Fit For Future Families - August 2011
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Jalara, I’m glad you cried, it somehow lets out the steam when we cry. I’ve had times where I couldn’t and so I’d pop in my sure fire “cry movie” mine is What Dreams May Come, a friend of mine watches PS I Love You (to give to examples), when she cant cry but knows she needs to.
My thoughts are with you!
Julia, I have to agree with the general consensus here, it’s your choice, and no one knows what’s right for you and your family but you! But a year is a long time!
Pam, yeah for August! Why wont your doc offer Femera?
Dcg8r, For once I’m saying Yeah for AF! Wow that felt weird! But I’m glad that this cycle is done and over with and you are feeling good about getting back on the TTC wagon. FC that you get a BFP that sticks real soon!
Miss you Ron & AnneElise, glad to see you guys stalking us!
Karen, I know exactly how you feel! The first IUI I had in February was horrible! The 2WW was unbearable and to top it off I started spotting somewhere around 8dpiui and didn’t know what to make of it. I was getting my hope up high then bringing myself back to reality over & over & over again! I sadly don’t have any suggestion on how to stop thinking about it (never figured that one out myself) but I am sending you lots of baby dust! I really hope this works for you!
Panteragirl, My family doesn’t know we’re TTC yet either, or at least not officially. We started trying when we got married two years ago and so my family hasn’t quite decided if our wait is deliberate or because of infertility. It’s really hard to go through without a support system if it wasn’t for DH, a couple close friends, and the girls here, I don’t know how I’d have kept my sanity over the pas couple years. Hopefully your friends will come around, but if not we’re all here for ya!
AFM, I did get some news yesterday, but didn’t feel like it was the time to share considering the attention and well wishes really needed to be directed to someone else (and still should be). But seeing how tomorrow’s my last day till I’m off camping and wont have the opportunity for a while, I’ll spill now. I got a BFP. I went in this morning for a blood test to be sure and just got the call that it came back positive too. It’s finally happened! Cycle 26 was the lucky one for me. I just want to tell all you girls how happy I am that I got to know all of you. I couldn’t have done it without you guys!
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Ashley - no Femara because it's not really the thing to do with IVF apparently. I told her we were covered and she kind of went, that's okay, we won't be using it...>I think it's more for IUI and overstimulation with natural insemination. I asked about mood swings while on the Lupron and she said that because it doesn't depress the estrogen to stimulate another hormone to induce the hyperovulation, it shouldnt cause any mood swings at all (It basically just directly inflates that other hormone - not relying on my body's chemistry here)....
She seemed really positive that it's going to go well, especially if we decide to go with the donor sperm. What we decided on that front is to go ahead and try and use as much of DH's genetic material as we can and then supplement with the donor sperm. We'll try implanting DH's eggs first and if they don't work, then it's on to the rest of the embryo's. Having a child that is genetically related is so not an issue for us, but it would be for other people (his parents) and so we've also decided not to share that detail with others, even though we've kind of brought it up and everyone including his parents seem really supportive, but it was really abstract and I don't want that to impact my child.....
Jalara - so glad you had a good cry - sometimes it's exactly what we need!!!0 -
Ashley - no Femara because it's not really the thing to do with IVF apparently. I told her we were covered and she kind of went, that's okay, we won't be using it...>I think it's more for IUI and overstimulation with natural insemination. I asked about mood swings while on the Lupron and she said that because it doesn't depress the estrogen to stimulate another hormone to induce the hyperovulation, it shouldnt cause any mood swings at all (It basically just directly inflates that other hormone - not relying on my body's chemistry here)....
My friend is on Lupron to put her into “early menopause” for her Endo, and she didn’t find too many side effects with it. Granted she has been on a cocktail of hormones and painkillers for a couple months now and so even if she had symptoms, I’m not sure how’d they’d trigger it back to one specific drug.
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Hi All,
I just found this thread today and would like to join
. My husband and I have been ttc for over 2years now. We started trying pretty casually and then got a bit more serious, tracking temps and OPK's. When we finally went to the Dr. after about a year of trying unsuccessfully, she told us to give it 6more months and come back, because all of the bloodwork came back normal. We waited a little more than 6 months to go back, but when I did, they did and ultrasound and found an mass in my uterus. It turned out to be a fibroid, so she said that would make it more difficult, but not impossible. In the meantime, hubby has also been to the Dr. Everything with him looked ok, except the morphology was at 20%. So, looks like we are in for a long road of uncertainty.
