Guys like heavier girls?

gethealthygetfit

I know a lot of guys who would agree. My boyfriend is one of them. It's nice having a guy who likes thicker girls, it's less pressure to lose weight. I want to lose weight to get healthy now, not just to look good for m partner. He thinks I look perfect and beautiful now, and that is nice to hear. I need to hear that when I am losing weight. I beat myself up all the time when I am losing weight. I think it's wonderful that guys think that bigger girls are sexier. I have always hoped that guys liked curves and now I guess I am right. Of course there is always that *kitten* that likes the really skinny girls, but I think for the most part they like curvy girls. A curvy doesn't mean fat either. Curvy means hips, legs and butt. It means not being a stick. This is another thing I had to realize in time.

ChuckgM3

Of course there is always that *kitten* that likes the really skinny girls

What makes a guy (or girl) an *kitten* for being attracted to a particular body type (skinny, fat, tall, short, whatever)?

People like what they like, we cannot control what the heart and what the libido want, sexual attraction is different for everyone.

larousse_37

I apologise for getting a little heated, and I'm a huge believer in everyone having their say.

I read the posts simply because I was curious. The main issue I have is women's fixation on body size (mine included... it seems to be a societal norm, but it also seems so unfair to have to carry the burden all the time)... the topic arose simply because there are women who feel inferior to other women based on body shape and size (something in MANY cases is unchangable). My point was simply that there is no need for them to feel that way, and that discussing attractiveness in critical terms will only lead to individual's feeling negatively in some way. Just my two cents :-)

halobender

Do you see any posts about whether women like skinny versus muscular men? Or skinny versus chunky men? No. Why? Because it doesn't matter! And we all prefer different types of people. I personally prefer a bigger guy (by bigger I mean muscular and tall). Does that mean I DON'T like a guy who's skinny or smaller?? No, it's much more important to have a good personality and a nice face, and treat me well. The body is an added bonus if it's there.

Well, I'm glad to see that you didn't take the time to read the thread in its entirety Because this totally comes up. And aside from that, there are comments all across the site. No one gender is innocent of this.

Anyway, all that anyone is really getting out of this is that some men like thicker women and some like really thin women.

Of course there is always that *kitten* that likes the really skinny girls

What makes a guy (or girl) an *kitten* for being attracted to a particular body type (skinny, fat, tall, short, whatever)?

I'm going to take a stab in the dark and assume that it's based entirely in her "About Me" section on her profile. It's the fault of every guy that likes thin girls that she had the issues she's dealt with, of course.

I've known many people with eating disorders, and people who were especially close to me, so please don't think that I completely lack sympathy; I don't want anyone to be unhealthy. But I don't think that my liking thin girls should effect anyone's sense of self-worth. There are lots of thin women I'm not sexually attracted to, as well. But I don't think that any of those things should make me an *kitten*, either.

frankbo25

Skinny is not sexy. I personally love curves on a woman. There is nothing attractive about seeing a womans ribcage and spinal cord. I will also say that Ive seen this at work there are 2 girls that work with me, one is model skinny and the other is what I call "thick". Guess which girl has all the young (and old) guys fawning over her? Not the skinny girl, she is having trouble finding a guy!! GUYS LIKE CURVES!!!

larousse_37

Well I seem to have gotten some people offside, so let me just reiterate one thing. The entire point of my post, was simply to state that some women need to lay off themselves a little bit, and that everyone (no matter what gender) has different preferences, and that's the beauty of life. End of story.

Lets move on and get back to the topic at hand, please :-)

lee112780

Of course there is always that *kitten* that likes the really skinny girls

What makes a guy (or girl) an *kitten* for being attracted to a particular body type (skinny, fat, tall, short, whatever)?

People like what they like, we cannot control what the heart and what the libido want, sexual attraction is different for everyone.

I dont agree that men that like skinny girls are *kitten*, but I can say the only guys I have known that only like skinny girls are *kitten* lol

kasmir8199

It's funny how every guy I've dated likes curvy women, but I never really liked being as voluptuous as I am! LOL! At my absolute thinnest, I was a size 10, and I loved it. I believe I would look sick if I were any smaller. The size 10 back then may have been because of my big butt (which also seems to be a fan favorite among the guys I'm attracted to).

Bottom line for me: I'm not trying to get to a certain size for any man. I want to look a certain way with my inevitable curves and I'm tired of feeling like an amazon! lol

I also have a weird desire to be a fitness model...or at least have the goods enough to be "considered" for a Playboy shoot, lol!

pamp1emousse

I just left another site because of posts like this. Reducing women to numbers as to see who would be more wanted by the opposite sex. Wow, there are way more important things to discuss.

