Fit For Future Families - July 2011

jalara

Newbie question - What does AFM stand for? It's not listed on last months acrynyms list.

It stands for: As For Me.... it took me awhile to get that one myself.

AlisaToth

Bumping for reading and posting later....going to try to get dime things done today but fight w BFF over the weekend has put me in a bad mood and makes me just want to sit on my porch and do nothing...

jalara

Does anyone know of a good website to buy fake rings from? We're sending ours away for the annual inspection and re-dipping, and we want something nice to wear in it's place. Also, we're not taking our own rings to Las Vegas with us (mine is over 100 years old and irreplaceable). Any suggestions?

kah78

Hi all! Internet is busted at the house, so there goes my stretch of days logging in, and i"m only on here now because I'm at work. (Ooops!) Haha. Just trying to catch up on everyone--probably won't be on here much for the next few days until my connection to the world is restored (I hope I hope I hope). Hope everyone is doing well. Later gals!

BronzeLady

I wound up in the old thread by accident, lol! Here I go again:

May I join your group? I joined MFP a few months back.

(Hope my story isn't too long!)
About 9 years ago DH and I had been unofficially TTC and nothing was happening. Went to my GYN and told her nothing was happening and she told me about charting and temping. I also bought a book called Taking Charge of Your Fertility and learned so much! So we started officially trying and still nothing was happening. Wound up getting a fertility workup on myself and they went in, looked around (and I got blood tests for my hormones), and after all of that they were like 'you're fine. We're going to have to test your husband's sperm'. During this time, this one, that one, and EVERYONE at my job was announcing pregnancies. First one, then another of my SILs got pregnant, one with her first child, the other with her second child. I was crying my eyes out 4 days a week for about a year.

I was told by a friend of mine that my weight could be getting in the way of TTC. I'm a little lady (under 5 feet) and at that time I was like 172 pounds. So I went to the family herbalist and she told me what to eat and what not to eat, and put me on a crapload of herbs to clean me out. I did what she told me to and started exercising and I started taking Robitussin just in case it was my FM. We also bought a CBEFM and started using it.

After almost a total of a year and a half of trying even though I was still a little upset about not being able to conceive, I was feeling a lot more positive and happy because I had lost about 12 pounds.

Went back to the GYN on a Wednesday, cried in her office and she gave me a prescription for Clomid and ordered up labs for my husband's sperm to get tested. That Friday, got the High Fertility status on the CBEFM. We were supposed to have company that night and were trying to hold out on BD because of the sperm analysis. No one showed at our house that night so we figured what the heck? We BD. We did the sperm analysis the following week. Found out his sperm was fine.

Two weeks later that Friday put in the prescription for clomid but AF was late. So I took a test and it was freaking POSITIVE. We have a 7 year old son now. He has autism. It has been a challenge in a lot of ways, but he is so loving and CUTE!

Started TTC again 5 years ago and NOTHING. Weight was up to 180s this time. Yikes! Made some little changes and slowly went down to like 176 over a year's time. Got a faint positive on a test last year, but then had a very early MC. Was so mad at myself because I figured if I had not have taken the test, I'd never have known.

Lost a couple more pounds before joining MFP. Then joined and lost 9 more. So I'm back at the weight I was when I conceived my son. I'm trying to lose at least 13 more before I officially 'try' again, but I've been stuck at a plateau for the past 6 weeks. I'm in much better shape, physically and endurance wise than I've ever been this past 10 years, so I plan on instituting jogging or P90X soon. This week, though, my big focus is going into watching "when" I eat. Late night snacking is standing in my way.

I wanted to 'officially' start trying late this year/early next year. We'll see, right?

Baby Dust to all!!!

@Jalara - Overstock.com has great rings for reasonable prices. I guess you could get a cubic z. or a crystal or something. I think they have good metals, too, so it won't turn your finger green or anything.

kt4au

Bumping to keep up! Hope you all had a great 4th even though some of you don't celebrate!

Katie

ElizabethRN59

Thanks for your help
A date night would be great! But we never have a sitter:(
we used to txt all day but now im sleeping when he works and he sleeps when im up
Im really trying on the project thing I try to be busyall the time and it helps
Thanks again for the support I do really need it.

