If someone was to go onto your profile....

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  • sillygoose1977
    sillygoose1977 Posts: 2,151 Member
    I accept any and all compliments. I would have to take them at face value because I don't post the type of pictures that would elicit pervy comments.
  • binary_jester
    binary_jester Posts: 3,311 Member
    I accept any and all compliments. I would have to take them at face value because I don't post the type of pictures that would elicit pervy comments.
    "You're hot. Ever had outdoor sex?"

    Just saying' a guy could probably turn any pic into a pervy comment.

    ...and i am probably one of the only guys that really revels in being a guy. Sexist...objectification...all fun!
  • sillygoose1977
    sillygoose1977 Posts: 2,151 Member
    I accept any and all compliments. I would have to take them at face value because I don't post the type of pictures that would elicit pervy comments.
    "You're hot. Ever had outdoor sex?"

    Just saying' a guy could probably turn any pic into a pervy comment.

    ...and i am probably one of the only guys that really revels in being a guy. Sexist...objectification...all fun!

    I suppose I just did underestimate men. :laugh: And I might be guilty of getting freaky on a snowshoe trail...maybe...
  • carlsonrobb
    carlsonrobb Posts: 914 Member
    flattered...common...we all like a good compliment
  • shirtswiththumbholes
    shirtswiththumbholes Posts: 179 Member
    Probably a mixture of both. I have a serious boyfriend who will probably turn into my fiance within the next few years, so I really don't care about who else thinks I'm "hot."
  • tgh1914
    tgh1914 Posts: 1,036 Member
    Why do people, women especially, refuse to take a compliment without thinking there must be an ulterior motive.
    I'm 64. When I tell a lady that I think she's pretty, that's all I mean.
    Over the last decade or so, some women connote sexual meaning to that.
    Why?
    This is exactly why I VERY rarely feel I can pay a compliment to a lady - online or in person. There's just so much sensitivity nowadays about sexism. It can be read into anything. If I happen to receive some kind of compliment, then I feel safe enough to extend one back to that person, otherwise, too worried about "the wrong impression".
  • Jennjenn1974
    Jennjenn1974 Posts: 350 Member
    People can be and are way to sensitive. I would take it as a compliment as it's not something I hear very often
  • binary_jester
    binary_jester Posts: 3,311 Member
    Why do people, women especially, refuse to take a compliment without thinking there must be an ulterior motive.
    I'm 64. When I tell a lady that I think she's pretty, that's all I mean.
    Over the last decade or so, some women connote sexual meaning to that.
    Why?
    This is exactly why I VERY rarely feel I can pay a compliment to a lady - online or in person. There's just so much sensitivity nowadays about sexism. It can be read into anything. If I happen to receive some kind of compliment, then I feel safe enough to extend one back to that person, otherwise, too worried about "the wrong impression".
    Why worry about what other people think? This is ironic because I felt guilty posting utter nonsense to my feeds, but my friends said just keep postin'. If you compliment someone and they get all butt hurt...let them.
  • jamiesgotagun
    jamiesgotagun Posts: 670 Member
    I'd take it as a complete compliment. I don't get htt on or complimented on my looks, so if that were to happen, I'd be flattered. While I'm married, it still makes me feel good if other people are attracted to me too! Not that I'm going to or trying to hook up with them, it's just a compliment and feels good. No creeper about it!


    Exactly what I was thinking!!
  • tgh1914
    tgh1914 Posts: 1,036 Member
    Why do people, women especially, refuse to take a compliment without thinking there must be an ulterior motive.
    I'm 64. When I tell a lady that I think she's pretty, that's all I mean.
    Over the last decade or so, some women connote sexual meaning to that.
    Why?
    This is exactly why I VERY rarely feel I can pay a compliment to a lady - online or in person. There's just so much sensitivity nowadays about sexism. It can be read into anything. If I happen to receive some kind of compliment, then I feel safe enough to extend one back to that person, otherwise, too worried about "the wrong impression".
    Why worry about what other people think? This is ironic because I felt guilty posting utter nonsense to my feeds, but my friends said just keep postin'. If you compliment someone and they get all butt hurt...let them.
    Because I'm talking about folks who I do care what they think - those that are friends of mine (here or real life). I just don't want them to think I'm going over a line & jeopardizing a friendship.
  • flattered! And loving it! I'm married but I ain't dead!










