Have you ever cheated on your spouse?

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  • kristlynngirl
    kristlynngirl Posts: 121 Member
    Never cheated.

    Have both been cheated on and have been the other woman --- and I should have known better than to be her.
  • jhendricks123
    jhendricks123 Posts: 38 Member
    No, I have never cheated on anyone, and I have not been cheated on (to my knowledge). I am in a semi-open relationship with my fiance though and we have both "played" with permission and in each others presence :)
  • adross3
    adross3 Posts: 606 Member
    Never did, never will.
  • GTOgirl1969
    GTOgirl1969 Posts: 2,527 Member
    yes....he deserved it more than you can know. and yes to all of you saying "well if he was that bad why didn't you leave?".....you are right - I should have never married him. but live and learn. plus I have 2 beautiful kids.

    Spot on. I cheated on my ex husband because he had cheated on me countless times before then- and I thought that by cheating I could make him feel as crappy as he'd made me feel. Boy was I wrong...it did nothing to him and it made me feel like scum of the earth (even after all the crap he'd done to me). I don't regret it, because at the time I thought that my response to his treatment of me was MORE than appropriate, but I'd never cheat again. It's simply not worth all the drama.
  • calibri
    calibri Posts: 439 Member
    Never been married, mostly likely never will be. I met a guy in uni when I was in a long distance relationship that was kind of falling apart (long distance at 19? yeah okay!). I had broken up with the long distance guy but he was hysterical over it and insisted we were together. I started seeing the other guy and when I told the long distance guy so he'd realize I'd moved on, he had a cow saying I had cheated. Sigh.

    I've also been "the other woman", although not necessarily on purpose. He had told me they had an open relationship and he was going to break up with her anyway and I was naive enough to believe him. Ah to be young and reckless.
  • Autumn15
    Autumn15 Posts: 213
    NO I've never cheated and never would...was married for 18 years to a man who turned into a abusive drunk and cheated on me for the last 4-5 years of our marriage but I never cheated don't believe cheating is ever ok.
  • xMissAprilx
    xMissAprilx Posts: 143 Member
    I have cheated in the past, when I was a teenager. However, no I have not and will not cheat on my spouse.
  • foremant86
    foremant86 Posts: 1,115 Member
    I'm not married but I've never cheated on a boyfriend either.

    Been cheated on a few times though and it was one of the worst feelings I have ever felt and I wouldn't wish it on anyone.
  • hush7hush
    hush7hush Posts: 2,273 Member
    I've never been married, but I've cheated on almost every boyfriend I've ever had.

    I'm never satisfied.
  • debclif
    debclif Posts: 74 Member
    NOPE! And never will! And if he cheats on me, he's gonna have another thing coming! And he knows it! LOL! We love each other too much!
  • gmann1973
    gmann1973 Posts: 247
    No but I was cheated on; and it hurt, been broke up for 10 years and Im still single, Just dnt know how to trust anyone anymore
  • heidiqt
    heidiqt Posts: 45 Member
    I have never cheated and I have been married for 20 years. Also, I speak my mind, what you see is what you get, good, bad, or ugly. So if I am unhappy, he'll know~ must be the Italian blood!:grumble:
  • jonesz922
    jonesz922 Posts: 89 Member
    I was with my husband for 11 years before he got sick, we met at 19, never once did I stray... did I want to? OF COURSE, we all do at times, but I put on the big white dress and said I DO.... and I stuck to it.

    I understand that cheating can happen in the heat of the moment, but MOST times, there is flirting that leads up to it, you have the chance to get out of your relationship before you jump ship.

    Then again, some people are ok with open relationships, to each their own.... as long as both people are on the same page!
  • futurefitgirl88
    futurefitgirl88 Posts: 284
    With my boyfriend now (of 3 years)? Never!!
    With my ex?? All the time!!! I was 17 and and in college!!
  • Jade_Butterfly
    Jade_Butterfly Posts: 2,963 Member
    Frankly I am appauled that someone would ask this in an online forum. . that is discusting. . First of all marriage is a sacred union. and if this has been violated it is certainly not up for public opinion. . .

