Do men notice?

sunshine__angel

Some men do and some men don't. When it comes to husbands and boyfriends, I think they don't notice as much because they always see you, so the loss is very gradual and they just get used to it. As for people who only see you a few times a month or less, they will notice more because the difference since the last time they seen you will be more significant.

Most men I know are not very observant when it comes to things like that. I saw someone post something the other day, similar to this, and I agreed. She said she thinks men don't notice when things get smaller, only when things get bigger!!:laugh:

TK421NotAtPost

Women look and study other women more, it's in our make-up (not necessarily biological but I couldn’t think of a better word) to be more competitive on goals/standards portrayed by the media. Men look at women's bodies for the overall package or good attributes but they won't notice a bra strap roll of fat like another woman would.

Although it seems to be a near consensus on the opinion that men avoid complimenting on weight loss out of fear on the uncertaintly of how the woman will react. But I disagree. I think the point Heathersmilez makes plays a bigger factor. Women check out other women more than men do.....and they are more critical than men. That is how women are able to notice even the smallest changes in weight...whereas it would take substantially more of a change for men to notice. This is also part of the reason why there is a differential between men and women for noticing other things like subtle changes in hairstyle, make-up, etc.

GCPgirl

I think some men do notice but are afraid to say anything incase we take it the wrong way. I was at work one day around the time I had dropped to 145LB and a man 15 years younger than me said he had to ask me something but was shy about it. He asked if I lost weight. I told him never to be shy about asking me that. I take it as a compliment.
On the other hand recently I had 3 ladies at work tell me it looks like I lost weight and I don't believe them. I feel the same and clothes fits the same (so far).

monicanicoletta

my boyfriend notices the littlest tiny things.. like my arms or my legs or stomach slimming. but that also could be because he's a trainer :P

MakingAChoice

I think its hard for a husband and wife to notice any difference since they see so much of each other. I have noticed it was people who I have not seen in some time that give the compliments.

This is very true. Sadly my wife dropped 30 pounds and I did not really notice because it was a slow thing and I see her daily. I did notice and comment that her jeans were baggy on her butt and she should get some new ones. ;-) SO I guess we just notice the clothes when they start to get baggy. I think overall women notice it much more than men, not sure why.

simplysarahd

I think they do not. I don't think it's that they don't notice, but I think some men struggle with details so while your DH probably notices you looking healthier and more radiant he may not be able to put his finger on why- and some other guys are afraid to comment because it could be taken as an insult to your former self (meaning you used to be heavy.)

I agree with this!! My husband only notices when I lose more than 15 lbs. He never congratulates a woman on her weight loss UNLESS she mentions her weight loss first. Also, it would have to be a lot of weight for him to notice.

l3ugjuice

Wondering do men notice weight loss on women? I have gotten a lot of responses from women saying< Hey I see you slimming down but as for the men, not really getting that many compliments including my husband.

If you are talking about men in the workplace, they may notice...but if they have any brains, they keep their mouths shut else risking a sexual harassment complaint where the purpose of the investigation is to protect the complainant (and, in many cases, the safest thing to do from the employer's perspective is just fire the target of the complaint)

No joking around on this one...

Mios3

We do, I just think at times weight is a bit of a touchy subject and guys don't come out and say it

I have to agree. That is a very touchy subject for some women so some times it is best not to say anything at all...unless they ask....

I guess I can understand that, but it would be nice to hear it if you guys notice it too. I for one would not be offended especially since I work my butt off so that I do look good for my hubby

ShrinkingNinja

My hubby notices and I have had guys comment on my weight loss. I guess a lot of it depends on how comfortable they are to actually bring it up to you.

lily1972

I have to agree: men DO notice, but some can spot smaller differences than others... My husband regularly gives me compliments but insists that every transition I've had has had its advantages... (I've had 5 pregnancies). My neighbour told another neighbour about my weight loss, and then she told me about it... My friend's husband made a comment after I left - so she called me the next day to tell me:laugh:

I love the "stumbling onto a wasp's nest" analogy! Unfortunately, it's true!

phenrichs

I think they do not. I don't think it's that they don't notice, but I think some men struggle with details so while your DH probably notices you looking healthier and more radiant he may not be able to put his finger on why- and some other guys are afraid to comment because it could be taken as an insult to your former self (meaning you used to be heavy.)

