Guys like heavier girls?

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  • Valtishia
    Valtishia Posts: 811 Member
    I think a HUGE factor in how "attractive" a girl is is her confidence level. When I was heavier (size 14), I had very little confidence in my image and I shied away from social events. When I'm a size 8 and I know I'm rocking my jeans, my personality is completely different. I feel pretty and I really think it's that confidence that attracts guys. No one wants to date someone that they have to tell over and over they are beautiful to. If you don't think you look good, then why would I? I think it goes the same with girls being attracted to guys. Guys don't have to have a muscular body to be hot. They have to be confident in themselves. Confidence is sooooo sexy.

    Just my opinion... :-)

    My husband shares the same opinion. He lovesssssssssssss confidence!!!!
  • HazelDiva1913
    HazelDiva1913 Posts: 194 Member
    yep most guys like a girl with a some humps and lovely lady lumps...but they usually like them to be like 8-14ish...size wise...however ive always been in a size 16-20 and never really had issues with guys or dating...i dated more than my skinny friends typically...but yea girl your totally right lots of guys like girls w a little cushion...lets face it were just a little more COZY lol
  • kimber607
    kimber607 Posts: 7,128 Member
    WOW...the never ending debate :)
    We all just have to agree to disagree...and different people prefer different body types etc


    I think it is all about proportions and having 'stuff' in all the right places :)
    I think we can all agree that a girl rail thin with NO T&A is fairly unattractive to most men.....looks like a 12 yr old boy

    I do have friend that have lost weight and their SO have become jealous, concerned, and insecure
    that I don't get..if the person u are with is looking better and with you...who give a crap
  • Valtishia
    Valtishia Posts: 811 Member
    My husband is by no means a small man... but that doesn't mean I don't drool a little over a nice set of abs. But that is sorta the point, they are just nice to look at. I have never been comfy with a skinny man or woman. Just can't be attracted, but that is not to say skinny ain't pretty.

    I am totally built for comfort :) and I want the same in my partner!! lol
  • mschroeder22
    mschroeder22 Posts: 19
    I like girls.
    Tall, tiny, chubby, skinny... Gotta luv 'em all :)
  • kt2007
    kt2007 Posts: 302 Member
    I like girls.
    Tall, tiny, chubby, skinny... Gotta luv 'em all :)

    X2 I look at all woman and like all kinds of them. All shape, sizes.
  • LotusF1ower
    LotusF1ower Posts: 1,259 Member
    Normally you've got to have a bit of a thick waist to keep your curves. I would love to loose my waist but keep the rest!

    You do not have to have a thick waist to keep your curves, the closer the waist size is to the hips make less curves.

    I used to ave 32" waist and 43" hips - some people may like that sort of shape, I hated it, I felt fat and couldn't stand accidentally catching my reflection in a shop window, shopping for clothes was a no-no, I found it downright depressing to be honest.

    The odd comment from blokes in pubs ranging from "you look like you've eaten too many pies" to "are you pregnant?" really got on my tits and for that reason I dispute the argument that the vast majority of men prefer bigger women, it was not so in my own experience.

    The story is different now because I have a 26" waist and 37" hips, I no longer get asked if I am pregnant or if I like pies and I have been told quite a few times that I look a hell of a lot better now.

    My husband says that if I am happy - whatever weight - then so is he, but he has also said, since I have lost weight, that he prefers me slim - ironically, it was me that decided to lose weight for myself in the first place and not his influence.

    I prefer me slim :laugh:
    Hmmm. Put a gorgeous size 14 in a bar next to a gorgeous sie 6, I wonder who will get picked up. just sayin...

    Regarding the above comment, agreed, seen it time and again in the pub. Many times it is to do with the confidence of the female I suspect rather than just the weight though.
  • claribeln02
    claribeln02 Posts: 39
    I think that a lot of this might not be which do they find more attractive, but which are they less threatened by / which do they think will not leave them for another better looking guy?

