Postnatal- April 2011

Soon2Bfitmamaof3

I've been having major jealousy issues with my 8 year old. I thought I was going to go mad. :sad: But we've been trying to work it out.

I went ahead and drove yesterday, eventhough I'm supposed to wait the 2 weeks because of surgery...it is supposed to be 3, but my son needs to be back in his routine.

My inscision looks good the nurse practitioner says, so I'm just going to continue to take it easy and live on the bed and couch as much as possible and hopefully it will heal sooner than later. She said no exercise till 6 weeks, except light walking. I did that yesterday to get to the doc's office and then went to target for a few minutes and regretted it last night, lots of clotting and abdominal pain, just glad I bought my post partum belt it helped with support.

I'm loving getting on the scale and dropping weight. That is fun, would be great if it did this all the time.

Sheri--I decided not to breastfeed. My fears from my experience with my last birth and recovery just lingered too hard. I think it has worked out to be the best descision so far. He is taking to it well.

Jamie-- that is a precious picture.

I'm going to start logging today. It is hard when you have foods that you don't really know what is in them. But my husband went to the store last night and bought me some fruit and salad stuff.

My urge to eat is gone. I'm sure that will pass. But yesterday I had my first craving for something...a Dr. Pepper. :blushing:

We went shopping yesterday too, I stocked up on lean protein, fresh fruit and veggies. I feel like I ate so much yesterday but at the end of the day I had only taken in 1500 calories and since breastfeeding is supposed to burn about 500 I definately did not get enough calories in. I am adding to my meals to day and hopefully I will be able to have a net of aleast 1200 rather than another day of 1000, I do not want to go into starvation.

I totally did not expect my 7 year old to be jealous of the new baby, the 3 year old was understandable. My baby is up non stop from 2-5am nursing like every hour and it is driving me nuts. I want to sleep but I guess I just need to wait for her to adjust and go to bed earlier. I hope that you get to feeling better real soon!

Tiffeney

I would love to join in. I have a 2, 6, 8 year old of my own, also a 16 year old that is my freebie (step daughter) she also lives with us .:happy: As of right now I am still breast feeding ( wanted to wean when she was 8 months ) Long story short I decided to keep bf for her health and my weight and it has now been two years two long ! That is my youngest in the picture ! She was my woops that I am so happy to have ! Wish someone would of reminded me how fertile you get after losing weight !:laugh: Anyway I do not add any extra calories as of right now be cuz not sure how much milk I am producing. I am new to this site only been here for 6 days so far I love it !

jamielangner

I'm having a really rough time with bad snacking. I am in NJ staying with my parents & they have all sorts of junk food & it's too tempting! I'm eating pretty healthy besides the snacks since my mom has been cooking most of the time but I'm so mad at myself because I keep eating the candy, cookies, & ice cream!!

I want to get back home & back to eating better & back to a routine so badly but I need my family's help right now. I'm sooooooooo frustrated

Tiffeney

Jamielangner >> Congrat on the new baby ! Your body is readjusting right now relax . You need all the calories you are allowed right now for BF ! You and her want that milk and stress will not help that ! I feel when we get prego and then have baby and have them eating off of us we kind of get confused of when we are hungry or not and then we have to retrain ourself to eat.

ckmama

I've been having major jealousy issues with my 8 year old. I thought I was going to go mad. :sad: But we've been trying to work it out.

I went ahead and drove yesterday, eventhough I'm supposed to wait the 2 weeks because of surgery...it is supposed to be 3, but my son needs to be back in his routine.

My inscision looks good the nurse practitioner says, so I'm just going to continue to take it easy and live on the bed and couch as much as possible and hopefully it will heal sooner than later. She said no exercise till 6 weeks, except light walking. I did that yesterday to get to the doc's office and then went to target for a few minutes and regretted it last night, lots of clotting and abdominal pain, just glad I bought my post partum belt it helped with support.

I'm loving getting on the scale and dropping weight. That is fun, would be great if it did this all the time.

Sheri--I decided not to breastfeed. My fears from my experience with my last birth and recovery just lingered too hard. I think it has worked out to be the best descision so far. He is taking to it well.