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AFM, I did get some news yesterday, but didn’t feel like it was the time to share considering the attention and well wishes really needed to be directed to someone else (and still should be). But seeing how tomorrow’s my last day till I’m off camping and wont have the opportunity for a while, I’ll spill now. I got a BFP. I went in this morning for a blood test to be sure and just got the call that it came back positive too. It’s finally happened! Cycle 26 was the lucky one for me. I just want to tell all you girls how happy I am that I got to know all of you. I couldn’t have done it without you guys!
Ashley,
WAH-HA-HA-HOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Have fun camping with your little bean. Don't let it keep you from doing all the fun camping stuff you'd be doing if you weren't prego--except for all the crazy drinking and stuff, but that's not really a good idea camping anyways. Congrats!!!!0 -
Congratulations, Ashley, that is so exciting! I hope you enjoy your camping trip!0
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Hoooorraaayyy Ashley!!! I'm so excited for you!!!0
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finally got to talk with a doc and i have low progesterone (even with the hormone therapy). since i was using clomid, the number should have been around 15 after ovulation. next round, they will supplement the clomid with an estrogen and progesterone booster, but they will only let me do that for one round before we switch to a different method. it sounds like my window of trying just got exponentially smaller.
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AFM, I did get some news yesterday, but didn’t feel like it was the time to share considering the attention and well wishes really needed to be directed to someone else (and still should be). But seeing how tomorrow’s my last day till I’m off camping and wont have the opportunity for a while, I’ll spill now. I got a BFP. I went in this morning for a blood test to be sure and just got the call that it came back positive too. It’s finally happened! Cycle 26 was the lucky one for me. I just want to tell all you girls how happy I am that I got to know all of you. I couldn’t have done it without you guys!
that is fantastic news! congrats!0 -
So, we have a few options.
1. My husband can do a year in Korea. His follow on would be here again so we would have another four years at least to have the market rebound. I would be here by myself with our son.
2. We could wait for word to come down on a new assignment and try to rent out or house.
Any advice would be helpful.
no advice. (i don't think i'd be a very good military wife; i want to stay int he same house forever.) but i am sure whatever you decide will be right for you guys. 0 -
AFM, AF finally came, the first after miscarriage. It was about 8 days late, I guess due to the residual hormones and craziness my body had experienced. I'm hopeful for O in a few weeks and then I can be back on the road to TTC! It's funny, a month never felt this long when I wasn't TTC! Still taking PNVs every night, exercising (I did some serious binge-pity eating a few weeks ago and have just arrived back to my weight prior to that episode - 153). I am hopeful to make it down to 150 in a few weeks. DH is excited to 'try again' - I am just worried that I will have another m/c and that would crush me
praying you won't ever have to experience another miscarriage.0 -
AFM - doc appt this afternoon, and I'm cleaning today. Last night I cried for the first time, but I'm so scared to keep crying because it will be really hard to stop. At the same time, I still feel very.... numb/accepting too. Also, my Hcg yesterday was 10 but my temp is still up - no one has tested my progesterone and I wish they would have - apparently only 2 labs in the city process progesterone - and the ER isn't one of them (the Women & Children's Hospital does, but they don't see pregnant people until 20 weeks in the their ER).
I'm still distracting myself - here's the link t the curtains I made over the last couple of days: http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-j-i4U16TTMs/Tjq2vnGoDjI/AAAAAAAAAC4/jcNL5rMBirM/s1600/DSCN0508.JPG
distractions are good, but i'm glad you allowed yourself to cry. hugs.0 -
If I"m not pregnant, I'll need to exercise control over something to balance my feeling out of control-ness with this infertility crud, and I think I"ll chose my diet at that point.
i am like that too. when my dad died last year from prostate cancer, i felt like i had no control over anything except what i ate, so i didn't eat. not exactly a healthy way to deal with emotions and food, but it really helped me feel like i had some say over something. it lasted about two weeks and then reverted back to 'normal'.0 -
Ashley!I am so happy for you! This is so wonderful and please don't shy away from the announcement because of me! This is amazing news! : heart:
I am so happy for you! I know you're leaving but share the details! How did you tell DH? What are you thinking? Share it all - this should be a CELEBRATION!
I appreciate your consideration - I also know that on this board we have all grown so close that we can be happy for each other even when we are having trouble ourselves.
Karen - thank you for that advice and your caring words - it helps.
In fact - thank you to everyone! The support and closeness of this group is amazing!
GBOH - hopefully the progesterone and estrogen will be the kicker!