    I mean really - if guys really thought that heavier women were MORE ATTRACTIVE then there would be fluffy gals in all the porn (not just specialty more to love porn) and in all the action movies.

    But, which is more attractive and which are you comfortable sharing a relationship with are two totally separate questions. I'd be interested in seeing a study with slightly different worded questions to find if this makes for different responses.

    also, key question - who had bigger boobs? :wink: :laugh:


    I completely agree with you.
  • binary_jester
    binary_jester Posts: 3,311 Member
    I like girls that talk to me and don't pepper spray me then run off screaming. willy.gif
  • Alioth
    Alioth Posts: 571 Member
    I agree with a lotta things other people have pointed out in this thread so far, on both sides of the issue. There's so many factors to this. But my two cents--

    Having surveyed guys about this stuff before, I've learned that men:

    1) Want to say the right thing, no matter what.
    2) Are often confused about how clothing sizes translate into pounds or curves. Honestly, have you ever gotten random men to guess your weight, ladies? Or band size/waist size? Based on looks alone? (no picking up!) Are they EVER even close?

    Also, their preferences are an indicator of their comfort level and background. Not just how they compare to the opposite sex fitness wise, but also how big the women they were raised with are. The only guys who've protested or second-guessed my weightloss have been men who are themselves moderately overweight to obese. To them, I'm coloring-outside-the-lines, so to speak. And the men I know who prefer heavier women come from families with heavier women.

    So trying to find the real truth on this issue's about as easy as wrassling catfish. :tongue: Good thread!
  • GorillaNJ
    GorillaNJ Posts: 4,024 Member
    I like girls that talk to me and don't pepper spray me then run off screaming. willy.gif
    I thought you would have enjoyed the chase...
  • reneelee
    reneelee Posts: 877 Member
    Marilyn Monroe is one person we usually hold out as a bombshell. Guess what? She was size 14.

    Marilyn monroe's size 14 is todays size 6.
  • binary_jester
    binary_jester Posts: 3,311 Member
    I like girls that talk to me and don't pepper spray me then run off screaming. willy.gif
    I thought you would have enjoyed the chase...
    Last time my eyes burned so bad I ran straight into a wall.
  • kimber607
    kimber607 Posts: 7,128 Member
    I agree with a lotta things other people have pointed out in this thread so far, on both sides of the issue. There's so many factors to this. But my two cents--

    Having surveyed guys about this stuff before, I've learned that men:

    1) Want to say the right thing, no matter what.
    2) Are often confused about how clothing sizes translate into pounds or curves. Honestly, have you ever gotten random men to guess your weight, ladies? Or band size/waist size? Based on looks alone? (no picking up!) Are they EVER even close?

    Also, their preferences are an indicator of their comfort level and background. Not just how they compare to the opposite sex fitness wise, but also how big the women they were raised with are. The only guys who've protested or second-guessed my weightloss have been men who are themselves moderately overweight to obese. To them, I'm coloring-outside-the-lines, so to speak. And the men I know who prefer heavier women come from families with heavier women.

    So trying to find the real truth on this issue's about as easy as wrassling catfish. :tongue: Good thread!


    SO true!!!
    My GF don't even have a clue..they guessed my weight as 118! and I was 130 at the time
    I have always looked smaller or like I weighed less than I actually do
    BUT I went to a plastic surgeon recently and he guessed spot on..he said :what do u weigh around 140'...guess u can't fool a trained eye..LOL
  • redefiningmyself
    redefiningmyself Posts: 476 Member
    I love a woman with curves, but it has never had an impact on my choice in women. We have to be moving in the same direction on all levels. My wife's physical appearance isn't what keeps us together; it's just an added bonus.

