Have you ever cheated on your spouse?

Fat_2_Fit_Mommy

Nope I never cheated...

SkateboardFi

i find it funny that the people passing out judgement on this thread are the people that refuse to answer the question.

exactly. CLEARLY the name of the thread is what attracted them to open it in the first place. just to read everyone's answer so they can judge but NEVER provide any input.

The "holier than thou" crowd has to put in their 2 cents. Makes them feel better that their lives are "better" than ours. Some people NEED that.............

but are their lives better than ours? when their day consists of serving absolutely NO purpose to threads they 'don't agree' with? i think it says how pathetic their lives are lol

countrydarling1

I cheated WITH my wife last night...She wore a blonde wig. Tonight she will be a redhead. I need my nutz and she has threatened to cut them off if I ever hit her or cheated on her..

BAHAHAHAHAHA! LOVE IT!!

ninerbuff

but are their lives better than ours? when their day consists of serving absolutely NO purpose to threads they 'don't agree' with? i think it says how pathetic their lives are lol

Lol, we know that! Just don't let them know we know.

SkateboardFi

hahaaha the secret is safe with me

Bankman1989

Frankly I am appauled that someone would ask this in an online forum. . that is discusting. . First of all marriage is a sacred union. and if this has been violated it is certainly not up for public opinion. . .

In the future please refrain from such topics as it offends those of us that believe in the sanctity of marriage. . .

Frankly, I am appauled that you spelled disgusting with a c, and no one mentioned it....come on trolls what the heck? Laggers!

And as for being christian I just have to do a huge LOLOLOLOL if you really think christians don't cheat.....

Yes innocent pastors NEVER cheat on their wives and christians NEVER cheat....let me tell you hun, i grew up as a Jehovah's Witness, one of the strictest christian religions there are, and i seen even elders who were faithful christians for years,fall into the traps of lust and adultery. Maybe you should be a good christian and read your bible and you will notice there are a LOT of christian men in the bible that have cheated or caught in "lewd conduct"....that is why there is counsel in the bible as to disciplinary action of a cheater. Also there is a scripture talking about pointing out the sticks in other peoples eyes when you have a rafter in your own. Perhaps you should take scripture and meditate on it.

I had people that think they are holier than though....sins happen and people make mistakes, whehter you believe in god, three gods, or no god at all. People are imperfect.

What does being a Christian have to do with the topic? A LOT of Christians cheat. I am a devout Christian and I love the Lord, but i don't act like I am perfect or holier than though. I can name 10 famous pastors who have been caught cheating. But to answer the question..wait what was it? Oh yeah. I'm not married. My first wife we were separated a lot so technically yes. My second wife no but we broke up for very odd reasons. I feel that I am a very faithful man..Oh I am having pre-marital sex so I am sure that's frowned upon.

thegymbunny

Frankly I am appauled that someone would ask this in an online forum. . that is discusting. . First of all marriage is a sacred union. and if this has been violated it is certainly not up for public opinion. . .

In the future please refrain from such topics as it offends those of us that believe in the sanctity of marriage. . .

I don't think it was the original poster's intent to condone infidelity. I believe that marriage is sacred, but I also believe that things happen and life doesn't always work out the way we wish it would. Just like in real life, there are a wide variety of people on MFP. You're bound to find one that's done something you don't agree with.

Didn't say they were condoning it in any sense of the word. . but this is not the place to talk about such things. . . this is not a subject for public discussion. . .

Says who?

You?

Get over yourself, cupcake.

Seriously. . I am CHRISTIAN lady and you just don't do this.. . People make mistakes. . we don't need to air them publicly and humiliate people. . these are things that need to be worked through behind closed doors. .

Well, I'm not a Christian lady, and I don't have any hang ups about being frank and honest about my mistakes.

Plus, it's not like I'm going to go "work on" my relationship with my EX husband after being separated for years.

While I do honestly respect your world view, it would be nice if you could do the same for me and others like me who do not share the same beliefs.

ETA: Back on topic:

I'm actually very grateful for my experience. I have changed and grown in so many ways. I'm no longer a woman who simply shuts her mouth and does what her man wants. I voice my opinions, my needs, my desires. I have taken responsibility and control of my life and my body. Don't get me wrong, I still compromise and concede at times, but that's part of being in a relationship - the give and the take. Before I left my ex, I simply gave and gave, convincing myself that I was happy to do everything for someone else. If anything, I feel empowered post-affair, post-rape, post-divorce. I made it through that, and I'm a much better person for it!

If this question had been asked of me 4-5 years ago, I would have responded like everyone else - "No way, cheating is the worst thing in the world, no excuse. Just leave if you're not happy." To a degree, I still feel that way. But from my experience, I'm much more understanding of the intricacies involved in infidelity. It's not so cut and dry, and cheating doesn't automatically make you a terrible horrible no good person. It just means you've made a mistake, whether it was the affair or the original marriage. I feel a lot more compassionate toward adulterers.