Oh, and my pot pie turned out great! 100% all whole wheat loaded with veggies s! Idk if its for everyones taste buds cause the crust is wheaty it tastes healthy. Lol but I like the tase of healthy so I love it

OK... i have another idea- if you can't do date night b/c of sitting, make plans for after the little ones are in bed?!? plan a romantic meal for the two of you, or desert?! other idea would be to place little notes for him all over (lunch box, on the bathroom mirror, etc)... just another thing we do to help "keep it alive"...


Welcome BronzeLady! baby dust your way!

alymarphi

Thank you for the ideas I'm gonna have to try the note thing maybe it will surprse him

redheadmommy

Hi Ladies,
I have kind of joined end of last month, but didn't post much after that.
I just had my period and went for an ultrasound on CD3 to check out my cyst. My cyst was the reason they cancelled my last IVF.
The Dr said I still have a small cyst, but it is small enough not to interfere with IVF. So from next month we can start the expensive baby making again. Also they will put me on a short protocol so I won't be on supressant , which I am really happy about.
I am very exited and started to think what if I get pregnant.
What will I do with the whole MFP and weight loss thing. I do not want to risk the baby with not enough nutrition, but at the same time I do not want to make the same mistake as last time: I gained 70lb with my last pregnancy, yikes!

Any thought on this issue?

pixieofdoom

Welcome Bronzelady and anyone else who is new.

Redhead - there is another thread for pregnant ladies on here to offer support with weight while pregnant. Sadly I've never had cause to look at it myself but I know lots of people from here head there when they get pregnant. I'm certain they will have loads of really good advice for you when the time comes. Excellent news about the IVF too!

snflwr04

Morning all! Does anyone have a recomendation on a good health & fitness book to read? I was looking at getting Kim Lyons: Your Body Your LIfe but I am unable to locate it in my area.

Hope you all have a good day - trying to keep hopes up here got AF this morning.

abeare

Welcome bronzelady and any other newbies I may have missed!

Redhead, pixieofdoom is right, there is more than one fantastic threads here for mothers to be looking to maintain a healthy weight during their pregnancies, I’m sure they’ll be able to support you through that process & fingers crossed that some of us will be moving there too soon! Good luck with the IVF!

Snflwr04, I’ve never read this but a former member here (she’s now preggers and on the other thread) often recommended “The Diet Solution” and she swore by it.
I’m sorry to hear about AF, I know how you feel!

AFM, AF came too this morning. Early for me on CD29, I keep going down by a day or so every month, not that I mind it just means I get to restart earlier. The good news too is that my next cycle’s O will fall while I’m on vacation so I’ll be able to have a relaxing last IUI.
Does anyone else notice how extreme workouts affect your cycle? I’ve noticed over the last couple months that I O’ or even start AF right after an intense workout, not to mention that AF is that much more heavy during & the hour after a workout. EWCM is too! Is this just me?

DrPooh

Hello Everyone,

I just join myfitnesspal on Monday & looking forward to losing weight. Me & my husband have been TTC for some years now & still no luck. Doctors recommend losing weight . I keep losing 10 to 15 lbs here & there and then gain it back or more. Looking for tips/suggestions to keep the weight off before & after baby finally gets here.

ginabina13

Hi everyone! Do you have room for one more?

I'm technically not TTC at this very moment, but planning to start soon. My fiance and I are getting married on March 17, 2012 and want to start TTC right away. I've been on the pill for several years and have had several ultrasounds that show multiple cysts. I'm trying to find a new doctor now to meet with for advice about preparing myself for pregnancy. Part of my reason for joining MFP is to get myself in the best of health for my future family, so this board jumped out at me when I saw it!

I've lost about 50lbs in the past 2 years after getting a thyroid problem under control and focusing on eating better. I've started working out daily just recently and have a goal of reaching 160lbs. I'd like to do that prior to wedding day, but I'll take what I can get. The last time I was 160lbs, I was in 8th grade!

