Fit For Future Families - March 2011

fitterpam

Welcome everyone!

This group is being started to lend support and motivation to those who are TTC, or plan to TTC. This group blossomed from another group (Pregnancy - 2010).

Fit For Families is not for pregnant women, I would ask that you join our sister group for like-minded support and motivation (they're really great there!!). http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/138358-pregnancy-february-2010

For those who have recently had a little one, there is a post-partum group: http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/131954-postnatal-group-january-2010?page=3

This group is very goal-oriented (no matter what your goals are) and I hope will be a place for you to come share your story and track your progress.

Check in will be each Monday to keep us accountable over the weekend. Each week we set our own fitness or health goals, and the more suggestions the better!

I love this group!

Welcome one and all!

Link to our last thread: http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/145157-fit-for-future-families-february-2011

andreamichelle82

Thanks, Pam!

kah78

Thanks Pam!

fitterpam

Np - sorry it's late....LOL Feb was such a short month. It seems like just yesterday I was drinking egg nog and uh....eating celery sticks

Today was a horrible eating day for me. Not because I over ate, but at work, by the time I looked up it was 3pm....uh....I get to the office at 6am....where did the day go? We grabbed take out because we hadn't eaten yet, but I know I'm going to be way under today. Focusing on getting in the water and not going for junky food because "I haven't eaten enough"....LOL

lukimakamai

Thanks for the welcome!

Heather- Good luck at the dr. tomorrow!

Pam- Sorry about your two adoption misses, how difficult! We are at the very beginning of our adoption journey- putting together our plan, finding an attorney, and telling family members. We are planning mostly independent, private, family adoption so the wait could be a LONG one.

I am way behind on drink water today, probably the reason I am craving junk food...

AmandaM226

Hi everyone! My name is Amanda and we are TTC our second child. Im so glad I found this thread! I have PCOS and irregular ovulation so it makes the conceiving thing harder. the first one when I lost 30 lbs we conceived and when I was trough gained all the weight back. This time I want to make a lasting change! I am 33 and live in Northern California. I have one daughter(obviously ) She is 7 and her name is Katilyn. I just found this sight today and was so excited that I could track my foods and keep track of my weight loss without having to pay for it like on WW. So here is to making friends and getting on goal!

fitterpam

Luki - ours were both public cases where the opportunity for custody was no longer available.......we thought about private, but were in no place financially to do it. We had such a bad experience with the adoptions though that this time (now that we do have the means) to go through the fertility treatments. Just felt like the kid that no one wanted on their team.....I couldn't go through that again with individual birth moms. I'm sure your experience will be completely different though If the fertility doesn't work, we've talk about doing international adoption (we've had several opportunities there too, but the laws here make it more difficult to adopt for less than $50K - our opportunities were in Russia).

Going to try making chocolate sauce tonight with agave, cocoa powder, coconut oil and vanilla....There was another recipe, but I sent DH to the store asking for Medjool dates and he complained he couldnt find them....LOL I'll have to try those another time.....Don't know what to have my sauce with though. Maybe I'll make it tomorrow on some homemade Fro Yo....mmmmmm Wowserinos......Today is CD10 for me already....time flies!!!

Welcome Trapper - there are a few on here with secondary issues and a few on here with PCOS.......hoping that your journey with us is short and sweet

Heather - fingers crossed for your appt.

Andrea, Karen - you're welcome, sometimes I just need a kick to the behind to get things moving

heathercrist1

Erica I thought you might know the answer to this question....what level of hcg does the Clearblue Digital pick up? I couldn't find it online. Well I did find it on one site but it had it on there twice as one being 25 and another being 50.

Thanks Pam and luki. I'm nervous, excited, anxious...

kt4au

Welcome Lukimakamai & Stephanie & Amanda! This is a great board, with great ladies with a bunch of knowledge!!!

Heather - CONGRATS!!! I am so excited for you and sending you lots of sticky vibes. I think that I would be right there with you with the cramps...except I think I am going to be nervous the entire 9 months...everytime there is a twinge I will probably want to call the doctor. I think you made the right decision with going to the doctor sooner...the waiting game is the worst. I don't know how you are going to be able to hold it in for 11 more weeks. I know I will have to keep quiet longer than I want because all our family is 8 hours away but hopefully not that long.

Karen - I have about a dozen cupcakes in my house and I want to eat them all...now!!! I don't know what if i would go into the water or not. I think I would have too, just to say I did it. I am right there with you with everyone being pregnant. It seems like everyone that I know that is married is announcing their BFP.

Nichole - have fun skiing...I really miss it!

Pam - I am going to say that it is just water weight, mainly because I want to blame mine on that too!

