Is it rude to snub someone?

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  • LeenaJean
    LeenaJean Posts: 276 Member
    What is the purpose of snubbing if not to be intentionally rude to someone?

    That's the point,i am trying to be hurtful towards her to show that I don't care about her

    So you want to be rude and you're just double checking with us if this is rude?

    What are you really asking???
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    Omg - I had to contain my friggin' laughing over here at my desk.

    Haha! Me too.
    BTW, I love that show :)
  • I_need_moar_musclez
    I_need_moar_musclez Posts: 499 Member
    Ah man, I so wanted this thread to have zero replies!
  • CaitlinW19
    CaitlinW19 Posts: 431 Member
    Okay so if you're going to just do whatever you want, then why did you ask?

    My thoughts exactly. You are spending a lot of time and engery thinking about a person that you "don't care about".

    Ignoring a person is always rude so if you were looking for confirmation of that because it's how you want to be, you have it. It is imature and rude.
  • shadowofender
    shadowofender Posts: 786 Member
    So once upon a time that exact scenario sounded like my life. But I was seriously sixteen at the time. In the years since (and I am by no means a mature adult at only 23) I've learned that it takes soooooooooooooo much energy to be rude. If I don't like someone and don't want to talk to them, I don't, but I still say "Hello, how are you?" in passing and my life has gotten so much less stressful and dramatic. It makes me a happier person the better I treat other people, and I was wasting time and energy on being rude or hating people. Of course, there's still those that drive me insane, but such is life, and I do my best to get over it.
  • Serah87
    Serah87 Posts: 5,481 Member
    OP you have major issues, seek help!!!
  • dMonster01
    dMonster01 Posts: 214 Member
    bump

    you win.
  • Pirate_chick
    Pirate_chick Posts: 1,216 Member
    yes.
  • leannems
    leannems Posts: 516 Member
    Ignoring someone when they say hi to you is rude.

    But if you don't like the person, perhaps you're going for rude, so it might not matter.

    Edited - after actually reading replies, what you're asking is whether snubbing her is rude enough to hurt her? Yeah - probably not. If she's an adult she's not going to give a crap that you ignore her, particularly if you're the type of person that contemplates slashing tires.

    Essentially what I'm saying is that nothing you can do will rise to the level of hurting her if she's more mature than you. There should be no point in hurting her. If you don't like her, just forget about her and live your life.
  • Hearts_2015
    Hearts_2015 Posts: 12,032 Member
    Childish and rude. Talk to your friend like a grown up.

    she was not my friend but someone I know and I have no interest talking to them after she intentionally hurt my feelings and embarrass me in front of everyone
    Sounds like a Jr. high issue.... :laugh: MFP requires a member to be at least 18, it sounds like you might not be old enough yet to be a member (mentally)...... Adults don't act like this or find the need to begin a thread about it. Decide what you want to do and just do it! :yawn:
    So once upon a time that exact scenario sounded like my life. But I was seriously sixteen at the time. In the years since (and I am by no means a mature adult at only 23) I've learned that it takes soooooooooooooo much energy to be rude. If I don't like someone and don't want to talk to them, I don't, but I still say "Hello, how are you?" in passing and my life has gotten so much less stressful and dramatic. It makes me a happier person the better I treat other people, and I was wasting time and energy on being rude or hating people. Of course, there's still those that drive me insane, but such is life, and I do my best to get over it.
    OP sounds like 16, you on the other hand are very mature at 23 and have learned that life is to short to worry about the trite things.:flowerforyou: :drinker:
  • Kimdbro
    Kimdbro Posts: 922 Member
    What is the purpose of snubbing if not to be intentionally rude to someone?

    That's the point,i am trying to be hurtful towards her to show that I don't care about her

    OMFG... how old are you??? Straight up 9th grade behavior right there. An ADULT that still felt slighted by the friend/aquaintance would approach the person and state that they were still having issue with what was said and why. If still no resolution, an ADULT would simply continue their life as a normal human being, meaning, while they may not go out of their way to see or talk to the person, would in fact still say 'hello' back if that person said 'hello' to them. Grow up for eff sakes and pitter patter away from the grown up forums.
  • shadowofender
    shadowofender Posts: 786 Member
    What is the purpose of snubbing if not to be intentionally rude to someone?

    That's the point,i am trying to be hurtful towards her to show that I don't care about her

    OMFG... how old are you??? Straight up 9th grade behavior right there. An ADULT that still felt slighted by the friend/aquaintance would approach the person and state that they were still having issue with what was said and why. If still no resolution, and ADULT would simply continue their life as a normal human being, meaning, while they may not go out of their way to see or talk to the person, but would in fact still say 'hello' back if that person said 'hello' to them. Grow up for eff sakes and pitter patter away from the grown up forums.


    See, now you're just making all kinds of sense.

