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Manda86

I found a copy of her obituary.. I'm sharing to prove a point- weight doesn't define people. And we shouldn't let it define our perception of them, either.

Debbie L. died Saturday at her Midland residence.

She was born Feb. 6, 1955, in Holden, W. V., to Virgil B. and Garnet B. She was an active member of Living Way Church in Midland.

She was a prophetess and Bible teacher; ministering in many capacities in the last 25 years in New Mexico, Texas, Oklahoma and California. She served as director of St. Paul United Methodist Church Mother's Day Out in the late 1980s. She was a frequent speaker at Ladies' Bible Studies, Small Groups, and Women's Conferences.

Her ministry focused on the equipping of the Saints, the restoration of joy, and inner healing. Her trademark characteristics were a contagious laughter, positive outlook on life, and an undying love for her Lord Jesus Christ, the family reports.



Now i'm done fo reals... :bigsmile:

Survivors include her husband, David L. of Midland; her son, the Rev. Joshua David L. of Hamilton, Ohio; her father, Virgil B of Hobbs; four brothers, Robert L. B of Hobbs, Ronnie B of Ooltewah, Tenn., Danny R. B (my daddy) of Monahans, Texas, and the Rev. James D. B of Red Oak, Texas; two sisters, Sarah G of Gahanna, Ohio and Connie D of Hobbs, New Mexico; and a great number of nephews and nieces.

pecksun8

She WAS a wonderful lady...

Debbie L.

2/5/1955 -7/14/2001

She was such a loving person- she always had a funny story to tell, she was forever laughing at something... We used to sit on the front porch eating our sugar-free fudgesicles together, and I went with her to her doctor's appointments while she was on her weight loss journey... She was a mother to me when my own mother wouldn't be. I miss her so so much.

I am very sorry for your loss. And I agree with what you posted earlier.

I was thin for the vast majority of my life, at least 32 years before I dropped the ball.
The biggest thing that I noticed was how people will not look you in the eye as they pass by. Even when I was thin and had confidence and maybe I was having a bad day, people would still look you in the eye as they passed by.
I noticed the shift in eye connection once I put on about 60lbs, then people did not want to make that connection.
I have noticed that people who are secure, confident, and truly themselves are the ones who have no problem looking other people in the eye, because they don't have anything to hide or to be ashamed about. Maybe the people who can't connect are not being honest with themselves about how they have said something about someone who was overweight, so they can't honestly look an overweight person right in the eyeballs. Or maybe they just have a societial brainwash and they are not strong enough to think for themselves.

ChubbyBunny

Mmmmmm......fudgsicles.....

Manda86

Mmmmmm......fudgsicles.....

ROFL!!!! *snort*

That's so stinkin' cute!!

ChubbyBunny

I thought you may enjoy it.

mommared53

Mmmmmm......fudgsicles.....

ROFL!!!! *snort*

That's so stinkin' cute!!

Awww look, it's all melty. Let me have the fudgsicle for a second so I can lick the melty part off for her. :bigsmile:

Carrie6o6

Im only 20lbs lighter but that has made a difference... But ppl would tell me I was beautiful before I lost some weight.. and now it seems more guys hit on me.. but then I think... Are they just trying to be nice, or do they really think im good looking, and is it because I have lost some weight or am I just an overall nice looking person? hahaha I think too much!

ChubbyBunny

Im only 20lbs lighter but that has made a difference... But ppl would tell me I was beautiful before I lost some weight.. and now it seems more guys hit on me.. but then I think... Are they just trying to be nice, or do they really think im good looking, and is it because I have lost some weight or am I just an overall nice looking person? hahaha I think too much!

Hello! Have you seen your pics!?! Adorable!

Carrie6o6

hahaha thanks.. but with low self confidence nothing matters :P

ChubbyBunny

hahaha thanks.. but with low self confidence nothing matters :P

Careful...or I will become your own personal little cheerleader....

Carrie6o6

ooooooh noooooooooo!! not the carebears!!! Ask Soupnazi how I feel about them!! hahahaha

ChubbyBunny

ooooooh noooooooooo!! not the carebears!!! Ask Soupnazi how I feel about them!! hahahaha

That is a whole lota pink for a small space.....

ChubbyBunny

Better?

Carrie6o6

ahahaha better than carebears sure. :laugh:

ChubbyBunny

Careful or i'll find Rainbow Bright.

Carrie6o6

all right all right i give up! you win!! These who ever they are will do thanks! haha

ChubbyBunny

Good I knew you'd see it my way.... :laugh:

Carrie6o6

hahaha Well women have always told me im beautiful but never guys... maybe thats just what guys do. though some would say "oh this beautiful lady is your sister" etc.. But i think thats more just being nice haha

ChubbyBunny

HA! I have the same thing.
Guys don't say I am pretty....although i did have this scarey "homeless" person tell me I was a "pretty lady" I almost punched him in the head (cause it was not a good day to start with). Oh! Or those little old guys in the neighborhood.....i am not sure they count.

I am sure guys think it....sometimes they are probably intimidated, insecure (too), or fear rejection....just like us!

Carrie6o6

hahaha thats funny. Thats a good point. I would never go to a guy and say "wow your hot!" hahaha plus im married... so that wouldnt go over well. My husband tells me im beautiful everyday which makes me feel great until I see a photo or myself in the mirror haha but I guess a lot of women like that maybe

DjBliss05

I just wanted to add my two cents to the discussion about fat prejudice and why we have become fat.