Actually we do notice. BUT, there are two things that keep us from saying anything. First if you were raised like I was you were taught to never discuss a lady's weight or age unless she brings up the topic. Second we are afraid of being wrong. If we ask if you have lost weight and you have not you may misinterpret our comment and then we are in the doghouse. Better to stay quiet.

Sorry ladies. We do notice. We are proud of you. But unless a man is conscious of his own weight he certainly isn't thinking about yours on a regular basis so we won't be saying anything too frequently.

Hope this helps.

breezymom81

I once had a daycare DAD tell his wife to tell me I was looking great he could see the weight coming off! He didn't want to tell me himself for fear of it being insulting and also didn't want it to seem weird. While us ladies think it is a complement to tell someone they look good, men are afraid they are saying you needed to loose it!

BrownEyedG1rl

Yes. In my experience anyway!

Lets_Do_It

I feel they do if you hadn't seen you in a while. They avoid the topic because most guys stick their feet in their mouths. EX: "Wow, finally you did something about your weight" when really they mean "You look so good now, good for you!" It's weird. I also feel women don't notice that much either, they tell you that to encourage you. My opinion

ndriedger

My boss just did. Only lost about 12 pounds. I was surprised any guy would notice.

VirtuousJoy

Some men won't say anything, for the simple fact they are a little cautious about what they should say dealing with weight.
My boyfriend however KNOWS I love it when he says something. He was just saying not too long ago that he can see my colar bone, and that I was becoming more and more sexy(and he assured me not that I wasn't before) He just loves buttering me up because I love it
The fellas just don't want to say the wrong things to us, and get in trouble lol. But Im sure they are one of the first to notice!

RCKT82

Mama didn't raise no fool... here's my response when I notice ----> " "

corsayre8

Don't think they notice the "small" changes, as I honestly do not believe they are as critical as women are.

Recently I have had several men I've know for years not recognize me until I begin talking and they Dona double take.

Like many things, you almost have to hit them over the head to get a response.

Amybcb

I think they notice larger losses... so it takes a little more for them to realize the change than a woman... we can notice a 5lb loss! But I also think since weight is a touchy subject, they might not be as likely to say something. My hubby has noticed when I lost even 5lbs, he'll comment about my butt being smaller or whatnot... it makes me feel good. Course he can say stuff, because we've been together 20 years so there isn't that awkwardness that I may take what he says the wrong way

movert

We notice but like a lot of people have stated on here, it is a fear that the compliment will be taken the wrong way and come across more like criticism than praise. Keep up the great work of becoming and better you and believe me, we are noticing (silently)......

andyj1984

I notice when the women at work are losing weight, but I would never say anything for fear of them thinking I was "coming onto them!!!". Its safer to not say anything, rather than risk offending someone or getting yourself into trouble.

niknak0508

I believe men are too afraid to tell you they notice in fear of upsetting you or saying the wrong things. My BF also doesn't say anything, but is my # 1 encouragement and supporter. When I ask him if he notices, he will then respond to me. LOL.

Elzecat

It's funny, I have a ton of guy friends (I do a lot of photography for local bands and most of them are guys) and almost every single one has said something about my weight loss...I actually appreciate hearing it although it makes me a little embarassed...I'm not used to being the center of attention lol.

My brother lives out of state and I only see him about once a year--he noticed right away when he was recently here for a visit. But I think he was more impressed with the fact that I wanted to go running with him than anything else lol.

elliecolorado

A man was the first person who noticed (apart from my family). But not sure if I should be happy or not. The first place I lost weight was my boobs and one of my exes hadn't seen me in a while said 'are your boobs smaller?' But after that we started dating again off and on and now it's 'you don't need to lose any more weight, you're hot' so I guess he didn't care that much that my boobs are smaller ;-) Apart from that guys probably notice, but just don't want to say anything.

barbiex3

me too. I've lost close to 25 pounds. my boyfriend who i've been with for almost 2 years says NOTHING! He doesn't really know how seriously i'm trying to loose weight. He said I was good before. My exs who I'm good friends with also have not noticed. lol kinda sad

Spitfirex007

Guys are no different then women in terms of noticing weight loss. Infact, more of my guy friends noticed I have lost weight then females.

Robyn405

Women watch other women like crazy. At least, i do. Im constantly comparing my body to those of my female coworkers, so if one of them begins to thin down, i notice! lol. The same goes for them about my body. All the women at work say i look great, and not a peep from my close male friends.