's just a matter of what you want.

    Either way....remember to stretch first, and wash your hands.
  • wheird
    wheird Posts: 7,963 Member
    Is this a dating forum?

    Nah, just banging really.

    *snort*
  • wheird
    wheird Posts: 7,963 Member
    +1 for hand washing.

    Otherwise you could shut the candy shop down for a few days and tick off the owner.
  • laynerich15
    laynerich15 Posts: 1,918 Member
    Stare at hem awkward and on first dates say things like " I Love You", "will you marry me", :how many kids should we have".

    That should work.
  • TheRoadDog
    TheRoadDog Posts: 11,788 Member
    Craigslist. Just pay for it. Less hassle and a lot less expensive in the long run.
  • Swaggs51
    Swaggs51 Posts: 716 Member
    make sure to talk about your reptile collection and how you like the crusts cut off of your PB and J sammaches. always works
  • Galatea_Stone
    Galatea_Stone Posts: 2,037 Member
    Find a friend who's really good with the ladies, hang out with him, and observe.

    Or be the third wheel with a couple and watch how the guy acts with her.

    Or, you could just be you, smile more, try to have more confidence, put yourself out there as being available, and you'll find a woman. You're not likely to meet her staying home and cleaning your apartment. You might find her on the internet, though.
  • Madame_Goldbricker
    Madame_Goldbricker Posts: 1,625 Member
    I noticed you stated you have Aspergers in one of your other posts OP. I can empathise that you may find some social situations difficult. Which may have an impact in your opportunities to meet new people.

    It might be worth looking for a small group with common shared interests that you could join? This could help develop your confidence skills around talking to new people in general (including women). In a low pressure environment.
  • Tomm88
    Tomm88 Posts: 733 Member
    First of all dude i'd ditch looking for girls and make finding a job priority number 1, learn to live on your own for a while, get use to standing on your own 2 feet, once all thats in order if you see a girl you like just walk up and say " hey i'm (insert name here)"

    Don't over complicate, don't over analyze, just do. Hope this helps and good luck in life!
  • Swaggs51
    Swaggs51 Posts: 716 Member
    IF you having girl problems I feel bad for you son, I got 99 problems but a B*tch aint one
  • csman49
    csman49 Posts: 1,100 Member
    i got 99 problems...
  • wheird
    wheird Posts: 7,963 Member
    OK, I've had caffeine.

    My absolute best advice: Focus on working on yourself. Learn the life skills you will need and start becoming comfortable with yourself. Doing this will help attract the sort of woman that you want. One that will like you for who you are.
  • emkayelle91
    emkayelle91 Posts: 846 Member
    Honestly just be yourself, and treat the girl like a normal human being lol. Out of all the times that I have been approached, the guys who were nice, polite, and treated me normally had a much better chance than the guys who were obviously just throwing rehearsed lines my way. Just be you, don't over think it. :)
  • laynerich15
    laynerich15 Posts: 1,918 Member
    Speak to them like they are your friend, its pretty simple.
  • Myhaloslipped
    Myhaloslipped Posts: 4,317 Member
    Is this a dating forum?

    Nah, just banging really.

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  • yopeeps025
    yopeeps025 Posts: 8,680 Member
    Craigslist. Just pay for it. Less hassle and a lot less expensive in the long run.

    LOL

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