I am well into the obese range of the weight chart and have had 40+ pounds on where I am now at one point (in high school - I don't recommend that!) and also work in the mental health field. I have spent a lot of time soul searching to explore my own weight gain and how to address it now. I feel that I personally gained weight thanks to bad family eatting habits, very poor self esteem, genetics, and depression.

After reading what both women had to say (and having strong reactions to both), I think that the truth lies somewhere in the middle. I definitely believe that, especially for the morbidly obese crowd, that most people have trauma histories of some kind that led them to where they are now with their bodies. I also believe that there are plenty of people who ended up in the same situation by other circumstances. I think we need to have empathy for our fellow brothers and sisters who struggle with obesity, because we are beautiful people who have struggled a lot.

However, I also think that we need to be careful about fighting against fat prejudice. It is very hard to be accepting of your body and aware of these prejudices at the same time. I went through a time when I was very angry with people who were prejudiced against me, but then I realized that I hold the same prejudices. If you can be really honest with yourself, you might reach the same conclusion. How many times have you caught yourself noticing another person who is bigger than you and taking pride in the fact that you aren't them? Terrible, but true. I am working on that for myself. If big people can't even love other big people, then how are we meant to ask smaller people to ignore weight?

Society has attached so many meanings to obesity and most are negative. This won't be changing any time soon, although I do believe people are becoming more aware in recent years of what this can do to people. I had to make a choice to take care of myself first and fight against other people's ways of thinking later.

I hope this added some new thoughts to your discussion. I'm not sure if I made as much sense as I had hoped to... hard to put a lifetime of ideas into one post! Thanks all for sharing your stories.

ChubbyBunny

Of course it made sense~

jenbar

Now back to the topic!
yup! I'm getting stares again! woo hoo! (doin' a dance!)

:laugh: :laugh: :blushing: :blushing:

That's cause you're looking HOT in that dress! Show that pic again! That pic should be your default! lol
*whisltes*

awww shucks!:blushing: :blushing: :blushing:
Thanks Crystal!

Okay Jen, where's this pic???? Come on girl...

Okay, it's now my main pic (just for you Crystal!)

CrystalBella

Now back to the topic!
yup! I'm getting stares again! woo hoo! (doin' a dance!)

:laugh: :laugh: :blushing: :blushing:

That's cause you're looking HOT in that dress! Show that pic again! That pic should be your default! lol
*whisltes*

awww shucks!:blushing: :blushing: :blushing:
Thanks Crystal!

Okay Jen, where's this pic???? Come on girl...

Okay, it's now my main pic (just for you Crystal!)

That's it! OMG you look great! I love that dress! :flowerforyou:

ckiwis

So true, I've lost 80 lbs and 67 more to go. I'm grateful they're opening doors, paying more attention (a little shy about it), maybe a little self-conscious about having smaller waist & a little bigger than average breasts but it's so hot here in Arizona. So It's hard not to notice, I sort of dislike it, the attention. I'm thankful for my health, it's much better and I'm able to exercise. I agree with all of you, and I have more confidence in myself than I didn't before and I see it in a positive light. Be grateful. :happy:

kimber607

Chubbybunny...

I'm loving the new pic..hair looks awesome

Some responses on this post made me think....if you're Dh (or SO) tells u that u are beautiful..do u believe them?
I think no matter how often u hear you are beautiful from your SO...(unless you believe it)...it doesn't mean anything

To be honest, I always felt OK about my looks...not the best, but could be worse....I'm OK with that
I try my best with what was given to me

Kim

TamTastic

Chubbybunny...

I'm loving the new pic..hair looks awesome

Some responses on this post made me think....if you're Dh (or SO) tells u that u are beautiful..do u believe them?
I think no matter how often u hear you are beautiful from your SO...(unless you believe it)...it doesn't mean anything

To be honest, I always felt OK about my looks...not the best, but could be worse....I'm OK with that
I try my best with what was given to me

Kim

I have actually gotten more comfortable with who I am as I have gotten older. I think most people have just learned to live with themselves and what looks they have and are more accepting of who they are. Of course this doesn't mean everyone.

I just know that I feel better about myself right now than I ever have in my life. Not only because I have lost weight..but because I am super proud of myself for doing it the healthy way and for making myself as healthy as I can for my family. And I just have more energy. All of these things put a smile on my face more often.

Am I perfect? Of course not. Are there things I wish I could change? Of course there are! LOL! But, I am who I am.... I have been for 33 (almost 34 years). I just want to live my life in peace and enjoy myself and stop worrying about everything so much. I am LEARNING to take compliments better too! I used to sort of smile and look away because I was uncomfortable. Now, because I am proud of my accomplishment.....I smile and simply say "Thank you!"

ChubbyBunny

Chubbybunny...

I'm loving the new pic..hair looks awesome

Some responses on this post made me think....if you're Dh (or SO) tells u that u are beautiful..do u believe them?
I think no matter how often u hear you are beautiful from your SO...(unless you believe it)...it doesn't mean anything

To be honest, I always felt OK about my looks...not the best, but could be worse....I'm OK with that
I try my best with what was given to me

Kim

Thank you!

sgtinvincible

HA! I have the same thing.
Guys don't say I am pretty....although i did have this scarey "homeless" person tell me I was a "pretty lady" I almost punched him in the head (cause it was not a good day to start with). Oh! Or those little old guys in the neighborhood.....i am not sure they count.

I am sure guys think it....sometimes they are probably intimidated, insecure (too), or fear rejection....just like us!

I think you are pretty.

sgtinvincible

I think you look a lot like Elliot from Scrubs