Ashley - What a great weekend for your tastebuds...mine are quiet jealous. Keeping my FC for you, hopefully you are just more aware of the cramps. I go in next Friday for my IUI, so keep me updated.

Kim - I am glad your sister got her hearing scheduled...sometimes that can take the longest. I am glad your floors ended well. We laid them down about 2 years ago and it was horrible. We did Bamboo and they were the glue down. I think I wore that glue for like 2 weeks.

Andrea - I am glad that your dad is being released. I think that you should use BDing as a stress reliever!!!

History - sorry to hear that. Those things are more common than we thought. Congrats on the weight loss!!!

AFM – After talking with the doctor on Friday, we believe that I had chemical pregnancy. After doing a lot of reading on them, it seems that it happens a lot. I thought that I had waited long enough to avoid it but I guess not. Anyways, I started the Femara on Saturday and I have one more day of it. I go next Wednesday for U/S to see if my follicles are big enough, if they are, I will give myself the Ovidril shot and then we will have our IUI on Friday. I am really hoping that it works this time. If it doesn’t, I think that DH and I have agreed to take some time off from the doctor and just work on things naturally. I also got DH on a Zinc supplement. I have read where it will increase sperm count. His was already pretty high but I just want to make sure when we go in for the IUI.

On the weight loss side or should I say weight gain side . I was up on Monday but I am going to blame it on water retention from AF. I have gotten back on the wagon this week eating wise but just to get back on it exercising wise. We had DH’s 30th birthday party Saturday and it was a hit. We had a bunch of adults in a Chick-fil-a with balloons and the Cow! My goal to make him feel like a 5 year old was achieved. Now if I can get rid of the leftover cupcakes and chicken, I will be doing good.

kt4au

Heather - the Clearblue Easy Digital is 25mIU and the Clearblue Digital is 50mIU. Hope this helps.

kah78

Hey all! I was under my calories today--felt like a win.

Went over to my friend's house tonight--she's had twins through IVF. It was a good talk. No great revelations or anything, but it was good to talk to someone who has been there and just get some of the stuff out. No crying, which I thought was pretty remarkable.

I'm resigned to this round of Clom-ID not doing anything, so I'm not expecting anything. Maybe a coping mechanism, maybe just reality sinking in. Who knows...

I"m off to bed...talk to you all later. Heather--sticky bean! Hang in there---will be thinking about your Dr. appt tomorrow!

epa422

Erica I thought you might know the answer to this question....what level of hcg does the Clearblue Digital pick up? I couldn't find it online. Well I did find it on one site but it had it on there twice as one being 25 and another being 50.

BBC says 25 mlU.

fitterpam

Katie - I found that zinc worked with DH - it increased his count from 1M to 7M, but didn't improve the quality. Any supplement for Male Potency should help said that urologist.....Might be worth putting him on one of those. The other vitamins and minerals should help with the quality as well as the quantity. Plus if he likes sunflower seeds, my DH ate them ALL the time. We bought a big bag once a week, which is what I really attribute the jump in count to.....natural sources are always better (and he didn't get sick either)...LOL

History/Katie - I read a statistic that 20% of pregnancies end before they've really taken hold (chemical pregnancy) Add that to the fact that only 25% of fertilized eggs are actually viable (and that number goes down with age of both partners) and it's a wonder that we reproduce at all.....But if you can conceive it, it'll happen (sorry for the pun....LOL) Seriously though. You know the chances are 1/5 of the chemical pregnancy so the next one will be sticky for both of you.

Up to 12 glassess of water so far today......time for bed.....Night All

kah78

"Up to 12 glassess of water so far today......"
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!!!! Wow--way to go.Pam!

fitterpam

Thanks - that's my usual - I'm trying to get to 15 a day and it just hasn't happened so far. Oh well, I'm down slightly since Monday when the water weight bomb dropped.....not much, but then my water consumption has been normal, not enough to really flush out my system.....

abeare

Thanks for the new thread Pam!

Welcome newbies!

Pam, I’m surprised you were able to find opportunities to adopt in Russia for $50Kish! My best friends family adopted a girl from Russia and it cost them around 140Kish in the end! Granted this was over 10 years ago, and so things have changed, but it’s still A LOT of money!

Katie, I’ve got my fingers crossed for you that your IUI works! Do take the day off from work or whatever though, I wish I had. The actual procedure is nothing to be worried about, its equivalent to a pap test in uncomfortableness (I know that’s not a word but I don’t care :laugh: ) and pain. I was also fine for the couple hours afterwards with mild cramping and bloating, but then I did get major cramps that lasted 1-2hours. Everyone’s different, but make sure you have the option to rest should you need it. Oh and about the zinc, Pam had mentioned it about a week or two before I had my IUI and so I had DH upping his zinc (well sunflower seeds) until the IUI, between that and not ejaculating 48hrs before the specimen, his count was in the normal range compared to in the low range he was given after his SA. Good Luck!:flowerforyou:

Karen, congrats on the non-scale victory!