I have to say that I agree. I am an extremely curvy size 6, and on the most part, am aware of the attention I get from men. Let me tell you, these posts have actually made me feel bad about myself.

Guy's its not be all end all. Most men I know don't really caaare. Some like cooky faces, some like classically beautiful faces, some like a huge *kitten*. Some like big boobs. Some like small boobs. I know one particular guy who is engaged to a tiny tiny girl (she's a size 6 australian, size 0 us, weighs under 100lbs) but still adores voluptuous, curvy girls. My partner loves big girls, and has this ridiculous obsession with massive (and I mean massive boobs.. beyond normal sized haha) and started force feeding me when we first met because he thought I was too thin. Everyone is different.

Do you see any posts about whether women like skinny versus muscular men? Or skinny versus chunky men? No. Why? Because it doesn't matter! And we all prefer different types of people. I personally prefer a bigger guy (by bigger I mean muscular and tall). Does that mean I DON'T like a guy who's skinny or smaller?? No, it's much more important to have a good personality and a nice face, and treat me well. The body is an added bonus if it's there.

Sorry if I'm getting a little heating, but I think there's nothing good to come out of these kinds of discussions, it's always going to cause some level of pain or heartache for someone. I honestly believe that women create their own pain and suffering from reading too much into this stuff. If you are a bigger girl, rest easy in knowing there are millions of men out there who think you are gorgeous just the way you are. Just because some people find skinny girls attractive does NOT make you any less valuable.

If everyone looked the same, we'd get tired of looking at eachother.

I completely agree with this. Yes, there have been one or two posts about skinny v muscular men and a few about "it's what's inside that counts", but I think it's safe to say most of the posts are talking about curves vs skinny. And I'd just like to add that seeing as this is MFP I think it's safe to say that most people are on here because they want to change their weight (up or down, lose fat and gain muscle - it doesn't matter what the change is). Bearing this in mind I think that people should approach the issue with a little more sensitivity and remember that there are people of all shapes and sizes on this site, most of whom are not 100% happy with the way they look now. "skinny is not sexy" - maybe this is unfair but I'm pretty sure if someone wrote "flab just is not sexy." that there'd be quite a bit of offence felt and a backlash. It's just not a very supportive comment. I personally feel as a US6/UK10 who's pretty flat chested (and all round boy-shaped), not particularly good about myself.
I think this is a really interesting thread, don't get me wrong, and it's always great to remind ourselves that there are plenty of men who are attracted to curvy women (and all body types for that matter), but let's not use it as an excuse to bash another body type.

soysos

whether conscious or subconscious men are attracted to healthy/fertile looking, and being rail thin just does not look healthy. its not men that create that standard, a mans ideal woman and a woman's ideal woman are two different things.
the guys who only date the skinny girls, I highly doubt that they are actually attracted, they are simply following the fashion.

alantin

This got me wondering because the size 10, 12, etc. didn't tell anything to me, so I did a little google search and found a site called "mybodygallery" that let me search pictures of different size women by body type, height, weight, pant size, and shirt size. So I compared different pics and found that the arrtarctive ones usually fit the BMI range of about 21-24.
Go over that and there is too much belly for my taste (athough there was one pic of a pretty nice looking 185 pound girl who had it all in her hips, so there are exceptions!), go below it and you got skin and bones. Honestly! Who would want to hug a bag of bones?!
I think men are more into body types than pant sizes. For me, pear or hourglass is a real killer with the weight not mattering so much..

Anyway. Healthy weight is sexy!

alantin

Do you see any posts about whether women like skinny versus muscular men? Or skinny versus chunky men? No. Why? Because it doesn't matter! And we all prefer different types of people. I personally prefer a bigger guy (by bigger I mean muscular and tall). Does that mean I DON'T like a guy who's skinny or smaller?? No, it's much more important to have a good personality and a nice face, and treat me well. The body is an added bonus if it's there.

I do agree with your post but there is a difference here. The body might be a bonus for you but it is a BIG deal for men when it comes to attraction. Generally it seems that men are primarily attracted to the way a woman looks like, while women seem to be primarily more into personality traits..
Go figure..

