They forgot my birthday

Mikkimeow

Today, of all days on this Earth, is my day of birth. The day that many celebrate with dancing and fountains of wine. Yet, upon arriving to my office today, there was no cake, no cards, not one streamer, and exactly zero "Felix Cumpleanos" renditions. Imagine my surprise, since it is quite customary for a certain amount of hullabaloo to occur when other employee's dates of birth come to be. I jokingly asked my boss if he had hidden my cake somewhere, to only realize with horror that he had no idea that it was my birthday. In fact, no one did. And when I gently asked for a long lunch because a friend wanted to take me out for my birthday, he waved me away like a passing fly.

And here we are, folks. Me, with all the butthurt in the world. Contemplating leaving work early and buying myself an icecream cake from Dairy Queen, and splitting it with my toddler in a mountain of self pitying tears. Do I tell myself to buck up, or do I ask why every one else gets at least some sort of recognition for their birthday? Please tell me how many levels of spoiled brat I am being.

George_Baileys_Ghost

My birthday was last Monday. My own mother still hasn't called me.

Organicgasm

I think it is natural to be upset if they usually do something for everyone else..... But any excuse to sit around and eat an ice cream cake alone sounds great to me...

srslybritt

Leave early, come to my house, and the ice cream cake will be ready and waiting.

_John_

srslybritt

Oh. And just break up.

George_Baileys_Ghost

Also, is it possible that they don't recognize you with your face like that?

_Tink_

My birthday was last Monday. My own mother still hasn't called me.

My mother hasn't called me in about 5-6 years, for birthdays or anything else. I win!

Mikkimeow

Also, is it possible that they don't recognize you with your face like that?

That is quite possible that my clay mask is confusing them as to whom this strange creature is grunting about cake in Mikki's office.

BlueBombers

I prefer that no one knows it's my birthday.

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LoneWolf_70

i feel like women care about birthdays so much more than men.

sculli123

My mother is the only one that ever remembers it. Then again, I don't care if anyone else remembers it anyway. I just buy myself something and eat a massive cheat meal. lol

abear007

Not sure why, but I just as soon people at work not know or recognize my birthday in any way. I'd feel weird if they did. As for family members, I'm good with just a text message or a post on Facebook - don't really care much for cards. One tradition we do have is that each of us gets to pick a restaurant to eat at on our birthday. I do like that!

ellenshu615

Take the high road and act like it's no big deal. Keep going on your path to self-improvement. THEN, down the road when you are feeling beautiful and super self-confident, start interviewing for another job. Everything happens for a reason ... maybe the Universe wants to remind you there are much better opportunities and colleagues in your future! HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!

devil_in_a_blue_dress

At work....

ok.

WhatAnAss

Maybe there will be a big end of the day surprise!

Original_Sinner

zero cares given.

seriously.....

I work in a school....so September is our "new year" and everyone's all happy and we've bought cake for the birthdays in the office this month (like always)

but come April, (my birthday) there will be nothing, exactly like the past years, because the enthusiasm has died down, people are busy, and we all just want to get stuff done and outta here...

it's your job, they don't pay you to be butthurt, they pay you to work. If you wanna be butthurt by all means do so.

But it's only hurting you and your mood. Personally I'm glad they miss mine, I hate all that frou frou

edited for language.

VeryKatie

I have this weird feeling around my birthday and try to see how long I can go without people noticing at work. I feel like I'm winning the longer it goes, like I have a special secret. And then someone will out my secret and it will be awkward for a minute and then it's nice. So I feel good either way? I'm strange.

miss_jessiejane

Get over it!!!

Strange_magic

This is why I always take my birthday off...

JustAnotherGirlSuzanne

I used to be the one in the office who remembered everyone's birthday and made a big deal about them... but no one remembered mine either. I should have just told them it was my day or worn that big button that said "It's my Birthday" on it.

_crafty_

Nobody in my office knows when my birthday is. Not sure what I'd do with all the in person "Happy Birthday" wishes. I'm so used to getting nothing but electronic (text, Kik, Facebook etc) birthday wishes that actually hearing someone say it out loud would probably put me in shock.

ILiftHeavyAcrylics

My husband remembered my birthday last year. And a friend who was barely more than an acquaintance then (she's a much closer friend now). My best friend planned a dinner for me, then forgot and went out of town without telling me. So. That was fun.


eta: my boss remembered that she had forgotten two months later and my office had a party. Which was kind of fun actually. It was like a surprise birthday.

Zechariahblack

F - it.
Life is too short for self pity.

Otterluv

Honestly, if the cost of being fussed over is having to say "thanks! Um, yeah, so xxxx years old now" ALL FREAKING DAY, then I'd take being forgotten. Plus, now you aren't beholden to remember any of their birthdays, which is great, because that is honestly a total PITA.

There, bright side! :drinker:


And: HAPPY BIRTHDAY! Leave early. Buy the cake. Eat the cake. Play with the toddler. But no tears.

Cliffslosinit

Happy birthday....now get back to work!

beaches61

I personally I think people who expect colleagues to remember their birthday and make a big deal out of it are expecting too much.

I once had a subordinate who was like that. She was very pouty if she we all didn't make a big deal out of it.

I have so much more to do at work than celebrate someone's birthday, and I don't care if they remember mine.

Birthday are for families, IMO.

But since you mentioned it, happy birthday.

besaro

maybe they are planning a surprise party?! practice your shocked face, make sure to check the conference room

bigblondewolf

Well, since no one else has said it... Happy Birthday!

I wouldn't be too upset over it. I mean, do you really care if the people you're paid to be around celebrate your birthday? It sounds like you've got some awesome friends who took you out for lunch and a happy little toddler at home who can give you all the birthday hugs you want :happy:

ValGogo

"they effing forgot my birthday!"
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