Is it rude to snub someone?

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  • No_Finish_Line
    No_Finish_Line Posts: 3,661 Member
    What is the purpose of snubbing if not to be intentionally rude to someone?

    That's the point,i am trying to be hurtful towards her to show that I don't care about her

    People who don't care don't have to be hurtful to prove anything.

    They're busy not caring.

    sounds like a break up lol
  • JoRocka
    JoRocka Posts: 17,525 Member
    You weren't even friends- you have already invested WAY to much time into this.

    Just keep nodding and saying hi.
  • bookworm_847
    bookworm_847 Posts: 1,903 Member
    I'd say it's rude. You don't have to pretend to be best friends with the person, but at least be civil.
  • 365andstillalive
    365andstillalive Posts: 663 Member
    Listen, OP: You've had a conversation where you expressed that you disagreed with her behaviour. She/he apologized. Sincere or not, it's time to move on.

    She/he isn't your friend anymore, that's fine. But to be intentionally rude or try to hurt someone's feelings sits right on the border line of bullying/revenge depending on if you happen to be over the age of 12 or not.

    Instead of letting it get to you every time you see them, realize that you have an entire life filled with things that don't involve that person and that being polite and saying "hi" when it's extended to you is just part of being a social, human being.

    Dear god, I Can't wait until you end up having to work with someone and don't get along with them or something -- it's really just a fact of life.

    Don't be rude. Use your manners. Be a grown up.
    /end thread.
  • salembambi
    salembambi Posts: 5,585 Member
    ignore them pretend they are shrubbery
  • kaseyr1505
    kaseyr1505 Posts: 624 Member
    This sounds like a page out of my middle school diary..
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    I am SO in. *LOL*


    "I want to be rude to show her I don't care, but need random stranger's input first."


    WAAAAY too much energy is being put into this. If you care that much, you should just tell her, "Listen, I know you apologized, but I still think you're a ***** and really wish nothing to do with you."

    There. Done. Move on.
  • randomtai
    randomtai Posts: 9,003 Member
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  • heidispideymfp
    heidispideymfp Posts: 179 Member
    Yes it's rude. There is a couple in my town who go out of their way to offend me, but I refuse to lower myself to their level
  • msf74
    msf74 Posts: 3,498 Member
    ignore them pretend they are shrubbery

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  • GiveMeCoffee
    GiveMeCoffee Posts: 3,556 Member
    Am I back in junior high?
  • redromad275
    redromad275 Posts: 884 Member
    i would say ignoring anyone is rude, i never turn my nose up or ignore anyone, if they say hi say hi back and walk on by. be the bigger person

    What he said^ I recently went through the OP 's scenario but I continue to acknowlege the individual even though I would like to throat punch them.
  • Chibukalu908
    Chibukalu908 Posts: 212
    i would say ignoring anyone is rude, i never turn my nose up or ignore anyone, if they say hi say hi back and walk on by. be the bigger person

    What he said^ I recently went through the OP 's scenario but I continue to acknowlege the individual even though I would like to throat punch them.

    screw that, i cant even look at this person and I will not force myself to talk to her .I have had someone stopped talking to me at work for no reason before so I don't see why its a big deal
  • msf74
    msf74 Posts: 3,498 Member
    I think as well as walking by her and saying nothing you should add in a strategically timed hair flip:

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  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    i would say ignoring anyone is rude, i never turn my nose up or ignore anyone, if they say hi say hi back and walk on by. be the bigger person

    What he said^ I recently went through the OP 's scenario but I continue to acknowlege the individual even though I would like to throat punch them.

    screw that, i cant even look at this person and I will not force myself to talk to her .I have had someone stopped talking to me at work for no reason before so I don't see why its a big deal

    Obviously you DO see that it's a big deal.


    You, honey, are the epitome of passive aggressive. And I'll let you in a little secret. No one, and I mean no one, likes a passive aggressive person.

