If someone was to go onto your profile....

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  • MrsH06
    MrsH06 Posts: 159
    I am happily married but I would be flattered. Someone recently did that to me and I just smiled but didn't respond. It's always nice to hear a compliment, doesn't mean you are looking to hook up.
  • michelletyler38
    michelletyler38 Posts: 469 Member
    and call you hot (or anything along those lines) would you be offended, or flattered? I know there are some of you that get that a lot anyway, but I have run into some people that don't like it...I know this isn't a dating site, but it is nice to here sometimes! :)

    Were*

    I'm personally offended. Especially when it's said in a very perverted way.
  • kristarablue
    kristarablue Posts: 702 Member
    I personally love it, what a great ego boost and 99% of men are just being wonderful, kind and sweet, they are not trying to get into your pants!!! As far as creepy comments, you guys are looking at it all wrong...that is just an invitation to mess with someone because trust me, if they are skivvy, they will never be able to hang and by defriending or blocking them, you give them more power than they should ever have.
  • BigBeaver
    BigBeaver Posts: 858 Member
    Hey, I am cool with it, who doesn't need an ego boost, or a confidence boost once in awhile. Nice to know that other people think you are doing great and looking good. I wouldn't take offense, or hopefully offend anyone if i posted on the wall and said "Hey, you are looking good, hot, gorgeous, beautiful, etc." Its basically giving you a compliment, saying "Hey, you are doing a great job, and look at the results, fantastic!"

    but thats just my honest opinion
  • binary_jester
    binary_jester Posts: 3,311 Member
    and call you hot (or anything along those lines) would you be offended, or flattered? I know there are some of you that get that a lot anyway, but I have run into some people that don't like it...I know this isn't a dating site, but it is nice to here sometimes! :)

    Were*

    I'm personally offended. Especially when it's said in a very perverted way.
    BWHAHAHAHAHA! +1
  • TheNewLK
    TheNewLK Posts: 933 Member
    Flattered though somethings on my profile page may cause you to blush LOL
  • gailosborne
    gailosborne Posts: 435
    I think giving and receiving compliments are great.

    So do I!
  • Panda_Jack
    Panda_Jack Posts: 829 Member
    I'd take it as a compliment. Like some of the others said, who doesn't need an ego boost every now and then.
  • b00b0084
    b00b0084 Posts: 729 Member
    It never happens to me so I would think it was a joke.
  • bouldert
    bouldert Posts: 225 Member
    Flattered though somethings on my profile page may cause you to blush LOL
    and its blocked and was so wanting to blush today
  • mishelnkiki
    mishelnkiki Posts: 775 Member
    i dont think there anything wrong with it at all! unless u come sayin some ish like... " i wanna bend u over and take u from behind" lmao. but i dont think many of us have had that happen. and if u have, tell em to shoot me a message...;) totally jp! lol.
  • BigBeaver
    BigBeaver Posts: 858 Member
    :blushing:
    Flattered though somethings on my profile page may cause you to blush LOL

    Hey, the stuff I say is not that bad, yeah, I do you make you blush though don't I :blushing: :blushing:
  • BigBeaver
    BigBeaver Posts: 858 Member
    i dont think there anything wrong with it at all! unless u come sayin some ish like... " i wanna bend u over and take u from behind" lmao. but i dont think many of us have had that happen. and if u have, tell em to shoot me a message...;) totally jp! lol.

    Oh, so that is how you like it, PM coming soon, and well, I can't say it here:bigsmile:
  • CmGoode
    CmGoode Posts: 38 Member
    I would be flattered, but I wouldn't read much more into it. It is a compliment, so I take it as such. I think that when people read into things, that's where the problem is.
  • brewingaz
    brewingaz Posts: 1,136 Member
    I'd take it as a complete compliment. I don't get htt on or complimented on my looks, so if that were to happen, I'd be flattered. While I'm married, it still makes me feel good if other people are attracted to me too! Not that I'm going to or trying to hook up with them, it's just a compliment and feels good. No creeper about it!
  • Karleyyy
    Karleyyy Posts: 857
    Karleyyy: It really depends with me..if it is on my profile it isn't bad, and it depends on the person saying it.
    bobbisoxx: gonna have to agree depending on the type of message and who sends it.

    "Depends on the person" translates to "whether or not I find them attractive myself," no? I mean, that is really what it comes down to isn't it? You do not mind a compliment from someone else that you yourself find "hot" but a compliment from someone less desirable gives off 'creepy' vibes. It is pretty much a minefield that I myself try not to play in.

    I meant that I am 19, andd if a 60 year oldsends it I will be creeped out.
  • TheGoktor
    TheGoktor Posts: 1,138 Member
    Flattered though somethings on my profile page may cause you to blush LOL
    and its blocked and was so wanting to blush today

    Ditto! :blushing: :laugh:
  • NobodyKnows
    NobodyKnows Posts: 764 Member
    I'm personally offended. Especially when it's said in a very perverted way.

    Sorry Michelle, but one of your pictures is practically an invitation for comments. It isn't the type of semi-clothed pictures that people use to track their progress.
  • binary_jester
    binary_jester Posts: 3,311 Member
    and call you hot (or anything along those lines) would you be offended, or flattered? I know there are some of you that get that a lot anyway, but I have run into some people that don't like it...I know this isn't a dating site, but it is nice to here sometimes! :)

    Were*

    I'm personally offended. Especially when it's said in a very perverted way.
    Sorry...I misread. I liked you better when I thought you said you liked pervy ones.
  • TheGoktor
    TheGoktor Posts: 1,138 Member
    I'm personally offended. Especially when it's said in a very perverted way.