Pantera - I'm so glad you decided to join us here! And I'm happy the info I gave could help you out 0 -
AFM (As For Me): The doc appt was uneventful - take another test in a week or two and if it's + then I will need a D&C.... I swear if I had access and authority to run labs myself I wouldn't need a doctor for this crap. I could do it myself....
I told my Mom today, and she said she knew something was going on because I wasn't sounding right. She's the only person IRL that knows.
Today was spent cleaning up after letting this place go untouched for days... tonight I'm doing computer updates for my Mom's laptop while watching my nightly Shark Week programming.0 -
J: It's really hard to watch the doctors treat you as though it's just routine, yet for us it's a painfully slow process......I agree...I'd rather just do it myself....What's up...everyone is all about Shark week this week. I meant to tape a bunch of things for it, but didn't....I love sharks though - it was actually my high school dissection.....
AFM: CD 19 and I have the most odd bloating/cramping going on on the right side. Based on my stabilized cycles, today should be the day for O'ing.....it's been going for about 6 hours now (started just before dinner).....It's not really cramping until I bend towards that side, otherwise just feels bloaty and heavy....anyone else experience this during O. Usually for me, it's a single sharp pain one side that only lasts a minute or two...this is very different....0 -
I seriously need to start replying twice a day to keep up! Ha!
Ashley - SUPER BIG, WONDERFUL CONGRATS!!! So absolutely thrilled for you.
Alisa - Thanks for the support. It's pretty easy to stay active in Hawaii, especially because you're outdoors all the time. We spent a lot of time in the water: swimming in both the pool & the ocean, boogie-boarding, and snorkeling; walked a lot, on the beach and around our villas; went ziplining; and took some short hikes to see some waterfalls and overlooks. I wanted to play mini-golf, but we ran out of time. Plus, we ate a lot of fish, which I think is generally better for you. Oh & there is that other physical activity that I'm sure you'll make lots of time for!
Pam - Glad that your meds are partially covered. This is such an expensive process. Every little bit helps. Thanks too for sharing so much of your process with us. I still find the next IUI/IVF steps a bit intimidating so it is good to hear a real person's perspective.
Jalara - Beautiful ring! That's a good idea to have a stand-in set. I didn't want to wear my rings when we went to the ocean last week, but was still nervous about leaving them in the room. Still thinking good thoughts for you. I know this time is difficult. I do find that one good cry is always helpful, so glad you were able to do that.
PanteraGirl - Welcome to the group. Hope you find what you're looking for here and we always welcome new points of view.
GBOH - More power to ya trying to figure all that hormone stuff out. It's always been confusing to me.
Julia - Tough, tough choices ahead. Wishing your family all the best. My only advice would be to really rely on your military family network, whichever decision you make. My husband's cousin has been deployed twice recently and I was very impressed how well the military family network back home came together to support each other. You might be even be able to use this network to find renters too. Good luck!
dcg8r - Thanks for your support. Same back atcha - stay strong and try to have a little fun trying again!
Karen - Glad you're feeling a smidge better. I know your mind is probably going crazy with all the possibilities. Grrr...2WW! I'm right with you, though, I totally need the control. Still thinking good thoughts for you.
Ashlee - Welcome. Sorry that you have some uncertainty ahead, but one thing we all have here is hope, so feel free to jump right into the conversation.
AFM - Made it through my co-worker's funeral on Wednesday ok. It was a beautiful service and it was wonderful to see how much she was loved. The team is holding together pretty well too. I'm just anxious for this whole week to be over. I feel completely drained. I am a lot more appreciative of my blessings though. Makes me even more determined in this TTC process. In other news, AF cramping is so painful today. I keep reminding myself that cramps are just the lifelong practice to start preparing us for contractions. Ha!
Hope everyone has a great Friday tomorrow.
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Ashley, congrats! And have fun camping!
PanteraGirl & Ashlee, I'm a newbie too... best of luck to you both!
Julia (& possibly PanteraGirl, considering the job thing), not a military family, but I did spend 9 months of the first year of my marriage apart from my husband—I was going to school in one state, he was working in another 600 miles away. Still, within driving distance and we could talk on the phone every night. Never thought it would, but it flew by. We were both alone, though—no kids yet and not prego, and I suspect that would be a LOT tougher. Good luck on your decision!0 -
Ashley, congrats! And have fun camping!
PanteraGirl & Ashlee, I'm a newbie too... best of luck to you both!