    :) my fav!!!
  • I'm personally offended. Especially when it's said in a very perverted way.

    Sorry Michelle, but one of your pictures is practically an invitation for comments. It isn't the type of semi-clothed pictures that people use to track their progress.

    Yeah, I'm not sure what possible motivation one could have for sharing a photo like the one you're referring to on their public profile besides to attract attention of a"You're hot!" nature. I get *taking* that kind of photo of yourself without the intention of being commented upon, I have "provacative" photos of myself that were taken when I was at my goal weight (not pornographic or even nude, unless you count my back/stomach/legs, but definitely "erotic" in nature) and looking at them motivates me to keep working to reach my goal weight again, but I don't share them unless I'm okay with potentially getting comments and I don't get doing it without that expectation. And when I say that, as you and TheGoktor said, I don't mean that it's an invitation to comments like, say, "Wow, you're so hot, I just want to bend you over and **** you!" - that's way out of line regardless of the nature of a photo. But just a "You're really hot!"? I see no logic in being offended by that when the only reasonable explanation for sharing that kind of picture publicly is to show off in a sexualised context.
  • brewingaz
    brewingaz Posts: 1,136 Member
    I think this reflects one of two things going on in society now:

    1) People are way too damn sensitive. To make it worse, these overly sensitive people are being catered too, which magnifies the sensitivity. And/or
    2) People desperately seek something to complain about or cause an uproar over just so they can have attention.

    Wonder why no one says anything nice anymore? It's because of the same exact people that fall into those two categories I just described!
  • Shannon023
    Shannon023 Posts: 14,529 Member
    I think this reflects one of two things going on in society now:

    1) People are way too damn sensitive. To make it worse, these overly sensitive people are being catered too, which magnifies the sensitivity. And/or
    2) People desperately seek something to complain about or cause an uproar over just so they can have attention.

    Wonder why no one says anything nice anymore? It's because of the same exact people that fall into those two categories I just described!

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    Yes!!
  • fitnesspirateninja
    fitnesspirateninja Posts: 667 Member
    Context is everything.

    If someone just says, "hey, you're looking hot today," then I don't see any harm in that.

    Most people know if they're being creepy. And most people know when someone is creeping on them. Things like body language and facial expressions get lost over the internet, so it can be harder to tell the intent of a comment, but it's easy enough to tell after a few comments back and forth if you're dealing with a creep.

    To sum up: don't get your panties in a twist over one comment on your hotness. And if you find someone creepy, then use your freaking block button.

    ETA: I disagree with the "No one is nice! Everyone is too sensitive!" comment. That comment reeks of hyperbole. Sure, there's too much PC BS in our culture, but people more people are nice to me than not.
  • SommerJo
    SommerJo Posts: 258 Member
    I like compliments. I appreciate that someone took the time to say them -- even if I'm not at the point where I believe them. I think it's nice and I try to say thank you. I think there's definately a line to cross though.

    I might be guilty of it. I've commented on forums how hot someone is. I've used "hubba hubba" on occasion. It usually reads close to "Hubba Hubba!!! Kudos to you for all your hard work!!!" or "Look who's a hottie hottie!!!" I've also told people that they have great specific body parts -- arms -- legs -- and probably the worst -- I PM'd a chick to tell her that her ta tas still looked great even with the enormous amount of weight she lost and I wondered if there was a trick to keeping them.

