My Boyfriends dog is number one, I am number two.

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  • hill2302
    hill2302 Posts: 139 Member
    Hold on here a second folks. We're missing a huge part of the equation. The OP left out a vital piece of information I think we all need to know before doling out advice like uppers at a cheerleading convention.

    Now... exactly what kind of dog is this?
  • keb80
    keb80 Posts: 394
    I think its really cute and actually a turn-on when I guy loves his dog but that's definitely over the top. Especially having it in the bedroom... that would creep me out.
  • brewingaz
    brewingaz Posts: 1,136 Member
    Next time he's laying down cuddling with his dog on the floor, strut around in something sexy. If he ignores you, then you have a tough decision to make.
  • koosdel
    koosdel Posts: 3,317 Member
    I think you need another dog. Or a cat. Dogs love cats.
  • Shannon023
    Shannon023 Posts: 14,529 Member
    hhmmmm...there's nothing interesting on page 1 of "Chit Chat, fun and Games" so I'll click on page 45 and see what was going on last January. :huh:

    mo'kay! :laugh:
  • ilookthetype
    ilookthetype Posts: 3,021 Member
    I get a lot of what your bf is doing, I have a dog, I have left places early because I have to let her out, I've not gone on trips if I couldn't afford to board her somewhere, however if things were getting intimate the dog was moved to another room...more like BEFORE things got intimate the dog was moved to a new room. My dog, who would like to spend her life attached to my hip, was totally fine and her world didn't end. I wouldn't say, 'It's me or the dog' because I would not respond well to that ultimatum, no matter their reasons, I would, however suggest things like not sleeping there if the dog is in the bed, not having sex there while the dog is in the room. Thing get intimate YOU move of the dog, if he says no then moment is over and tell him that. Talk to him about it, and don't make the dog the bad guy, the dog is doing nothing wrong, your boyfriend is being a little awkward though.
  • rockabyesarojane
    rockabyesarojane Posts: 471
    I get a lot of what your bf is doing, I have a dog, I have left places early because I have to let her out, I've not gone on trips if I couldn't afford to board her somewhere, however if things were getting intimate the dog was moved to another room...more like BEFORE things got intimate the dog was moved to a new room. My dog, who would like to spend her life attached to my hip, was totally fine and her world didn't end. I wouldn't say, 'It's me or the dog' because I would not respond well to that ultimatum, no matter their reasons, I would, however suggest things like not sleeping there if the dog is in the bed, not having sex there while the dog is in the room. Thing get intimate YOU move of the dog, if he says no then moment is over and tell him that. Talk to him about it, and don't make the dog the bad guy, the dog is doing nothing wrong, your boyfriend is being a little awkward though.

    agree.
  • Ocarina
    Ocarina Posts: 1,550 Member
    LOL, this is quite an old threat. Dead thread should stay dead. =P I doubt the person is even on here to read this anymore.
  • marquesajen
    marquesajen Posts: 641
    While animals need attention, he seems to be going a little overboard. Talk to him, tell him how you feel, and ask how you can both compromise.
  • JDMPWR
    JDMPWR Posts: 1,863 Member
    I really like my boyfriend, and I really love his dog. He adopted him after a few months into us dating. The dog is affectionate and adorable. I have grown rather attached to him. The actual problem is how this man lets the dog dominate his entire life, which is ruining our relationship. He cannot spend one night without it. We cannot go on trips where the dog cannot stay, and even if we do, we cannot stay long because we have to "get back" -- same with even short social gatherings. Moreover, he lets the dog sleep wherever it wants (in between us in his bed), and he insists that it is "cute" or "funny" that the dog seeks affection during and after we do the dirty. I can even count on one hand how many times we've been intimate without the dog in the room, which is now disgusting me as I write this. It has ruined the intimacy level in our relationship, since he believes that shutting the dog out of the bedroom is also cruel. He will often lie around kissing, stroking and petting the dog (even lying on the floor with it) in front of me while we spend time together, but refuses to give me the same affection (he was very loving at the start of our relationship, however). It is really slowly starting to upset me and may even drive me to a breaking point. I have said little things like - "I would like to lay next to my boyfriend" or, "I never sleep at your place with the dog in the bed". Nothing. Am I crazy and seeing things? Does he have a problem or do I? I'm smart enough to know that there's something wrong with this picture at this point and have been giving him the benefit of the doubt to come around due to his redeeming qualities, but on the same end I feel stupid for feeling this way, as if I am overreacting.

    Stop whining, you attention____, they are called a mans best friend for a reason, DUH..................
  • Angela4Health
    Angela4Health Posts: 1,319 Member
    People's responses never cease to amaze me. So quick to judge. If you don't like it then you need to let him know that it's bothering you so he can either change some things or say sinatra!
  • frostiegurl
    frostiegurl Posts: 708 Member
    hhmmmm...there's nothing interesting on page 1 of "Chit Chat, fun and Games" so I'll click on page 45 and see what was going on last January. :huh:

    mo'kay! :laugh:

    haha!
    :drinker:
  • Becca_007
    Becca_007 Posts: 596 Member
    hhmmmm...there's nothing interesting on page 1 of "Chit Chat, fun and Games" so I'll click on page 45 and see what was going on last January. :huh:

    mo'kay! :laugh:
    LMAO...exactly what I thought when I saw this very old thread pop up out of nowhere!:noway:

    ETA: Still crackin up on this one:laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
  • Becca_007
    Becca_007 Posts: 596 Member
    LOL, this is quite an old threat. Dead thread should stay dead. =P I doubt the person is even on here to read this anymore.
    maybe the dog is rereading it..:wink:
  • Shannon023
    Shannon023 Posts: 14,529 Member
    LOL, this is quite an old threat. Dead thread should stay dead. =P I doubt the person is even on here to read this anymore.
    maybe the dog is rereading it..:wink:

    The dog is probably dead by now. :laugh:
  • Becca_007
    Becca_007 Posts: 596 Member
    LOL, this is quite an old threat. Dead thread should stay dead. =P I doubt the person is even on here to read this anymore.
    maybe the dog is rereading it..:wink:

    The dog is probably dead by now. :laugh:
    Then again...we haven't heard from her in quite awhile either... :wink:

    The man and the dog live happily ever after?:glasses: Until the body is discovered...:noway: :laugh:
  • rigbly
    rigbly Posts: 6
    omg I have the same exact issue except its my fiance with her dog. I wont even go into it...only that I googled "dogs ruin intimacy" and came back to myfitnesspal app that I have been using only to fin someone like me with the exact same issue. Wow. I dont "not" like dogs, I just put dogs second to humans that's all. The dog has to be in the room, on the bed, under the covers..it smells like a wet burrito (chihuahua) and I hate it. I hate sports too but Im thinking I might start liking football and maybe I'll practice with this stupid dog.

    Anyway, good luck to you and someone out there is totally going through the exact same thing you are going through. I just need to wait for the dog to die thats all lol.
  • 123456654321
    123456654321 Posts: 1,311 Member
    Yeah, showing the dog affection DURING the dirty is just......wrong imho. I think you need to have a serious talk with him for sure. It sounds more like an obsession then a healthy relationship between him and the dog.
  • koosdel
    koosdel Posts: 3,317 Member
    Man... this thread reminds me of Antique Road Show.
  • AudgePaudge
    AudgePaudge Posts: 537 Member
    try letting him do ya doggystyle? lol ok, seriously that does suck, maybe he is getting a little bored with things? Joe Rogan did a standup bit about dogs and girlfriends you should listen to. dogs are mans best friends too, remember that. You obviously can't say "it's the dog or me" cuz you'll be on the street. YOU CAN SAY "since you got this dog I feel like I've become second in this relationship, what do I have to do to get back to being number 1" and see how that goes. or you can poison the dog and end up being a crazy lady. I think you should go with my first suggestion....not the doggystyle suggestion, although that is GREAT.

    I don't think she should have to do anything to get back to being number 1!! He should be doing the work and get his priorities straight...But this is coming from the crazy lady who would probably poison the dog...
  • AudgePaudge
    AudgePaudge Posts: 537 Member
    Oh my gosh, I didn't realize this post was so old!! Why am I commenting?!?
  • ItsCasey
    ItsCasey Posts: 4,021 Member
    I adore pets, especially dogs, but that is going too far. It's a dog, for crying out loud. He can survive on his own in the next room for a little while.

    If I were you, I'd avoid a long conversation. He's in love with the dog, so that's not going to help. He'll just think you're trying to force him to choose between the two of you, and he'll get all defensive. So just put it in terms a man can understand: No sex while the dog is in the room. (And then stick to your guns.) Unless he's a total moron, he'll get it.
  • HoLLyZ82
    HoLLyZ82 Posts: 467 Member
    I adore pets, especially dogs, but that is going too far. It's a dog, for crying out loud. He can survive on his own in the next room for a little while.

    If I were you, I'd avoid a long conversation. He's in love with the dog, so that's not going to help. He'll just think you're trying to force him to choose between the two of you, and he'll get all defensive. So just put it in terms a man can understand: No sex while the dog is in the room. (And then stick to your guns.) Unless he's a total moron, he'll get it.

    i agree with this. my husband and i both LOVE LOVE LOVE our baby fuzz and we let him sleep inbetween us in bed BUT he is NOT allowed in the room while gettin our groove on...one reason being he thinks im being hurt and with him being bigger than us would probably rip my hubbys nuts off and 2) its just plain old awkward. the pup will be fine waiting outside the door. our boy cries and knocks on the door but oh well.
  • Becca_007
    Becca_007 Posts: 596 Member
    LOL, this is quite an old threat. Dead thread should stay dead. =P
    :drinker: :laugh:
  • Becca_007
    Becca_007 Posts: 596 Member
    Oh my gosh, I didn't realize this post was so old!! Why am I commenting?!?
    Dunno... :wink:
  • Becca_007
    Becca_007 Posts: 596 Member
    Man... this thread reminds me of Antique Road Show.
    LMAO no joke! I'll do my part here:smokin:
  • VeganGal84
    VeganGal84 Posts: 938 Member
    Ths dog having to be in the room when you have sex, and having to sleep between you at night? Those things are weird and would not be okay with me.

    The rest seems normal to me though, since many people think of their dogs as their children.
  • VeganGal84
    VeganGal84 Posts: 938 Member
    Oh my gosh, I didn't realize this post was so old!! Why am I commenting?!?

    LOL, I just did the exact same thing. I wonder if they are still together...?
  • myofibril
    myofibril Posts: 4,500 Member
    Oh my gosh, I didn't realize this post was so old!! Why am I commenting?!?
    Dunno... :wink:

    "You remind me of a girl that I once knew, see her face whenever I, I look at you"

    Ok, enough of the cheesy Usher lyrics. If you are who I am thinking of I want to say thank you for making me feel welcome on this site when I was relatively new here. I never did say that to you and I think and that is a poor show.

    If it's not you, that's still a cool dancing Elmo thingy in you sig ;)

    Take care.
  • swordsmith
    swordsmith Posts: 599 Member
    Hit the eject button.
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