Ps.
This is not to say that personality isn't important for men. If a smoking hot fox turned out to be a complete idiot, that's a real turn off too.

rybo

Just an observation after reading almost every post here, is that it seems that most people don’t consider a girl “skinny” until she’s at the point of too thin, with ribs & bones showing etc. I find that rather flawed.

binary_jester

Ok…I am going to crawl up on my one more time, then I am done.
Larousse_37, I am not picking on you, but I disagree with your point. Society inundates us with what an “ideal” body shape should be. So imagine a female (and this is strictly hypothetical because I would never presume to speak for a female) who thinks men are attracted to a certain ideal. So she thinks as a size 8 she needs to be a size 2 to be attractive. She comes to this site looking to lose weight and lo and behold finds many men are attracted to curvier women. She then might think she is comfortable at a size 8 and decides to maintain that. The surprise expressed by many women here proves my point that there is no ideal and women might just lighten up a little.
And as for guys who only like women who are skinny being *kitten*, would you say the same for a woman saying she only likes men who are muscular? If he come here and said those women are b*tches, would you support him? It is essentially the same principal. Preference is preference. There is no right or wrong to being attracted to curvy women, skinny guys, people of a certain ethnicity, etc. And it doesn’t surprise me that the majority of the men here are attracted to curvy women. MFP draws people of a certain mindset and probably similar points of view. Have this conversation at bodybuilding.com and the conversation would most likely be radically different. Then you might write them off as vain a**holes. But if you are intellectually honest, to support the viewpoints here and criticize them is unfair. Just different mindsets and viewpoints.
To go over there and read a female’s post stating she only likes physically fit men because when bumpin’ uglies, she doesn’t want him out of breath and dropping sweat all over her could be seen as a rejection and I could get offended. But really it is her preference which does not reflect on me personally nor does her opinion lessen me as a person.

alantin

Just an observation after reading almost every post here, is that it seems that most people don’t consider a girl “skinny” until she’s at the point of too thin, with ribs & bones showing etc. I find that rather flawed.

Why do you find it flawed? That is pretty much exactly what the word means..

Definition of SKINNY by www.merriam-webster.com:

1: resembling skin : membranous

2:
a: lacking sufficient flesh : very thin : emaciated
b: lacking usual or desirable bulk, quantity, qualities, or significance

iplayoutside19

A statement like "Guys like heavier girls" is pretty broad. You're only generalizing half the population. Guys are different just like women are different. They like different things. And it's even more complicated than that. I care about things like intelligence and personality, and then you have preferences within that criteria. I know plenty of people who could less about those things. Everyone is different, just be yourself and ignore pop culture.

I will say one thing. The times my male freinds and I have discussed this topic one thing that has never come up is pants size. The fellas don't point out a woman and go "Oh Man, Look at her, I bet she's a size 3" Doesn't work like that. If a man finds you attractive he does not care what your pants size is. Before I was married telling me you were a size 3 would have meant nothing to me.

kaymiller2

And as for guys who only like women who are skinny being *kitten*, would you say the same for a woman saying she only likes men who are muscular? If he come here and said those women are b*tches, would you support him? It is essentially the same principal.

I totally agree. Us women so often have adouble standard for ourselves! :huh: And this whole discussion is hilarious to me! 'Course, that may be cause I am secure in my relationship with my man... He's the best!! (and, no, I am not gonna say what 'body-type' he prefers - nobody's business! ) :laugh: :happy:

esorcel

I know a young woman who weighed above 200 pounds, and after a type of weight loss method she underwent, she rapidly lost 80 pounds in less than 10 months. She was so excited about it, but her husband started treating her harshly. He felt threatened by her thin figure because other men would find her more attractive. She had to slam her feet down to put an end to his treatment and have him understand that this was the new her.

It really depends on the man. I find most men do prefer women with extra weight, but some, such as a lot of high-maintenance men, might differ.

GunNut37086

BUT I think Conan makes that list sometimes, and that's most definitely a personality thing!! :laugh:

You got that right!

The poor guy looks like he fell out of the ugly tree and hit every branch on the way down. But still, he's tall and thin, not heavy.

My wife has said more than once, "how does somebody that ugly get on TV?", I guess he must not have the kind of personality she likes. I count myself lucky that I do, b/c she definitely didn't pick me based on looks.

ckmama

Size 12 and 6 vary. I know people who say they wear a size 12 and they may squeeze into it and believe that is their real size, but not reality.

And who said a size 6 was "skinny" you have the same problem with a 12. People squeeze into a 6 and say they are a 6.