    Well said...
  • Alioth
    Alioth Posts: 571 Member

    SO true!!!
    My GF don't even have a clue..they guessed my weight as 118! and I was 130 at the time
    I have always looked smaller or like I weighed less than I actually do
    BUT I went to a plastic surgeon recently and he guessed spot on..he said :what do u weigh around 140'...guess u can't fool a trained eye..LOL

    Oh man, so I guess plastic surgeons are the exception! The secrets those guys keep.
  • skyley
    skyley Posts: 60 Member
    I like girls that talk to me and don't pepper spray me then run off screaming. willy.gif

    good choice lol
  • LotusF1ower
    LotusF1ower Posts: 1,259 Member
    I like girls that talk to me and don't pepper spray me then run off screaming. willy.gif

    LOL

    What you mean the ones who get boxes of mace delivered on a regular basis? You need to watch those ones, they are a little mad :laugh:
  • skyley
    skyley Posts: 60 Member

    Having surveyed guys about this stuff before, I've learned that men:

    1) Want to say the right thing, no matter what.
    2) Are often confused about how clothing sizes translate into pounds or curves. Honestly, have you ever gotten random men to guess your weight, ladies? Or band size/waist size? Based on looks alone? (no picking up!) Are they EVER even close?

    I totally agree with number 2 I remember in high school being around 100 to 105 and a few guys friends swore I weighed around 80 something!
  • binary_jester
    binary_jester Posts: 3,311 Member

    Having surveyed guys about this stuff before, I've learned that men:

    1) Want to say the right thing, no matter what.
    2) Are often confused about how clothing sizes translate into pounds or curves. Honestly, have you ever gotten random men to guess your weight, ladies? Or band size/waist size? Based on looks alone? (no picking up!) Are they EVER even close?

    I totally agree with number 2 I remember in high school being around 100 to 105 and a few guys friends swore I weighed around 80 something!
    ...and this surprises you? Guys are a terrible judge of size.
  • JoyousRen
    JoyousRen Posts: 3,823 Member
    I like girls that talk to me and don't pepper spray me then run off screaming. willy.gif
    I thought you would have enjoyed the chase...
    Last time my eyes burned so bad I ran straight into a wall.
    better than running straight into her jealous boyfriend.
  • MassiveDelta
    MassiveDelta Posts: 3,271 Member
    I thought I would share this
    http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2010/09/100925105837.htm

    ScienceDaily (Sep. 26, 2010) — Men who are looking for short-term companionship are more interested in a woman's body than those looking for a long-term relationship, who focused on a woman's face, according to new research from psychologists at The University of Texas at Austin.

    A woman's body generally provides cues about her state of fertility while her face gives insight into her long-term reproductive value, according to previous research. So the new findings suggest men seeking a short-term relationship have psychological adaptations to look for partners who are fertile and can produce offspring.

    "Men's priorities shift depending on what they want in a mate, with facial features taking on more importance when a long-term relationship is the goal," says psychology graduate student Jaime Confer, who co-authored the research with graduate student Carin Perilloux and Professor David Buss. "Mating is central to the engine of natural selection. This research helps clarify people's preference."
  • mamaisis09
    mamaisis09 Posts: 143
    bump
  • heathersmilez
    heathersmilez Posts: 2,579 Member
    Guys like curves...

    That’s what I hear but it’s really odd the op's results were that the majority chose a size 14 individual as more attractive, really? First of all, were the heads/faces in the photo? A good face and ESPECIALLY good teeth could sway the entire survey.

    When guys say they don't want to date a stick I totally get that, they don’t want a size 0-2 maybe 4 girl but by no means are they looking for a 14 which is most cases is an unhealthy/overweight BMI, a size 6-10 as ideal, that I can see.

    We'll that explains why everyone at my work thinks I'm skinny, I just thought they were crazy, ha! I'm a size 6/8 with 10lbs to lose (first gain in over a decade, dam cruises!) so already I’m a 20.5 BMI at 5’8.5 and if I got down 10 lbs (which will be a stretch, 7 lbs is fine with me) that’s a 19.5 so still a healthy BMI but under that ugly 20#.