    I don't get how not caring about someone or something thing directly translates into "must be rude to them so they KNOW I don't care....
  • diespel
    diespel Posts: 700
    it is not rude if the person is the OP
  • knitapeace
    knitapeace Posts: 1,013 Member
    Ah, "the cut direct." Let's let a true expert weigh in, shall we?

    http://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/style/miss-manners-silent-treatment-is-justified-in-cases-of-bad-behavior/2014/08/15/34d5ea7e-23ec-11e4-86ca-6f03cbd15c1a_story.html
  • hookilau
    hookilau Posts: 3,134 Member
    Yes, I think it's rude.
    Say hello, make small talk if it's awkward & keep it moving.
  • deksgrl
    deksgrl Posts: 7,237 Member
    It depends on if you are snubber or the snubee.
  • hookilau
    hookilau Posts: 3,134 Member
    ignore them pretend they are shrubbery

    snub shrub
    :laugh:
  • SusanL222
    SusanL222 Posts: 585 Member
    What is the purpose of snubbing if not to be intentionally rude to someone?

    That's the point,i am trying to be hurtful towards her to show that I don't care about her

    OMFG... how old are you??? Straight up 9th grade behavior right there. An ADULT that still felt slighted by the friend/aquaintance would approach the person and state that they were still having issue with what was said and why. If still no resolution, an ADULT would simply continue their life as a normal human being, meaning, while they may not go out of their way to see or talk to the person, would in fact still say 'hello' back if that person said 'hello' to them. Grow up for eff sakes and pitter patter away from the grown up forums.

    Oh, she did and she, the OP, gave a big going-away party today and lots of people came by to wave her off. It was truly a fun party, but I had to leave early and when I returned to the shindig, it had poofed! :ohwell: I was some wicked sad, bc lots of people brought some fun send-off gifs and I was looking forward to a lot more belly-type laughs!
  • hookilau
    hookilau Posts: 3,134 Member
    What is the purpose of snubbing if not to be intentionally rude to someone?

    That's the point,i am trying to be hurtful towards her to show that I don't care about her

    umm...
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  • AllOutof_Bubblegum
    AllOutof_Bubblegum Posts: 3,646 Member
    What is the purpose of snubbing if not to be intentionally rude to someone?

    That's the point,i am trying to be hurtful towards her to show that I don't care about her

    What is wrong with you?
  • Kimdbro
    Kimdbro Posts: 922 Member
    What is the purpose of snubbing if not to be intentionally rude to someone?

    That's the point,i am trying to be hurtful towards her to show that I don't care about her

    OMFG... how old are you??? Straight up 9th grade behavior right there. An ADULT that still felt slighted by the friend/aquaintance would approach the person and state that they were still having issue with what was said and why. If still no resolution, an ADULT would simply continue their life as a normal human being, meaning, while they may not go out of their way to see or talk to the person, would in fact still say 'hello' back if that person said 'hello' to them. Grow up for eff sakes and pitter patter away from the grown up forums.

    Oh, she did and she, the OP, gave a big going-away party today and lots of people came by to wave her off. It was truly a fun party, but I had to leave early and when I returned to the shindig, it had poofed! :ohwell: I was some wicked sad, bc lots of people brought some fun send-off gifs and I was looking forward to a lot more belly-type laughs!

    Was that the ragequit "I'm leaving the chit chat fun and games forums" post from earlier? The one that stated the OP was going to seek mature answers from the alternate non-fitness sites? lol. That one had some good gifs... it seems to have disappeared. :grumble:
  • hookilau
    hookilau Posts: 3,134 Member
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    me, rushing to read the last 4 pages before the lock O.o
  • hookilau
    hookilau Posts: 3,134 Member
    i would say ignoring anyone is rude, i never turn my nose up or ignore anyone, if they say hi say hi back and walk on by. be the bigger person

    What he said^ I recently went through the OP 's scenario but I continue to acknowlege the individual even though I would like to throat punch them.

    screw that, i cant even look at this person and I will not force myself to talk to her .I have had someone stopped talking to me at work for no reason before so I don't see why its a big deal

    You really can't think of ONE reason, huh?

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  • Kimdbro
    Kimdbro Posts: 922 Member
    OP hasn't been back in awhile... I sense we're being snubbed. lol.

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    **edited to add gif... might as well make it fun. :bigsmile:
  • hookilau
    hookilau Posts: 3,134 Member
    Iike what I said I have no interest in talking to her and its not in me to pretend to like someone if I cant stand them.I am not obligated to talk to her.I don't owe her anything. I contemplated to slush their tires but I decided no to so they are lucky that I decided to just snub them

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  • LINIA
    LINIA Posts: 1,161 Member
    You are young ( from the pics ) so you have a lot of living yet to do. My suggestion is to continue to be cordial. There are always two sides or three sides even to what happened between you.

    So unless the person stole from you or directly assaulted you,in which case things are different, then try to be kind and forgiving.

    I have misjudged people who ended up helping me out in huge ways and who can predict the future, aren't we all struggling?
  • Marbella29660
    Marbella29660 Posts: 71 Member
    Yes
  • chelseafxx
    chelseafxx Posts: 251 Member
    Don't say hi back just give them the "I don't like you smile".

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    THIS is the key to life. Even better just because its Ali from PLL :love: :heart:
  • Oscarinmiami
    Oscarinmiami Posts: 326 Member
    just say hi and keep on walking
  • jkal1979
    jkal1979 Posts: 1,896 Member
    Is anyone else curious as to what had the OP so offended that she doesn't even want to say hello to this girl?

    Come on OP, spill it.
  • minionmichjourney
    minionmichjourney Posts: 1,571 Member
    just say hi and keep on walking

    Agree...

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