Here it goes... I never get approach by men is it because of

flatbellybella

my weight...
...serious question. I'm also a member of bodybuilding.com... and I learnt my lesson when I asked this on their forum. LOL wow did they try to tear me apart. C'est la vie

So, I hardly ever get approached by guys... I carry myself well, hair done... nails, etc and believe I'm approachable... I'm super friendly and I smile. (I'm not trying to come off cocky.. I don't think I'm any Victoria Secret's Model... I'm just working towards being the best I can be)
I'm also 5'10 and heavier but I think I carry my weight somewhat well... who knows
I feel like guys will stare but never do they approach me...

I don't live in the greatest city... but even if I go to a bigger city or the States (I'm Canadian) ... it's the same deal...
they'll just stare me down but won't come up to me.
When I asked this on the bodybuilding.com forum one loser said "they're staring to try to figure if you outweigh them" low blow....

and I guess maybe I have to put myself out there more... but a lot of my friends are in serious relationships/engaged/married and aren't really into doing things that "put themseleves out there"

...I don't want to do online dating but I'm sort of at the point where I'm trying not to let my relationship status bother me... but I'm honestly sick of being single (lol)
I guess women can always approach men... but that's not really how I want to go about it... I feel it would be sort of chasing them... and I feel like if you have to chase something it's not meant for you. meh.........


Anyways, I'm just curious about this and if anyone else is going through or has gone through this?

Andee08

bump...I feel the same way....kind of. I am 5'1" and I carry my weight pretty well. I was told by my guy friends its because I am intimidating. Good career, intelligent, outdoorsy (hunting, camping, shooting competitions, hiking), and I have opinions. The only guys that I get approached by are loud mouth type A personalities that are *kitten* holes. I would love to see a guys take on it.

HaleyAlli

You're a beautiful lady, don't listen to losers Men are probably just intimidated by you. I would try doing things that show off your more down-to-earth, fun-loving side and then maybe you'd get some attention

flatbellybella

Yeahh! I asked my guy friends and I've even asked an Ex (lmao) they said the same intimidating thing...
but I think that whole intimidating line is just an excuse

rrsuthy

I don't know you so I can't say for sure. However, I would venture to guess that your looks aren't the reason they are not approaching you. Based on your avatar, I think you are pretty and I'm sure men do to. Are you giving off a weird vibe (meaning a "look but don't approach" vibe, or a "desperate to be in a relationship vibe", etc.)? Please note that I'm not asking to judge you, I'm asking you to look at yourself to see if you can find the reason.

Cindy311

Well, firstly, as women we choose our mate...not the other way around. So starting you down is a way to get attention. Do you ever call over any of them that stare you down? I bet if you did they would approach. The loud mouth ones are usually the ones to watch because they have a high opinion of themselves, lol.

Hernandezedw

I guess women can always approach men... but that's not really how I want to go about it... I feel it would be sort of chasing them... and I feel like if you have to chase something it's not meant for you. meh.........

So, what is it when they have to approach you? Anyway, I'd lose the flower print shirt. Just my opinion.

jasonweinberg

i can never figure any of this out. i have been single forever and thought after losing weight things might change. i do notice women flirt with me a lot more and when i go out dancing i always wind up attracting woman to dance with me (i am a pretty good dancer) but as far as that whole asking out/getting asked out thing...nothing. a lot of woman come in where i work and i flirt flirt flirt away but still....nothing. i've got no answer.

JDMPWR

Excuse. From a mans point of view if he wants to talk to you he will. If he doesn't he wont, maybe they have confidence issues but out of every group there is an alpha male that will talk to you no matter what so considering that I just dont think they are into you. They may look and think about it but they are just window shopping or seeing whats out there.

Carl01

Just a thought...approach them.
Imagine being a guy that is expected to be the one to "make a move" all the while knowing the chances of being shot down and feeling like crap over it far exceed the chances of success.
I think a lot of guys just think a nice looking lady (which you are btw) won`t be interested so they don`t try.

Cindy311

I read an article that said if a woman is with more than one other female that a man usually won't approach because he's afraid of rejection.

CoachMaritova

bump

flatbellybella

I guess women can always approach men... but that's not really how I want to go about it... I feel it would be sort of chasing them... and I feel like if you have to chase something it's not meant for you. meh.........

So, what is it when they have to approach you? Anyway, I'd lose the flower print shirt. Just my opinion.

Haa
I love that shirt
I'd most definitely lose those sunglasses.

katheern

...I don't want to do online dating but I'm sort of at the point where I'm trying not to let my relationship status bother me... but I'm honestly sick of being single (lol)
I guess women can always approach men... but that's not really how I want to go about it... I feel it would be sort of chasing them... and I feel like if you have to chase something it's not meant for you. meh.........

I met my current boyfriend through online dating and had a lot of success getting dates (although there were a lot of misses along the way) that way. I would highly recommend it

myukniewicz

n/m

FTIM2015

I used to be in fantastic shape, confident, tall, always doing something active (usually horse related) and t took until last year when I was at the biggest that I had ever been and all but given up for someone to actually bother to put the effort in and to have a proper relationship.

Sure there had been others before who never lasted long, and when I asked male friends why do I always attract the sh1t and the nice guys are always scared of me they told me the same thing, intimidating. I'm taller than a lot of guys, used to look happy or be smiling a lot and I was a lot more outgoing (still had a huge rack:grumble:). Don't give up hope, there is someone out there who doesn't talk out of their ar$e, has the confience to approach you and to make you happy... it jus means weading out all the idiots first!

AtticusFinch

So, I hardly ever get approached by guys... I carry myself well, hair done... nails, etc and believe I'm approachable... I'm super friendly and I smile. (I'm not trying to come off cocky.. I don't think I'm any Victoria Secret's Model... I'm just working towards being the best I can be)

Oh, I think I know this one. Is the answer personal hygiene? Yes, that's my final answer (crossing my fingers)

MrsSki

Next time some cute guy is looking at you, go talk to him. I was definitely the "approacher" with my husband. Mostly because guys do find me intimidating, so I learned to use that to my advantage. It doesn't mean I wear the pants in my relationship, or that I'm the boss, it just means that I thought my husband was cute, so I approached him. He did ask me to marry him, so you could say he took on the traditional "man's" role.

gbbhey

Just a thought...approach them.
Imagine being a guy that is expected to be the one to "make a move" all the while knowing the chances of being shot down and feeling like crap over it far exceed the chances of success.
I think a lot of guys just think a nice looking lady (which you are btw) won`t be interested so they don`t try.

nail on the head!

I was asked this question by another one of my friends earlier this week and we got into a discussion about it. Maybe it's because I used to be over weight, but I'm not overly confident when it comes to approaching girls either. It bothers me a little bit, so I've been trying to do it more and more often, but no luck. So, I would suggest maybe taking a friend with you to talk to him and his friend. If it's not a match, then move on. Happy Hunting!

Cheers,
Jared

flatbellybella

So, I hardly ever get approached by guys... I carry myself well, hair done... nails, etc and believe I'm approachable... I'm super friendly and I smile. (I'm not trying to come off cocky.. I don't think I'm any Victoria Secret's Model... I'm just working towards being the best I can be)

Oh, I think I know this one. Is the answer personal hygiene? Yes, that's my final answer (crossing my fingers)

um, would you like to use a lifeline?
because that's obviously wrong lol

toots99

I guess women can always approach men... but that's not really how I want to go about it... I feel it would be sort of chasing them... and I feel like if you have to chase something it's not meant for you. meh.........

So, what is it when they have to approach you?

I was thinking the same thing. Maybe they feel the same way?