Skinny to me are those girl that look liek 13 year old boys, no hips, no butt, and no boobs. Size varies too much. I think we've been told too many times by media and some men that we arent' wanted cause we are big. And I understand the original posters comments, because it is surprising to find that men picked average size women. Not big women, average. That is no surprise to me.

larousse_37

Ok…I am going to crawl up on my one more time, then I am done.
Larousse_37, I am not picking on you, but I disagree with your point. Society inundates us with what an “ideal” body shape should be. So imagine a female (and this is strictly hypothetical because I would never presume to speak for a female) who thinks men are attracted to a certain ideal. So she thinks as a size 8 she needs to be a size 2 to be attractive. She comes to this site looking to lose weight and lo and behold finds many men are attracted to curvier women. She then might think she is comfortable at a size 8 and decides to maintain that. The surprise expressed by many women here proves my point that there is no ideal and women might just lighten up a little.
And as for guys who only like women who are skinny being *kitten*, would you say the same for a woman saying she only likes men who are muscular? If he come here and said those women are b*tches, would you support him? It is essentially the same principal. Preference is preference. There is no right or wrong to being attracted to curvy women, skinny guys, people of a certain ethnicity, etc. And it doesn’t surprise me that the majority of the men here are attracted to curvy women. MFP draws people of a certain mindset and probably similar points of view. Have this conversation at bodybuilding.com and the conversation would most likely be radically different. Then you might write them off as vain a**holes. But if you are intellectually honest, to support the viewpoints here and criticize them is unfair. Just different mindsets and viewpoints.
To go over there and read a female’s post stating she only likes physically fit men because when bumpin’ uglies, she doesn’t want him out of breath and dropping sweat all over her could be seen as a rejection and I could get offended. But really it is her preference which does not reflect on me personally nor does her opinion lessen me as a person.

I don't really understand how this disagrees with my viewpoint... All pretty agreeable from my understanding. Unless you thought it was me who said guys who like skinny chicks are *kitten*, because I never said that and disagree with that statement0

larousse_37

Ok…I am going to crawl up on my one more time, then I am done.
Larousse_37, I am not picking on you, but I disagree with your point. Society inundates us with what an “ideal” body shape should be. So imagine a female (and this is strictly hypothetical because I would never presume to speak for a female) who thinks men are attracted to a certain ideal. So she thinks as a size 8 she needs to be a size 2 to be attractive. She comes to this site looking to lose weight and lo and behold finds many men are attracted to curvier women. She then might think she is comfortable at a size 8 and decides to maintain that. The surprise expressed by many women here proves my point that there is no ideal and women might just lighten up a little.
And as for guys who only like women who are skinny being *kitten*, would you say the same for a woman saying she only likes men who are muscular? If he come here and said those women are b*tches, would you support him? It is essentially the same principal. Preference is preference. There is no right or wrong to being attracted to curvy women, skinny guys, people of a certain ethnicity, etc. And it doesn’t surprise me that the majority of the men here are attracted to curvy women. MFP draws people of a certain mindset and probably similar points of view. Have this conversation at bodybuilding.com and the conversation would most likely be radically different. Then you might write them off as vain a**holes. But if you are intellectually honest, to support the viewpoints here and criticize them is unfair. Just different mindsets and viewpoints.
To go over there and read a female’s post stating she only likes physically fit men because when bumpin’ uglies, she doesn’t want him out of breath and dropping sweat all over her could be seen as a rejection and I could get offended. But really it is her preference which does not reflect on me personally nor does her opinion lessen me as a person.

I don't really understand how this disagrees with my viewpoint... All pretty agreeable from my understanding. Unless you thought it was me who said guys who like skinny chicks are *kitten*, because I never said that and disagree with that statement.

I'm gathering that your point is that this is a beneficial conversation to have, in response to me saying that it is not. I completely agree that there will be many curvy women here who will feel more comfortable with themselves as a result of this thread. However the original basis of my point was based on a few slightly judgmental or negative comments about different body shapes and sizes. Some comments, all said with good intentions, inadvertently put down other shapes; eg ' I like curvy, who wants to hug bones' that sort of thing. No matter what there is always someone who is going to say your shape is unattractive. I guess what I'm trying to say is that there is a fine line between complementing one body shape and criticizing another, and it's important to maintain a level of sensitivity when talking about these kinds of things. What I was also trying to say in my original post was that there are a lot of curvier women who at times feel inferior to thinner women, as a result of the societal ideal I suppose. My point was that size is less relevant than a lot of women realise and that too much emphasis is placed upon it. I hope that conceptualizes my ideas a little better

ZeOphelia

I wonder how the age of the guy/generation of the guy affects their answer to this question? It would be interesting to find statistics...

chrisdavey

At the end of the day, as long as you are happy with your body who cares what anybody else thinks!

leanmass24

DIdnt read throught the whole thing but, i am pretty sure that most guys like women with curves. You cant really put a size/weight on it cause that depends on the height. Most runway modles are too skinny IMO they look like little boys and of course there is the other end of the spectrum that I wont go into. I think perfect woman for me would be athletic build 5'6" size 6-8 and C cup, if I had to put numbers to it.