    In the future please refrain from such topics as it offends those of us that believe in the sanctity of marriage. . .
  • hazelnutflav
    hazelnutflav Posts: 391 Member
    not married, never cheated on a boyfriend.

    why?

    bec what comes around goes around and im woman enough to tell him when it is over.
  • GTOgirl1969
    GTOgirl1969 Posts: 2,527 Member
    Frankly I am appauled that someone would ask this in an online forum. . that is discusting. . First of all marriage is a sacred union. and if this has been violated it is certainly not up for public opinion. . .

    In the future please refrain from such topics as it offends those of us that believe in the sanctity of marriage. . .

    I don't think it was the original poster's intent to condone infidelity. I believe that marriage is sacred, but I also believe that things happen and life doesn't always work out the way we wish it would. Just like in real life, there are a wide variety of people on MFP. You're bound to find one that's done something you don't agree with.
  • dave4d
    dave4d Posts: 1,155 Member
    I was married for 18 years. About 4 or 5 years ago we both went on a diet, and she started getting curious about whether other men thought she was sexy. She started flirting online, and developed some online relationships. She even wanted me to flirt to see if women would be interested in me. I tried, but after 5 minutes of conversation, I couldn't flirt. It felt wrong to me. I was having issues with her online relationships, and told her. That was when she started lying to me to cover them up. I tried everything I could think of to save my marriage, but things just got worse. We fought more, and the negative feelings wouldn't go away. We finally seperated, and I filed for divorce in February. She still hadn't signed the papers when I met my current girlfriend. So In a way, I guess you could say I cheated, since I was still officially married at the time.
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 49,022 Member
    Frankly I am appauled that someone would ask this in an online forum. . that is discusting. . First of all marriage is a sacred union. and if this has been violated it is certainly not up for public opinion. . .

    In the future please refrain from such topics as it offends those of us that believe in the sanctity of marriage. . .
    It's a public forum for discussion amongst all walks of life. You don't have to respond nor read any of the posts. You'll always find something in public that offends you, but trying to enforce what you feel on others who don't have an issue with it, won't work in your favor. There's been no condoning of it. We're speaking from our experiences and not telling people that cheating is okay.
    If it offends you, don't read it.
  • Queen_JessieA
    Queen_JessieA Posts: 1,059 Member
    Absolutely not. I would never cheat on my husband. I love him and my kids too much to do so.
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    I'm doubled over in laughter!!! OMG, I'm pure evil. ***Bite you tongue Odus!***

    But the answer the question, No, I have never cheated on anyone emotionally, physically or chemically :huh:

    I have been cheated on, however. Fortunately, none of them are alive to tell their side of the story.
  • Kalrez
    Kalrez Posts: 655 Member
    Last year, I left my wife of 11 years to be with another woman. It was simultaneously the best thing and the worst thing I have ever done in my life...

    I totally know that feeling.

    Three years ago, I left my husband to be with my boyfriend. It was a very heartbreaking yet empowering time for me. I felt badly for essentially having an affair (very much emotionally invested in my BF before my marriage ended, but no physical contact at all prior to signing my divorce papers). But it has been so freeing to take control of my life and finally make decisions for myself.

    And to think that I was going to stay miserable in my marriage just to keep my ex happy! Instead of always doing things for everyone else, I finally did something for me, and it's been worth every minute.
  • Jade_Butterfly
    Jade_Butterfly Posts: 2,963 Member
    Frankly I am appauled that someone would ask this in an online forum. . that is discusting. . First of all marriage is a sacred union. and if this has been violated it is certainly not up for public opinion. . .

    In the future please refrain from such topics as it offends those of us that believe in the sanctity of marriage. . .

    I don't think it was the original poster's intent to condone infidelity. I believe that marriage is sacred, but I also believe that things happen and life doesn't always work out the way we wish it would. Just like in real life, there are a wide variety of people on MFP. You're bound to find one that's done something you don't agree with.