    Ha ha, turned this post around to be an ego boost, lol for me! ;)
  • pauldbarnhart
    pauldbarnhart Posts: 5,999 Member
    I like girls that talk to me and don't pepper spray me then run off screaming. willy.gif
    I thought you would have enjoyed the chase...
    Last time my eyes burned so bad I ran straight into a wall.
    better than running straight into her jealous boyfriend.

    :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

    I can't speak for any man but myself....I like my wife, and seldom pay much attention to anyone else. No, I'm not lying. Sure, I see other women, but don't really notice what they look like, unless they are on one of the extremes (ultra skinny or very obese)

    I can honestly say, that when I was looking, I have always been more attracted to women that were "average" builds. I've always thought that people can be too skinny. Being healthy is important, but being too thin is simply not attractive. However, who cares about looks? Society is WAY too hung up on physical appearance - look on the inside first, find your soulmate based on who they really are, and she/he will always be beautiful/handsome to you.
  • heathersmilez
    heathersmilez Posts: 2,579 Member
    Hmmm. Put a gorgeous size 14 in a bar next to a gorgeous sie 6, I wonder who will get picked up. just sayin...

    Regarding the above comment, agreed, seen it time and again in the pub. Many times it is to do with the confidence of the female I suspect rather than just the weight though.
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    I've noticed this about height too. When I'm strutting through the lobby of my office in a skirt and heals more men look at me than a total tiny, tight package hottie that’s near me (cause they are always there, dam marketing firm hires all the 18 year old hotties, lol!)

    Legs seem to be a winner so yay legs!
  • muth3rluvx2
    muth3rluvx2 Posts: 1,156 Member
    One male friend stated that a size 4 was nice to look at, but a size 10 was much better for "bouncing off of" - so for those worried about the guys that are looking when you're out on the street, size 4 may be what catches the eye, but apparently not the heart.

    I've found that my attire has *alot* to do with whether or not I get noticed - not so much my figure (or lack thereof). I was dressed in a suit, heels and made up from a meeting earlier in the day and had on a bulky coat while waiting for my son's bus. Curves, lumps, size etc couldn't really be determined but it was obvious that I had a "professional" appearance. I got several stares from the street and I'm still not 100% why. Other days, even on the warm ones, if I wore a pair of jeans that fit right and held my tush up and a top that was fitted enough to show curves but bulky enough to hide bulk, I didn't get anywhere near the looks I got the other day. I'm an observant person and where I live, that's imperative as passers-by can be of the very questionable sort and you want to know if someone has passed you more than once and keep your eye on them - so I notice when I get looked at. Not because I'm looking for silent compliments but because I need to make sure that someone isn't going to make any unsavory attempts. Needless to say, this also lends itself to noticing the silent compliments as well.
  • pauldbarnhart
    pauldbarnhart Posts: 5,999 Member
    Yes, attire has a lot to do with. Most men like a well dressed woman.

    In reality though... there can be no generalization here. Different men like different women. Plain and simple.

    Everyone's tastes are different.
  • ismatts
    ismatts Posts: 62
    Skinny is my preference.
  • lilRicki
    lilRicki Posts: 4,555 Member
    Same could be said about men, do we like them short and skinny? I for one only dated men that were freakishly tall and "husky"...i don't want a twig. The man I'm about to marry is 6'4 and almost 300lbs with a 56 inch shoulder span...could be that I need taking care of (i'm totally independent and strong woman lol) or it could be that I don't want to dominate anymore. I need my man to bring home the bacon while I take care of the nest...yes ladies, i take care of the nest and the child, because lets face it, i sit on my *kitten* at work all day for 7.5 hours, it's the least i could do. He works hard in the oil patch, for 12 hours a day...he is the provider for this family, i merely keep myself busy and make some spending money. If he were to "lose weight" i'd hope that he comes out with a six back and huge calve musles, i don't want him to look transparent. Not only is his frame not built to be skinny minnie, i don't want to look like a tub of lard standing next to him. Right now I look almost petite when i'm standing next to him...helps that i'm armpit level. so what do you think ladies? skinny men vs "thick" men...i know for myself i prefer thick but not lazy
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