Is that THE ONLY thing he wants from me?

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  • Hannah_Banana
    Hannah_Banana Posts: 1,242 Member
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    Guys like sex. No really, like a lot. And we have an uncanny ability o turn anything into sex, so don't condem him for that especially if you haven't said anything about not liking it.

    Talk to him and tell him that you'd appreciate a slower approach. If he backs off and keeps taking you out like the gentelman he was before, then no, he didn't just want sex. But if he doesn't back off, or call, then yes, that's all he wanted. If he's a halfway decent guy when you talk to him he should tell you all he wants right now is someone to have sex with if that's where he's at. So talk to him, and then don't wait for his call, but if it comes be open to it.

    Best advice I've seen.

    Btw, not just guys like sex. I don't know why it always bothers me a little when women claim men are 'users.' You're enjoying it too. Not all relationships (and I dont mean 'romantic i'm going to marry this person' relationships) have to be about commitment. Sometimes life can just be simple. :wink: So, I say so whatever you feel like doing! If you like the guy, think he's fun and interesting, what is the harm? At best, you'll end up with a lifelong friend and lover. At worst, you'll end up with some fun memories!
  • pats12to83
    pats12to83 Posts: 9
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    I'm going to say the sex seems to be a big focus...and you probably are a challenge for him so that's why he's trying to both paint the "family man" and "I'm a great guy" picture at the same time... Has there been any conversation about what you are looking for or past relationships? If he's NOT asking all those questions he should be...instead of trying to feel you up all the time!
  • ChantalGG
    ChantalGG Posts: 2,404 Member
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    You should tell him you are taking it slow and wont behaving sex for awhile.lol
  • NA_Willie
    NA_Willie Posts: 340 Member
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    Guarantee this is what he's our for. If he's talking about it that soon and is that forward, then yes he is.
    I'd suggest making a u turn.
    As a guy sex is on the mind all the time, but it doesn't mean that's all men want. From the way you described it, it sounds like he's trying to get you to lower your defenses by inviting you over to meet his family etc. This sounds like a classic play.


    I will give him this, he does have good taste.
    I disagree. Back in the day I wasnt taking just a piece of @ss to meet my family. Only three girls have met my family and they were all three serious gfs. What about when Mom asks what happened to that nice girl you had over a few weeks ago? Oh yeah Mom; I was just tagging that.
  • koosdel
    koosdel Posts: 3,317 Member
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    It can't all be about sex. I mean, he probly wants you to cook too.
  • myofibril
    myofibril Posts: 4,500 Member
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    FACT: almost all guys think about sex almost all the time.

    What was the subject of this thread again? I forgot after the OP. I was too busy thinking about sex....

    Back on topic, I don't think the question of what this guy wants is of relevance. What is important is what this lady will or will not accept and if she can handle the consequences of whatever decision she makes. I don't think you can ever really know, control or predict how another person is going to act, only your own reaction. Maybe this guy will stick around after he takes the skin boat to the Bermuda Triangle. Maybe he won't. I don't think that will change with the time unless this guy has no other options.

    I don't think the question of meeting in a club or not makes a blind bit of difference either. If a guy finds a woman sexier than a Bugatti Veyron covered in whipped cream you could meet at a Halitosis seminar and he would still want to do the mattress mambo without a second thought.

    What I don't understand is why such a seemingly sophisticated man is acting like a dumbass. What's all this talking about sex all the time business? What is he, like 12 or something? That must be a turn off. The lead up to the bedroom is like a dance played out with subtle movements, hints, looks. If you are good in bed you don't need to tell anyone. It's obvious from the way you move, the things you do, how you carry yourself...
  • angryguy77
    angryguy77 Posts: 836 Member
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    Guarantee this is what he's our for. If he's talking about it that soon and is that forward, then yes he is.
    I'd suggest making a u turn.
    As a guy sex is on the mind all the time, but it doesn't mean that's all men want. From the way you described it, it sounds like he's trying to get you to lower your defenses by inviting you over to meet his family etc. This sounds like a classic play.