Jamie-- that is a precious picture.

I'm going to start logging today. It is hard when you have foods that you don't really know what is in them. But my husband went to the store last night and bought me some fruit and salad stuff.

My urge to eat is gone. I'm sure that will pass. But yesterday I had my first craving for something...a Dr. Pepper. :blushing:

We went shopping yesterday too, I stocked up on lean protein, fresh fruit and veggies. I feel like I ate so much yesterday but at the end of the day I had only taken in 1500 calories and since breastfeeding is supposed to burn about 500 I definately did not get enough calories in. I am adding to my meals to day and hopefully I will be able to have a net of aleast 1200 rather than another day of 1000, I do not want to go into starvation.

I totally did not expect my 7 year old to be jealous of the new baby, the 3 year old was understandable. My baby is up non stop from 2-5am nursing like every hour and it is driving me nuts. I want to sleep but I guess I just need to wait for her to adjust and go to bed earlier. I hope that you get to feeling better real soon!

Sheri-Logan is up from midnight to 2/3 a.m. every night. The nurse at the hospital said it was normal for babies to do that. Something about their rythem or something.

Soon2Bfitmamaof3

[Sheri-Logan is up from midnight to 2/3 a.m. every night. The nurse at the hospital said it was normal for babies to do that. Something about their rythem or something.

Brooklynn goes down from about 8-8:30 until about 12:30 and then wakes up again at 2:30 and it goes on and on like every hour but she is nursing for like 30 mins each time. I guess it wont be too bad for me if it stays that way since I go back to work in 5 weeks and leave the house by 3:30am. Sorry hubby!

jamielangner

[Sheri-Logan is up from midnight to 2/3 a.m. every night. The nurse at the hospital said it was normal for babies to do that. Something about their rythem or something.

Brooklynn goes down from about 8-8:30 until about 12:30 and then wakes up again at 2:30 and it goes on and on like every hour but she is nursing for like 30 mins each time. I guess it wont be too bad for me if it stays that way since I go back to work in 5 weeks and leave the house by 3:30am. Sorry hubby!

Hayley goes to sleep at 10pm, wakes up at 12 to eat & goes right back to sleep till 2am when she wakes up and stays awake. I can't get her to sleep until 6am & then she sleeps from 6am-10am! Her long sleep starts right when my older daughter wakes up So the only broken "sleep" I've been getting since she has been born is 10pm-2am. I've been trying to move that 4 hour stretch to the night but she just seems to want to sleep during that time no matter what I do... I'm exhausted

Soon2Bfitmamaof3

Hayley goes to sleep at 10pm, wakes up at 12 to eat & goes right back to sleep till 2am when she wakes up and stays awake. I can't get her to sleep until 6am & then she sleeps from 6am-10am! Her long sleep starts right when my older daughter wakes up So the only broken "sleep" I've been getting since she has been born is 10pm-2am. I've been trying to move that 4 hour stretch to the night but she just seems to want to sleep during that time no matter what I do... I'm exhausted

You poor thing, last night was exceptionally good, Brooklynn went down from 8:30-12:00am (mommy passed out at 8:45) she ate and went right back down until 3am. She was pretty much up at that point until 7:00am, I managed to wake her up yesterday for a couple of hours by taking her outside. I guess she just needs some fresh air to wake up. I am very happy with this schedule since I wake up for work at 3am which would only mean 1 time up at night. I hope you get some rest soon!

curleesam

Gosh dont even talk to me about sleeping patterns! Lea was sleeping through the night since 6 weeks old and I took great pride in telling everyone how amazing she was etc... then she had her second set of jabs and started waking for a 2am feed for like 6 weeks after...now she is teething and waking up at 4am ON.THE.DOT every single night for a feed!

I guess I shouldnt complain as I remember all too well the breastfeeding every hour during the night in the beginning! Man that time, I was literally a ZOMBIE and didnt feel like I should be in charge of myself let alone a baby! It's true what everyone says though, it doesnt last forever thank goodness!

ckmama

I think the lack of sleep was making me feel some more extreme baby blues, and then I started to panic that I was having PPD again. I called the doc and they prescribed something, but the side effects are scary, so I'm going to give it to my 2nd week post partum before I decide if it is baby blues or ppd. It doesn't feel the same as last time.