AFM, cd31 12dpiui and still a BFN!

I did watch an interesting documentary last night that made me think about all the different birthing options and which one I wanted to take. The documentary was called “The business of being born” and I thought since we’ve talked about names and when we’d tell family, etc… I’d leave you all with this question:
What type of birth do you want?
(home natural birth, home water birth, water birth in a birthing center, natural birth in a birthing center or hospital, vaginal birth in a hospital with epidural, timed cesarean section, etc…)

Ashley

andreamichelle82

Heather, how did your appt go??

fitterpam

Ashley - that was the average cost at the time being quoted by the agency (and we had a child already lined up and wouldn't be going through the agency per se in Russia but needed to go through the on in Canada....it covered flights, hotels (2 trips are required) and all the lawyer/court time.....pretty scary that it could have been more

nkster781

At my layover at JFK to VT and just need to bump the new thread. I'll catch up later:0)

kcurtis05

Thanks Pam! Happy Hump-day everyone! Its finally sunny here! Not warm...just sunny, but I'll take it!

Trapper, welcome to MFP and FFFF! I wish you the best!

Pam, that chocolate sauce sounds delish, how was it?

Katie, yes we were very pleased with the glue less laminate floors. I can only imagine the mess! Glad to hear Dh's party was a success. I love the idea of making him feel like he was 5. Very cute! I'll be praying you IUI goes well and does the trick!

Karen, I really hope your expectations are wrong. I'm sure it helps to talk to someone that has been through it. I'm glad I have you ladies for that! I really don't have anyone to talk about it other than DH and we all know they don't truly understand. LOL

Ash, I'm praying for you! I know that has got to be hard and frustrating! Keep busy and stay strong!
Birth: I will be going to a hospital, and my mom will be right there by my side the entire time. She is a retired labor and delivery nurse, so I know she will know what is going on and what I can/should do. Also, I have always wanted a water birth. I think it would be SO soothing.

Nichole, HAVE FUN!

AFM, I am REALLY trying to get back on the wagon, but I am a few strides behind it now. I fell off back when we went to HI and haven't made it back on. :frown: So today is the day! I have been a junk foodoholic and a fast food junky lately and I'm stopping it today! No morning snack, homemade chili for lunch and salmon for dinner. I can do this! 139 here I come!
AF is full force. (more than she has been the last few months) I'm still completely confused, but relieved in a way to see it as "normal" flow. My last few have been VERY light and only for a few days. So maybe this is a good sign. I still think I am going to make an appointment after I'm finished to just check and see what's going on, what options I have, or what she suggests we should do.
Please pray for m and my family, court is tomorrow to get Lilly back!

andreamichelle82

Please pray for m and my family, court is tomorrow to get Lilly back!

Good luck!!!! Prayers coming your way!!!!

kcurtis05

Please pray for m and my family, court is tomorrow to get Lilly back!

Good luck!!!! Prayers coming your way!!!!

Thanks!!!!

fitterpam

Kim: LOL - I didn't make it cause I didn't have anythign to put it on....LOL Excited that the courts are moving finally. It's always such a relief when something starts to work like it's normal

Ash: I'm so looking forward to a water birth....When I was just moved out, I had major wisdom tooth pain and dealt with it for too long (I shoud have gone to the dentist instead) with long hot baths....so I know I'll have a good experience with the water birth. As for who in the room, I'm thinking DH and maybe my Mom - both are my most calming influences.

I feel like I just got bit by a sugar bug. All of a sudden at 4pm I couldn't get enough sugar. DH laughed at me when I ran like a bull to the car to get DQ....LOL It was a little bit of an act.... but just a little bit.....HORRIBLE!!!!!!!! Let's just say I haven't had DQ in over a year....it was GOOOOOD!!! Mmmm......but now I feel yucko. Let that be a lesson...

heathercrist1

Katie no cupcake would stand a chance in this house right now...especially not a dozen of them! lol! I think I had a chemical pregnancy last cycle too. I got a faint positive and then AF started the next day. That is the bad thing about testing early. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers and hopefully your game plan ends in a BFP!

Kim like you said, at least things are more "normal" this cycle. That is a good sign! So glad that court is tomorrow. That baby needs to be back at home with her mommy! I will keep you and your family in my prayers!