    I will give him this, he does have good taste.
    I disagree. Back in the day I wasnt taking just a piece of @ss to meet my family. Only three girls have met my family and they were all three serious gfs. What about when Mom asks what happened to that nice girl you had over a few weeks ago? Oh yeah Mom; I was just tagging that.

    Did you try and tongue wrestle her right away? Or start making references about sex that soon? Besides, this is awful quick to be meeting the family. You were in serious relationships, she is not with this guy. These things lead me to believe he's trying to play her.

    Something about this guy is making her wonder about his intentions. Sounds to me this guy needs to work on his game.
  • kimber607
    kimber607 Posts: 7,128 Member
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    It can't all be about sex. I mean, he probly wants you to cook too.
    :huh: :noway: :laugh: :tongue:
  • Namaste1983
    Namaste1983 Posts: 603 Member
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    Guys like sex. No really, like a lot. And we have an uncanny ability o turn anything into sex, so don't condem him for that especially if you haven't said anything about not liking it.

    Talk to him and tell him that you'd appreciate a slower approach. If he backs off and keeps taking you out like the gentelman he was before, then no, he didn't just want sex. But if he doesn't back off, or call, then yes, that's all he wanted. If he's a halfway decent guy when you talk to him he should tell you all he wants right now is someone to have sex with if that's where he's at. So talk to him, and then don't wait for his call, but if it comes be open to it.

    well said :)
  • Namaste1983
    Namaste1983 Posts: 603 Member
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    It can't all be about sex. I mean, he probly wants you to cook too.

    I freaking love you!! bwahahaha :D
  • Schwiggity
    Schwiggity Posts: 1,449 Member
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  • NA_Willie
    NA_Willie Posts: 340 Member
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    Guarantee this is what he's our for. If he's talking about it that soon and is that forward, then yes he is.
    I'd suggest making a u turn.
    As a guy sex is on the mind all the time, but it doesn't mean that's all men want. From the way you described it, it sounds like he's trying to get you to lower your defenses by inviting you over to meet his family etc. This sounds like a classic play.


    I will give him this, he does have good taste.
    I disagree. Back in the day I wasnt taking just a piece of @ss to meet my family. Only three girls have met my family and they were all three serious gfs. What about when Mom asks what happened to that nice girl you had over a few weeks ago? Oh yeah Mom; I was just tagging that.

    Did you try and tongue wrestle her right away? Or start making references about sex that soon? Besides, this is awful quick to be meeting the family. You were in serious relationships, she is not with this guy. These things lead me to believe he's trying to play her.

    Something about this guy is making her wonder about his intentions. Sounds to me this guy needs to work on his game.
    Im saying that when I was dabbling with just semen receptacles I wouldnt be taking them to meet my family so maybe he does have different intentions. You are 100% right though dude does need to tighten his game up.
  • angryguy77
    angryguy77 Posts: 836 Member
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    Guarantee this is what he's our for. If he's talking about it that soon and is that forward, then yes he is.
    I'd suggest making a u turn.
    As a guy sex is on the mind all the time, but it doesn't mean that's all men want. From the way you described it, it sounds like he's trying to get you to lower your defenses by inviting you over to meet his family etc. This sounds like a classic play.


    I will give him this, he does have good taste.
    I disagree. Back in the day I wasnt taking just a piece of @ss to meet my family. Only three girls have met my family and they were all three serious gfs. What about when Mom asks what happened to that nice girl you had over a few weeks ago? Oh yeah Mom; I was just tagging that.

    Did you try and tongue wrestle her right away? Or start making references about sex that soon? Besides, this is awful quick to be meeting the family. You were in serious relationships, she is not with this guy. These things lead me to believe he's trying to play her.

