Weird looks and questions when I explain how I lost weight

riffraff2112

Answer a question with another question:

Have you ever danced with the devil in the pale moonlight? :devil:

BATMAN???

riffraff2112

Actually, maybe you are on to something. Maybe what we should do, when we get those questions, is say to the person, "Before I answer you, can you tell me how you gained the weight you are looking to lose?" And when they say something like, "well I eat too much" or "I stopped going to the gym", we should say, "what do you mean? Isn't there a pill that you took that helped you get fat? No? Well why do you think there is a pill which will make you not fat? Do the opposite of what got you there. That is the answer to your question. "

Oh this is perfect. Why didn't I think of this because it is the perfect answer/comment.

xenu01

Ugh, I hate that. I've had donuts actually shoved in my face on multiple occasions (at work AND by relatives).

imvandeen

It's really easy, you just say " ###! ". (censored, bedroom activity)

"Loads and loads of regular & very energetic 53X".

(depending on who it is you are talking too you may wish to expand on this ;-)

Said with a confident cheeky smile and a wink there's not a lot more they can say.

eg.

My mates wife was complimenting me on my change the other day & telling me how she wished my mate would lose a few pounds too.

I told her my "secret", she looked a bit shocked at first, & didn't say anything more, but obviously took it on board.

My mate hasn't lost any weight yet, but he looksl really happy & has promised me a night on the beer whenever I fancy it. :-)
I've told him he better start cutting down on his food so she thinks it's working & continues with the "program" though.

Go on spread the joy & lie a little, it'll make them happier than telling them to eat & excercise sensibly.

(I've edited the word out in case it's against forum rules.)

alexsondra34

people keeps hoping for shortcuts that's why they are dissapointed.
Nowadays evrything is quick, quick, want it now get it now, so perseverance and discipline are alien concepts and on top of that companies have been making millions since the 50's selling us the dream that a pill will fix everything so they think "find the right pill and everything will be alright" from heartburn to mental health, and now surgery....

If i was you i'd just tell them " a lot of time and effort, there's no shortcuts. If you want to lose weight you have to make a lifestyle change and see where the problem lies, good luck to you" or just send them to their GP.

I personally find it rude to remark on other people's appearance without their asking you what you think, people just assume that you are looking for their feedback, you'd think that once we become adults we get over the pettiness of school gossip and popularity contests but that's just not the case.

Have patience, the novelty will wear off.

Ryan_Case

I had a doc at work giving me a hard time about it a couple months ago. (In a friendly manner) suggesting I could be sick, or had bariatric surgery. I replied, "nope, it's just meth." and walked off. :laugh:

biggsterjackster

I had a doc at work giving me a hard time about it a couple months ago. (In a friendly manner) suggesting I could be sick, or had bariatric surgery. I replied, "nope, it's just meth." and walked off. :laugh:

:laugh: Perfect answer.

biggsterjackster

My aunt did not believe me, that I lost so much weight by eating less and exercising more so she told everyone, that I probably had liposuction surgery. Sure, yes, the doc sucked 20 lbs fat out of my body. :laugh:

ScottH_200

I just tell people who ask, I've lost/losing the old fashioned way. Having said that, my experience is that after having lost over a hundred pounds in 10 months and 30 lbs to goal, most people I know don't say or ask anything about it.

icrushit

No weird looks or questions here, but then I tend to only tell people who ask, and like most things in life, people already have a good idea what to do, they just don't want to do it, lol.

elisa123gal

I've not lost 100lbs, but just last week a family friend asked me how I was losing weight. She got a weird look when I told her I was just watching what I eat and started exercising, and mentioned MFP. I don't think it was that she didn't believe me, but rather disappointment that it wasn't some magic solution that would instantly solve all of her weight problems too.

Amen…this is right on. no one wants to hear that you have to actually work at it.. lol:flowerforyou:

MKEgal

I don't think it was that she didn't believe me, but rather disappointment that it wasn't some magic solution that would instantly solve all of her weight problems too.

Yep. People want an easy fix.

"so, you obsess then??"

I admit, at first it does seem a little obsessive, and maybe that's what has to happen up front so we learn what healthy eating looks / feels like.

I also get asked at least once a day if I am anorexic because I turn down things like pizza

I love pizza! I try to hit pizza night every month at my gym.
Everything in moderation. As long as I've planned my calories for that day to include it, no problem.

there is no magic pill out there to help with weight loss

Well, appetite-control medicine comes pretty close. What a wonderful invention!
But that's only for a few months.

they want to give me some BS advice- like "You should try that South Beach Diet- that'll make you lose tons of weight." And this is usually coming from someone that is very out of shape, yet contends that they know the secrets to weight-loss

LOL
Yeah, I have trouble taking advice from someone who is obviously unhealthy.
When I had an appointment with an exercise therapist who was fatter than I was (when I was being evaluated, starting my weight loss program) it was hard to take her seriously. And she basically told me to keep doing what I'd been doing, so it was a waste of time/money.

I can't eat one of those, I have my FitBit on today" and someone (who has no idea what a FitBit is or how it works) said, "oh my god, does it give you an electric shock if you eat something you aren't supposed to?"

I go with "tape worm and running from the police".

LOL!

it's human nature to want to believe in some mysterious medical factors that must be complicating the equation

Amen! Look at how many people quickly jump to "it must be my thyroid isn't working right" when really they just need to ELMM (eat less, move more).

I exercise with a trainer 4 times a week

There's no need for that.
Any reputable personal trainer will want you to be able to work on your own, not keep you on the hook to make more money.
Buy several hours of her/his time and tell her/him you want to learn how to safely do exercises, use machines & free weights, increase the intensity of your program (& know when to do so), and have her/him set you up with a starting program (written down).
Maybe get in touch every month or two for a tune-up, be sure you're progressing well.

I personally find it rude to remark on other people's appearance without their asking you what you think

I will be thrilled when someone I haven't seen for a while asks, "have you lost weight?"!
Yes, I have, and thank you for noticing.
Hasn't happened yet, but I keep hoping. :frown: :sad:
I mean, heck, I'm only down 50 lb, right? 20% of my starting weight. Not like that's noticible. :grumble:

palomalou2

My guess is that people don't want that answer because it makes them feel guilty about their own behavior. There can't be actually be anyone out there who doesn't know that "calories in, calories out" determines weight trajectory, right?

Jazz_2014

How do you guys explain it to people? Do you notice the same thing or is it just me? It seems they want to know a secret or something, and are disappointed that I don't have something more profound to say. I would really like to hear from those of you that lost a lot of weight. My weight loss wasn't dramatic and some people don't even notice it. Dying to know how someone who lost 100 lbs by counting calories feels about the reactions people have to their explanation of how they did it.

I would say your weight loss is dramatic. You've almost lost 50lbs. But I understand the question as I've heard the same questions starting with about 25lbs off. And I agree people often want to know "the secret" in how I've lost my weight and look disappointed when they find out it is just eating healthy and exercising.
I'm like most posters, I don't offer much info unless they ask further. My suggestion then is to pick one of their bad habits and substitute it with a good habit. Make it a habit and then pick another bad habit and substitute it with another good habit. And just keep on with that process.
(example: if they drink cokes, substitute for water) (if you eat starchy veggies, eat non starchy veggies) (sit around watching television too much, get up and walk or some other form of movement)
I have a huge list of new habits.