I hope to get to know you all better so we can help each other meet our goals!

godblessourhome

What will I do with the whole MFP and weight loss thing. I do not want to risk the baby with not enough nutrition, but at the same time I do not want to make the same mistake as last time: I gained 70lb with my last pregnancy, yikes!

a 25-30 pound gain is normal. you only need an extra 300 calories a day (up to 500) while you are pregnant with your little one. the problem is we think that we are 'eating for two' when we really aren't. if you are pregnant, you can still use mfp, either at maintenance or at gaining a half pound a week.

jalara

What will I do with the whole MFP and weight loss thing. I do not want to risk the baby with not enough nutrition, but at the same time I do not want to make the same mistake as last time: I gained 70lb with my last pregnancy, yikes!

a 25-30 pound gain is normal. you only need an extra 300 calories a day (up to 500) while you are pregnant with your little one. the problem is we think that we are 'eating for two' when we really aren't. if you are pregnant, you can still use mfp, either at maintenance or at gaining a half pound a week.

I have to disagree with this. The ideal gain for a pregnant women is dependant upon her starting weight. As for calories, for the first trimester there is no requirement for extra calories. In the 2nd and 3rd trimester you only need an extra 300 calories.

jalara

Hey all newbies! Wow, it seems this place is growing super fast! I'm sorry I can't quite keep up.

I am have a pity party today. I'm on yet ANOTHER month of not being pregnant, and my 6th month (in total) of Clomid. I"m so past fed up.
And our wait on the adoption list isn't moving at all. We're still waiting for the PRIDE training and we've got another year to year and a half for that, THEN the home study, then the wait for placement. It's going to be years, and there is nothing we can do about it.

I'm feeling so incredibly useless right now.

snflwr04

Hey all newbies! Wow, it seems this place is growing super fast! I'm sorry I can't quite keep up.

I am have a pity party today. I'm on yet ANOTHER month of not being pregnant, and my 6th month (in total) of Clomid. I"m so past fed up.
And our wait on the adoption list isn't moving at all. We're still waiting for the PRIDE training and we've got another year to year and a half for that, THEN the home study, then the wait for placement. It's going to be years, and there is nothing we can do about it.

I'm feeling so incredibly useless right now.

*Hugs* You are not useless! You are a beautiful person who is surrounded by people who care about you and whom you care about also. The wait for a child is WORTH the frustration of TTC and waiting for adoption. There is a child out there just waiting for you to be their mother - you just have to wait. Waiting stinks, yes - but just imagine the excitement you will feel when you get your BFP or your child from the adoption agency.

I say, go do one thing that makes you happy today. Get a massage, do your nails, read a book or just let calgon take you away. You'll be fine - we are all strong women and will get through this regardless!

snflwr04

Welcome bronzelady and any other newbies I may have missed!

Redhead, pixieofdoom is right, there is more than one fantastic threads here for mothers to be looking to maintain a healthy weight during their pregnancies, I’m sure they’ll be able to support you through that process & fingers crossed that some of us will be moving there too soon! Good luck with the IVF!

Snflwr04, I’ve never read this but a former member here (she’s now preggers and on the other thread) often recommended “The Diet Solution” and she swore by it.
I’m sorry to hear about AF, I know how you feel!

AFM, AF came too this morning. Early for me on CD29, I keep going down by a day or so every month, not that I mind it just means I get to restart earlier. The good news too is that my next cycle’s O will fall while I’m on vacation so I’ll be able to have a relaxing last IUI.
Does anyone else notice how extreme workouts affect your cycle? I’ve noticed over the last couple months that I O’ or even start AF right after an intense workout, not to mention that AF is that much more heavy during & the hour after a workout. EWCM is too! Is this just me?

Thanks for the recomendation!! I'll definitley look into it!!

MirandaSwafford

Hey all newbie here! I just recently discovered this site and I think I am really going to like it!! We have been TTC for 4 years now with no luck! Doctor recommends to lose weight to help with PCOS!! All advice welcome

sdavisneill

Hey gals!

Just dropping in for a minute, I just got back from a short business trip to New York and I am exhausted! Between the holiday, the trip, and AF (grrr), I feel all out of whack with eating, weird exercise schedule, cramps, etc. On the bright side, today is day 100 for me on MFP!!

It's so great to see so many newbies on here! Welcome everyone!!

Jalara, sorry you're having a rough day. I agree 100% with snflwr, you are wonderful and I believe that each of us, in our own way and time, will find what we're looking for. That is exactly why we're here for each other! **HUGS**

:flowerforyou: Stephanie

BronzeLady

Jalara, you are not 'useless'. You are a beautiful wonderful person who is willing to open your heart and your home for a child not of your body. Not everyone is cut out for that sort of thing, but you are! Without people like you my grandpa would not have had a home.

phshhnet

sorry... didn't realize I posted this in the june thread.... so I am going to post this here now and edit my other one. sorry!!