    Something about this guy is making her wonder about his intentions. Sounds to me this guy needs to work on his game.
    Im saying that when I was dabbling with just semen receptacles I wouldnt be taking them to meet my family so maybe he does have different intentions. You are 100% right though dude does need to tighten his game up.

    Right, if that was the only thing he did then I might believe he's on the level. But once you add up all the pieces, I believe it's a safe bet to say what he's our for. Meeting the parents is one thing, but to talk about sex and how much she would like it, putting his hands all over her all in one weeks time should make her think.
  • efokken
    efokken Posts: 138 Member
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    Guys are dbags! nough said:mad:
  • brewingaz
    brewingaz Posts: 1,136 Member
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    Yeah he's just looking at getting his hose wet. Just sayin'
  • NA_Willie
    NA_Willie Posts: 340 Member
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    Guarantee this is what he's our for. If he's talking about it that soon and is that forward, then yes he is.
    I'd suggest making a u turn.
    As a guy sex is on the mind all the time, but it doesn't mean that's all men want. From the way you described it, it sounds like he's trying to get you to lower your defenses by inviting you over to meet his family etc. This sounds like a classic play.


    I will give him this, he does have good taste.
    I disagree. Back in the day I wasnt taking just a piece of @ss to meet my family. Only three girls have met my family and they were all three serious gfs. What about when Mom asks what happened to that nice girl you had over a few weeks ago? Oh yeah Mom; I was just tagging that.

    Did you try and tongue wrestle her right away? Or start making references about sex that soon? Besides, this is awful quick to be meeting the family. You were in serious relationships, she is not with this guy. These things lead me to believe he's trying to play her.

    Something about this guy is making her wonder about his intentions. Sounds to me this guy needs to work on his game.
    Im saying that when I was dabbling with just semen receptacles I wouldnt be taking them to meet my family so maybe he does have different intentions. You are 100% right though dude does need to tighten his game up.

    Right, if that was the only thing he did then I might believe he's on the level. But once you add up all the pieces, I believe it's a safe bet to say what he's our for. Meeting the parents is one thing, but to talk about sex and how much she would like it, putting his hands all over her all in one weeks time should make her think.
    Again I agree his game needs tightened up but my golden rule with chicks is try to get as far as they will let you. Maybe he could be just feeling her out and she is overreacting?

    Met her at a club = bad sign

    Hands all over her every chance he gets = not necessarily a bad sign

    Bringing up sex all the time = bad sign

    Having her meet the parents in less than a week = borderline weird/good sign.

    Im at a loss. If she feels weird about it than she should just leave him alone.
  • Schwiggity
    Schwiggity Posts: 1,449 Member
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    Guys are dbags! nough said:mad:

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  • mishelnkiki
    mishelnkiki Posts: 775 Member
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    met my on again off again boyfriend of 1 year in the club. the times that we are off again... is bc he would rather be in the club then with me. on again, is when he has nothing better to do. dont do it! and tell him ur boundries! if he accepts then great! if not... u gotta go! best of luck to ya!
  • LLaDonna
    LLaDonna Posts: 126
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    Like another person said: a fine *kitten* man, partying in the VIP section, taking two chicks out at a time, hosting parties, etc. can easily get the booty when he wants it. What if he's testing her integrity? What if this is his "golddigger" test? His game is a little unconventional (borderline wack) but depending on their town, crowd, age group...it might be what the dating scene has come to for him. One never knows...
  • myofibril
    myofibril Posts: 4,500 Member
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    Guys are dbags! nough said:mad:

    I think dishonest guys are that.

    However, if you are a guy, or gal for that matter and all you really want is no strings attached sex then there is no harm in letting that be known so that the objection of your affection can make up their mind. Sure they maybe disappointed if they want more but I think being lied to or lead on hurts way more than that. I think your only duty to a potential partner is to be honest with them.

    Besides, not all guys or gals want look walks on the beach, moonlight or romance. Some just want to get buckwild...

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