Can you put those thoughts in your head? My husband said He thinks I'm so anxious about having it that I'm willing it?:embarassed:

I was really worried I was going to hurt Logan, drop him or lay him down to rough or whatever, and my husband said he has the same fears. So I guess that's normal. It is a weird sensation when I think it I feel so bad like a bad mama, but the girl next door with the twins said she worries about the same thing.

I think the lack of sleep increases these fears. Yesteraday I so had a hormonal moment. I got my feelings hurt so easily. :sad: I just miss spending time with my husband and my pillow:laugh:

degaprincess

Can I join? I just found this site a couple weeks ago so I was not on the prenatal board, but I had my 2nd baby in January!

curleesam

I think the lack of sleep was making me feel some more extreme baby blues, and then I started to panic that I was having PPD again. I called the doc and they prescribed something, but the side effects are scary, so I'm going to give it to my 2nd week post partum before I decide if it is baby blues or ppd. It doesn't feel the same as last time.

Can you put those thoughts in your head? My husband said He thinks I'm so anxious about having it that I'm willing it?:embarassed:

I was really worried I was going to hurt Logan, drop him or lay him down to rough or whatever, and my husband said he has the same fears. So I guess that's normal. It is a weird sensation when I think it I feel so bad like a bad mama, but the girl next door with the twins said she worries about the same thing.

I think the lack of sleep increases these fears. Yesteraday I so had a hormonal moment. I got my feelings hurt so easily. :sad: I just miss spending time with my husband and my pillow:laugh:

Yeah I think it's natural to have those thoughts. For a good two months after I had my LO I felt like I was going crazy with the sleep deprivation. I couldn't string a sentence together! Try to remind yourself there is light at the end of the tunnel and baby will be sleeping better soon x

AmandaR910

Had one great thing happen this morning (175.8lbs!, 3.6lbs loss this week) and one bad thing (AF started a week early, again, and we're supposed to be TTC in a few months).

Anyways, for the weight loss at least.

Tiffeney

I think the lack of sleep was making me feel some more extreme baby blues, and then I started to panic that I was having PPD again. I called the doc and they prescribed something, but the side effects are scary, so I'm going to give it to my 2nd week post partum before I decide if it is baby blues or ppd. It doesn't feel the same as last time.

Can you put those thoughts in your head? My husband said He thinks I'm so anxious about having it that I'm willing it?:embarassed:

I was really worried I was going to hurt Logan, drop him or lay him down to rough or whatever, and my husband said he has the same fears. So I guess that's normal. It is a weird sensation when I think it I feel so bad like a bad mama, but the girl next door with the twins said she worries about the same thing.

I think the lack of sleep increases these fears. Yesteraday I so had a hormonal moment. I got my feelings hurt so easily. :sad: I just miss spending time with my husband and my pillow:laugh:

Yeah I think it's natural to have those thoughts. For a good two months after I had my LO I felt like I was going crazy with the sleep deprivation. I couldn't string a sentence together! Try to remind yourself there is light at the end of the tunnel and baby will be sleeping better soon x

Tiffeney

Not sure if you ladies are Breastfeeding , BUT if you are you might want to check out what D-MERS is. I thought many of times that I had the baby blues , but I only felt this way when I was nursing. I am only saying this just to help. My own Docter tryed to put my on Lexapro and wellbatrim these never helped.

Soon2Bfitmamaof3

Katrina- Hang in there girl, I think that the lack of sleep may have lots to do with it. I have had a few fits of crying, begging and just wanting to get a moment. I have had fears of not knowing what to do with the baby and when she is really fussy I sometimes just cant figure it out. If you feel like you can not handle it put him down, even if he is crying and just catch a moment for yourself. I think that the lack of sleep makes us overwhelmed, fortunately hubby is home with me right now so I can hand her over when I need a little break. Keep strong!

