Why did you get married?

xMissAprilx

I married my high school sweetheart. Known each other & started dating since I was 15. We broke up after high school because he moved to Japan and I was in college. After two+ years apart we immediately got back together when he came home. I was even more in love with him than before, and I still am.

noelheart

I got married becase my family pushed me into it i was 18yrs and with child,and they didn't understand that woman can bring a child up on their own if they need to,the husband was never the love of my life, he grew to be an *kitten* and messed with my head and because of him i have huge body issues he use to compare me to porn stars ie "why can't you look like that""why can't you do that" after four yrs i walked away.
Husband number 2 was my own choice and i went for every thing that was opposite to the first,number 2 was so laid back to the point where he was happy to work lay on sofa having any kind of intimacy was a no no for the last four yrs not my choice.
So i am all for marriage but i think people change and grow and have different wants and needs and both of the people in the marriage need to grow together or compromise at least x
All for marriage but hate weddings lol

It's wise of you to leave your 1st husband. He didn't treat you well and you can't live happily together with other, it's better to leave him at an early time. Though it is somewhat difficult for a women to bring a child up, we still need to believe we can a suitable guy in near future.

kparks770

welll sorry to hear that.I kinda feel like that sometimes.I mean I have my doubts.My parents divorced when I was 4.My dad was a alcoholic and mom was a little screwed up in the head though she busted her butt to physically take care of me and my younger brother.She was and has never emotionally been their.She remarried when I was 8 and I got a ok stepdad.He did treat his daughters better and didnt have much to do with me.He loved my brother he had always wanted a son.He ended up on drugs and a alcoholic too.They divorced when I was like 13. she never remarried and never seemed to be happy.My brother has never left home and is 33 yrsold and has a drinking and drug problem now.For myself I grew up with some issues but am getting better.I have been engaged twice and left them.Once cause I found out I wasnt into guys.The second was a woman but am abusive one,and now this is the third time around and she and I have been together for 7 yrs but not married or anything but just living together and going through most of the motions.I love her and all and try to do my best to keep things going smooth.I dont know what we are doing but just living and trying to take care of one another and others.Its hard to explain.Life is weird/

noelheart

welll sorry to hear that.I kinda feel like that sometimes.I mean I have my doubts.My parents divorced when I was 4.My dad was a alcoholic and mom was a little screwed up in the head though she busted her butt to physically take care of me and my younger brother.She was and has never emotionally been their.She remarried when I was 8 and I got a ok stepdad.He did treat his daughters better and didnt have much to do with me.He loved my brother he had always wanted a son.He ended up on drugs and a alcoholic too.They divorced when I was like 13. she never remarried and never seemed to be happy.My brother has never left home and is 33 yrsold and has a drinking and drug problem now.For myself I grew up with some issues but am getting better.I have been engaged twice and left them.Once cause I found out I wasnt into guys.The second was a woman but am abusive one,and now this is the third time around and she and I have been together for 7 yrs but not married or anything but just living together and going through most of the motions.I love her and all and try to do my best to keep things going smooth.I dont know what we are doing but just living and trying to take care of one another and others.Its hard to explain.Life is weird/

Thanks for your tell.
Your growing circumstances tells us that your family is different from others, broken family, sorry to say that.
Life is weird because of your environment.

princesstoadstool82

welll sorry to hear that.I kinda feel like that sometimes.I mean I have my doubts.My parents divorced when I was 4.My dad was a alcoholic and mom was a little screwed up in the head though she busted her butt to physically take care of me and my younger brother.She was and has never emotionally been their.She remarried when I was 8 and I got a ok stepdad.He did treat his daughters better and didnt have much to do with me.He loved my brother he had always wanted a son.He ended up on drugs and a alcoholic too.They divorced when I was like 13. she never remarried and never seemed to be happy.My brother has never left home and is 33 yrsold and has a drinking and drug problem now.For myself I grew up with some issues but am getting better.I have been engaged twice and left them.Once cause I found out I wasnt into guys.The second was a woman but am abusive one,and now this is the third time around and she and I have been together for 7 yrs but not married or anything but just living together and going through most of the motions.I love her and all and try to do my best to keep things going smooth.I dont know what we are doing but just living and trying to take care of one another and others.Its hard to explain.Life is weird/

good on you for trying, you seemed to have turned out pretty good considering your up bringing, but just remeber the cycle doesnt have to repeat and you can change we can all change. relationships take work, and they take both people to want to make it work... all the best with your journey xox

marquesajen

Tax break! Okay, not really, though not bad. I used to think I didn't want to get married or have a wedding because for me a big white fluffy wedding would be so lame and not me I'd probably run and hide. I always thought marriage was like a formula where the couple always "settled down", got boring, wife became subservient, man became jerk, house sinks into dante's inferno, and the next thing you know you're baking bland vanilla cupcakes and dressing your kids in disney paraphenalia. AHHHH!

So instead we had a Harry Potter wedding, played our favorite music include "Holy Diver", did what we wanted to do, and now we live with one of my brothers, my husband going to start jamming with another band, I'm planning my first tattoo (half sleeve?), and basically doing everything we did before, but more and together. I'm a loner and my husband gives me the space I need and together we're losing this crap ton of weight.

So the short answer is: because we're awesome.

SemperAnticus1643

Because I found an amazing man! So after 11 months of dating we went to Vegas and got married. Had 20 guests.

I am glad I didnt spend alot of money on the wedding.

11 months?! wow! I suppose my mum & dad were 12.. 6 dating 6 engaged..

I got married after a year to the date. We were engaged for 363 days. lol But seriously we were engaged just a couple days after "branding" ourselves as a couple.

SemperAnticus1643

I love the guy, he has my heart and we both wanted to get married. Neither one of us had been married before just cause we hadn't found "the one". But when we did we were both head over heels for each other. Still are now. Both of us being Christians it was just the next step in our relationship. Complete and total commitment to one another for life. Sounded like a good plan for me. We went thru the pre marital counseling and all that good jazz. And we knew before that this was it. Once we say those vows we were stuck together. lol And we both said "I do" with a smile on our faces.

TheRoadDog

I asked my wife to marry me on our second date. She said yes. I knew and she knew. We are nothing alike. Where she ebbs, I flow. And vice versa.

We have the same goals; we share the same dreams. We match up perfectly. Can't imagine my life without her.