Good people make mistakes too. Making mistakes is human. It's how you fix and recover from those mistakes that matters.

I love this post.

mrschappet

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Didn't say they were condoning it in any sense of the word. . but this is not the place to talk about such things. . . this is not a subject for public discussion. . .
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I'm pretty sure that this place is called Chit-chat ,fun, and games.... hhhhhmmmm lets think here for just a second???? That means you will be finding lots of off the wall topics, some that you might not agree with or that may even offend you. Soooooo, If you want to be blind to things that go on in the real world, stay off line or at least out of chat areas like this.

:darn didn't quote it right.. oh well::: ;-)

Kate6868

I have never cheated on my husband. I've wanted to kill him on occasion, but not cheat on him.

JaydeSkye

I can honestly say I never have... and no I'm not afraid that SOMEHOW he might find this. I can really say he's the only person I've had sex with since the first time we had sex. We weren't "technically" dating when we starting having sex, so just for arguementive sake and so that its not vague, that's why I said it like that.. I was 19 when we started dating and through the years I never felt the need to find anyone else. I don't know WHY other people cheat but I know WHY I didn't cheat... I was very particular about the person I had a relationship with. I don't just jump into relationships. I've only had two in my life. I have rediculously high standards and I just like him. Even if he were to do something aweful to me, disrespectful, etc. I know it wouldn't do me any good to cheat on him. No self-respecting person will take someone serious in a relationship if they start "seeing" them while they're still in one. I know I wouldn't ever trust someone enough, or want to be in a relationship with someone who cheated WITH me. I guess some people get a sort of gratification that they could "steal" someone's partner, but that's not my style. I never had a problem finding my own

dumb_blondes_rock

Frankly I am appauled that someone would ask this in an online forum. . that is discusting. . First of all marriage is a sacred union. and if this has been violated it is certainly not up for public opinion. . .

In the future please refrain from such topics as it offends those of us that believe in the sanctity of marriage. . .

Frankly, I am appauled that you spelled disgusting with a c, and no one mentioned it....come on trolls what the heck? Laggers!

And as for being christian I just have to do a huge LOLOLOLOL if you really think christians don't cheat.....

Yes innocent pastors NEVER cheat on their wives and christians NEVER cheat....let me tell you hun, i grew up as a Jehovah's Witness, one of the strictest christian religions there are, and i seen even elders who were faithful christians for years,fall into the traps of lust and adultery. Maybe you should be a good christian and read your bible and you will notice there are a LOT of christian men in the bible that have cheated or caught in "lewd conduct"....that is why there is counsel in the bible as to disciplinary action of a cheater. Also there is a scripture talking about pointing out the sticks in other peoples eyes when you have a rafter in your own. Perhaps you should take scripture and meditate on it.

I had people that think they are holier than though....sins happen and people make mistakes, whehter you believe in god, three gods, or no god at all. People are imperfect.

What does being a Christian have to do with the topic? A LOT of Christians cheat. I am a devout Christian and I love the Lord, but i don't act like I am perfect or holier than though. I can name 10 famous pastors who have been caught cheating. But to answer the question..wait what was it? Oh yeah. I'm not married. My first wife we were separated a lot so technically yes. My second wife no but we broke up for very odd reasons. I feel that I am a very faithful man..Oh I am having pre-marital sex so I am sure that's frowned upon.

well she was saying how shes christian and they just don't believe in cheating blah blah blah.....

edit: and by the way i can't believe you and your fonicating self could ever admit to such sinning! how dare you!!! Fornication is so rare and should NEVER be talked about. Its taboo!!!....Lol ok i tried , but really, who thinks that narrowminded???

elliecolorado

Some people deserve to be cheated on.

maria1113

well thats becaues shes not a cool leo like me! lol.....nah there are exceptions to every sign... not every scorpio is a freaking horndog,but the ones i have across are.....my dad is a leo and he is hardly anything like a "typical" leo (dramatic, self centered, in need of attention)

Well I'm a Scorpio (and could say that pretty typical one) but I still don't sleep around Some of us can control ourselves better than others

Solly123

Some people deserve to be cheated on.

Don't think anyone deserves that... No matter what they have done.. I just don't agree with stooping to those low levels..

If they don't deserve you, walk away with your head held high..

Hearts_2015

Some people deserve to be cheated on.

Don't think anyone deserves that... No matter what they have done.. I just don't agree with stooping to those low levels..

If they don't deserve you, walk away with your head held high..

Wow, having been cheated on, I don't think anyone deserves going through the pain of it all. Blaming yourself for something you didn't choose to do (meaning self blame), it's some messy painful feelings. I agree I don't think anyone deserves it.

As Solly shared, walk away if it comes to that, BEFORE it comes to that is even better, why stoop to their level..

stormieweather

Thread has devolved into insults and personal attacks. Going to have to lock it. :ohwell: :huh:

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