Julia (& possibly PanteraGirl, considering the job thing), not a military family, but I did spend 9 months of the first year of my marriage apart from my husband—I was going to school in one state, he was working in another 600 miles away. Still, within driving distance and we could talk on the phone every night. Never thought it would, but it flew by. We were both alone, though—no kids yet and not prego, and I suspect that would be a LOT tougher. Good luck on your decision!
Hey thanks...and best of luck to you too!!!0 -
AFM: CD 19 and I have the most odd bloating/cramping going on on the right side. Based on my stabilized cycles, today should be the day for O'ing.....it's been going for about 6 hours now (started just before dinner).....It's not really cramping until I bend towards that side, otherwise just feels bloaty and heavy....anyone else experience this during O. Usually for me, it's a single sharp pain one side that only lasts a minute or two...this is very different....
pam, is there a possibility of a cyst? (not trying to be a downer at all, but that is how i feel when one is getting ready to burst.) i hope in your case, it just mean double or triple ovulation, i.e. twins or triplets.
oh wait, sorry about that; not everyone is as crazy as me wanting multiples. 0 -
not everyone is as crazy as me wanting multiples.
I am!
Pam - I hope it's nothing serious - update us soon to let us know how you're feeling!
Welcome everyone who is new! Fair warning - this board gets pretty quiet from Friday - Sunday 0 -
I'm so ready for multiples....LOL Even my Mom is starting to say she'd be fine with twins (she's expecting to do a lot of babysitting for us and didn't want to have to deal with more than one....LOL) - not triplets though, she's very adament!!!
I don't think it was a cyst since it never got really bad just constant pressure or when I bent/twisted....It just seems to have faded away as the day has gone on. Only thing I could think of was maybe the pop that I drank yesterday was causing gas (pain) and the pressure has alleviated over the day, but I don't think so (mainly cause it was on one side and because I haven't really had any noticeable need to "alleviate pressure").
Feeling pretty normal right now....this is definitely one of those times I wish I had that home lab/ultrasound so I could see what was actually going on....0 -
Feeling pretty normal right now....this is definitely one of those times I wish I had that home lab/ultrasound so I could see what was actually going on....
Yeah! Forget all this Captain America superhero stuff! We need our own superhero with magical lab/ultrasound abiliites. Special bonus if they can actually talk to our lady bits and make them do what we want them to do, and/or make us forget about the 2ww. Name suggestions are being taken as of now, as well as any other special abilities you would like to see added.0 -
Hi Ladies, My name is Bonnie and I really hope it would be ok if I join you all.
A little about myself, I have a 9 month old baby girl who means the world to me. My husband and I have been married for almost a year, the 29th of this month to be exact. We surprised our family and friends and got married at our baby shower. We want to start trying for another baby soon but I really want to be closer to my goal weight. With my daughter I was about 40lbs overweight when I got pregnant and then adding more weight because of the pregnancy I've been pretty depressed. I have a lot of weight to loose before we start trying and in a perfect world I would like to have a BFP before my daughter is 1&1/2. So thinking about all the weight I would like to loose and then the process of trying scares me. We call our baby girl a miracle because my husband was told by his Doctors that his chances of fathering a child was very slim because of medical reasons. I'm in much need of motivation and support, and on the flip side I'm a great cheerleader for others. I love encouraging others and being able to be there for support through good times and bad times.
I'm very thankful for MFP and all the wonderful people who I'm getting the chance to meet!
Cheers!!0 -
Feeling pretty normal right now....this is definitely one of those times I wish I had that home lab/ultrasound so I could see what was actually going on....
Yeah! Forget all this Captain America superhero stuff! We need our own superhero with magical lab/ultrasound abiliites. Special bonus if they can actually talk to our lady bits and make them do what we want them to do, and/or make us forget about the 2ww. Name suggestions are being taken as of now, as well as any other special abilities you would like to see added.
I just snorted a little bit of water out my nose. I had a picture of a burly man in tights bent over just talking to some poor lady's special bits telling them to help her forget about 14 days......LOL As for name - I will certainly think about it....I have some silly ones floating around (superMEN short for menstruation), but there has to be an awesome one..... Other special abilities should include being able to tell us the exact right time to conceive and being able to tell immediately if there is an issue (no more of this one year nonsense!!!)
Welcome Bonnie!!!0 -
Hi ladies! I would really love to join your thread, if you don't mind.