    Sorry Michelle, but one of your pictures is practically an invitation for comments. It isn't the type of semi-clothed pictures that people use to track their progress.

    Very good point! But perhaps Michelle doesn't realise how provocative that photo is??

    It could be argued that people should be free to post suggestive pictures without being hit on. My personal feeling however, is that if you go looking for trouble, you'll probably find it! If I posted a photo like that of myself, I *would* expect that some people would see it as an invitation. That being the case, I could hardly then say I was offended when people responded!
  • TheGoktor
    TheGoktor Posts: 1,138 Member
    and call you hot (or anything along those lines) would you be offended, or flattered? I know there are some of you that get that a lot anyway, but I have run into some people that don't like it...I know this isn't a dating site, but it is nice to here sometimes! :)

    Were*

    I'm personally offended. Especially when it's said in a very perverted way.
    Sorry...I misread. I liked you better when I thought you said you liked pervy ones.

    I *did* wonder why you laughed a lot at that post... now I know why you did! :bigsmile:
  • NobodyKnows
    NobodyKnows Posts: 764 Member
    I'm personally offended. Especially when it's said in a very perverted way.

    Sorry Michelle, but one of your pictures is practically an invitation for comments. It isn't the type of semi-clothed pictures that people use to track their progress.

    Very good point! But perhaps Michelle doesn't realise how provocative that photo is??

    It could be argued that people should be free to post suggestive pictures without being hit on. My personal feeling however, is that if you go looking for trouble, you'll probably find it! If I posted a photo like that of myself, I *would* expect that some people would see it as an invitation. That being the case, I could hardly then say I was offended when people responded!

    I am not suggesting her picture is an invitation to ALL comments, but I wouldn't expect someone to get offended by a "you're hot" type of comment with that picture.
  • TheGoktor
    TheGoktor Posts: 1,138 Member
    I am not suggesting her picture is an invitation to ALL comments, but I wouldn't expect someone to get offended by a "you're hot" type of comment with that picture.

    Sorry, I didn't mean to imply that you were! And yes, I agree - some comments are possibly going to be out of line - hence me saying that people ought to be able to post pictures of themselves without the threat of unwanted perving. Still, if you're going to, you have to expect an amount of it - we don't live in an ideal world, after all!
  • MooseWizard
    MooseWizard Posts: 295 Member
    I meant that I am 19, andd if a 60 year oldsends it I will be creeped out.

    I don't really see the difference.
  • NobodyKnows
    NobodyKnows Posts: 764 Member

    Sorry, I didn't mean to imply that you were! And yes, I agree - some comments are possibly going to be out of line - hence me saying that people ought to be able to post pictures of themselves without the threat of unwanted perving. Still, if you're going to, you have to expect an amount of it - we don't live in an ideal world, after all!

    It wasn't that I felt you were implying it, just that I wanted to make it clear that I do not believe that suggestive photos are an invitation to vulgar comments. Honestly, if I didn't know her opinion on the matter I would have probably gave her a compliment. I keep my perving to my friends that welcome it. :bigsmile:
  • ImBabyBunny
    ImBabyBunny Posts: 75
    I just take the complement! ...It may be weird if they say something in regards to your chest/lower region.

    But just saying ''Your legs are so strong and fit looking!'' that don't sound sexually to me? ( Men, Who knows!)

    or just saying ''Your a very pretty women.'' That might just make my day!

    And I think the way they say it has a lot to do with the meaning as well, if it's a very tasteful and sincere complement. It don't sound sexually to me.

    Something like, ''Hey girl,Nice *kitten*!'' .....It makes me just want to turn and RUN away! It sounds disrespectful.
    It has taken me a long time to learn how to except a complement...When I give them to other women, for me it's like looking at a beautiful painting, sculpture, sunset....something that just catches your eye and think...''Wow....how beautiful!''
  • NobodyKnows
    NobodyKnows Posts: 764 Member
    I just take the complement! ...It may be weird if they say something in regards to your chest/lower region.

    But just saying ''Your legs are so strong and fit looking!'' that don't sound sexually to me? ( Men, Who knows!)

    or just saying ''Your a very pretty women.'' That might just make my day!

    And I think the way they say it has a lot to do with the meaning as well, if it's a very tasteful and sincere complement. It don't sound sexually to me.

    Something like, ''Hey girl,Nice *kitten*!'' .....It makes me just want to turn and RUN away! It sounds disrespectful.
    It has taken me a long time to learn how to except a complement...When I give them to other women, for me it's like looking at a beautiful painting, sculpture, sunset....something that just catches your eye and think...''Wow....how beautiful!''

    Nice eyeball.
  • koosdel
    koosdel Posts: 3,317 Member
    Im blushing.
  • JBRENTLINGER
    JBRENTLINGER Posts: 160
    If done with tact, I find it flattering. I have told women on MFP that they are looking great, amazing transformation, and even say, nice flat tummy, but saying hot, sexy, or smokin' is something I would not want to say for fear of making a woman feel uncomfortable. You can boost someone's confidence with the right words.

    If I have known them for awhile on here, I might say you are looking hot, because they know me well enough.

    I am married, but if a woman on here said I looked good, I would be flattered.
  • jdg1mfp
    jdg1mfp Posts: 103
    I wish somebody would!
    Just joking, but I would be flattered.
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