Ash I'm so anxious to log on and see you post your BFP! I'm so rooting for you girl! It is still early...What kind of test are you using? Do they have First Response Early Result tests there? Those are the best! As for your question. The only option around here is a hospital. I would so prefer to give birth at a birthing center right across the street from a hospital (in case something went wrong) but that isn't an option. I want to try and do a natural birth (no anesthesia) but I'm not completely opposed to the idea if I feel I need it. They have jet tubs I will most likely use during labor. I will have my mom, my DH, and my sister (to record and take photos) during the labor and delivery. I thought about getting a doula but my mom is pretty calming so I don't know. I'm going to read up more on the Bradley Method. I've had several friends that followed it and had very successful births.

Pam I have to say...I've already planned my DQ run tonight. My DH is working tonight so I'm going over to my friend's house to watch a movie and I'm going to pick up ice cream for us! Can't wait. I will most likely feel like you....but before the binge you don't even care!

Andrea I'm so glad to hear your dad is home and recovery is going well! That is so wonderful!

Well I had my first OB appt today. It went fantastic. Without me even having to beg she said that we will schedule an ultrasound on March 16th (the day before DH leaves for Army training for 2 months). I asked her what if we didn't see a heartbeat and she said they would just do another one a week or 2 later, no big deal. I was ecstatic to say the least! She also ordered a blood draw to check my progesterone and hcg. I should hear back tomorrow late afternoon. She said if the levels aren't super high she will have me come back in Friday to repeat and make sure the hcg doubles. I am super excited and feeling very hopeful.

epa422

I'm glad you're feeling more hopeful, Heather.

To answer the question about birth, I'm in Kansas. My options are pretty much limited to a hospital birth unless I want to drive an hour to a birth center. I don't see that happening... but at this point it doesn't really matter since I can't get pregnant anyway. My husband had his SA today. They called him at 4:40, but he didn't get the call... so I guess we have to wait until tomorrow for results. He's convinced they only called so quickly because he has cancer. He won't believe me that they can't tell that from an SA. This should be a fun evening.

AMummysLife

Thanks Katie & Pam. I think it will be even more common for me because before ttc I came off the Merina IUD and I've been reading a lot of reports associating MCs and CPs with it which I hadn't read before getting it. Was only on it for two years so seriously hoping it doesn't effect me too much.

Oh also I've been pretty naughty this week and weighing everyday. I'm only 1.7kg away from my next mini goal weight. Very please about that but worried it might be two fast?

lukimakamai

Thanks for all the information on the zinc, hopefully I will be able to talk my husband into taking some.

Heather- that is GREAT news! Congratulations!

Kim- good luck in court tomorrow, I'm pray things will go your way!

fitterpam

Heather - Did I mention I had a bowl of ice cream before going to DQ? I'm in such a guilty place right now. Believe me. I'm not an ice cream fan by any stretch of the imagination (I rarely have more than 1/2 cup a month - probably 4x a year would be about right) but tonight....let's just say DH called me a bull....cause I kinda ran with my head down to the front door like a bull....LOL I don't know why.....craziness!! DH then suggested that we test since maybe the ice cream is a sign I'm pregnant. LOL I responded nope, just crazy.

Erica - I know what you mean...they called back so early because the test was done and analysed by the doctor first thing this morning....but it's hard not to fear the quick call back.

History - I usually weigh every day too....I find that when I don't I seem to forget about healthy eating habits and poof...gain weight.

lukimakamai

I am so relieved and at ease! I finally had a full and open conversation with my parents about our plan to adopt. I was really nervous because previously they have not seemed very receptive to the idea- my dad saying “life isn’t a race” and my mom saying “keep trying”. Surprisingly they were very open to everything I said tonight. They actually listened and didn’t cut me off! I can finally breathe!

fitterpam

Luki - that's a relief for sure Glad it went well

Good morning all (and evening to some). Things have been quite a bit quieter the last few days - seems that we've lost a few people in the monthly move. Hope everyone's doing what they need to for themselves

heathercrist1

Well ladies I just wanted to come by and tell you that I will keep you all in my thoughts and prayers. Please be kind to yourself. It is okay to feel discouraged in this journey....just don't ever give up until you've come to the place where you are at peace. This has been a very very long, hard, excrutiating journey for me. It was the nail in the coffin for my first marriage and even with my DH it has created a lot of pain and heartache. Keep communication open. That is so very important. I don't even pretend to know everything...but after 7 years of trying to conceive I can say that the most important things are to be kind to yourself, don't give up until you are at peace, and to keep communication open. I wish you all the best in your journey. Hoping to see all of you very soon over on the Pregnancy board!

By the way...you ladies mean more to me than you probably know. You have been a source of support and in this journey that is so very important to have! I hope you all know that you are very much appreciated and that I don't take that lightly. Until next time...