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  • Lauren8239
    Lauren8239 Posts: 1,039 Member
    If you're an adult, it's rude. If you're a kid, it's childish. If you're a teenager, it's still rude. There's enough rudeness in this world, why not try to reverse that?
  • Therealobi1
    Therealobi1 Posts: 3,262 Member
    yes it would be rude to snub them. just do the nod and move on
    sounds though really you need to have a talk with this person to discuss your feelings, you seem really upset about what happened and their apology. i bet you they are oblivious to your feelings.
  • emdeesea
    emdeesea Posts: 1,823 Member
    Okay so if you're going to just do whatever you want, then why did you ask?
  • JenAndSome
    JenAndSome Posts: 1,893 Member
    I can only imagine the amount of relief this person would feel knowing that they no longer have to pretend to even care enough to say "Hi" in passing. I say you send them a memo absolving them of this level of acquaintance-responsibility. That will really stick it to them.
  • _Tink_
    _Tink_ Posts: 3,845 Member
    What is the purpose of snubbing if not to be intentionally rude to someone?

    That's the point,i am trying to be hurtful towards her to show that I don't care about her

    Rude and childish.
  • TheNewPriceIsLoading
    TheNewPriceIsLoading Posts: 2,135 Member
    What is the purpose of snubbing if not to be intentionally rude to someone?

    That's the point,i am trying to be hurtful towards her to show that I don't care about her

    Rude and childish.

    Right. Grow up.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    ignore them pretend they are shrubbery

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    This makes this thread totally worth it.
  • Collier78
    Collier78 Posts: 811 Member
    i would say ignoring anyone is rude, i never turn my nose up or ignore anyone, if they say hi say hi back and walk on by. be the bigger person

    What he said^ I recently went through the OP 's scenario but I continue to acknowlege the individual even though I would like to throat punch them.

    screw that, i cant even look at this person and I will not force myself to talk to her .I have had someone stopped talking to me at work for no reason before so I don't see why its a big deal

    You aren't really talking to her. You are acknowledging her "hi", the same way you might to a complete stranger on a walking trail. It's called being polite and being a grown up. Intentionally snubbing someone and being hurtful is childish. Grow up.
  • tabicatinthehat
    tabicatinthehat Posts: 329 Member
    Yes it's rude, but wouldn't that kinda be the point? If you care at all about manners, why would you "snub" anyone?
  • PikaKnight
    PikaKnight Posts: 34,971 Member
    i would say ignoring anyone is rude, i never turn my nose up or ignore anyone, if they say hi say hi back and walk on by. be the bigger person

    What he said^ I recently went through the OP 's scenario but I continue to acknowlege the individual even though I would like to throat punch them.

    screw that, i cant even look at this person and I will not force myself to talk to her .I have had someone stopped talking to me at work for no reason before so I don't see why its a big deal

    Obviously you DO see that it's a big deal.


    You, honey, are the epitome of passive aggressive. And I'll let you in a little secret. No one, and I mean no one, likes a passive aggressive person.

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    Watch out Odus, otherwise she'll put you on ignore. Then spend her next 5 posts talking about how funny it is someone who is on ignore is being ignored, even though, technically, you aren't ignoring them if you keep responding them even if not directly.

    #passiveAggressiveTactics
  • bugaboo_sue
    bugaboo_sue Posts: 552 Member
    *checks profile*

    Ok. OP is 20 years old so yeah. Stands to reason why they would want to act in such a childish way.
  • meganjcallaghan
    meganjcallaghan Posts: 949 Member
    1.rebuff, ignore, or spurn disdainfully.

    noun
    an act of showing disdain or a lack of cordiality by rebuffing or ignoring someone or something.


    so....of course it is. was that a legit question?
  • TheVirgoddess
    TheVirgoddess Posts: 4,535 Member
    *checks profile*

    Ok. OP is 20 years old so yeah. Stands to reason why they would want to act in such a childish way.

    Was wondering how anyone got to be a "grown up" without knowing how to act like one. It all makes sense.
  • meganjcallaghan
    meganjcallaghan Posts: 949 Member
    What is the purpose of snubbing if not to be intentionally rude to someone?

    That's the point,i am trying to be hurtful towards her to show that I don't care about her

    but clearly you do. if you truly didn't care this thread would never have happened.
  • pobalita
    pobalita Posts: 741 Member
    They offended you and apologized. The apology wasn't good enough for you and now you want to snub them to hurt them. I'd say go ahead and snub them - they are better off without you.

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