Degaprincess- Welcome! Just chime in, there is nothing formal here. We are here to support each other and encourage each other towards our goals.

Amanda- One the super plus down 3.6lbs with AF! That is amazing, also at least you can track your cycle and see where it is going to settle. I have never gone right to regular after having a baby, usually takes several months.

AFM- Brooklynn through a curve ball last night, she did not go down until 11pm woke up at 1:30am and 3:30 am then we got to sleep until 6:30 when we had to get the other little ones up. I sure hope we can get the prior day sleep back because last night will not work for me when I return to work. Hubby would take care of her but I am exclusively nursing right now, I have begun pumping to get ready for hubby to introduce the bottle so we do not have any problems when I am at work. I my medela

jamielangner

Katrina - I definitely know how you feel. I've suffered with depression & PPD for awhile now so sometimes I think the same thing... am I just doing this to myself? I'm sure we will get through it, just gotta keep our heads up & mind focused on what is important! God never gives us more than we can handle

Degaprincess - Welcome, the more the merrier!

Amanda - Nice on the 3.6lbs!

Sheri - I hope you & Brooklynn can work out a schedule together! My LO seems to be working against me right now I have begun pumping also but still haven't tried a bottle yet & I start part time on Monday so hopefully FOB won't have any problems while I'm at work. You like the medela pump? I looooove my avent

Tiffeney

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Wow I feel like I am getting the cold shoulder ! I get it . :frown:

dragonfly74

Just wanted to say hello! I had a follow up appointment today and I am now 4cm dilated! He will induce me on Wednesday if I don't go naturally before then.

Katrina ~ hang in there. I know it is easier said than done but I will keep you in my prayers.

Sheri ~ a big hello to you!

Jamie ~ hope you are doing well!

And to everyone else, I look forward to getting to know you really soon!

Hope you all are having a great Friday.

McFatterton

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Wow I feel like I am getting the cold shoulder ! I get it . :frown:

No one is giving you the cold shoulder - just jump in!

I also have a Medela and love it - it was actually given to me by a friend of my sisters. Although, I've never used any other type of pump so I can't really compare it to anything. I only pump at night before bed and occasionally in the middle of the night. For the past week, Redmond has basically slept through the night every night. He's only gotten up to eat 2 times before 6am. Last night was one of them.....it was a long night and he's not napping very well today. I think he's having tummy troubles. I've given him gripe water and just waiting for something to happen.

Hubby and I are going on our first "date" alone since Redmond has been born tomorrow night. I'm SO ready for a drink! :drinker:

Hope everyone has a great weekend!

jamielangner

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Wow I feel like I am getting the cold shoulder ! I get it . :frown:

No way! Why do you think that?

I am staying with my parents for one more day (tomorrow) and then I go back home to be alone & I'm so scared! I won't have those extra hands around when both girls need me at the same time. At the same time, I can't wait to get back home to get things back to normal & start to figure out some sort of schedule with the girls & FOB. I guess I will just have to make the most out of tomorrow because then it's back to reality & being a single mom

ckmama

My baby blues seem to get worse when my husband comes home? does that makes sense?

Oh and I'm not breast feeding, because I didn't want that stress along with PPD if it came back again.

Soon2Bfitmamaof3

Tiffeney-sorry if it seemed that way, nobody is giving the cold shoulder. I think most of us just had our LO in the last week or two so we are totally lacking sleep and such.

Sara- yay for dates! My aunt took my boys for the night so we only have the baby and can get some rest.

Jamie- It will work out, my goddaughter's mom has 4 little ones and has been on her own for the last year. She says it is tough but somehow it just works. You should try having your mom or dad give Hayley a bottle, I had hubby give Brooklynn one today just because my breasts are really sore right now. She has been eating non stop for the last 2 days and I am wore out. She fussed for the first second or two but then chugged the bottle like nothing. I do absolutely love my medela, I had other pumps with the boys but this one seems to work very well for me. I have started stashing milk in the freezer. Sorry you have to go back to work so soon, I have 5 more weeks and then I go back. It will feel strange since I was put on bedrest in January and have not worked in months.

