Venting and Kind of Being a Jerk, Sorry...

damcool

I'm probably going to get lambasted for this comment, but I'm having a hard time lately with certain "types" of people. First, there's those people that have never been overweight that continue to complain about their 100 lb body because their Mommy once told them they were fat...Then, there are those that complain that they're fat, but continue to go to McDonald's 4 days a week. I came here to change my life. McDonald's and my mother are not welcome!!!! I don't want someone to complain about the little tiny fat roll that they get when they put their head down between their knees doing yoga...I also don't want to hear someone constantly saying how they screwed up, when it's obvious they aren't ready to get serious about losing weight. Please, don't get me wrong, we all screw up! I'm just a little more than frustrated with people not being REAL with themselves and honestly, I think most of them need therapy...And, I say that as someone that has had therapy and can now look at myself (most of the time) very honestly...Sorry for the rant, I just wanted to get that out. Thank you...

allybtucker

Vent away girlfriend!! I have lots of friends where the majority of our conversations is them complaining about how screwed up their lives are, and in every case, it's self inflicted. I offer advice (which I shouldn't do) but they keep on making bad decisions. I'm starting to dread their calls. There will always be those people out there, you have to learn how to filter them out, or they'll drive you crazy~

hroderick

I think you should avoid the forums

Topsking2010

Well said. I am leader of a weight loss support group and I hear the same excuses every week.

ladyluck5210

I know what you mean? I had to deal with a lot of that in school.. The skinniest girl ever claiming she's fat! Really annoying! So true about people going to Mickey D's every other day! I also went to therapy, and it's so true.. many, many people could sure use a session.. or 12.

Cherese1983

Well said!

NikkisNewStart

I think the world would be a much better place if everyone would focus as much energy on themselves that they do on what other people are doing... just my two cents... I have a very busy fulfilled life to spend so much unneccessary energy focused on what other people are doing... what's the point?

vintagegrl88

I know what you mean. Stay true to yourself and keep your goals in mind. Dont let other people's negativity drag you down.

NikkisNewStart

I know what you mean. Stay true to yourself and keep your goals in mind. Dont let other people's negativity drag you down.

The only negativity here is from the OP... why do you all care about what other people are doing? They are the ones that have to live (or die) with their choices... the real insecure ones have to try to inflict some sort of control on the actions of others... Get real and spend more time developing your own lives.

melaniecheeks

You've been in therapy, so you know that everyone has issues. And only they can solve those issues. I agree it can be frustrating to see clearly where other people are going wrong, and how hard it is not to get in there and tell them what's what.

But it is down to each individual. We are all here on a personal journey, and we all have obstacles to overcome.

And it's also a great place to vent - so rant away!

katschi

I think you should avoid the forums

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katieann1735

I completely agree! Those are the people who will never be satisfied in life -- at least we enjoy it!

Bridge_CG

Well said, I had a friend once who was skinny as a toothpick, but at like crap and always complained about being "fat". It was annoying and I couldn't take it anymore. I've had weight problems ever since I hit puberty. It is a little disheartening.
But, I do agree, I think that the people who have momma issues or just can't figure out why they're not loosing need extra help; I also believe that there are a lot of rude pompous people on here too who need help or just to come down from their high horse- (sorry, I had an encounter yesterday with a rude person on a forum) but when it comes down to it, we all need help. That's why we're here. Granted, I just had a sonic ice cream cone, but I won't be complaining, it was well deserved. (haha). But... Thank you for saying what so many of us were thinking.. Wonderful!

damcool

Thank you everyone. There's no insecurity here. I care about people that's the difference between me and that other chick. I just get tired of trying to help and my suggestions fall on deaf ears...I'm not judging. At least I hope I'm not, but I'm just a little more than frustrated. I guess I'd never be a good personal trainer, huh?!

wellnesscoachmegg

I think, in general...people on forums don't always think about others feelings. Meaning, "the skinny girl" sees this place as a place to vent, just as you do. I'm hoping that in real life, if she was in a room full of people she hardly knows, and she is the thinnest she maybe would phrase it differently, or not bring it up. That being said, you don't have to be a certain size to have weight and body issues. Being discounted for your feelings just because you don't meet the medical criteria for being overweight feels crappy. I think what it comes down to is everyone just needs to be good to everyone else (unless its clearly attention seeking behavior) because no matter what size or weight, everyone has their "stuff".

But again, vent away. This is a place to be heard.

funfitfoodie

I'm 115lbs are you telling me that I'm not allowed to want to be fit and toned and healthy?

Focus on yourself not on other people!

Starrr126

I think sometimes it comes down to a matter of terms. True someone with +50 to lose is not (maybe) going to have the same struggles as someone with 5-10 to lose. However, I think those people who are perhaps looking to "tone" more than lose, but call it losing the same are just as welcome on the boards. IMHO as long as someone is trying to do the best for them and healthy ways there shouldn't be a standard of who is allowed to complain and who isn't. Also there is the annoying issue of looks fat and medical fat. According to the charts I should weight like 100 pounds. Personally I'd be thrilled with 140. I wouldn't look fat but according to medical charts I'd be overweight. If I went with the charts I would be one of those "annoying girls" too. Sorry not trying to oppose you, just wanted to chime in with my 2 cents. Interesting topic/post! ( ;

tusher2011

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The only negativity here is from the OP... why do you all care about what other people are doing? They are the ones that have to live (or die) with their choices... the real insecure ones have to try to inflict some sort of control on the actions of others... Get real and spend more time developing your own lives.
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Now THIS is well said!!! There are always going to be people that say something that makes you roll your eyes. Big freaking deal, get over it. It's their lives to live and you have your own. Quit worrying about how many times a week they go to McDonadls and then complain about it here.