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Don't know much about the meds or anything but I have a question... I don't get my TOM on my own (need to take Prometrium once every 3 months to bring it on)... if I was to use an ovulation monitor, would the Prometrium affect or skew the results in any way? I know because of the PCOS I don't ovulate on my own... so Am I wrong with the assumption that the Prometrium will allow me to ovulate?

Thanks.

losing4baby

Hi all!
I'm brand new here (started yesterday) and hope to stick with it so thought I should look for some support!
I started with an RE just over a year ago, and since that first appointment I have gained 35 lbs.! The challenge of wanting/trying to get pregnant and not has led to lots of emotional eating and I had to put a stop to it. Two years ago I was 223 lbs... currently I am 283. Unbelievable.
I am in the middle of a frozen embryo transfer cycle... transfer should happen early August and I know I will feel a little better to be down 10 lbs. or so by then.
Glad to be here and looking forward to getting to know some of you!!

godblessourhome

What will I do with the whole MFP and weight loss thing. I do not want to risk the baby with not enough nutrition, but at the same time I do not want to make the same mistake as last time: I gained 70lb with my last pregnancy, yikes!

a 25-30 pound gain is normal. you only need an extra 300 calories a day (up to 500) while you are pregnant with your little one. the problem is we think that we are 'eating for two' when we really aren't. if you are pregnant, you can still use mfp, either at maintenance or at gaining a half pound a week.

I have to disagree with this. The ideal gain for a pregnant women is dependant upon her starting weight. As for calories, for the first trimester there is no requirement for extra calories. In the 2nd and 3rd trimester you only need an extra 300 calories.

not sure what you are disagreeing with? is it just that i wasn't specific enough about when you need the extra 300 calories?

according to my doctor, regardless of starting weight, you are supposed to gain 25-30 pounds. of course it is more if you are too thin and less is you are too heavy, but that is a general average for the general public. doing the calculation, 40 weeks of pregnancy at .5 pound a week equals 20 pounds. mathwise, it looks like mfp's settings will work for gaining a reasonable amount of weight while you are pregnant. am i missing something?

godblessourhome

Hey all newbies! Wow, it seems this place is growing super fast! I'm sorry I can't quite keep up.

I am have a pity party today. I'm on yet ANOTHER month of not being pregnant, and my 6th month (in total) of Clomid. I"m so past fed up.
And our wait on the adoption list isn't moving at all. We're still waiting for the PRIDE training and we've got another year to year and a half for that, THEN the home study, then the wait for placement. It's going to be years, and there is nothing we can do about it.

I'm feeling so incredibly useless right now.

sorry you are feeling blue.

godblessourhome

sorry... didn't realize I posted this in the june thread.... so I am going to post this here now and edit my other one. sorry!!

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Don't know much about the meds or anything but I have a question... I don't get my TOM on my own (need to take Prometrium once every 3 months to bring it on)... if I was to use an ovulation monitor, would the Prometrium affect or skew the results in any way? I know because of the PCOS I don't ovulate on my own... so Am I wrong with the assumption that the Prometrium will allow me to ovulate?

Thanks.

i would assume that too, but i would call the prescribing doctor's nurse and ask for clarification.

godblessourhome

welcome to the other newbies. *waves*

two more days until my supposed ovulation. keeping my fingers (and toes) crossed.

godblessourhome

Hey all newbie here! I just recently discovered this site and I think I am really going to like it!! We have been TTC for 4 years now with no luck! Doctor recommends to lose weight to help with PCOS!! All advice welcome

the thing that helps me the most in controlling pcos is to eat less than 100 grams of carbs a day. i had to change mfp's default settings. hope that helps you too!

abeare

Hey girls, I just wanted to give you all a shout out before I leave for another long weekend (got the OK from my boss yesterday that I can have Friday off). So I’m heading out to the Adirondacks for some camping and kayaking. I made a meal plan of supper healthy low GI foods to bring, and since the nearest groceries store will be an hour drive away, it actually means I’ll be eating well this weekend! I did do well up until last night, those AF cramps and a lot of packing and planning led to me getting takeout (but the shish taouk was worth it!). So I’m wishing all of you a healthy weekend and as always… lots of baby dust!