Do men notice?

ladybug1620

My husband will comment when he can physically feel the change. For example, the other day he squeezed my butt and commented how it could fit in his hand (one cheek lol). Or if he hugs me and notices my stomach is slimmer or something like that, then he will comment. Otherwise he probably doesn't notice.

BigDaddyRonnie

We absolutely do, or at least I absolutely do!

However, if most are like me, we hesitate to say anything for fear of insulting someone, especially in the weight or appearance category. And if not offensive, it can also put a spin on it to the woman that you are flirting or trying to pick them up.

I just want to give a compliment, but unfortunately in this day and age it is hard for a man to do that without an assumption being presumed. Too many bad apples have ruined this gesture for many of us.

The same goes for this site...you will see most women offering the comments, but a man...less in numbers.

wannabehotmomma

I've gotten more comments from men that I work with then women. My husband says something almost daily. I really appreciate it too, it does make me feel good!

haolegurl07

I think it's very true that the majority notice, but they're just too scared to say anything. I know for me... My husband notices even more because I'm pulling out clothes from the closet that I haven't worn in a long time! Like this morning, after I got dressed and went to the bathroom to do my hair, the hubby was like "wow, babe, you look great!" But we're definitely comfortable enough to say things to each other about our weight and not be weirded out

kenzietea

My husband said they're too scared to because they're afraid we will take it the wrong way.

He says: "You look great!"

He's afraid you'll hear: "You look great, now, (but didn't before)"

hahahaha thats because a lot of us would think that way. Women are tricky- I will admit.

jamiesgotagun

I was thinking the same thing, but this weekend I saw a guy friend I hadn't seen in awhile and he said I looked great!! Makes a girl feel good!!!

Diem30

I think if they see you often then they don't really notice until its VERY noticable just like us when we look in the mirror after a loss and can't see a difference until we see before and after/currents. But mostly I think Men notice but don't comment unless others openly comment as well, its safer that way ha ha.:laugh:

lawdhelpme2

The funny part is last year I lost a little weight, less than the 25 I've lost now and he noticed that my face was slim, now I've lost more and he doesn't notice that my hips, waist and thighs are smaller. He's just backwards.

DESIREE1210

I have received compliments on my weight loss from many men. My husband, they guys i work with and my group of guy friends we ride with.
I say yes they notice, maybe some just don't want to say anything. All the guys I know are pretty direct as am I so I am very approachable about it.

libby328

Yeah,
I lost 26 pounds before my Hubby noticed then it was like "WOW YOU ARE GETTING SLIM" I was like have you not looked at me at all in the last 12 weeks lol... I think women notice more because we are always comparing ourselves to what other women looklike I dunno????

JackieJ13

well who knows really....but I just know that the 2 times I was sickest in my life, my husband said I was looking good. mmmm...guess I should have strep throat more often....:ohwell:

proverbs31chick

Are men allowed to notice? I've seen many threads on here where the women berate men for being so shallow as to give a woman more attention when they get thinner.

I agree with cghiggins, it's harder for husbands to notice.

But men out in our normal social lives, in this day and age, if they're smart, they don't notice.

I gotta agree with you hear, its like men can't win for loosing. If they pay a compliment like that some women might take it wrong, but not all, I find it would be a bigger compliment coming from a man since they tend to notice everything all the time.

BullDozier

I can confirm that I notice. I would never say anything, though. I know it is stupid, but a compliment to someone that they lost weight always sounds like "you looked fat before, but now you look better" in my head. I don't know why I have that complex, but I do. A few summers ago, I lost 30 pounds, and I was complimented all the time. I never thought that when someone said something to me, but I can't shake it when the thought approaches my mind with a woman.

lclarkjr

Oh we notice. We just don't feel it's our place to say anything. But If you ask us, we would be happy to tell you what we think about how you look. Just a guy thing...

TXmama

They definitely do! But it may depend on the setting whether or not they'll say... I've worked where I am now for almost 8 years and I know the guys really well, and some of them have complimented me, but they usually preface it with "I hope this isn't inappropriate to say..." I guess when you work in an office people are always afraid of getting slapped with a sexual harassment complaint! I tell them, I've worked really hard, I'm THRILLED to hear that it is noticeable, but I guess some people might consider it too personal... I don't know.

GregCrowder

I know that I do notice but am uncomfortable to say anything beyond comments to very close friends. The reason is that I have in the past and the comment which was politely made got a response that it was inappropriate.
To be safe I consider this reaction and now no longer comment which is unfortunate knowing how proud most are of making positive life changes.

sculley

When I was single at my last command the men noticed before the women lol

CharityAngel

I have released over 20 lbs and 35.25 inches all over (and counting). My husband told me that he has always thought that I was sexy, that it is not what size I am but my confidence and personality that makes me so desirable. In fact just yesterday I was showing him some pictures of goals I had, and to my surprise he said "Why would you want to look like that, it is too unhealthy"? I said really? What is healthy to you? And I was surprised by what he showed me. He has complimented me on how flat my stomach is getting and ooo'd and ahh'd over muscles in my back and sides etc. But so far, the only other person to mention the progress that I had made is my mother. No one else seems to have noticed a thing. Well, my children have. And they are not shy about it either LOL.

jocelynlewis

I agree with the 2 guys, weight for women is a touchy subject, so they rather not say much, but I do think they notice, plus me are not as emotional as we are, so things that are a big deal to us, my not be really that big to them, your husband just probably really want to see you happy! whatever makes you happy he's with it!

legacysh

I think they do, but its harder for them to say something without people thinking they are gawking! My co-workers are very polite in telling me that they have noticed and that I have done a great job. Now they call me skinny all the time. But a couple of them would not say a word until one of them did it first, then they all chimed in. I work with mostly men, so they are careful...my husband was slow to say it because secretly he wanted to lose weight too and I got the jump on him, but he says it now and so do his friends

mariapuhl

This is funny because I was wondering the same thing.

