Guys like heavier girls?

MassiveDelta

This is confusing me. No sticks! Stick girls are bad, but slender well toned girls are it. If you are 160 and in good shape with muscular legs and may be a little muffin top Its all good. If my forearm is larger than your thigh thats bad!

Ashley_Panda

My husband offers to buy stick girls hamburgers.

cparter

To each his own. My wife is petite (size 4) and flat chested and breast feeding 3 kids.

I prefer a woman who is shaped like a female. Meat or no meat is not the edge. The edge is being sensual with the right mold of a woman. But that only brings me to her door her heart (attitude toward me and others) is what brings me across the threshold.

chelekaz

My husband has always said that he likes a girl with curves and "junk in the trunk" .... and this is when I much thinner than I am now. He has seen pictures from pre-dating him and he's like ewww.... way too thin.... I was maybe a size 8 or 10. So.... if I can get to 14 I would be thrilled!

DKWaggoner

Well.....I am a female that likes females : ) & I prefer a "thicker" woman.Really skinny with no meat on the bones is not attractive to me..I know you ask what "guys" like but I wanted to chime in....lol hope ya don't mind...

Leelubaby

WOOO HOOOO my question is.......when can i meet your husband's best friend?

ahalim

I myself have always liked the toned curvier girls... Little waist flat stomach, thicker toned legs and bubble but is perfect IMO. Therefore, working out getting in shape is to me more important than losing all kinds of weight and being skinny. The athletic look is what always draws my attention and if she's tall even better.

Remember muscle weighs more than fat so don't worry so much about the number. I've seen girls that weight 160 at 5'8 that look absolutely perfect... of course IMO.

RedneckWmn

I've heard this a lot myself as well. The guy I'm dating keeps asking me if I'm going to continue losing weight. He likes me the way I am right now. To each his own. Everybody likes what they like right? :drinker:

rnroadrunner

I think that a lot of this might not be which do they find more attractive, but which are they less threatened by / which do they think will not leave them for another better looking guy?

I mean really - if guys really thought that heavier women were MORE ATTRACTIVE then there would be fluffy gals in all the porn (not just specialty more to love porn) and in all the action movies.

But, which is more attractive and which are you comfortable sharing a relationship with are two totally separate questions. I'd be interested in seeing a study with slightly different worded questions to find if this makes for different responses.

also, key question - who had bigger boobs?

I am also wondering if a guy was asking would it change the answer. Because I know that guys will tell you which ever you are close to as being the best one. Ask which one you would want to be a wife and which one you would want to just sleep with...
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muth3rluvx2

Well.....I am a female that likes females : ) & I prefer a "thicker" woman.Really skinny with no meat on the bones is not attractive to me..I know you ask what "guys" like but I wanted to chime in....lol hope ya don't mind...

I find this particularly fascinating! Considering women seem to find the model thin women attractive, and here you are totally contradicting that concept - so I wonder what causes the preferential differences (in appearance)? I wonder if it has to do with our perception of purpose? What an absolutely interesting complexity in the human social dynamic!! This could be a dissertation in its own right! LOL... sorry - nerd here. hahahaha! I'm so glad you shared; thank you! :drinker: :happy:

kgs0201

I think a HUGE factor in how "attractive" a girl is is her confidence level. When I was heavier (size 14), I had very little confidence in my image and I shied away from social events. When I'm a size 8 and I know I'm rocking my jeans, my personality is completely different. I feel pretty and I really think it's that confidence that attracts guys. No one wants to date someone that they have to tell over and over they are beautiful to. If you don't think you look good, then why would I? I think it goes the same with girls being attracted to guys. Guys don't have to have a muscular body to be hot. They have to be confident in themselves. Confidence is sooooo sexy.

Just my opinion... :-)

DJJW

Normally you've got to have a bit of a thick waist to keep your curves. I would love to loose my waist but keep the rest!

jamiesgotagun

Ask which one you would want to be a wife and which one you would want to just sleep with...

Haha, that could be interesting!!

amysj303

I think it's one thing if you are a heavier married girl-of course your husband is attracted to you and possibly your type. But I know that my fluffier single friends have a hard time, especially on dating websites, they actually have categories-thin, average, athletic or "heavy" or some term like that and most of the guys exclude those from their search.
I would think they wouldn't have a hard time, they are beautiful girls and I always thought guys like curves and that women are harder on themselves and each other than men are-but I am not so sure!

binary_jester

For me it comes down to body type. No way could I date someone who is thin. Too opposite my body type. I am not saying I'd date someone who can beat me in a arm wrestling match, but lets be real. No guy wants to hear, "You...are...crushing...me!" *gasp* *thud*

skyley

I guess I don't have the normal husband lol he like when I'm smaller I'm petite only 5ft and a size 5 or 6 and when I was pregnant would get bigger and he was always supportive of me loosing it lol which I don't mind because I hate being over a certain weight anyway and wouldn't be happy if I was but everyone has their own opinions

mixmistress508

I have to say curvy is better. I've always had a weight complex, but you know what, I'm a 10/12 and to quote my good friend, I'm "built like a Coke bottle". I have the perfect hourglass shape and I love it. My goal is just to drop a little weight and to tone it up some. I don't want to lose the curves, cause then I wouldn't be me.