The beauty of these kinds of message boards is that....if you don;t like the freaking topic...move the hell on.

I have had weight issues for a few years...I KNOW I need to lose it, but I also can't stop eating...I love food, lol. So I am here trying to find a balance and to get healthy. No need for YOU to worry about whether or not I am serious about losing weight.

Geez.

schnarfo

I think you should avoid the forums

agreed

tiffanyquincey

I know exactly how you feel. I have a friend who complains every day to me about how big she is, then goes out 4 times a week and drinks away an entire day's worth of calories, on top of eating too much during the day. It gets old hearing the same thing over and over and seeing her not doing anything.
And to the person above me, I don't think she was saying anything like that. I think what she was saying was that you should not complain about being fat if you clearly are not. Thats just fishing for compliments. And its hard to not get frustrated with other people when they always complain to you about how "fat" they are. Congrats on getting fit though!

BethanyMasters

I know how you feel.

I have a co worker that weighs probably a good 500 pounds if I had to guess, eats mcdonalds twice a DAY and then gets super defensive when I mention anything about my diet or exercise when I'm not even speaking to her.

And more than once I've been in a fitting room listening to little tiny tiny girls complaining that their size 0s are not fitting quite right because they "so fat".

It can be excruciatingly frustrating.

Mad_Dog_Muscle

I know what you mean. Stay true to yourself and keep your goals in mind. Dont let other people's negativity drag you down.

The only negativity here is from the OP... why do you all care about what other people are doing? They are the ones that have to live (or die) with their choices... the real insecure ones have to try to inflict some sort of control on the actions of others... Get real and spend more time developing your own lives.

YEP!! Agreed!

damcool

I am not saying that those that are thin can't be here. Who am I to say such a thing? What irritates me is that some people are vying for attention and this is the only place they get it. It takes away from us that really care about health, weight, and toning. I'm now down to 10 lbs from my goal weight and am now trying to tone my body (after 5 children), so I totally understand that people may judge me for how much I weigh now. But, I'll always remember were I started (115), where I landed (205) and where I am now (135). That's the difference. I know who I am regardless of what anyone tells me. I can't stand it when people come on here and fish for compliments or when they are so NOT ready to make the change and are STILL fishing for compliments. Thanks again...

lollie1285

I normally stay outta the drama, but I have to thumbs up this post. I'm by no means fat, but there IS a part of me that is more overweight than it should be in terms of proportion. Us skinny gals and guys have every right to vent/post/blah blah blah as much as anybody else

And to the original poster, I respect your opinion. Like I said, these forums are a place to vent if need be.

ceebs9

Wow. Just WOW. So it's bad to want to continue to work towards being your best? skinny **** WTF? That pisses me off to no end.

Mad_Dog_Muscle

I'm 115lbs are you telling me that I'm not allowed to want to be fit and toned and healthy?

Focus on yourself not on other people!

I agree!

funfitfoodie

I know what you mean. Stay true to yourself and keep your goals in mind. Dont let other people's negativity drag you down.

Don't go preaching about not letting negativity bring others down! YOU ARE ONE OF THE CAUSES!

Just because we don't have a high WL goal we're all "*****" now! Us 'skinny girls' get a lot of negativity here but that is the worst I've heard! You should be ashamed of yourself!

I have friends on here who are 105lbs trying to gain and friends who are 500lbs with a lot to lose and I support and encourage each as equals. This website is NOT a place for stereotyping and negativity!

SarahJaneDeschamp

I know what you mean. Stay true to yourself and keep your goals in mind. Dont let other people's negativity drag you down.

a little bit harsh dontcha think, people are here for different reasons, first of all i congratulate them for being here and wanting to make the change at all, whether they have a disorder whether they are FAT or skinny, i don't judge anyone, we're all here to support each other whatever the reason we're here, and not every FAT **** goes to MacDonalds 4 times a week !!!!!!!!!!

koosdel

I think I know how you feel. I mean, its just stupid for people to make their own decisions and very inconsiderate of them to recognise that they have a flaw of their own.

It's just down right mean of them..

schnarfo

I know what you mean. Stay true to yourself and keep your goals in mind. Dont let other people's negativity drag you down.

Don't go preaching about not letting negativity bring others down! YOU ARE ONE OF THE CAUSES!

Just because we don't have a high WL goal we're all "****" now! Us 'skinny girls' get a lot of negativity here but that is the worst I've heard! You should be ashamed of yourself!

I have friends on here who are 105lbs trying to gain and friends who are 500lbs with a lot to lose and I support and encourage each as equals. This website is NOT a place for stereotyping and negativity!

thumbs up to this post! we are all here for the same goals hopefully... to be healthy!! Its not about how much you weigh its about the common goal and we should be there to support each other despite of our starting points whether thats over or under weight

NikkisNewStart

Just wondering how some people are going to feel when they reach their goals and are now that sk*nny b*tch everyone seems to hate on... the mirror has 2 faces people so tread lightly on how you judge others... b/c if you hopefully reach your goals... you may be getting a taste of your own medicine.