My old HS friends saw me at about 20 lbs lost, not a big difference. Only the girls said something, and I was kind of upset that none of the guys noticed. 2 even said they couldn't tell a difference. Well I tagged side-by-side pictures on FB, and then they said they could tell. Just yesterday I saw them all again, and a few others, now at 47lbs lost. One guy, whose girlfriend sees me all the time at college and always is very encouraging and sweet, told me "you know Maria, I didn't mention anything last time, and Jessie got mad at me for it, but you really do look great, and can definitely tell you've lost a lot of weight." I was like THANK YOU! The other boys noticed too, they just didn't say anything until after I left. Boys are weird. But i get it.

TDGee

Sean Morey wrote a song that might help shed some light for you ladies.
Here's a link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8FCeBNher0E

And here are the lyrics:

She Said: You look handsome today dear.
He Heard: I just bought something really expensive.

He Said: Are you having an affair?
She Heard: Cause I am and it’s great!

She Said: Do I look fat in these pants?
He Heard: Do you ever want to have sex again?

He Said: You look great in those pants!
She Heard: I am totally trained.

She Said: It was fun visiting your mother.
He Heard: You owe me big time.

He Said: I bought you something from Victoria’s Secret.
She Heard: And could you wear this bag over your head too?

She Said: Was it good for you?
He Heard: Cause I hope someone had fun.

She Said: We need to talk.
He Heard: You need a lawyer.

He Said: Would you mind squeezing the toothpaste from the bottom?
She Heard: Do you mind living with an anal-retentive neurotic?

She Said: You were snoring again last night.
He Heard: Do you have to breathe.

He Said: I’m thinking about buying a Motorcycle.
She Heard: I’m in the mood for a big fight.

She Said: Will you go cloths shopping with me?
He Heard: Can I pull your fingernails out with pliers?

He Said: I thought our waitress was very nice.
She Heard: I’ll be thinking about her during sex.

She Said: This commercial is so beautiful.
He Heard: I’m getting my period.

He Said: Let’s try something new tonight.
She Heard: Let’ see if you double-jointed.

She Said: Do you mind not watching football.
He Heard: Do you mind if I chop off your balls?

BeeElMarvin

We do, but it's touchy... it come across as insulting... OR as a "come on".

deniseg31

Girl, who knows. I've only lost 17 lbs and nobody has noticed just yet not even my husband. I asked him last night and he said "You look the same to me." Gee, thanks!! It's probably because they see us everyday though.

I know I am slimming down though because I can tell...I am down 1 size in clothing and my tops and under garments are now lose as well.

mamijujuphat

I believe is true...if they see you everyday they don't notice the weight loss....but men do notice! A couple of years ago I ran into an ex...we're not in the best speaking terms but said hi, I was at my heaviest then, .well about a month ago I ran into him in the gym & complimented me about my weight loss

Jon_Rod

I Agree

peytons_mommy82

My husband, who see's me daily, he notices (or at least says he does!) But, I come bouncing out of the bathroom everytime I have a loss because I'm so excited, so he doesn't really have to "notice" because I tell him about every pound down.

The gas station attendant where I get gas seems to notice when I loose weight and compliments me on it. Either he's the most observant gas station guy ever, flirting, or just super nice. Whatever the reason, I love it!

I can understand how guys would feel weight is a touchy subject but let me tell you, if you notice a woman has lost weight let her know! It's a great compliment when a man notices the hard work!

westo22

I notice weight loss all the time. It is a very sensitive subject and unless you know that person is trying to lose weight, its best not to say anything or risk biting your tongue.

"Hey, have you lost weight? You look way thinner!" Guy

"I'm not sure, maybe..." girl (Does he think I'm fat? Do I need to lose weight? Is he inadvertently saying I need to lose weight? what an *kitten*.) girls thoughts

"Oh..."

If I notice a weight loss, I tend to stick to generic compliments saying something like:

"You look very nice today." <-- You can't lose.

fteale

My husband always says to his ex that she's lost weight when he sees her. It's a running joke. She loves him for it.

He has noticed that I have lost weight, as much as anyone has. He just doesn't know what he should say about it.

wildon883r

Depends on the man. I notice and definately compliment a lady who has taken self interest in her health by losing fat. I don't find overweight women physically attractive by any means considering about 8 out of every 10 women i see in the United States are overweight. The same overweight statement applies to my fellow American men as well. Just saying what i see everyday.