And being a curvy girl, I can tell you, when I'm out at a bar, I don't care if they're 22 or 52, they stop and stare when I walk by. So in my opinion, curvy, proportioned is what guys like. So ladies, don't be afraid to accentuate those gorgeous curves...It's what the guys want to see.

We are all beautiful...and don't you forget it!

melodymartinez

I met my husband when I was a size 6. I'm a size 14 now. He tells me he is very much attracted to me and my curves. He has told me that when we started dating he thought I was much too thin and he prefers me now. I think I prefer something in the middle

Nina74

A psych class I took said it was something instinctive about being able to breed good babies - a more nurturing look.

Well heck - I could have a litter!

Psych studies also show the reverse:

In general, when women are ovulating, they tend to be more attracted to thicker/beefier/ "manlier" men as survival of the species. During other times of the month, they are more attracted to wiry/thinner men who may "fulfill an emotional" need.

Either way, I prefer a thicker, "manlier" man over a skinny minny man!

Megooo19

I also think it has less to do with size and more to do with proportion. Most boys I know like skinny girls but they also like girls with butts and boobs and not a girl that is flat as a board all the way around. So I think it depends on what kind of girls your comparing to what kind of answers your going to get. Personally I know that I have a friend who wears a 0, yes a 0 its rediculous, and has a bubble butt and now has newly obtained 32D's and she most definatly gets more attention from guys than I've ever seen even before she got the boobs she got way more attention than any of my other freinds. So I pretty much go off that and say guys like the tiny girls.

Also in class I've learned that white guys tend to like tiny girls while Hespanic and Black men tend to like their women a little bigger. It's a culture thing I think.

AnnaPixie

For me it comes down to body type. No way could I date someone who is thin. Too opposite my body type. I am not saying I'd date someone who can beat me in a arm wrestling match, but lets be real. No guy wants to hear, "You...are...crushing...me!" *gasp* *thud*

I think you got it about right here. Like for like, couples tend to go for similar body types, which, pshychologically probably makes them more comfortable and less self conscious? And yes, less gasps!! :laugh: Obviously there are exceptions.........

'curves' can mean sooooooooo many things!! You can be a curvy size 6 or a curvy size 18?

I prefer a man with a bit of substance as skinny men just make me feel fatter! :bigsmile:

MisdemeanorM

Another interesting thing on this thread is the consistent reference to a 6 being skinny or thin or perhaps not curvy. I know it's a # that a lot of people just throw out there a lot, but really.... a 6 is not skinny. A 6 is rather average, or used to be at least. Or at least not uncurvy, boyish, sickly looking thin. I'm thinking those size 2 gals. Which nearly every model is a 2 or smaller. A 6 is considered heavy in the media world. Look at Jennifer Lopez - known for being curvy and probably thought to be heavier than a lot of other ladies out there - well, she is a size 6. No guy I know thinks celeb 6s are too thin. I don't think people really think size 6 when they think too small (though they may think the #, they are not really thinking the body type. I have always been able to nail a gals size on the dot by looking at her, my hubby, always way off, of course, he doesn't know how women's sizes run, but... just saying, they might THINK that a sz 6 is tiny, but they are really imagining is the body of someone who is a size 2 or size 0 Calista Flockhart type.

I don't think any of these ladies would be labeled too thin / unatractiveliy thin by most men, but all are in the 6 range, (in fact, I have heard some men claim some to be too chunky, I bet they thought they were in the double digit sizes, so what do they really think about real women?)
Jen Lopez, Salma Hayek, Reese Whitherspoon, Beyonce, Jessica Simpson, Kim Kardashian (claims a 4 not a 6)

Now when you start thinking too small... consider these Size 0's
Twiggy, sometimes Angelina Jolie, Renee Zelwegger (minus Bridget Jones), Lily Cole, Eva Longoria (size 00, smaller than a 0), Victoria Beckham, Nichole Richie (not always as bad anymore), and Scarlet Johansson (though I still think of her as curvy, she has totally slimmed down to nothing)

size 0


size 6


and this site has more comparisons up the size chart. I stole their size 6 photo but did not want to take all the rest...
http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/showthread.php?t=1143361

and some surprising size 6s here. You'd guess larger for most of them.
http://www.zimbio.com/Celebrity+News+and+Gossip/articles/AIVTRJlWaP8/Stars+fatter+skinny+Sherri+Shepherd

ashleynicoleb

I don't know- I feel like I always hear that men like the curvier women better than the skinny women, but I never see it applied in real life situations, if that makes sense. I agree with those who have posed the question of who would be picked up in a bar: a beautiful size 6 or a beautiful size 14?? A lot of it has to do with varying perceptions of being "skinny" and "curvy." Personally, I'm never attracted to skinny guys...I like my guys to be bigger and built, but I guess that is another story! Lol

NMay50

I agree with you!