My name is Destiny. I've been married for 3 years and I have a 15 month old daughter. My husband and I decided in May that we wanted to start trying for another baby. I was about 35- 40 lbs heavier when I got pregnant the first time, and I was diagnosed with gestational diabetes. Luckily I was able to control it with my diet and never had to be on insulin. That is one of the main things that made me want to try and lose weight. But I still have about 20 more lbs I'd like to lose. I love the support I've gotten from MFP and I thought it would be really fun to support other ladies in similar situations :bigsmile: I don't know what all of the abbreviations mean so you'll have to bare with me :laugh:0 -
Clyde – welcome! Did I see you on the pregnancy board? Congrats on the upcoming anniversary – ours in on the 22nd. I hope you can find what you need here on our thread – everyone is wonderful here. Tell us more about your surprise shower-wedding!
Pam – I’m glad you’re feeling better!
Destiny – welcome to you as well! Congrats on your 25 lb loss so far! For the abbreviations – if you look back through my posts a couple of pages (from my profile page) there is a HUGE list of them – we don’t use them all but it should help!
Karen – I actually laughed out loud at the super hero talking to our lady bits! But I concur – we need a our own hero! Additionally – I think that baby dust should be like kryptonite – that stuff bugs me! (Either that or it should fart it - just for comedic effect). :devil:0 -
Wow...this thread really represents what life is made of: the joys and celebrations, the tears, the tough choices, the day-to-day stuff. Much love to all of you (even though I really don't know you at all). It is great to see a group of ladies supporting each other through this phase of life.
Jalara--again, so sorry you're going through this. No words of wisdom. I'm glad you have lots of love and support here, though.
Julia--very tough decision. DH and I have never had to be separated like that while married, but we lived on different continents for two years while dating/engaged. We did fine...we communicated every day, and saw each other in person twice (total of two weeks) during that time. BUT...personally, I never want to do it again. Especially now that we're married and have a child. I can't imagine him not being around to see her learn and grow. And adding a pregnancy/birth/newborn into the mix would take it to a whole new level. But I know plenty of military families who have had no choice about it. My DH's brother was deployed for 18 months, and missed the whole first year of his daughter's life. I'm sure they would have wished for something different, but they had no choice. And long-term, they are fine and happy now. He did manage to make it there for the birth, so they at least got to share that as a family. Anyway...just sharing my thoughts. Definitely a tough one!
Ashley--huge congrats to you!!
Was it someone in this thread who asked about caffeine while TTC or when pregnant? (If not, sorry...) What we were taught in pharmacy school is that up to 300mg of caffeine/day is safe while TTC, pregnant or breastfeeding. I personally think that is a lot (although not unsafe), because I don't usually have that much on a normal basis. I did not limit caffeine while TTC (had maybe 150mg/day). When I found out I was pregnant, I pretty much cut out all caffeine in the first trimester, and then had maybe 100mg/day after that, and while breastfeeding.
About the prenatals--Jalara, I think the idea of splitting the prenatals is a good one. I did that some. Also, a prenatal without iron should help with the stomach upset. If iron is needed, it can always be added in later, but not everyone will need iron supplementation.
I'm sure there's more I wanted to comment on, but it's tough to keep up! And I don't know you all well enough yet. But thanks for the welcome! Looking forward to getting to know you all better!
AFM:
I have been on vacation since Wednesday. My sister and her kids were in town visiting. We had a great time, but I've enjoyed a nice, quiet afternoon today. Grace has taken a loooong nap--probably 3 hours now. So far, so good with my goals for this week. I bought Wii Zumba yesterday and tried it out last night--fun, but I felt pretty silly. Other than that, it's business as usual for me.
Kimberly :flowerforyou:0 -
Y'all are cracking me up today! :laugh: Just what I needed.
Welcome Bonnie & Destiny.
Workout 1 of 2 done for tonight (yoga & strength for me & then to the gym later with DH for cardio), yay!0 -
Hi! I was hoping it would be okay if I jumped in here. My husband and I aren't actively trying to get pregnant right now, but one of the biggest reasons I want to lose weight is that I want to be healthy before I have kids (partially because my mom tells me over and over that if I don't do it before I have a baby, I never will). We go back and forth as to when specifically we want to start trying (anywhere from "Now!" to 3 years... but if I lose weight in a healthy-but-fast way, it will be in about a year) My husband is also trying to get healthy, but he (is a lucky *kitten* who I adore) has a really high metabolism... He eats mainly junk, primarily because he can, which unfortunately tends to mean that WE eat mostly junk... except I can't afford to do it weight wise either. I was just kind of hoping to find some other people with similar goals to talk to while I work on this.0
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