KierstyPants

Mine tells me Im loosing my bootie. He said you can do whatever you wan to that waist but do not touch that bootie!!

BAHAHA

muth3rluvx2

At the end of the day, as long as you are happy with your body who cares what anybody else thinks!

This is great in theory, but the truth is - we are all trying to make an impression on *someone* - whether it's a potential employer (I'm betting there's statistics regarding height/weight and position levels out there somewhere - I do know that looks play a huge role in how successful you are; and not it's not a fairness game. Much of it isn't even conscious. We are aesthetic beings by nature.), a potential lover or mate, our existing s.o.'s, our children, our parents, the community at large... there's always an outside-of-ourselves opinionator that has a strong influence on our choices, including weight/size/shape.

My guy likes slightly thicker women (not a chubby chaser and although I was probably a 2 or 4 when we met, I honestly think he likes me better where I am now (around a 10), but I don't. I don't like the way my professional clothes fit - at all. I feel bulky, short and kind of box-ish. I don't feel that this makes a good first impression in a professional environment. I see women a bit taller than me and able to wear sweater dresses with a nice wide elastic belt to show their curves, but not indecently. I think they look fabulous - gorgeous in addition to clean cut, professional - their lines are just so much neater than mine and believe it or not, that matters! I can't wear the clothes that I think would most flatter me in addition to giving me that crisp look I want when I go for a potential interview. I'm short and I'm highly sensitive - but these things *cannot* be obvious. I have to give every appearance of being sharp, together, professional and *always* on the ball! When I walk into a room, that's what I want people to think just by looking at me. Dumpy does NOT portray that at all! It looks...ugh ... sloppy and unkempt, no matter what I put on!

But like many have already suggested, I think much of this has to do with body type. A taller woman who had some extra meat can pull that look off - someone who is short with a 2 finger waist - cannot. The waist-line just gets lost in the rolls. :-( It's hard enough ot find clothes that fit right when you're just short (or conversely, really tall). In order to pull off the look I want, I have to be nothing less than a six, preferably a 4/5 (for me, that's about 115 - I'm 138.6 as of this morning). Now, if I were 2" taller, it wouldn't make nearly as much of a difference. I could be where I'm at weight wise and probably show enough curvature to get that look in a larger sizer and be okay with it.

Trends often drive professionalism as well as sex-appeal. I'm not so much interested in the sex appeal these days (although a nice head turn now and again never hurt a woman's ego! lol!!!) - I AM interested in landing the job I want in my field and appearance has ALOT to do with that. First impressions mean alot more than we might like them to.

Dafrog

I was a size 20 when I got with the guy I am with, now I am a 14/16. I still got a ways to go to. I would say he fell in love with the person not my size. Although he does support my weight lost, cause he wants me to be healthy.

ziggythecat

Personal preference here because I have no idea about sizes:

No smaller than Erica Durance (Lois Lane on Smallville)
No larger than Beyonce with an extra 10-15

Guess I'm a skinny girl kinda guy.

gyftofthewyrm

I tend to prefer curvier gals myself. The rubenesque form is very appealing to me. Im not sure it has anything to do with any one part of the body either (ie just the boobies). Its the over all form for me I think. And this may sound odd and may even sound offensive but please dont take it that way, however...extremely small women (the 6s and 4s mentioned I think?) do not look healthy to me at all. I guess this is just from growing up around very strong, very healthy, very independent minded rubanesque women in my home town.

Dont get me wrong im all for weight loss for health reasons and for your own sense of self worth and appreciation of your body. I mean Ill be honest its one of the reason Im loosing weight. Like one poster said, I believe, we are all trying to make an impression on someone.

As for personal info Im 37 years old. *shrug*

Again I never ment to offend any one with my statements and please forgive me if I did so.

Ill hush now.

Dave
in KY.