NMay50

I think that you should go for the body that YOU feel comfortable in and what you're happy with, and then your guy should love you for who you are and think you're gorgeous no matter what. Who cares if he likes curvy girls or skinny skinny girls, its sill a projection of what guys think girl's bodies should be, when really it should just be up to a woman what she wants her body to look like.

I agree... I want to be healthy, and fit, as long as it takes to get there.... I'm done trying to fit into someone else's idea, or what the media thinks is acceptable. Maybe that's why I'm "comfortably single".

skyley

Another interesting thing on this thread is the consistent reference to a 6 being skinny or thin or perhaps not curvy. I know it's a # that a lot of people just throw out there a lot, but really.... a 6 is not skinny. A 6 is rather average, or used to be at least. Or at least not uncurvy, boyish, sickly looking thin. I'm thinking those size 2 gals. Which nearly every model is a 2 or smaller. A 6 is considered heavy in the media world. Look at Jennifer Lopez - known for being curvy and probably thought to be heavier than a lot of other ladies out there - well, she is a size 6. No guy I know thinks celeb 6s are too thin. I don't think people really think size 6 when they think too small (though they may think the #, they are not really thinking the body type. I have always been able to nail a gals size on the dot by looking at her, my hubby, always way off, of course, he doesn't know how women's sizes run, but... just saying, they might THINK that a sz 6 is tiny, but they are really imagining is the body of someone who is a size 2 or size 0 Calista Flockhart type.

I don't think any of these ladies would be labeled too thin / unatractiveliy thin by most men, but all are in the 6 range, (in fact, I have heard some men claim some to be too chunky, I bet they thought they were in the double digit sizes, so what do they really think about real women?)
Jen Lopez, Salma Hayek, Reese Whitherspoon, Beyonce, Jessica Simpson, Kim Kardashian (claims a 4 not a 6)

Now when you start thinking too small... consider these Size 0's
Twiggy, sometimes Angelina Jolie, Renee Zelwegger (minus Bridget Jones), Lily Cole, Eva Longoria (size 00, smaller than a 0), Victoria Beckham, Nichole Richie (not always as bad anymore), and Scarlet Johansson (though I still think of her as curvy, she has totally slimmed down to nothing)

size 0


size 6


and this site has more comparisons up the size chart. I stole their size 6 photo but did not want to take all the rest...
http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/showthread.php?t=1143361

and some surprising size 6s here. You'd guess larger for most of them.
http://www.zimbio.com/Celebrity+News+and+Gossip/articles/AIVTRJlWaP8/Stars+fatter+skinny+Sherri+Shepherd

I like this post and how it shows a dif I asked my husband which one and he def liked the size 6 better he said if I looked like the size 0 he would be taking me to the hospital lol

DJJW

and this site has more comparisons up the size chart. I stole their size 6 photo but did not want to take all the rest...
http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/showthread.php?t=1143361




Just checked it out...proof how much body type makes a difference!

MisdemeanorM

I like this post and how it shows a dif I asked my husband which one and he def liked the size 6 better he said if I looked like the size 0 he would be taking me to the hospital lol

I wonder how many men who say they don't like stick girls really think that that 6 is a stick girl though?

Personally, I'd rather be better proportioned at my current size (8) or even a size or two larger than flat on top and chunky on the bottom at a size smaller. W/out some plastic boobs that would never happen on my body type though.

MisdemeanorM

size 6

hmmm... full disclosure... she may actually be a 10 or somewhere between an 8 and a 10 here. But, i have seen lots of gals who are a 6 who look just like this. Might have to do with how tall she is. I have no idea of her height. She's quite a bit thinner than I am and I am an 8 jeans... so...

But, you get the idea... she's not a size 0 but she's not a 14 or 16. And she still has a little meat and looks great (I think). I'd be happy with a 10 if my 10 looked like that! :laugh:

jkestens63

My hubby has always been a chubby chaser - lol. He likes them with curves and has always said that most guys prefer curves cause they are so much more soft to grab and touch as well as looks more feminine. BUT - most guys won't admit it because, especially in the US, the ideal is supposed to be skinny with boobs - ie Playboy girls. And has anyone seen the ad for a show, I think its called "Married to Rock" about rock star wives. I've never watched but there's a promo for it and the woman in the front lieing on her side has huge boobs and is skinny, skinny, skinny. Both my husband and I think she looks sick yet they'll be lots girls and guys out there that say that's what they want to be or have.