    Didn't say they were condoning it in any sense of the word. . but this is not the place to talk about such things. . . this is not a subject for public discussion. . .
  • Kalrez
    Kalrez Posts: 655 Member
    Frankly I am appauled that someone would ask this in an online forum. . that is discusting. . First of all marriage is a sacred union. and if this has been violated it is certainly not up for public opinion. . .

    In the future please refrain from such topics as it offends those of us that believe in the sanctity of marriage. . .

    I don't think it was the original poster's intent to condone infidelity. I believe that marriage is sacred, but I also believe that things happen and life doesn't always work out the way we wish it would. Just like in real life, there are a wide variety of people on MFP. You're bound to find one that's done something you don't agree with.

    Didn't say they were condoning it in any sense of the word. . but this is not the place to talk about such things. . . this is not a subject for public discussion. . .

    Says who?

    You?

    Get over yourself, cupcake.
  • GTOgirl1969
    GTOgirl1969 Posts: 2,527 Member


    Didn't say they were condoning it in any sense of the word. . but this is not the place to talk about such things. . . this is not a subject for public discussion. . .

    We talk about all manner of other life events- births, anniversaries, deaths, marriages, divorces- why not talk about this? I appreciate the frank honesty of the other posters, quite a few of whom I think of as friends....and friends not only discuss the good parts of life, but they talk about the not-so-good stuff, too.
  • Johnnyswife
    Johnnyswife Posts: 1,447 Member
    You know what? I did (but I've never been married). And I am both ashamed and humbled by it. It was a time of cowardice and a very delicate situation under little control whatsoever. I cannot explain and I expect nobody to understand, but I learned my lesson and would NEVER do that to anybody again - regardless the consequences. Fortunately for me we are all on good terms still and I am working towards rebuilding the trust I broke.

    I make no excuses for my former self, but I learn from my hugest mistakes and move on to become a better person. EVERYTHING happens for a reason.

    ...There. Somebody answered and yes I'm putting myself on the line here. D:
    My husband almost cheated on me with a tenant...He ran away before things went further and he was torn up over it. He stopped drinking and won't go anywere near a woman unless i am there..Its been three years and I think he is still tormented over it. I haven't cheated on him or anyone else...the fallout isn't worth it.
  • GTOgirl1969
    GTOgirl1969 Posts: 2,527 Member
    It's a public forum for discussion amongst all walks of life. You don't have to respond nor read any of the posts. You'll always find something in public that offends you, but trying to enforce what you feel on others who don't have an issue with it, won't work in your favor. There's been no condoning of it. We're speaking from our experiences and not telling people that cheating is okay.
    If it offends you, don't read it.

    ^5...well said.
  • ladycomix
    ladycomix Posts: 104
    I'm doubled over in laughter!!! OMG, I'm pure evil. ***Bite you tongue Odus!***

    But the answer the question, No, I have never cheated on anyone emotionally, physically or chemically :huh:

    I have been cheated on, however. Fortunately, none of them are alive to tell their side of the story.

    http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=girl crush

    yeap, I've got one of those going on here :D
  • brianward81
    brianward81 Posts: 217 Member
    "In the future please refrain from such topics as it offends those of us that believe in the sanctity of marriage. . . "

    I think in the future you shouldn't post in topics that offend you. Do you watch tv shows that offend you and then complain about them? There have been 3 pages of replies to this topic so obviously others aren't offended.

    Sweeping issues under the carpet and not talking about them is not healthy.

    And for the record, my answer is no and I never would. I love my wife and would never betray her. I could never look her in the eye again without feeling terrible. If my marriage were in trouble I would try to work it out but if that weren't possible and I wanted to be with someone else, I would get a divorce.
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    I'm doubled over in laughter!!! OMG, I'm pure evil. ***Bite you tongue Odus!***

    But the answer the question, No, I have never cheated on anyone emotionally, physically or chemically :huh:

    I have been cheated on, however. Fortunately, none of them are alive to tell their side of the story.

    http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=girl crush

    yeap, I've got one of those going on here :D


    awwwww!!! yay!
    :smooched:
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