    Maybe I need to engage a better filter before I offend or creep someone out??
  • alex215
    alex215 Posts: 518 Member
    I take it as a compliment and as a sign that my hard work is paying off.
  • Panda_Jack
    Panda_Jack Posts: 829 Member
    I think this reflects one of two things going on in society now:

    1) People are way too damn sensitive. To make it worse, these overly sensitive people are being catered too, which magnifies the sensitivity. And/or
    2) People desperately seek something to complain about or cause an uproar over just so they can have attention.

    Wonder why no one says anything nice anymore? It's because of the same exact people that fall into those two categories I just described!

    Well said!
  • Jonesie1984
    Jonesie1984 Posts: 612 Member
    i'd be flattered =)
  • Life0nMars86
    Life0nMars86 Posts: 155 Member
    While I'm not the greatest at taking compliment's, I'd be flattered...so long as they don't cross into super creepy mode esp. when I don't regulary talk to them or when I'm not even friend's with them yet. :smile:
  • Kaye8395BTS
    Kaye8395BTS Posts: 159 Member
    I absolutely take it as a compliment...hopefully a MFP friendship can form over such a flattering remark!
  • GorillaNJ
    GorillaNJ Posts: 4,024 Member
    It is only ok if it is a true remark.... :wink:
  • Carl01
    Carl01 Posts: 9,307 Member
    It is only ok if it is a true remark.... :wink:

    Looking good there dude! :wink:
  • GorillaNJ
    GorillaNJ Posts: 4,024 Member
    It is only ok if it is a true remark.... :wink:

    Looking good there dude! :wink:

    :blushing: you are such a sweet talker

    :laugh:
  • Miss_Chievous_wechange
    Miss_Chievous_wechange Posts: 1,230 Member
    It is only ok if it is a true remark.... :wink:

    Looking good there dude! :wink:

    :blushing: you are such a sweet talker

    :laugh:

    You two are hilarious
  • ChuckgM3
    ChuckgM3 Posts: 302 Member
    I'd take just about any compliment as a good thing no matter who it came from, guy, girl, attractive, unattractive, creep, non-creep. It doesn't matter what the person's intentions are, it's all about how you choose to perceive it.

    Regarding the Pretty(handsome) vs. Hot argument... I think it comes down to face vs body. I'm here because I want to be hot, not because I want to be handsome, because I have no control over that. If someone tells me I'm handsome, it's nice to hear but it's certainly not anything I can take credit for... "thanks, my mom and dad would be glad to hear they did a good job of bio-chemical mixturization!" If someone tells me I'm hot, then I know that my nutritional changes in life, my hours at the gym, my research, my dedication have paid off, and you're damn right I'm going to take credit for it!

    Regarding giving compliments... I prefer to take a wait and see approach... I wait and see if the person is as perverted as I am and only then offer up an appropriately perverted compliment! ;)
  • Kityngirl
    Kityngirl Posts: 14,304 Member
    I've been on here a decent amount of time and have run the gamut of pictures that I've put up of myself, some got more attention than others (some surprised me on how many comments I got). I've put some up specifically to get attention therefore I never complained about the attention I got, albeit I apparently have a very different image of myself than others do. :laugh: I've also never been anything less than gracious in accepting a compliment from anyone that sends me one, no matter whether I actually believe them or not.

    Now, no one but my friends can see pics of me which is a personal choice I've made, so anyone sending me a "you're hot" message would really make me wonder as to what they are into....:noway:
  • mamagooskie
    mamagooskie Posts: 2,964 Member
    Doesnt bother me at all. Feel free to tell me how hot i am!!!!! Lol
  • UpToAnyCool
    UpToAnyCool Posts: 1,673
    Now, no one but my friends can see pics of me which is a personal choice I've made, so anyone sending me a "you're hot" message would really make me wonder as to what they are into....:noway:


    :laugh: :love:

    hey there Kityngirl, i'm REALLY into kittens, cameras and Ogdred Weary! :smooched:
  • cmriverside
    cmriverside Posts: 34,409 Member
    And birds ^^
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