Katrina- Does hubby help you with the baby? I know that when my hubby was working I felt like the baby was all my responsibility and when there were two it was worse. If you feel like you have to take care of your older boy, the baby and hubby that may be part of it. I know that my situation is very fortunate right now because I can hand Brooklynn to daddy and take a breather and he does 90% of the diaper changing. Breast feeding can be very frustrating though, I do agree with that because it feels like a full time job right now.... I hope it gets easier otherwise she will be drinking pumped milk.

degaprincess

Thanks! I'm Beth, btw. I need to add a signature.

I tried to pump with DS and it was so difficult... kudos to all of you making it work! He stopped latching in the hospital so I pumped at home for about 3-4 weeks and then had to stop. I also have a 2.5 year old, and it just got to be too difficult coordinating everything.

Anyway, I am looking forward to getting to know all of you!

crythreetears

I would love to join, I just had my baby on December 10th, I started on Wednesday. This site is really helpful!

Soon2Bfitmamaof3

Beth - I am sure, it was difficult for me to pump with my last son and I was balancing a then 3 year old, a newborn, a full time job and school. Needless to say I quit because it was much easier to make a bottle of formula at that time and have someone else feed him. I am very determined to give my little girl breast milk only just because I will not be having any others and I always felt like I missed out by not being able to nurse very well with my others,

Crythreetears- Welcome, just chime in we have nothing formal going on. We are just here to support one another and motivate with your goals.

Bethe (Dragonfly)- I can't wait to see pictures of little Wade, see you on this side real soon!

dragonfly74

Good morning ladies! Just want to say hi. We will be in the hospital for one more day because they weren't able to get enough antibiotics in me before Wade arrived for the Beta Strep B. So he needs to be watched for 48 hours. It is to be 82 degrees here today so unfortunately I have to miss out on that but oh well.

I truly hope you are all doing well!

Tiffeney

I am new here and not really sure if anyone can answer this... Last week I recorded everything I get 1200 calories and only had one bad day where I think I went over by like 280 or something and when I weight myself I gained urghhh ! I really am so confused at this point. You see I have a 2 year old still on the nene ( lol ) ( I so can not wait to wean her she still wakes up in the middle of the night) . My diary is open and I really do not use the breastfeed calories caz at this point I am not sure I am still producing milk. She nurses at least 6x a day for about 5-10 minutes. At this point I do not want to go out & get a pump due to cost and really not wanting it. Anyone have experience with BF for this long.

Word of advice if you do not want to be in my sitution stop by the first year thier cries only get louder. The only reason I did not stop by the first year is that we were entering swine flu season and did not want to give her that shot . She is a very healthy baby though !

McFatterton

I am new here and not really sure if anyone can answer this... Last week I recorded everything I get 1200 calories and only had one bad day where I think I went over by like 280 or something and when I weight myself I gained urghhh ! I really am so confused at this point. You see I have a 2 year old still on the nene ( lol ) ( I so can not wait to wean her she still wakes up in the middle of the night) . My diary is open and I really do not use the breastfeed calories caz at this point I am not sure I am still producing milk. She nurses at least 6x a day for about 5-10 minutes. At this point I do not want to go out & get a pump due to cost and really not wanting it. Anyone have experience with BF for this long.

Word of advice if you do not want to be in my sitution stop by the first year thier cries only get louder. The only reason I did not stop by the first year is that we were entering swine flu season and did not want to give her that shot . She is a very healthy baby though !

My first thought would be are you drinking enough water? You could very possibly be holding on to water weight due to sodium intake. Be sure to drink at least 8 glasses a day (my norm is about 12 glasses/day). I couldn't view your diary (maybe it's only public to your "friends"?) so I couldn't see what you had eaten. And, although it seems like it would be the opposite, if you eat too few calories you're doing your body more harm than good.

Tiffeney

Thanks ! I am going to see why you can not see it ! I want it open to all , need all the help I can get. As of retaining the water not sure I pee all the time REALLY. I get about 5-7 a day . I could be backed up the other way to or it could be the sodium.